Controversial street artiste, Portable has finally landed UK after first taken to social media to lament of his wife denied visa to the UK.
The singer is set to perform in London on the 26th of November and decided that his wife should accompany him of which her visa application was rejected.
However, after so much consideration, the artist Portable have finally landed UK without his wife, and in the video he could be seen with Billique saying his wife will come and meet him in UK.
Some women are trying hard. Even this one has a wife despite his rowdy character and different baby mommas. The power of money.
Rebuker: Nigerian soldiers caught a young guy wearing a short camo, asked him to pull the shorts and tear them.
In a video currently circulating on the internet, some Nigerian soldiers were seen harassing a young man for wearing camo shorts.
The soldiers asked the young guy to empty the pockets, which he did. Subsequently, he was asked to pull down the shorts and tear them.
One of the soldiers was heard asking his colleague to bring scissors from the car. Another soldier instructed him to tear the shorts after the young guy had pulled them down. The young man was filmed making efforts to tear the shorts with his hands.
However, this has sparked mixed reactions as many blame the Nigerian soldiers for such an act.
Bunch of dumb asses. Idiots!! Little power & African soldiers behave as if they own us. Is that their shade of camouflage because, different countries have different shades of camouflage? Here in the US the army don’t care. I’ve only seen this harassment in my country Kenya & now Nigeria.African soldiers and police have one character trait, brutality.
I gave birth 9 months ago and for some reason, my mom never expressed interest in visiting me and my child. She is a new wife now and I heard from some family members that when she wanted to come, her new husband said ‘your daughter has other people around, why are you worrying yourself’.
I did not take it personally at all. My mother has never been a dependable person. Me and my mom still talk everyday and my child is always on her status. This is her ONLY grandchild.
My mom’s elder sister’s (my aunty) youngest child is moving to my area. My aunty said that she’ll visit me during the move, and come and hold baby. She reached out to my mom and even told my mom that if they plan it, they can visit me together. My mom and my aunty are VERY close. I even consider my aunty my second mom in a way.
Suddenly, my mom starts calling me, saying she wants to plan her visit. I say okay. But with work and everything, my aunty will get here before her. She started telling me not to let my aunty into my house, saying that my aunty is a husband snatcher etc. she said my aunty will destroy my home. I tell her I don’t care about that. She started calling their mutual friends and telling them to tell me that my aunty is a husband snatcher. I did not fall for that.
Frustrated, she called my aunty and said that the truth is that my husband is uncomfortable. She said that MY husband is not from our town and that my husband’s people don’t like visitors. She said that I did not tell her about this out of respect.
My aunty called me and was apologizing, saying that she did not know. I responded and said that this is a lie. I even put my husband on the phone. Here’s my mistake - I sent her a screenshot showing my mom saying that she’s a husband snatcher and that’s why I should not let her into my home.
My aunty and I now agreed that we should let peace reign and that she won’t visit. She said she will still like to see me and we can meet somewhere. MATTER SUPPOSE TO END.
My mom decided to bring my aunty husband into this. She told my auntys husband that his wife is not respecting my husband’s wishes. My auntys husband now sent her my screenshot saying that he knows the real reason and that your child doesn’t even support you.
The screenshot has shattered my mom. She feels betrayed. My siblings who live with my mother are calling me a betrayer. I want to salvage the relationship between my siblings and I, not so much my mother. I have not spoken to any of them since the screenshot.
What do I do? How do I approach this.
