₦airaland Forum

We will shout from the rooftops if need be. Good thing is that we’ve told our parents generations to sit & let Gen Z & Millennials handle this. It seems like we Kenyans have to fight for our independence a 2nd time.

RealSolution001:
I have this girl that I'm sincere with and everything being equal, I would like to take her to the next stage - marriage.

The issue now is, she snores so badly.

Right now she's lying down in my apartment sleeping while I'm still active working with my system. Guess what? It's as if the building would collapse by her snores

And I'm wondering, is this something I would be able to cope with? I hate snoring with passion.

So how do you judge this now? Is it enough to end it since if we marry, I wouldn't want something to disturb my night rest with snores. Terrible snores. I hate the sound. Hearing it wants to make me run crazy.

Let her see an ENT specialist. She might need a CPAP machine to aid with breathing in her sleep.

kheny12:
But his chest will still be like women breast 🤣

They do cover surgeries that tighten skin after extreme weigh loss. This is to look good & also prevent skin infections that come with excess skin.

VersatileVee:
It took me alot of courage to open about this online after so many years. Please help me find a solution.

I wish there is any permanent solution to this skin infection. I've been suffering from this for more than 7years. It's itchy and worsens Whenever I sweat, especially after doing some work under the sun, the infection becomes swollen a bit and I feel pains all over my body because the salt inside the sweat touches the infection. It is very painful like when someone adds salt to a fresh injury!

I recently did a skin endoscopy test and have taken the medication prescribed by the doctor twice but all to no avail. In the past I took so many drugs and rubbed so many antibacterial cream including funbact A but the infection persisted, right now I am feeling heat and can't sleep because of the itch. I wish I can express my pain in voice, I can't even go shirtless in public or do any activity that will result to me sweating, some days I bath four times to avoid it getting worse. I wash my clothes every day and don't wear any one twice before wash but all this has resulted to it getting more worse. I wonder the final solution, please help out!!! I am tired.


I pray God blesses you as you help me out.

Have you been treated with steroids in the past? Looks to me like eczema, but am not a doctor & it could turn out to be something else. However, if anti fungal meds haven’t helped in 7 years, I think it needs steroids treatment. If indeed it’s eczema, you actually need to reduce your showers. Take a shower once a day & avoid a full body bath later. You can clean the armpits & the groin region. The rest of the body, wipe down. Use warm & not hot water & keep your showers quick. Get a very strong non perfumed skin moisturizer. The doctor may prescribe corticosteroids for you to apply in the skin. You may also be prescribed an injection or oral meds.

AKWATGOLD1:
My advice for the lady is to construct mini flat for the aboki and his wife to be her security guard or gateman if she want to enjoy her staying in the property.

Are you serious? She doesn’t owe them anything. She should get the police to evict them & hire an armed security if she can afford. Fencing the property too would be of great help.

Thundafireseun:
This story no clear…

If any body (an adult or a child) is chocking the 1st thing that should be administered is water … clean water

Is this the 1st time the four years old boy is eating meat

Meat has never killed anyone in a civilized country

I don’t understand. Give water to a chocking person? Is it drinking water or wipe them with water? Please explain.

2mch:
So someone that already planned her 60th birthday should not do it according to her wish because he died? I am sure he was honored in the church, but you only turn 60 once. And that was a private event for the celebrant. Even if Wigwe was her father, they will still proceed with the event.

You make it sound like he did them a favor. It is a parasitic relationship because it did not benefit the church as much as it benefitted Wigwe and his bank. Symbiotic is equal benefits. The church members through which he got those deposits die everyday. Nobody stops life for them. In the eyes of God, the least church donor is equal and even worthy of more recognition than Wigwe. At least they are not stealing money to give to God.

See am not a member of RCCG neither am I a Nigerian. For that reason am not in the best position to argue. People are different. For me whenever I lose someone close, am usually a mess. I wouldn’t be in a position to attend my own party. I cry my eyes dry. So am gonna leave this matter to rest. It’s ok to have different opinions.

2mch:
Was most of the church deposits not going into Access bank? Wigwe was also benefitting jare and most likely the winner on the parasitic and obscene relationship he had with the church. Is it his father that gave him the money he was giving the church or he was using peoples deposits to form big man?

