akunjohn:
This is something I cleaned on 31st December morning, sparkling clean. Look at it now. If not that I've been around, I would have thought maybe the appliance got burnt. And guess what? I never leave my window open without my net closed.

This is the air we literally breathe-in everyday!
I don't even want to snap my feet. I'm very light skinned but under my leg looks like I'm from Kenya

Please mods move this to FP let people see what we're going through.



It's okay...but why Kenya in matter?

Kenya’s mention here is a display of foolishness.

Chiefochiefo:
My brother what happened to Kenya people

Ask am for me because we Kenyans are allergic to stupidity.

vicki007:
This is something I cleaned on 31st December morning, sparkling clean. Look at it now. If not that I've been around, I would have thought maybe the appliance got burnt. And guess what? I never leave my window open without my net closed.

This is the air we literally breathe-in everyday!
I don't even want to snap my feet. I'm very light skinned but under my leg looks like I'm from Kenya

Please mods move this to FP let people see what we're going through.

Okaaaaay, I see a lot of cancer being caused by this air pollution. With that said, what has your feet got to do with Kenya? We Kenyans are not the cause of your poor governance and by the way if you are referring to the black complexion? You sound like one of those racist Africans with a low self esteem. Other races categorize Africans as the black race regardless whether you are lighter than another African.You don’t want to mess with us here because we are an army and don’t suffer fools gladly.Don’t start what you can’t finish with those insults.Go work on your self esteem.Black is beautiful.

Anonymous993775:
This might sound weird but I'm turned on when I see dead women. I find them attractive. I've masturbated to many dead women in movies and graphic pictures on the internet of random dead women, even here on Nairaland. I need some help. Sex with living women is boring and I lose erection. To sustain erection I have to think of them dead.

I need some advice.

Get someone to pray for you and with you. This is spiritual regardless of what people might say. I know this because I had a similar experience. I was always curious to have some medical knowledge of death. Eg signs doctors look out for to tell death is near and from there youtube took me to the dark side. I became obsessed watching embalming videos & I feel I have too much knowledge of the death industry, that you’d be forgiven to think I worked there before.The embalming process, liquids used, and all the hacks used as well as the process of decomposition. Nothing wrong with knowledge because death is a bridge every human must cross , but there’s a problem when it turns to obsession. I started waking up screaming after nightmares. It happened a couple of times and as a Christian, I knew that I had opened doors for the devil. I started praying every demon out of my home like a mad woman. I spoke the word of God and that thing stopped completely. Get into the word of God and get an active prayer life. Get a a Bible believing church. All this I wrote assuming you are a Christian. I can only offer Bible based help as a Christian because that’s all I know. If not a Christian you’ll forgive me for assuming.

Anonymous993775:
This might sound weird but I'm turned on when I see dead women. I find them attractive. I've masturbated to many dead women in movies and graphic pictures on the internet of random dead women, even here on Nairaland. I need some help. Sex with living women is boring and I lose erection. To sustain erection I have to think of them dead.

I need some advice.

I speak to strongholds, be broken in the name of Jesus. Powers of darkness I command you to flee. Every demon every foul spirit lose your hold over his life in the name of Jesus. May the power that raised Christ from the dead raise you up from the captivity of Satan. By the reason of the anointing that breaks yokes, let this satanic yoke be broken over your life. I mark you with the mark of the blood. When the angel of death sees the blood, he’ll pass over you. The God who answered Elijah by fire is God. Let His fire consume powers of darkness. For this reason the son of God was made manifest that He may destroy the works of the devil, let the works of the devil be destroyed over your life in Jesus name! I plead the blood of Jesus over your life. The blood has never lost its power. It’s mighty to save, mighty to deliver. Receive deliverance in the name of Jesus!

GOTVee:
As a born again Christian who is meant to speak the truth at all times, I hereby warn my fellow Christians that celebration of Christmas is a sin against God and the holy spirit. Jesus christ was not born on the 25th of December. It's a day of worship for pagan god. The Bible doesn't not encourage us to celebrate Christmas but to celebrate the sacrifice of our lord Jesus. Only Muslims are allowed to celebrate the birth of their Holy prophet Muhammad (Mawlid). I see so many Christians going to hell fire. If you are celebrating Christmas today, you have sinned against God and you are only serving mermon

See we don’t care.