While many blame you, let me analyze this issue as I see it. Based on your explanation 1. Your mom failed to put her priorities right after getting into her new marriage. Assuming this man is a Nigerian, he should understand the importance of Omugwo. Your mother should have put her foot down & let him know that you as her daughter are also important to her & so she would visit you for a while, especially being your 1st child. She however, chose to please the man at your expense. She should have set up those boundaries concerning how she relates with her children & the new husband, but she failed to do so. 2. After planning to come with her sister, she had to assassinate her sister’s reputation, which I think is due to the embarrassment of being overtaken by the sister in visiting the grandchild. She couldn’t stand someone seeing your baby before her especially because it would be a source of shame because she’s yet to visit. So she had to come up with lies in order to try & save face. She sounds like a manipulator. Things must go her way. 3. You didn’t stand up for yourself as a woman in her own home. You needed to stop your mom & let her know to stop causing chaos or else you’ll no longer be interested in her visiting. I understand she went reporting your Aunt to her husband. At that point, you should have canceled her visit. Stop dragging your husband & extended family into every issue that comes up. It’s not every dirty detail you’ll share with your husband. No matter how bad, she’ll remain your mother. Your husband may never respect her again. Learning to say YES & NO will save you a lot of problems in this life. All you needed to tell your Aunt was that you run your own home & your mother has her own home. She can invite who she wants and you can invite who you want. 4. There’s something called loving people from a distance. Sometimes for respect to reign, we need to give our loved ones done space & we need to make decisions and stand by them. Your mother owes everybody involved an apology. Let her know you felt like she was trying to destroy the relationship you have with your Aunt & with her behavior of lying to your Aunt’s husband, left you no choice but to expose her lies. As for your siblings, they’ll come around. You can call them individually & let them decide if they want to stay in touch with you. Stand your ground & let your Aunt know she’s welcome to your home. Next time, cover your family’s weaknesses from your husband, unless it’s something he’s seen with his eyes or one that needs his input such as financial or word of advise. We all are learners in this journey called life. Nobody has the monopoly of wisdom.
Okolo3662: 1. Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy 2. To Kill A Mockingbird By Harper Lee. Hardcover book first published July 11, 1960. Novel won 1961 Pulitzer Prize. Later made into an Academy Award winning film. 3. The Great Gatsby by F. Scott Fitzgerald. 4. One Hundred Years of Solitude Garcia Marquez, 1982. 5. A Passage to India by E.M. Forster. 6. Things Fall Apart by Chinualumogu Achebe. 7. Invisible Man by Ralph Ellison. 8. Don Quixote by Miguel de Cervantes Saavedra. 9. Beloved by Toni Morrison 10. Mrs Dalloway by Vagina Wolf. 11. Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte. 12. The purple color by Alice Walker.
Ayodeoba: Hello Nairaland, pls I seek for your opinions about this isssue affecting our marriage life. We re young couple, we just got married. My wife had always been shouting of pain whenever we re having sex, I believe sex is meant to be enjoyed btw two party. Any one with remedies or medication to use. Kindly help
There’s a condition known as vaginismus. What happens is that the muscles contract involuntarily, causing sex so be very painful. When something hurts, the memory registers in mind & so future attempts at sex will only worsen the condition due to anxiety. It can be treated with anti-anxiety medications, muscle relaxants and therapy. People talk out of ignorance saying a baby’s head can pass through and so a woman is not supposed to have pain. Other causes could be untreated infection like pelvic inflammatory disease. Another condition suffered by women is endometriosis in women of child bearing age. This condition can cause pain and is treated with hormonal birth control meds. Dryness could also be a factor and a lubricant will help with that.To cut a long story short, take your wife to a good hospital. Let her be checked by a board certified Gynecologist. Whatever advice is given here, it’s does not equal a diagnosis by a doctor. Good luck!
xin5: As a 47yr old I still patronise prostitutes which I don't see a problem with. I have No kid, no serious relationship. The problem is my mother complaining here and there for me to get married if I don't see my age. My mother has complained to the extend she's embarrassed on my behalf even when I am well established. I know I can't help myself, it's just an addiction I can't stop. I find it so hard to chyke a girl, talk more calling every now and then.. having meaniless discussions and drama all the time.. pestering for sex something I can achieve with just a phone chat with my connect and they will send pictures of multiple variables I can pick from..30k shortime.