He also gave a lot of his personal funds. Let’s even go with your claim that both benefitted. That makes it a symbiotic relationship, not a parasitic one. Someone who helps another to benefit & make progress, don’t such a person deserve to be honored by the one they helped, especially if the two were also friends? I said that fake friendships usually end when benefits end.

oluwaseyi0:
Nonsense

So if it's Iluyomade wife that died will Herbert wigwe cancel his own birthday or his wife birthday that has already been planned and paid for?

I'm sure it's not the first time someone is dieing in that branch so why suspend pastor because a member died, is he responsible for Wigwe death? Are they family?

Now imagine if it's Adeboye that died they will simply ask rccg pastors not to breathe again

You should have read about how much the late Wigwe supported this Pastor through his personal donations & loans from his bank. The pastor himself gave a testimony. People are different but if I lost a friend when I have a party planned, i wouldn’t even have strength to think about the party, leave alone attending. We ought to be loyal to our friends, but some friendships end where the benefits end.

VeryDarkMan01:
E be like say that man wan pass the whole rccg

They wield so much influence that they have to wait for months to suspend d pastor

Even d wife as a pastor wife
If you see d way she dresses
And adorn er self with different bangles
And heavy make up

Dem no born ordinary pastor wife to dress like that they for don suspend dem
But e be like say the iluyomades wield so much influence

If you no get money as a pastor for rccg
You will be tossed here and there
But it's d other way round if you finance your church you will be d special one

Im a member

I saw that woman. Very exaggerated makeup. I wish she knew that as we get older, we should reduce the makeup as it tends to highlight the age lines. Also she’s always in blond wigs & seems to have taste for high end fashion. While am not against people looking good, moderation is important.

Pepperdemisback:
The day my phone was stolen, the thief used a matchet on me twice after collecting the phone. Some kill to get it, so I don't pity them kif found guilty. They are very heartless themselves.

Sorry about that. I still insist that two wrongs don’t make a right. Those killers are just as guilty as the thief. There are laws in every land & those laws should be followed.

huptin:
It's easier to steal money in America than spend it ...they follow money trail very closely. Once you start lavishing money anyhow they will trace you and get you arrested.

You don’t even need to lavish. Once you have huge increase in your account saving which do not match your earnings, you’ll explain the source.

Pepperdemisback:
Thieves can be very annoying, heartless and frustrating! If you have ever been robbed, you will agree with me.
Merely going to the dinning hall while charging on NYSC camp, 2 phones went off like that!
One old man in my Church, his phone fell off in a cab, the driver was still using the SIM. He begged and begged but the thief asked him to stop disturbing the phone and go and look for money to buy a new one. Just imagine!
Imagine tracking and getting that thief.
NB I am not supporting Jungle Justice o!

I know that people do get upset and teach a thief some lessons, but a human life is more valuable than any phone that will ever be manufactured. All those who participated in beating or keeping silent, that guy’s blood is on their hands. You cannot slay a human being like a chicken. That’s why we have police officers & courts of law.

realG101:
Sometime in February, I was replying some important whatsapp messages when I suddenly found myself added to a new whatsapp group by a random dude who has my number.

This guy added me to a group that was created for the purpose of monitory contributions for the marriage ceremony of a mutual acquaintance.

The group admin ever since has posted messages at intervals asking members of the group to contribute money for his friend's wedding.

I know the guy who is about to wed quite alright but we are not friends and I'm not sure we have even had a phone conversation together. We just see once in a while and say hello.

The guy getting married didn't even extend any wedding invite to me in person. And while I won't rule out the idea of gifting him for his wedding, I believe adding me to a group and asking me for money is absurd and annoying.

Who else has encountered this kind of situation and how did you handle it.

LOL that’s our culture in Kenya. A wedding is considered a communal affair. People actually book a venue to meet up and raise money to support the soon to be wed couple. The only issue is that attendance depends on how well you attend other people’s events. I agree though, that you shouldn’t be added to groups without your consent. We however don’t have to know a person who has passed away in order to support.