Cyntie55:
Good day nairalanders. Season greetings to y'all. I'm so angry right now. Please I need mature advice.

My father is not a learned person but he make sure all his children are graduates. My younger brother(last born and only son) rounded up his Nysc few months ago, we're just 2 girls. My elder sis and I. My elder sis is a nurse in Austria (3 years now), she's married with a kid in Austria. My big sister send money home once in 3 months, and I have been the one receiving the money. I share the money exactly as instructed by my big sis. I have never cheated anyone, Infact my Dad and Big sis communicate very well. My Dad trust me so much.

My younger brother is always angry, He said he feel cheated all the time. He shouts and talks to me anyhow like I'm his mate.
Honestly speaking, I gave my younger brother more love and respect that he could ever imagine. When he was serving, he would call telling me he need 10k urgently, sometimes 20k, that he will pay back. Immediately I will send it to him and he would never pay back. Same thing he does to my father.
If we ask him what's he using his allawee for?? He would angrily say so is becus we're sending him "chicken change" that's why we're asking jamb questions.

He said we don't regard him, he called my Dad a SIMP, he said my Dad listen more to my big sis and I....but he don't listen to any of his suggestions.

My brother is a 2:1 (second class upper) graduate in economics from UNIBEN. After his Nysc all he does is to sleep and eat. My Dad's good friend told my brother to come to Lagos and resume work with him. He refused. My Dad ask him if he wants to further his education (masters or professional courses)he said no....Okay follow my Dad to his cement shop and help him (my dad even promised to pay him salary) he refused....I overheard him on a call with a friend and i suspect he's now into yahoo yahoo.

Look at what happened. My big sis sent us money yesterday to celebrate this festive period. She said I should give my brother 50k, I should take 80k and give my father the rest (abt 250k). My Dad is always aware of everything.
I even added 20k out of my money and I transferred 70k to my brother, I was left with 60k (becus she also sent me hair and I plan to sell it becus I already had enough). You can imagine this ungrateful idiot started insulting me, that I cheated him. the fool angrily withdrawn the money from his account and SET IT ON FIRE (70k). He called my elder sister and started warning her saying "if he can't receive the money henceforth, she should stop sending him money again that he's the man of the house".
My Dad gave him a resetting, resounding, hot and dirty slaps. He pulled out a knife, deflated my Dad's car tyres and ran away from the house.

Everyone is not happy. I don't want my brother to live a wayward life. He's 24 years old. Please nairalanders Help!

What a spoiled entitled brat he is? Your dad should throw that boy in jail for a week and warn him to look for a place to go. Let him be warned that if anything should happen to any member of your family, he’ll be held accountable. As a matter of fact your dad should have the cops check his phone to see what kind of deals he is into. You’ve got to nip his madness in the bud because tomorrow might be too late.

One thing all these seers have in common is that they always cove their heads covered. Nonsense.

razzydoo:
I'm sure there's an arrangement in place. Leave all this your oversabi.

if I call you stupid, you’ll come back ranting. What’s wrong with giving my opinion. The writer wasn’t specific whether there’s such an arrangement in place or not but, you sound so sure. Do you live with his family? Take your acidic self off my mention. I don’t need any toxicity today.

Ebelelivinston:
Happy Sunday Nairalanders. I need advice from bankers in the house.

My father has been sick for quite sometimes now that he doesn't know where he is. We are three sons two daughters he has. Our mother passed away for a long time now.

My father has an account of which we his children know the password because he do send us to withdraw money atimes. Ever since he has been sick, my elder brother has been in possession of his phone and he has been making unnecessary transfers from our father's account. I got to know about the unnecessary transfer via the bank app I have on my phone. Is it possible for me to go to the bank and change the sim connected to the account to another sim without him knowing because I have all the bank details but am afraid the bank would notify him and if he gets to know, he will deal with me. I want to do it because he's spending the money uselessly and if my father gets well, he would be very mad at him.

Elders in the house what do I do plz?