The longest relationship have ever had was in 2008 I think 7months. Ever since I was young I focused on pay as you go and this has been eating my finances on a steady which I normally don't see as anything because I am doing quite well for myself. But the pressure to have kids it's getting on me so bad that I wish I can just get a prostitute and impregnate her so that my mother can rest.
You admitted that you don’t see anything wrong with your lifestyle. You are only trying to put on a facade because your mother has been on your case. Until you are ready to change, no words can make you change if you are not willing. However you must remember that there are principles that govern this life. Dawn & dusk are a sure thing, anything born must surely expect a day of death , last but not least, we have a time for sowing and reaping. It’s shocking that you aren’t worried about the health implications of your lifestyle, but in due time life will force you to sit and look back at the decisions you made.These days I don’t do motivation talk. At 47, I’ll advise that whatever you do, to do it to the best of your ability. Even prostitution, get them even from the internet. When it’s all said & done, what will matter is how you lived your life.
Cute9gerian: First and foremost I am not a Muslim if that’s what you think. Secondly this are not gods chosen people by any means whatsoever. They are only invaders who migrated from Germany during world war 2 and settled in Palestine year 1948 and named their so called city israel after systematically killing the original inhabitants
Migrated from Germany? Makes sense because Hitler succeeded in killing Jews. Whether they are the real or fake, as long as they occupy the current land of Israel,watch them wipe out their enemies.
Cute9gerian: This is all they know blood shed. Invaders parading themselves as Gods chosen people Israel. If only Adolf hitler had finished them off
Ohh Israelis were murdered in broad daylight. Children were killed as parents watched & other citizens taken to Gaza as hostages. That to you doesn’t seem enough reason to respond the way they did? Even the Muslims know that Israelis are God’s chosen and no one can change that.We already know your kind. You were cheering last Saturday because you thought you had the victory. Too bad Hamas stepped on a live wire. When Israelis are done with your brothers, the imprints will be left for all of you to see for many decades to come. When you people go anywhere, the world cannot know peace.
I am in a dilemma and I need advice on what to do.
A bit of background about myself: I am a 29 years only child from a very poor background. I work for an IT firm which i joined in 2019 as a graduate trainee.
My total income is around 490k (400k from main job, 90k from a writing side gig).
My challenge: Recently, My host have told me to look for my accommodation and I have been searching for houses. Unfortunately, the places closer to my places of work is expensive.
I work in VI and the cheapest mini flat I have seen in close vicinity is 1.2M at Ajah.
I also have have a building project I am undertaking in the village that is at roofing stage and my parents have been pressuring me to settle down as the only child.
My dilemma is this, If i go for the house at Ajah, it will eat a bulk of my savings, thereby making it impossible for me to complete the building project or even start the process of settling down.
If I go for a cheaper but farer location, I will be spending more time in traffic.
Please, how do I manage this?
I don’t know about Nigeria, but where am from, some wealthy people rent out their guest houses or what they call servants and quarters( don’t like that word). You can check online, hire a realtor or ask the watchmen in that area you are looking to rent. As for pressure to marry, do it when ready, though you sound financially stable.
MrAgbako: The other time I read of a doctor that forgot there surgical scissors in a patient body. The reopen the patient again after he complained of pain. E be say some doctors sef don dey smoke Colorado 😂
Actually, there’s a surgical technician who accompanies the doctors to the theatre. Their job is to count the number of instruments going into the operating room & again count after surgery to confirm that all instruments that went in, are accounted for while going out. They also hand the surgical instruments to the doctors during surgery. These are the people responsible, because some surgeries can take hours and the doctors are exhausted. That’s not to mean that the doctors should be negligent. It’s just that justice is hard to get in Africa if you don’t have a lot of money.
