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Why me?!

LOL blame it on picking the name of a popular website.

Poshvector12345:
Ladies and gentlemen welcome to my first inquiry.

Like most people who write about this sort of thing on nairaland I am introvert. But I don't think it is the reason for my lack of 'proper' grooming and fashion sense.

I say proper because I love the way I am and if it was possible I would stay like this. But in this life, your society will influence you whether you like it or not. 6 months from now I will be 21 and I will no longer be forgiven for my lack of proper male grooming and fashion.

What do I mean? For one, I hate cutting my hair and the small beard I have , talkless of combing it. Picture Woke Soyinka hair and beard, segalink's hair but uncombed, and shellock Holmes' attitude to vanity. Even Nair cutting is laborious.

I have never enter market to buy clothes alone before, all my clothe are bought by mum or my sisters. I follow my dad to buy sew clothe and to buy cover shoes. I don't have and fashion taste or identity.

I am in my fourth year of medical school, ward round and call demand I dress smart and dignified for the comfort of the patient, we are now supposed to wear corporate all days of the week and cheap ties will not do.

Whether I like or not, the way I dress, groom and look in school, church and the hospital is the way I will be addressed.

I can relate because I used to be like you at that age. A mommy’s girl with my mom always shopping for me till she got tired & stopped. Told me to start going to the clothes store myself. What helped me was watching a show that used to change people’s dress looks, more
Like a makeover. I got to know my figure type and the kind of clothes that flatter my shape. I have some picture ideas for you, but would suggest you open an account on Pinterest if you don’t have one. You’ll get all the different looks and maybe led to websites that will teach you the latest on men’s fashion. What I know about men is that the shoe and the belt should match in color.

malali:
Ifeanyi Adeleke was autistic.
His death reeks of orchestration.
Societal stigma of rich wealthy people having autistic children should be softened.


#Autism speaks.

Can you please just stop! Are you implying the parents organized his death? I don’t know why our society enjoys hitting people when they are already down. When a child of a wealthy person dies, rumor mongering starts. These people have feelings just like ordinary people but social media liars and bullies are no joke. Pray such a thing never happens to you.

GorillaApp:

No I don't fall under that category

Good.

GorillaApp:

You are right. I remember that now. We have always held that notion that it is a fungi infection until I decided to check one day and I was shocked. Thanks for refreshing my memory. I hope I don't make this gaffe again

Yeah I know how quick as Africans to use antibiotics or self Medicate. We make errors & learn everyday.

GorillaApp:

Eczema is not caused by bacteria. It is a fungi and will be cleared by antifungal drugs or cream like funbact A

Eczema is not a fungal infection and it’s not treated with Antifungal meds. It’s caused by the body’s immune responding to a trigger. Treated with oral or topical steroids.

Blessedmercy8:
Are you sure it's not vitiligo?

Vitiligo is not contagious. Fungal infection. That’s why the three of them have it.

pretydiva:
It's eczema. Nothing to be scared about

Not eczema. Eczema is not contagious.

AmGreat1234:
It's called vitiligo. Google it for further information.

Vitiligo is not contagious. This looks like fungus , hence the spread among the 3 adults.

Linse:
That is eczema. Wash your towel properly and start taking anti biotics

Eczema has nothing to do antibiotics. It’s usually the body’s immune response to something that triggers its reaction. Treated with oral or topical steroids. Don’t ever tell someone to buy antibiotics for eczema.

marshmonii:


What a careless mum, how on Earth can u loose focus on your son, sote him Waka enter pool and the mama just de focus on the mula

Who told you the mother was present?

kelmicheal:
The story no too clear but carelessness on the child mother

Its interesting how people are quick to pass blame. Is she the 1st mom to leave her child under the care of a nanny? Do people take their children with them to work ?

Lexusgs430:
They never learnt from D'banj....... They should not be having children, they cannot adequately care for .......

What a comment? Have you ever taken care of a toddler? People leave their children under the care of other people all the time.

Zonefree:
Don't allow any vaginarian to monopolize the front seat of your car.