Encyclopedia1:
Can’t be mad at u for mentioning my momma 🤣. It’s obvious us are from a dumb heritage. 🤣🤣. I guess ur surname na Dumb. 🤣. Like Dumb John Bull.

FVCK YOU!

IronGalaxy:
As a South African, we are sick and tired as well

How can one group of people cause so much trouble everywhere they go? Scamming, drugs, cyber crimes, murder etc. Are they the only Africans? Then sone are quick to label the host governments as bad.

Encyclopedia1:
And u still replied? You are obviously dumb.

Dumb like your momma for coming back to call me dumb.

Encyclopedia1:
At least u replied to my comment. Obviously you are a dumb too. 🤣

I may be dumb, but can’t dummy down to your level😂

JB0707:
My husband and I both live in the uk and we join all our money and investments together, all the properties my husband acquired in Nigeria doesn’t have my name on it, at first I wasn’t bothered but now i am bothered because his family is chaotic. I started asking for my name to be included and i am not ok with the response am getting. I feel i am just working and I have nothing in my name. I love him but I don’t trust his family. Should i keep insisting or start my investment separately. I am just confused

Put your foot down for your name to be added or have your money refunded. If something happened to him God forbid! You’d have no right to the property. Going forward, start purchasing properties in your name & put your children as next of kin. If you don’t have children, put your parent or sibling. Shine your eyes!!

Kooldon:
If you guys are legally married, then you have nothing to worry about.
However, it seems your are more concern about your husband demise before you but what if the reverse will be the case?

What do you mean legally married? Thats the more reason why her name should have been added. Don’t you know people go through divorce all the time? God forbid he was to pass on, she’d not be able to claim the property because she’s not been listed. You don’t wait for rain to fall before you can buy an umbrella. Do not put your trust in flesh.

Encyclopedia1:
She is even smiling Biko Haramically

Dumbest comment I’ve seen in a long time! People are quick to type but not quick to weigh the weight of their words. SMH.

Charlie2020:
He is still being tormented by Obi's name. It started with psycho-neurosis to obsessive compulsive disorder and now tending towards full blown schizophrenia

😂🤣😂😂😂

Sccarrr:
Chukwudi woman beater.... useless drug dealer no see his fellow criminals fight

We Kenyans are tired. Another one was arrested at the airport earlier in the year, just when he was about to take off to Nigeria. He had murdered a Kenyan lady in some Airbnb. How often do the few Kenyans living in Nigeria commit crimes there? Some of these are like stinging nettle. Even if you water it & add manure to it, it’ll still sting.

He won’t serve that number, because the sentences are to be served concurrently, meaning he’ll only serve for 9 years.

Lalami3232:
Good initiative from the pastor!!! These non-virgins a.k.a boreholes will deceive men with their body counts, dem go still deceive with makeup, now dem wan deceive with eyelashes. God bless you pastor for standing up for us (real men) . Once again, wishing the couple a blessed, blissful and a DNA test free union.
What do I even have to say aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news.

Oga if you no meet your wife as a virgin, oga go for DNA test oooooo because boreholes aka non-virgins can't be trusted

SMH the non-virgins you refer to as boreholes, who drilled the boreholes? Are you a virgin? . Are men truthful about their body counts? This habit of men shaming women as if you are saints needs to stop. Do you know if your sisters are doing what you are claiming or your daughters will do it? You seem to have unsettled scores with a certain woman who hurt you. That’s why you are insulting women in the name of enlightenment. People need to respect each other. I don’t know who lied to men that they can sleep around and it’s okay. It’s immoral for both genders not just women.

prittyboi:
How much is it.

You emailed me. Not able to access my old email.Kindly reach me here, kokikijjo@yahoo.com

InquisitiveRat:
it's actually called Wildebeest

Thanks.

Mecka:
comot, olosho oshi

Actually, I wasn’t writing to you. Seeing that you didn’t post the question, am not sure why you got offended. 2nd, I think it’s about time men found a new word to call women. We are so used to being called prostitutes that it doesn’t even sound like an insult anymore . 3rd, seeing that you have nerve to call women that you don’t know names, does that include your mother because she is also a woman ? Have some respect.