StylesX: She was the first girl I ever had amorous feelings for, I was in secondary school then, I asked her out with all the courage my being could muster, and she turned me down, we stayed friends for over 10years, I would try to move on, and it would work for a while and all the feelings will come back all over again especially when I see her, I don't see her often as she lives in another state.
We both did well for ourselves, I concentrated on making myself a better guy, worked hard to make something of myself, she did the same, and over the years we were just friends and I went ahead and dated only 4 girls, I don't womanize, I realized I always looked for her in every girl I dated, and I mostly dated girls that looked like her, I have been lucky with love in the sense that all the girls I dated loved me, I'm currently in a relationship with a decent girl too.
So fast forward to last week, she came visiting all of a sudden, haven't seen her for over two years and here she is, we connected and spent time like best friends, shared and talked about our lives and joked about how she put me in friend zone in the past, throughout her stay she stayed in my apartment, we slept in same bed and everything yet nothing happened, she kept talking about how I am a good guy that most guys will sleep with a girl that come under their roof, sometimes she would change her clothes in my presence and I won't make any move, she said being a good guy was what she hated about me back then, that she thought I was weak, and now that she's matured she sees that quality differently now, I didn't read meaning to any of this as I have zeroed out the thought of anything happening between us for years until she started doing strange things, like kissing me without warning, cuddling at night and pressing me to her Bossom etc,
One night she did that and I got aroused, I lost control and we got intimate, it was intense, but before we could have actual sex I came to my senses and made her stop, it was super awkward, we didn't talk about it because she has a partner and I do too, I thought we'd just pretend nothing happened and move on so we wouldn't sabotage our relationships, then the next day we were alone at home in my living room, she wore my Tshirt with undies and we were binge watching movies, suddenly she started kissing and touching me, and I lost it again and this time we had passionate sex, she left the next day, and ever since then I've been confused and guilt ridden, she told me it was a mistake she rejected me in the past that we can still start something if I want, that she is ready to be with me, but I wasn't buying it, I am confused because a part of me feel something fishy is up, and the other part wanted her but I don't know how to tell my girlfriend nor do I want to hurt my girlfriend, I don't love her like I loved this old time crush of mine, but she is a loyal girlfriend and I can't look her in the eyes since the sex thing happened, and every nerve in my body is telling me to confess and ask for forgiveness or keep quiet and move on with my life, what do I do?
I see a couple of issues in this. The two of you remained friends for over 10 years. Suddenly she comes to visit you in your apartment and you go ahead to share a bed. 1. Have you asked yourself why for 10 years you weren’t her type but suddenly she is now all over you? Any woman who respects herself and is in a relationship will not go sleeping in another man’s house and undressing in his presence. So that leads to my second point. 2. Seems there’s an agenda. You’ve not seen each other for two years, but she suddenly came visiting, wearing your t-shirts, sleeping in your bed & you didn’t see anything wrong? She kept seducing you for a reason. Out of the blues someone shows up claiming love for person she has rejected for the last 10 years. Seduces the person and then leaves soon after getting intimate. What changed? They say when the deal is too good, think twice. 3.She cheated on her boyfriend. If she is decent, she’d have ended things properly with him & then give you hints, to see if a relationship can work. I don’t trust her sudden change of heart. Did you get tested medically after the incident? What if she was trying to trap you with pregnancy? 4.If you do her bidding, she’ll be controlling you like a puppet. You’ll seem desperate like she’s all you’ve been waiting for all these years and you didn’t move on. Your current GF is a decent person. The grass always looks greener on the other side . 5. I’d suggest you change your number and cut contact with the lady. Change apartments if possible. Confess to your GF and ask for forgiveness. This is because this your friend who’s suddenly interested, could use that secret to blackmail you into dating her. Besides, there are people anointed by the devil as agents of confusion and delay. Be very careful. Next time, don’t bring women who are not relatives under your roof in the absence of your GF .