If my understanding is right, did you say that your father has lost his cognitive abilities? He can’t tell where he is at or even what’s going on around him? If that’s the case, you need to flag that bank account by reporting fraudulent activities. Thereafter, go to court and have the court stop your brother from making further withdrawals. The court can also determine how the money will be spent and who will be the head of administration incase your father is still mentally incapacitated to make such decisions.

1F30M4:


How can I "like" this over and over and over and over again, a thousand times please?! Bless your soul.

Awww you are too kind. Thanks.

BigBelleControl:
Celebrities and clout.
As music doesn't sell again, pregnancy would do the job.
Everyone knows the challenges that come with pregnancy, that's why regular doctor's visits are recommended.
If some pregnant woman come online to narrate their experience, she would know hers is child's play.

Seeing that you are not a woman & have never carried a pregnancy, I don’t think you hold the moral right to talk about a woman’s pregnancy experience. Hyperemesis gravidarum is one of the worst conditions suffered by some pregnant women. Some have to be sustained by getting fluids through IV because one can’t even keep water down. Besides, everyone has a right to describe the worst experience they’ve been through. Stop discrediting a woman’s experience especially since you’ve never been pregnant.

jaksmillioniar:
hello room.

I have a problem and it is paining me. I am a matured guy who know what it feels like to be single and maried .

Most People mock me, but I got married.

We had a baby last year, a corona baby.

I am not ashamed to say that at my age, I am still a mummy's boy and she is my number one but I respect my wife.

When I wanted to marry, my wife Never agreed to having a house close to my mum's place.

I felt very bad but I want to make her happy so we moved far. My mom was angry as she knew my wife forced me.

When my wife delivered, her mum came for omugo instead of my mum, and that made her so sad, that she cried and ask if i am a bastard to let them steal her right.

I begged her. She came for naming and left the same day I noticed way my wife was acting rude too because her mum was pushing her.

I told my wife that mum is angry, let us visit her buy her a gift because her place is now far.

She kept saying that her body is not strong for 5 months after delivery and I thought she took me and my family as fools.

I got angry and slapped her twice. When she saw that I was really angry she begged me.

So we went and saw her we are all happy and settled all.

As my child reached 10 month, I told her to tell her mum to go because she's now strong almost to walk.

Her mum left but my mum wanted to come and spend the holiday as she had never done that since she delivered .

When I told my wife, her facial expression changed. When my mum came i travelled but she didnt cook for her but heat soup that was in the freezer to give her.

My mum hated that and she called me crying that what she did to her she won't do to her own mum .

I pretended nothing happened as I got back I bought things from a eatry for family so my mum left after 2 weeks.

I brought up the issue and she said nothing wrong in giving her food kept in the freezer that she gave same to her mum too .

I got angry and beat her up. I didnt injure her. all and some other thing . I love my wife I cant be beating her all the time she promise to change yet nothing. Because of bad character I refuse to take her to eatry.

she denied me sex until I slap sense into her.

marriage has challenges it is s not easy.

Its the nerve you have to even write this nonsense that’s jaw dropping. In saner climes, the social media would have made sure you get locked up you fool. Wife beater. Why don’t you go flex your muscles on other men than a poor woman. You should have married your mother seeing that your world revolves around her and you have zero respect for your wife.

Sanmel:
I have worked in several establishment and one common thing colleagues can say about me wherever is that "I get to work late".. I feel bad about this though and I've done my best to stop but it ain't working.
Even when I try to leave home early, something must sha happen that will make me get to work late.
I'm beginning to think it's not ordinary. What should I do?

Get everything ready the night before. Iron your clothes, put your shoes by the door. Pack your lunch, leave breakfast ready so you’ll just warm it and if your hair is braided that makes it easier to manage. When waking up, if you leave the house at 7:30, set your mind to leave at 7am, that way you give yourself an allowance of half hour incase you are late to prepare yourself & so you’ll still make to leave home on time.

JerryBizz:

Very informative...I like reading comments such as yours. We keep learning.

Thanks

petitejolie:
Omo....how people die from leg operation beats me. Some people just wake up with leg pains and d next thing is they re gone. How leg naaaa?

DVT. Read more on it.