T0T0Vulcanizer:
No I am not yet ready for marriage.
They still many fishes in the ocean that I still haven't tasted yet.

Yes I respect my parents very much. If someone goes to tell my mom that see me with cigar stick she won't believe.

I don’t know how old you are but there’s this sense of irresponsibility coming from your write up & responses. There are things you might tell someone, but they won’t bother to listen. The only one they can listen to is consequences. A wise man said that there’s a way that seems wise to a man, but the end of it is destruction. Temporary pleasure that may come with permanent consequences. What advantages can you name you’ve gained from prostituting? Your username alone shows pride in your current lifestyle. You are self-destructing & I wish you could see beyond now. You’ll be wasting money, soul ties are real whether you are a believer or not, diseases, addiction, children with multiple women etc. I see nothing to write home about where that lifestyle is concerned. Why don’t you replace that habit with a more constructive hobby & set up a piggy bank where you deposit the money you’d spend weekly on prostitutes then do a count after say 3-6 months? I hope you won’t look at your past & be filled with regrets in years to come. We can write long pages of suggestions, but unless you make up your mind to change, then we write to you in vain. Money without character is a catastrophe.Anyway, the ball is in your court. Do what you think is good.

Kyng1:
Good morning Nairalanders, I will try to make this as brief as possible.

It happened last two week's Friday, after sleeping with a prostitute, the sex laster about 49 mins and after ejaculation I saw thick red blood all over my dick, it happened that she was on her period, and hide it from me, which she denied that she thought it has completely dried off, I'm mad at myself because I didn't use a condom. "I haven't been using condom with her though, I last had sex with her about a month plus that was the evening of my marriage day, since then I haven't called or had sex with her, until I went back last two weeks Friday.

So after everything, I went home that evening and took 3 cipro tab, next day, my groin was extremely painful and the lymph nodes on my groin swelled. Two days later I developed a mild fever, accompanied by a light headache, bitter mouth and 4 day's later I had sore throat, and swollen lymph nodes on my both under jaws and front of my right ear. Until now my throat is still sore.

I have taken full pack of cipro tab and other drugs but it's not working, I did syphilis text on Saturday and it came back negative, yesterday I went for more text but the lab attendant isn't around, so I met the Dr on duty and explained everything that happened, he told me not to waste my money to conduct more tests that what I have is chicken pox and not an STD infection, I disagreed because I have previously had chicken pox about 11 years ago, although I had just one boil close to my nose back then when I contracted it.

So he gave me these drugs below, I swallowed it last night and applied the lotion, but instead of the boils to dry down, they became more fresher and ripe when I woke up this morning.

I went to another lab this morning and the Dr I met told me that it's chicken pox, he gave me drugs and injection. I'm highly hoping for it to be effective.

Please, Dr's in the house is this really chicken pox? They're all over my face, little on my head, arms, legs, stomach, beards and back.

I am trying so hard not to curse you out. Truth be told, you have no respect for your wife. So you went to sleep with a prostitute on the eve of your wedding? As if that wasn’t enough, you continued to do it even after the wedding. Your kind is very selfish & lack self control. What if you infect an innocent lady with a terrible disease? Worst of all, is that you patronize prostitutes without using protection. I don’t know why you married someone, knowing well that you weren’t willing to change your ways. It’s usually everyday for the thief, but one day for the owner will surely come. All I can advise is you go to a general hospital and get a full STI panel to find out what you have. The other issue is for you to stop abusing antibiotics through self treatment. Thats why people are developing antibiotic resistance for taking them when not necessary even when they have viral infections which are not cured by antibiotics. I am not a medic, so I may not understand how chicken pox will only appear on one body part. Thought the pimples appear on the entire body usually? SMH.

Kipaji:
I'm building my home for me and my two wives.

Each wife will have her bedroom.
Now, I am wondering whether I should build one or two kitchen.
What do you think?
Input from (current or future) polygamists and women would be appreciated.

Did you consult Nairaland before deciding to marry two wives?

mablie:
LOL!!!
You are wicked!!
It is widely known kenyan women no dey use old oyibo man prick play

You mean like Nigerian women in Italy? SMH.