You didn’t tell us how you were trying to make him feel comfortable… buh you rushed to social media to tell us the part where he asked about your sexuality
Fear daughter’s of EVE …. They are always playing the victim card
Modified… reminds me of the song 🎵 No woman No cry
MaxInDHouse: Judaists are doomed! So JWs don't have anything to do with them in fact Judaists aren't even practicing the religion Moses handed over to the Israelites. Judaism is a mixture of Babylonian mythology and Greek philosophy attached to what Moses wrote that's why Judaists in the first century found it really difficult to relate with Jesus of Nazareth!
MaxInDHouse: I am Maximus one of JEHOVAH'S WITNESSES would you like to chat with me on the topic of discussion?
While answering his question, would you be kind enough to answer mine please? I understand that the witnesses don’t embrace the Trinity doctrine. My question would be , do the relate well with the followers of Judaism(Jews)? Because the Jews do not believe in Jesus either and are waiting for the coming of the Messiah? Just curious.
ONE DAY WE ALL ARE GONNA GET TIRED OF DECEIVING OURSELVES..
1 Corinthians 2:14 A person who does not have the Spirit cannot understand matters of the Spirit. They are foolishness unto him. They are discerned through the Spirit.
Danisaint112: The thing is; 99.999% of people who speak in tongue fake. And it's unfortunate that most gullible people fall this cheap trick because of ignorance.
This is exactly how I spot a fake pastor. Once he/she speaks in non-existent tongue. I red flag the person immediately. Me taking you serious ends.
Which is non existent tongue? 😂. The Apostle Paul said that when we pray in tongues, our understanding is unfruitful. 1Corinthians 14:14-15. Whoever prays in tongues builds up himself, but whoever prophecies, builds up the church. So yes, actually praying in tongues is something even the person praying doesn’t understand, unless there is an interpreter of tongues.He says to pray in both the Spirit (tongues) and also in the understanding.
Weathered: I thought speaking in tongues is involuntary when someone is overwhelmed by the Holy Ghost.
It's not really a matter of choice. I see Pentecostals speaking in tongues in music, discussions and casual prayers.
Hello Christ Embassy.
Actually speaking in tongues is one of the gifts of the Holy Spirit. The Bible says that the gifts of God are irrevocable. In other words, he won’t give you & then take it back. So the gift is within you. You are not waiting for some force to hit you so that it activates.
Almunjid: Come to ABU Zaria garden around Icsa/ Ramat roundabout come see how many Christians dey shout like mad people disturbing the peace of others in the name of speaking in tongues. What is Christlike about speaking in tongues like a mad man? Na so Jesus Christ dey pray?
Why don’t you first tell your imams to stop disturbing people’s sleep with those noisy speakers? Clean your house 1st before cleaning your neighbor’s.
The book of Proverbs says that there is a way which seems right to a man, but the end of it is destruction. If you do not know this already, know today that you are walking down a path of self destruction. You may enjoy it for a short while, but one day you may wake up & not even get back on Nairaland to tell us the consequences because they’ll lock you up. You are dealing with greed. If you cannot go to your boss & ask for a pay increase, you’d better resign & start a business. You may be surprised to find out that they might already know what you’ve been up to & are laying a trap for you to get caught. This is especially dangerous because there’s no other person who can take the blame except you. Greed might lead you to jail & maybe even cause you to lose your marriage. Stop it before it’s too late.
NaijaRealtor: 1. Right from when she was about three years old, she would always pray for me to make it so she can come stay with me.
2. Been married for like 7 years and we have 3 kids. My wife was on my neck to bring my niece to come stay with us so she can assist with helping to look after the kids once they all return from school.
3. Because I know how many ladies treat children that aren't theirs, I refused to bring my niece over. So after much pressure from my wife, I approached my sister and her husband and pleaded to allow me train her as she'd always prayed.
4. Weeks after her arrival, my wife started complaining about her attitude and stuff. I refused to yield to my wife's suggestions that I take my niece back. It almost caused quarrel between us.