DuBLINGreenb:
How leg operation take kii person?
Was it loss of blood the doctors failed to properly address or what? Because button to kill person no dey leg la

Probably caused by deep vein thrombosis. Blood clots are likely to form after surgery due to little or no movement.

massinola:
I will be as brief as possible.
I recently opened a barbing salon shop. Within the area I opened this shop, there's this couple living there. The man does nothing for a living. He's a drunkard. The woman on the other hand sells black market fuel and oil to make ends meet.

They gave birth to 6 children (yes, you heard right). Since I entered that street, I noticed a serious domestic violence going on in that family. The man after drinking, uses his wife and children as punching bags. This is not occasionally. On a daily. I'm seriously disturbed. A little arguement and the man goes straight to the woman's fuel and oil and pours everything away.

Even when he's the one provoking the woman, he goes to the woman's properties and starts damaging everything.

The worst is that no body in the street says anything. They all say they are used to them.
I'm seriously disturbed because the man always threatens to pour fuel on the woman and set her ablaze always.

On many occasions, he carries huge sticks to kill the woman like a snake.
People around always say he can't do it. On my side, I'm really disturbed, because I have seen where domestic violence caused a disaster. I fear that one day, the man might carry out his threats.

Today a serious fight broke out between the man and the wife. The man was beating the last born of the house that's just a year plus like a mad man. The wife couldn't bear it anymore and faced the man. He was beating all of them like animals. Looking for cutlass and 2by2 to use on them. People were passing and didn't even care. I couldn't bear it anymore. He was trying to smash the woman's phone on the main road. One small girl went to rescue the woman and the phone. The way this man flung the lady eeh, that was when I stepped in, collected the phone and told the man that if he tried touching the woman and the children again, I would bury him alive. I was very mad. I asked the woman what he's still doing with the man. Or is she waiting for people to carry her corpse before she flees for her life? The phone is still with me. I'm confused on what to do.

This man needs to be stopped before a disaster strikes. It's just a matter of time. I fear for the woman's life seriously.
What can I do to help the situation guys. I'm really disturbed.

Arrange a few boys to handle that man when drunk & give him a stern warning about touching the wives or kids. Option 2 would be to arrange for a soldier to act as I though he lives in the neighborhood. Let him warn that man against touching his wife and children or he’ll expire.LOL all acting though. See how that works out.

Chuky7:
Does Taking Antibiotics after raw sex prevent you from getting STD

Antibiotics for what? That’s simply drug abuse. Different kinds of antibiotics are used to treat specific kinds of bacteria. If you just take any antibiotic, what bacteria exactly are you targeting? Your body will end up becoming antibiotic resistant and by the way you may still fall sick. Antibiotics can’t cure viruses.

I created this acct today for single ladies to learn from my mistakes..

I finished from school some years back, after my final exams I decided to stay back because I was into little business, I sell ladies wears and bags.

On Thursday evening I was outside my hostel when guy pass we exchanged greetings, I fell for him I can't explain why ( I was single) the next evening he saw me we had a little chats, we exchanged numbers.

We became friends, after two weeks the feelings started growing and I fell in love with him( I wanted a serious relationship) I went to his house with my friend spent few minutes and left..the next day my friend had a guest so I decided to go to his place, I pleaded with him that I don't want any sexual itimacy he aggreed, around 5am he started touching me one thing led to the other..after two months I find out he has a gf, before then I dreamt about him it made me feel for him more deeply.

I was very down and I decided to move on I went to bear parlor I drank to stupor some people help me home..the next day he called, he started saying the lady is a cheat, we move on..after some months I relocated to another state I was hunting for job, I travelled to lagos, he calls me every day, we chat the love grows more, he was very broke, I sent him money, after some months I left lagos, on my back a man told me to avoid any relationship at the moment, wish I heed to his advice..

I went directly to his place, he was down, he den open up to me that he's in interested fraud( yahoo) and nothing is dropping, he told me he came to ilorin but he was asked to bring human parts but he can't, and his neighbor is cashing out, I told him I'll help because I really love him I spoke with my neighbor if she know any juju man that's very good, she introduced me to a man. I had close to 100k in my account, we both went to the man I did a lot of prayers, ate different types of things we spend more than 50k after some weeks nothing is dropping, and I'm feeding him, my account is red already, he spoke with his friend, his friend introduced him to another juju man den we are out of cash already.