Some language comes off as quite disrespectful you know. Those with v*g*n* are called women. We are not defined by what we have, we are human beings. There’s more to us than our anatomy.Some respect would go a long way. Sometimes people use certain language to sound tough but trust me it affects people’s impression of you.You might be a very nice person but your language can make people form an opinion about you , even when they don’t know you. Do better.

fadilaMaikiriki:
Hmmmm. I learnt a lot from this. Thanks so much. It even seems
as if you're narrating my experience. Before this year runs out, I'll try and check for that endometriosis. The pain I experienced August this year was super terrible. That was the time I wished the strongest I was a man. I felt my womb pulling away from the rest of my organs. It came with severe vomiting. I nearly went unconscious. It was that bad.

Please, that drug you said one can take to stop the period altogether, is there any side effects of the drugs? Like body changes and what to expect. Thank you.

Tell tale signs of endometriosis.The best way to know for sure is through laparoscopic surgery to check your reproductive organs but your symptoms are already telling. Pain so bad you feel like someone is cutting your inside with a knife over and over again. Yes the side effects are usually weight gain. In short, endometriosis is usually treated with birth control treatment to stop menstrual flow. It could affect your reproductive organs or even spread to other body parts. In my case, I nearly lost an ovary but thank God I didn’t.!Best thing is to see a gynecologist and discuss the different types of birth control out there that will stop your flow or pills. I tried pills first but they didn’t work well, I was still bleeding while on them, but everyone is different. They could work for you.

lanre9ja:


I love this advice, please u can still go ahead and assist their family by sponsoring her education after given birth to the innocent baby, it a lesson on her part, likewise the boy has to take responsibility for his actions.... God bless u and ur family

Thanks

lebron7:


Perfect way to handle this
Cc DSS1335

Thank you

Huracan:

The best comment I have ever seen ..bro pregnancy isn't a death sentence. That girl might get a bright future ahead..go train em'!!!!

You are so kind. Thanks

OkoRemi2023:



Nice advise



Op please reconsider your decision, I can't help to agree with this dude because we have many irresponsible single mom in Nigeria lately


May God help you

Thanks

Shugargal:

I respect you ma for this inspiring advice. Its this kinda thing that made me question the integrity of The so called Apostle Suleiman, I guess you know where I'm going to?

At the OP please continue with your good work, may God bless your hear. Please finish up what you started by training the girl in high education after she must have put to bed.

Hi thanks for the compliment. I don’t understand the whole Suleiman thing, am Kenyan. All I know about the guy is that he’s been accused by multiple women, don’t know much about him other than that and the recent attack.

akbonus:


GOD BLESS YOU FOR THIS ADVICE,I THINK THE HOLY SPIRIT MINISTERED THIS TO YOU IF YOU ARE CHRISTIAN,IF NOT YOU MUST BE VERY INTELLIGENT PERSON,AGAIN GOD BLESS YOU.

Amen! Knowledge and wisdom are a fruit and gift of the Holy Spirit. So yes, I take no credit, God gets all the glory!

blaise26abj:


God bless you with that advice . She is still a child and does not understand the gravity of her mistake .
I frown at using young girls who are still underage as domestic helps . It is child labour and it is bad . Use adults . I know of a woman whose maid got pregnant by the boyfriend that the woman knew . She continued working till she had to go have the baby.

Thanks

obua:
best advice so far.
You can still continue supporting the young girl to lessen the burden of early pregnancy and also to further her education just like you planned

Thanks

DSS1335:


I have discussed your recommendations with my wife and we have agreed to implement it that way. However, this must come after meeting the boy's family. Thank you

No thanks to you actually. It’s not easy to live others when they’ve hurt you & to also get your wife to agree. May God bless you for this. I pray she won’t let you down again & you’ll never regret giving her a 2nd chance. Yes please meet up with the guy & his family. He needs to understand that actions have consequences and should be actively involved in the child’s life.

Desusi:

You're very intelligent and Godly spirited. I love your comments dearly. You're a mother/father as the case may be indeed.

You are too kind. Yes a future mother.I am a Christian & they’ll know we are Christians by our love. God bless!

BoboNogoDie:
When we say don't marry a whóre, they get angry...

When we say don't marry a girl with more than one bodycount, they call us names and talk trash... They say it doesn't matter...


This is the result!!!
The result of your foolishness and stupidity!!!


Take it or leave it, ANY GIRL WITH MORE THAN 2 BODYCOUNT IS NOT CAPABLE OF LOVING ANYONE.

THE MORE BODYCOUNT A GIRL HAS, THE LESS OF A BONDING AND EMOTION SHE HAS LEFT IN HER TO LOVE ANY MAN.