I felt it was too early to judge her. She's just 12 years old.
Her Attitudes:
A. She would fold and keep pants stained with my 1 year old poop in the laundry basket until it starts bringing out maggots, then we would search the whole house for the source of the foul smell until we find it and throw away affected clothes, disinfect the house and all.
B. She, yesterday wiped my 6 years old son with iron buckle on the belt and his head nearly burst open. He complained of severe headache and we are still treating him.
C. Final straw was, while we were in the office today, my 6 years old started to throw up. He was sick. This girl just laid on the couch and instructed a 6 years old to go fetch the broom, mopping stick and packer to clean the mess.
My son was very weak, but he went to fetch these items and cleaning the vomit. Because he was very sick, he kept on throwing up and cleaning at the same time. All these while, this girl laid there relaxing until my wife came home and washed my son up and cleaned the floor.
When I came back this evening and learnt about the stuff, I quietly asked her why she'd behaved like that and she said it was nothing.
I really don't know whether to let her stay while I try to coach her or take her back to her parents.
I seriously need advice.
Sorry for the long epistle.
Based on your narration, couple of things are involved.
1. Your niece is a child who still needs the love of parents. You are trying to turn her into an adult but psychologically, she’s not fully developed to deal with some responsibilities. You’ve turned her into a nanny to mop and do everything. You are stealing her childhood. Let kids be kids.
2. You promised her parents that you brought her to your house in order to take her to school? Is she currently going to school? If she is, when does she study because you want her to be mothering your children. It didn’t sound like she goes to school because you spoke of how you & your wife were out of the house.Do you pay her for the services rendered or by giving her food & accommodation is what you consider as payment?
3. We as Africans, we are taught to automatically cane children when they misbehave. In most African homes, children are there to be seen but should not be heard talking about anything. Your niece is doing what we call in psychology, projecting. It is actually a defense mechanism, where someone instead of dealing with their emotions, they take it out on other people. She has some psychological hurt that she’s trying to numb by giving a carefree attitude.
4. If you mean well for your niece, take her back to her parents. She’s still in developmental stages where she needs her parents. If indeed your promise to train her was genuine, you can get a good boarding school and send her there since it sounds like the family is not well off.
5. Going forward, hire an adult who is mentally & physically mature & can handle children. Let’s stop child labor in the name of helping relatives. It’s taking advantage of their financial state.Take that child back to her parents.
izonborn098: Ok contribution to do wedding, many insane men everywhere...
Actually we Kenyans contribute to fund weddings. A wedding is considered a communal affair & the community comes together to support. Even the wealthy get from their fellow wealthy friends. However, the attendance depends on how well the celebrant attends other people’s events.
In 2007 my parents divorced, part of the reasons was my Dad's infidelity and abusive nature towards my mom and siblings. My Dad is an Evangelist, a once prominent one before the divorce and had workers both male and female working for him from drivers to pastors and he occasionally has affairs with his female workers, this usually makes the male workers back then to walk out on him after discovering this. There were three of us all born in the 90s so we witnessed my dad's growth as well as his abuses towards my mom as well as occasional affairs with his workers which would always results in fights between my mom and him, on one occasion in 1997 my mom found out about his affairs and took three of us to Ibadan to live with his Boss at that time Rev. Wale Oke who warned him and sent us back home, on arrival my dad nearly killed my mom and it was an elderly neighbor and his family back then that beat him up before he stopped. 2004 my parents had the fourth child my baby brother and the following year they had a fight again after my mom caught him in office with his then secretary and he beat her up along with her sister and my elder sister for confronting him.