He told me that he want to go home to hustle up, after some weeks he started posting the other girl pic I was very down after everything I did for him, I moved on but it was too late, I was pregnant my initial plan was to abort it when someone who doesn't even me told me she saw me in hospital in her dream

I insisted on aborting but every means I tried wasn't working until I was told not to abort the child.

So sorry about your ordeal. Thank God you are alive. They say where there’s life, there’s hope. Let mistakes be stepping stones for a better tomorrow. Forget about that guy for now and focus on improving your life. When you are successful, they come looking for you. So pick yourself up & ask yourself what you are good at. Is it cooking, start a food business. Is it baking? Is it makeup? When asked Moses to use what was in his hand , I don’t know if you are religious or not. Your answer lies within you. It’s not the end, just a new beginning.

Barrister026:
My wife attitudes towards food she cooked with my money is getting on my nerves.

How can my wife be dishing food to me like she's serving it for our kids.times without number have complained but still no changes.

It's either she makes eba that won't satisfy us ( when they is enough garri available) her defense is that she don't want it to be wasted.

OR

She dished out soup for me with lesser meat like am a kid. Have told her several times when cooking..to buy enough protein in the soup or stew. But to my surprise she always economise the money and divert it into something else.

I even had to start buying suya in the evening when coming back from work, because I know what I be expecting when my food is dished out. ( Recent news we saw of how suya killed some families, made me limiit it)

Have ordered her on several occasions to take it back and put more protein, but must i always do that?

Please This is really getting out of hand, I really don't know how to handle this situation.

Why don’t you shop for groceries yourself and probably come up with a menu of what you want to eat when at home? You’ll already know the quantity you bought. Seems she’s very frugal even when it comes to food to the point of spending food money on other things. Maybe she was raised in a household that struggled to feed and due to the circumstances, got used to being economical with food. Knowing how much food is in the house will help you and as people suggested, dish out your own food.

Righteousness2:
That is a Man with an Understanding of Who he is and Who he Serves.

Irrespective of whatever Comes our way we Praise GOD! We Trust GOD! We Love HIM more!

When you Supply GOD ALMIGHTY Great Faith and Trust even in the midst of your Challenges, trial and troubles, you Frustrate the devil and you make GOD proud of you.

Oga what criteria do you use to select who you’ll respond to when it comes to Bible questions and who you won’t? You seem selective. Just saying and am a Christian before you conclude you are under attack. You ignored my question the other day & I thought you had an understanding of the Scripture enough to respond.

Righteousness2:

Irrespective of Whatever Happens!
GOD is GOD.
GOD is Good!
GOD is Perfect!
Our Duty is to Follow Him, Believe Him, Trust Him and Love Him with all our Heart! Because ALL things Work together for Good to them that Love GOD

I also asked myself what the Bible means by saying affliction will not rise up a second time.

Spark2:
Hello NL.
I'm going to keep this brief.

It started three weeks ago. my mum, who was walking normal with no problem suddenly could not walk. Her left leg began paining her severely that day. My mum was all in tears... She was rushed to the hospital where it was discovered that her sugar level was on the high side. The hospital gave drugs which stabilised it, at that point my mum was very weak, couldn't eat, each time she eat she throws up and also had some pain in the leg still. After a week in the hospital, we were then referred to a teaching hospital after a test showed that creatinine in her kidney was high.

The teaching hospital tried their best and I can say my mum is now okay. Except for the left leg. She can't still walk on it, the leg feels cold to touch with a little discolouration above the foot.

Doppler test showed that blood isn't really flowing through the leg. And they said they will need to amputate the leg to prevent the infection from growing to the other parts of the body.

Please I want to know if you know anyone who had similar condition and amputation was recommended but was later healed without need for amputation.

Please share your recommendations. I need my mum now more than before in my life. We are confused on whether to allow them to go on with the amputation or seek other alternatives.

Thank you very much.

Pls note that as at now, her sugar level, creatinine and other things are normal.