WHEN YOU HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE, YOU CONNECT, SHARE AND EXCHANGE CERTAIN THINGS. THE MORE SEXUAL PARTNERS A GIRL HAS, THE MORE SHE HAS LEFT A PIECE OF HERSELF EVERYWHERE.

THE EFFECT OF MULTIPLE BODYCOUNT:

- They can never be contented or satisfied

- They are always distracted and never focused on anything, BECAUSE THEIR MIND IS IN A LOT OF PLACE.

Bodycount is different for both gender.
GIRLS USUALLY GIVE CONCENT FOR SEX

Most times, a guy needs to earn value (money, good look, smartness etc) before he gets accepted or allowed to have sex.
A girl only needs to look pretty and sexy, so
A GUY WITH HIGH BODYCOUNT CAN BE A GUY WITH HIGH VALUE, BECAUSE HE GOT CONSENT FROM A LOT OF GIRLS, WHEREAS, A GIRL WITH HIGH BODYCOUNT IS LOOSE AND CHEAP BECAUSE SHE GAVE CONSENT TO A LOT OF GUYS.

Gold and Diamond are precious and valuable because they're very expensive and hard to get.


NEVER GLORIFY A WHÓRE WITH MARRIAGE.

A WHÓRE WILL ALWAYS BE A WHÓRE.

BRIDE PRICE SHOULD ALWAYS BE DIVIDED BY THE NUMBER OF BODYCOUNT.

If your bride price is 100k and your bodycount is 10, your father should only get 100k/10 = 10k, for raising a whóre like.


Never marry a whóre!

They never changed!

Lastly,

MARRIAGE DOES NOT CHANGE ANYONE.

DON'T BE DECEIVED!

DON'T BE A FOOL.


Every high-value, good-thinking and sane man alive wants a woman that a lot of men want BUT CAN'T HAVE, and not a woman that a lot of men want AND HAVE HAD.

But is there a meter to measure body count or how do confirm that if she tells you one, it’s actually one? I hope you’ll give the same advise to women. They shouldn’t marry whores with more than a body count of one. It applies both ways. I don’t know why Africans keep making excuses for men, that it’s okay for them to behave like animals with no self control.

fadilaMaikiriki:
Seriously oo, all these wahala every month. I wish there's a drug one can take to stop menstruation altogether, honestly.

Have you ever visited a gynecologist for your heavy flow? How painful are your menstrual cramps? I am asking because I used to suffer from very heavy flow to the point of taking iron tablets because I was anemic. I’d use two pads of always for heavy flow & would change every two hours. I always carried extra clothes in my car incase I got stains. I was so nervous that any time I stood up, I’d ask even strangers to check if my back was okay. By the way, you should be taking iron supplements. You should be checked to rule out endometriosis. Have you heard about it before? As an endo warrior, I encourage ladies to get checked. I had surgery to remove a cyst in my ovary as a result of the heavy menses over the years. To answer your question, depo provera is an injection that stops period flow completely but it has to be taken every 3 months to remain active.That’s what am on. If planning to get pregnant, you just get off of it and give yourself about a year. Talk to the doctor.

DSS1335:
I am writing this with a sorrowful heart!
This is quite a lengthy piece!!


In 2018, My wife brought a live-in maid toward the end of her gestational period as we eagerly anticipate the birth of our first fruit after 8 years of marriage.

We took the young girl as part of our family, she was just 13 years old in JSS2 at the time she joined us. She does minor household chores, like washing the dishes, keeping the house in and out clean, that's all. I made sure
her education was not interrupted, she continued her schooling from Js3 till she completed her SSCE this year. Outsiders thought she was my first child considering the way she was being taken good care of.

At 16 years age, the evidence of proper nutrition was so glaring in her physique, the young girl of yesterday was already a beautiful damsel. I protected her from ravenous men old enough to be her father. Even from her classmates. Perhaps the mistake i made was in buying her phone before WAEC exam started. Well, the need for constant communication can not be overemphasized because i and my wife go out for work in the morning. My wife comes back in the day while i return back in the evening. Living her our 2 kids in her care: My first Child is 3 years plus in Nursery, the second is about 2 years in Prenursery.

When her mother made a stop by to visit her daughter 5 months ago after 4 years, she was so full of praise and thanking us for taking good care of her daughter, and begged us to allow her stay longer with us rather than her returning back to the village after completing her WAEC. I and my wife plan that i will take up the responsibility to train her up in University so she can be light to her family. Her elder siblings didn't complete their secondary school!