He continued working with this his secretary and also having affairs with other ladies. 2006 my mom found out and they had a big fight which shattered the church they had back then, we weren't also sparred from his wrath. To make matters worse he would come to the church announcing the closure of the church and removal of my mom as an ordained Pastor despite the fact that she went to Redeem Christian Church Pastoral school, the people did not accept his demands citing his infidelity. December 2007 they had another big fight and they finally divorced. My Dad seized my 3 year old brother, against court order, and relocated to South Africa and Kenya. I and my two sisters stayed with my mom and she did the best she could running the church and providing meals, after attempts to punish failed my dad then took care of our education fee while still keeping my brother away from us and parading around the country and other African countries with this his secretary as his wife, soon after she had a daughter for him. My mom struggled to raise us right and to her defense she really did her best but I had to deal with the anger and bitterness on my own path, weed and alcohol was my escape and soon after I was lured into prostitutes during the 2go era by a guy i met online, I was 18 when this happened, my family didn't know about this, I graduated best student in my faculty and got great jobs in both the private and finally the public sector. Save to say I do not let this habits affect my inputs at work or relationship with people.
My elder sister graduated successfully got high flying jobs and married a big shot, they're doing fine with kids now. My younger sister was the victim in all this as my dad refused to train her through school. During my school years I reconnected with my dad and brother only to find out my brother had been raised believing my dad's secretary to be his mom and the daughter from their affair his only sibling. My dad has raised him with the idea that he is the only son and even when we reconnected would believe the words of a 9 year old even though this boy can lie just to get what he wants from my dad and he would believe it.
2015 after graduation and my sister's marriage we fell out and even without his support i got jobs in places that needed high connections and even started three different businesses with my vices unknown to my family members. 2020 some elders in the family stepped in to settle the issues between my dad and my siblings and in that five year period thankfully we have all done well for ourselves without him. In 2021 i took some high end loans from the office and made some other investments but they went wrong and that is were I shot myself in the foot. By 2022 the pressure on me was too much and i had to go to my dad's place pending when i sort myself out and man i saw shege pro-max. I recently sorted myself out and moved out of his apartment.
For my Dad 2014 the secretary had to leave him when he was becoming abusive and her family objected their union as she was the cause of his divorce, she went along with their daughter which he has refused to carter for. That same year he married a younger lady but the marriage did not last a year, he then had another woman who they were together for a year it was this woman that caused our rift in 2015 and i left him, he then started an affair with a woman from Kenya that ended just last year while sending her monthly upkeep and paying for her rent in a luxury apartment in Kenya. January of this year he started an affair with another elderly female Pastor in Abuja and they began living together until it ended in April. May 2023 he went to Benue and once again married another lady who he just met( note in all of this his fornication his excuse is always "The Spirit of God spoke to him that this is his wife" like WTF!!!).
Now my brother was supposed to further his study 2021 but my dad and him and a silly plan to send him to the UK to play football, without any proper training. This went on for almost a year before he was hurriedly enrolled in a private university but we found out he had used the money meant for his school fees (over 400k) partying with friends and impressing his girlfriend. Now my sisters and I found out and reported it to my dad. This guy denied it and now turned the blame on me that I have been taking him round hotels to carry babes and party. Despite the fact I gave this boy a chance during the investigation to come clean that we are aware that he possibly flunked school and want honesty from him but he denied it. Now my dad is defending this boy, he's 19 o and supposed to be heading to 300L, and attacking me. My brother knows about my habits and is using this as his alibi putting the blame on me that I got him involved with my habits and even though I have cautioned him several times, attempted to guard him in academics because I struggled heavily in my 100L due to family issues( I wasn't even involved in marijuana or alcohol by then) he still went out with friends who ate his school fees with him and not theirs. Now Baba is blaming me for spending the boy's fees when my work schedule would not even allow me teach him bad habits. I found out he does drugs and even deals on harder substances that I dread from. My Dad is not holding him accountable for his actions rather as he always does blames every misfortune that comes on me or my mom. Now we had a big fight on the phone and I am ready to cut the two of them off for good. Between 2015-2020, before they both came into my life I was doing very well without their drama and distractions. At one time in 2021 my Dad even dumped this boy on me while he spends money bringing his woman from Kenya going round the country parading her as his wife and living in luxury hotels and all kind of silly antics, she's a Pastor ,and refused to support back then while I look after this boy. That period was when my investments was going down and I was even admitted in the hospital after having a heart condition that scared me and the doctors. To cover my medical bills, keep ,myself afloat and take care of my brother in my custody that period I had to sell my car which further worsened my financial condition.