Don’t delay amputation as dead tissue is not good & may cause sepsis. Doctors have done this for a long time. Just consult an endocrinologist for an opinion. They specialize in treating diabetes. Do this as quickly as possible to avoid other stories.

ezugegere:


I don't have to like it. I don't have to do everything to please my wife, and she knows and accepts that. No matter how self-cleansing you think the vagina is, infection is still very common among ladies, not because they're promiscuous most times but because the chemistry of that region can very easily change. I don't play with what goes into my mouth.

I agree. Am a lady & the thought of it makes me wanna throw up. I wouldn’t want someone to do it on me & then kiss me with that same mouth. I also wouldn’t do it on anyone. I think of the health implication & besides, Africans like to copy the west too much. I believe in following God’s natural design but if couples agree to it, am not in opposition, that’s their business.

Ezendimmuo:
My girlfriend likes food a lot...
Sometimes what she wants might be above my budget
I just graduated...no job yet ..
She can call guys on the phone in my presence and beg them for money...
There is this "married" man she sees and has actually spent the night with him and she swears that nothing happened between them...
I can't provide for her needs....
I can't also stop her from getting them...
I love this girl so much
She loves me too..
Anytime I think about this...
It makes me sad
I wanna end everything...
But I can't...
What do I do

Is that one a girlfriend? Correction, community girlfriend. Someone sold his birthright because of food & it sounds like your so called girlfriend can even sell her kidney for food. Why can’t you end things with her? I don’t understand. Yet you are complaining. Na by force to date her? Carry your own cross since you know what do do but don’t wanna do it. How exactly do you want Nairalanders to help you?

officialmario:
Dear Nairalanders

There is this issue that is bothering my mind, I have promise to be faithful to my wife and always let her know whatever comes in for me.
But the problem is that I always tell her how money is spent, and whenever I present list for whatever we buy and all other expenses, but each time she sees anything like I sent 10k to my mother, she always pick up fight with me, and I have not been biased, I send money to her mother too.

I don't know why she is acting like this, and It doesn't make me a happy man at home.
Please I need your advice on what I can do, I don't want to hide anything from my wife.

Truth is that your wife is selfish and wants everything to be all about her? If she’s upset that you are sending money to the woman who carried you & raised you, what then will happen if your mother was to come live with you? I think you need to call her out on her behavior and after that have an account where you both chip in on household expenses. How you handle the rest of your earnings should be your business. If too much info is bothering her, perhaps you should stop informing her of your spending. It’s your money, you work for it. Set aside money for your mother because God forbid if an emergency came up, I foresee your wife not being helpful. Wisdom is profitable to direct. Does your wife have a job? Maybe she needs to start working if she doesn’t to avoid feeling so entitled to your money.

joshawesome:
Good morning happy people of nairaland.

I will try to be brief as possible. During the lock down my elder brother was seriously ill, we all thought it normal malaria and typhoid but getting to the hospital he was diagnosed of kidney diseases at it last stage (CKD). We all brace up and gave him all the support needed during the stage from one dialysis section to another something thrice a week.

It became worse and no improvement at sight, I literally do all thing for him, from bathing to feeding and carry him around the hospital but he faith he will come out of it. During the process he used all of his life saving to the extend of collecting and seeking financial assistance from people because the doctor advice to undergo kidney transplants.

On 2 April 2021 we went from dialysis, nurses were complaining that I allow him to drink a lot of water because at that stage he have a daily water intake and also needed blood. He did the blood transfusion and the dialysis but he had a breathing issue, the nurse place him on breathing machine the oxygen got exhausted and he was normal.

We went home by 12am, on getting home we ask for water, I told him to wait because I can even hear noise of water around his thoracic cavity. He was having difficult I had to call one of his friend so that we can take him back to the hospital but he gave up the ghost and we bury him that the same day because that was his wish. Due to his name, I was confused and angry at myself and everyone that we lost him due to 5 million needed for the transplant.

Months later I was able to get over his death a bit and went back to school, wrote the exam and graduated with first class even though the examination I didn't prepared much due to what happened. It was just God hand at work ( It only a fool that say there is no God).

Now the problem is that I can't sleep and remember my brother death that I should have done more. His death is like 5 months from now but it still fresh in my memory recently. My brother play a vital role in my education from paying my fee and monthly allowance and advice. I was thinking of using drugs so that I can sleep at time but talk me out of it. Pls how can I re again myself and also am an introvert I don't have people to talk to and I hardly go out.