Today, all those dreams and aspirations have been shattered! The innocent girl child i took as a daughter is 5 months pregnant without even knowing she was pregnant! How possible? I could have swear with my life that she was still a virgin and innocent. Damm it! Where do I start from eh??

Well, my wife was rattled up by a what she called a terrible nightmare, she dreamt that she saw her girl carrying a new born baby. That was around 3 A.M she woke her up from sleep and asked her if she was pregnant, the girl denied it ignorantly. My wife had no reason to suspect her as she always buy her pads for her monthly menses except for this month. Then examined her and her suspicion became heightened as she saw a remarkable changes, her bra can't fit any longer, her bellybutton was out with black line running down! She ordered her to pee and run her test kit, it came back positive! My wife broke down in tears.

That morning, we didn't go to work for the day. we grilled her with questions. She confessed to us that she had intercourse only once in the month MAY yet she was still seeing her monthly menses. That she had a boy friend whom they secretly communicate on phone every day. That she lost her virginity to the boy. And they did it only ones in less than 30 minutes as she came back to check the kids who were still sleeping in the afternoon.

The boy came to visit her grand mother who return from the USA, she refused traveling to the East due to insecurities and rented a flat opposite my compound for just 3 months from March to June. During her stay, all her children and grandchildren came to visit her. It was one of her grand son that lured my maid and took advantage of her innocences.

We contacted the boy on phone and told him what happened, he denied it that it is impossible for him to be held responsible that he had sex with her only once and that's not enough to get a girl pregnant! I swear,i could have dealt with him fatally if he were within my reach. Well, i was able to comport myself and explain to him in details after which he kept quiet. He is just 20 years old awaiting admission. We have informed the girl's mother too who became shock and cold! And asked her daughter to return back to the village!

Considering this scenario, i came up with the plan to make that boy and family take up the responsibility of the pregnancy, she can't remain with my family anymore so as not draw unnecessary attention. I will track down the boy and his family and file a statutory rape charge against them if all avenue to resolve this case peacefully fail. From Pregnancy to child care is no joke. My people that is no joke at all. I feel very bad and compassionate for the innocent young girl who will be forced to sacrifice her future to be in the family way.

Any honest advise on how best to tackle this issue at hand would be appreciated

You taking the girl in and supporting her education is commendable. It sounds like she was a bit idle and that’s how she found time to meet with the young man. I want to believe that she’s not as naive as people may want to make it sound. At that age, she must have had some biology lessons. It was probably curiosity and the excitement of being told that she’s loved, that pushed her into that situation. Now with that said, my advise is for you to reconsider your decision. People fall down and then get back up again. Pregnancy though highly discouraged at her age, is not the cause for her to receive a lifetime of condemnation. Have her go to the village and have the baby. Let her stay till the baby is weaned. Am sure she’ll face difficulties that will force her to mature and focus. After that, she can leave the baby with her mother and go back to school. Please save her from becoming another addition to statistics of poverty and lack of education. Please continue to sponsor her studies as you had planned. Take her as if she were your own daughter who made a mistake and give her a 2nd chance. In the future, go for domestic help who are over 18 years old and can handle the consequences of their actions.

lhordspy:


Alright ma, but please go read about the Cuban missile crisis and the bay of pigs invasion..

Please i beg you, go read about it and please do quote me when you are done.

You will see you have been wrong all this while to support the hypocrital US. The same US that threatened Cuba with invasion if Russia set up a military base in the region. It is the same US noe going far setting up bases in Ukraine close to Russia , and Taiwan close to china.


What do you call that ma, hylocrite. A very big one. Shalom

I never mentioned the US in my comment. I agree that they’ve committed a lot of atrocities over the years. My point is that the world today is all connected. We are in that sense a big village so to speak. We depend on each other for food, drugs, oil etc. So I was saying that you shouldn’t celebrate the war in Ukraine because what affects them will have some effects on the rest of the world.

Spandau:


This is complete disregard and disrespect for the friends and families of the deceased. If Don Jazzy is a bastard, at least the woman has other family members and in-laws too.

You are absolutely right. Very annoying.

The disrespect ! So Don Jazzy didn’t see anything wrong with this madness? Anyway, they say birds of a feather flock together. No one could attend an event am hosting dressed like this. This pretty Mike always likes all attention being on him.