THIS MAN HAS BEEN NOTHING BUT CHAOS, A FRAUD, A STAIN ON WHAT CHRISTIANITY IS AND WORSE OF IT ALL WILL DESTROY HIS FAMILY IF GIVEN THE CHANCE. 2020 after reconciliation I had a big fight with my younger sister because of this man and not until last year I settled with my sister and this man was not even happy with the peace I made. He wants to use me to attack my Mom and my sisters and only when he sees you are against them would he embrace you. I want to cut him off completely as between 2015-2020 I witnessed personal, financial and spiritual growth as opposed to having him in my life and his attempt to control me into self destruction. The depressions I had got worse with him and I had to fall into weed and booze to escape the madness. However I am recovering and pulling myself together and do not intend to bring him back to my life.
Your dad seems to have a very strong demon of immorality that’s holding him captive. For the sake of your peace & well being, there’s a thing we call loving people from a distance. Your brother is no longer a baby. He knows right from wrong. You cannot change someone who is not willing to change. I’d advise you cut those two off for now. Focus on your mental health & cutting off bad habits. You can say hello if you meet out there. However, manipulative people & those with entitlement mentality, can never change when you keep acting as their savior. Love toxic family members from a distance.
beekind: I am in my mid 30s, very comfortable and a dual citizen of Nigeria and a first world country. I decided to relocate back to Nigeria because of starting a family and having my own children. Since arriving the country and based on my experiences so far, my plans have changed.
I decided to first focus on having children as I found out that the Nigerian society has become almost worse than the west in terms of sexual debauchery. People have sex for indomine, girls commit abortion without remorse, the worst thing is that no one here uses protection and by the time your average Nigerian girl reaches 30 years old, she has aborted 4 times, slept with almost 100 men and contacted several stds in the process.
What this means is that disciplined men like me are left with these category of girls, worst still is that they come very entitled and empty and can even ruin you with their lifestyle as they are usually impossible to reform.
Solution: I had to go back to the drawing board and re-evaluated my plan, I have an ex-girlfriend (29 years old) whom I am very close with. She fits the bill in terms of who I want as a life partner but she is a single mother. So I gave her a choice.
Have 2 children for me, those 2 children will automatically become dual citizens and I might consider marrying you and adopting your child but even if I don't marry you, your 2 children that you have by me will be taken care of and being dual citizens of a developed country they can turn to a blessing for you and your whole family in future.
Now, let me explain, I still love this lady and my decision was premised on how uncertain I am of what my choice will be in the future as such I wanted to be very open from the beginning, but even at this point, I can not guarantee I will marry her but I could depending on what happens in future.
She's going to give me a feedback later and I am quite positive she will take the offer.
[b]If it were you faced with this option, what would you do ?[ /b]
With all due respect, you are wicked. So you want children but don’t want commitment? Use & dump seems to be your modus operandi. I wonder how you’d feel if someone gave your daughter such options. So because of some citizenship, you now want to treat people like shit because Nigerian girls are immoral. Bullsh!t !!! You are a pervert. Anyone who can sit & plot that kind of evil against someone’s daughter, has all the hallmarks of a perv and is to be avoided at all cost. So she’s good enough to give birth for you, but not good enough to marry? Such write ups give me chest pains. To hell with your 1st class BS. 1st world is not heaven. The disrespect! The nerve! Stop treating women like objects. They deserve some respect! Absolute Rubbish!! Shame on you!
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send him to school