Grief is a tough journey to walk but you must take it each day at a time. It’s not unusual to be put on sleeping pills after loss of a loved one. Remember sleep is very important not only for your body’s immune system but your mental health. Constant lack of sleep is not something you should take lightly. If you can afford, I’d advise you talk with a doctor about this who may give you a sleep aid. You may also be referred to a psychotherapist who will help you deal with grief. Please also let friends help you. What do you do during your free time? Staying indoors will only worsen your grief. Try jogging or gym, probably a class for something you enjoy doing such as cooking , coding etc. Also talk with people. I am so sorry for the loss of your brother. I hope you overcome this tough stage.

I shop from stores that do measurements, that way I know my true size.

Easylion3569:
My girlfriend last saw her menstration last month, its been 30 days and 4 day since she last saw it.. So i was wondering why, and i had to visit a chemist who gave me a pregnancy test tools called 'accuracy'..
he told me how to use it, and what the various line display means.
so i called my girl and told her to urinate small on a small cup, followed the instructions and two thick red line showed..
and the chemist said two line is positive..
i'm still schooling i don't kno what to do now.

everything i have worked for, how i have planned my future is now trying to fade away.
i cant even hold my tears

Funny that you don’t know what to do. You two are adults. You made a conscious decision to have sex knowing fully well it could result in a baby. Sounds like you didn’t use protection and your girlfriend wasn’t on birth control. If you are playing house while still in school, you should by no means be surprised when the responsibilities of a home come knocking. A baby is a permanent responsibility so you can’t run now. If you can do the “crime”, you can do the time. Tell your parents & see if they’d be willing to support till you get a job. If not, you may need to get a part time employment & then go to school after. Good luck!

udoji2021:
Good day nairalanders, I created this thread some months back


https://www.nairaland.com/6527936/wife-wants-kill-me-what



I want to thank you all for the advice and emotional support you people gave me during those tough times, the love you showed me that time was genuine and I really appreciate you all. thank you

I'm happy to tell you once again that my wife gave birth to a beautiful baby girl last month.
I was not even with her that time cos I moved out of the house and was squatting with a friend close to my house to avoid clashes with her, when it was time, a neighbor helped her to the hospital and inform me immediately which i went straight to the hospital and meet her, when I arrived at the hospital, she gave birth already and called me inside immediately, the first thing she did was to tell me that I'm a father now(in sign language) something she did not do for months. I congratulated her and after some small talks, I went and see the doctor to pay the bills. they gave me a list of things to buy which i bought immediately. we left the hospital the next day.
she went straight to where I was staying and tell me to come back home which I did, I was still afraid of her which she noticed too but what i saw the time was different. After some weeks, I noticed that she changed from that monster to her former self.
She apologized for everything she did to me, I told her that I did not hold anything against her and she should feel free. since then, even if i shout, she will cry, if I refuse to eat, more crying, if I come back late,. wahala, and nothing pains her more than me talking about the things she did when she was pregnant.

Lastly, I told her that we should go and do family planning but she is refusing that I did not trust her even after she apologized, it's now becoming another problem cos I can't allow her to get pregnant again till I sort myself out, I remember what I went through that time and I'm not ready for a repeat. but she is insisting that even if we start sleeping together again, nothing will happen cos she knows her circle very well.



I created this thread to update you on how she changed and prove those that attributed her behavior to pregnancy right. I'm still struggling financially but I don't need help from people, I said this because of the people that called me a scammer that time, and as far as I can remember, it was only one person with Nnamebuka(God bless him) moniker that sent something to me.

Thank you all

Congratulations on the birth of your daughter. I’ve seen pregnancy change women to either good or bad. I remember in high school we kept wishing one teacher would be pregnant every year because of how nice she became. As for the family planning, don’t gamble. Even though she tells you she won’t get pregnant, do t trust empty words. Get a serious birth control either injection or implant. My friend’s wife got pregnant 3 months after giving birth. I’ve heard pills fail especially if one is taking antibiotics. Be careful or number 2 will soon come .

Case closed