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She is saying the single men no get LIVER to approach her. I may be wrong shaa

Dear Jzhane,

There is something bothering me that I want to talk about. I am approaching my late thirties and I am seriously praying to God for a man of my own to marry. A single man specifically. I have had several married men coming after me and as a principle,I have resolved not to get involved with a married man.

Just like Lively Stones group,I belong to a few whatsapp groups and I find out that the single guys in the whatsapp group are not even ready to engage in discussions. Its the married ones that are active. I am most perplexed that married men on whatsapp groups are even toasting me and sending me sex chats. I have decided to leave all the whatsapp groups that I belong to. Cos I dont want to sin against God.

My question now is: why are...


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Oga, that is not a good advise naa.

Built2last:
At what age did your mother marry?

When has your destiny become that of your sisters?

What makes your parents know that all your sisters will ever marry.

Their reason is lame and both you and them will regret it

Dear Jzhane,

I am a member of your facebook group and I have been tremendously blessed following you and reading your blog posts.

Please help me. My parents have refused to give their consent to my marriage simply because they think I am too young and my four older sisters are not yet married. I come from a family of six. Five girls and one boy. The girls are not yet married. But I met someone and we have been dating for two years. I met him in my 300 level,now I am doing my NYSC. The guy is my soul mate. He is 29 and loves me so much.

When I told my parents about him,they said that I cannot marry before my elder sisters. They also say that 23 is too young. I think they are being selfish and I want to go ahead and get married without their consent. Myself and my fiance want to go for court wedding next month if my parents still refuse. But I am unhappy about this,I would really love for my parents to agree and be a part of my next big step in life.

The sad thing is that none of my four sisters are......Complete story from


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What am saying here is the abusive words will not help.

Beke2020:
I quite agree, but that what makes people different. That why a sister will sleep with her blood sister's husband. When you rub this harsh word on them make them even worse. If it was a solution i will gladly support you guyz

I quite agree, but that what makes people different. That why a sister will sleep with her blood sister's husband. When you rub this harsh word on them make them even worse. If it was a solution i will gladly support you guyz

Bbbbbbbbbbbb:
So what will help then? There are some boundaries you don't cross when it comes to matters of the heart and this is one of them

Nooo! castigating her will not help.

greiboy:
Oh sorry, perhaps you will have preferred a lady treat you this way, yes?

My friend that too harsh naa. Until u get close to people u dont know the burden they are carrying.

greiboy:
The caption for the thread should have been an unrepentant olosho needs more dick in her life

Dear Jzhane,

Please help me decide. My boyfriend introduced me to his dad last month. His parents are divorced. From the look of things,the my boyfriend’s dad is quite young. He is 48 while my boyfriend is 27. He had him at a very young age I guess. My boyfriend treats me with no respect. I stick with him cos I am afraid of being on my own. I am also 27 years old,I would like to settle down before I am 30 years old.

My boyfriend’s dad seeing how his son treats me,has asked me to leave his son to be with him. I find that odd but very sexy. The fact that father and son want me. I have been with my boyfriend for over four months and he still does not treat me like a queen that I am. Whereas,his father is a gentleman. the type that opens doors for ladies. He calls and checks on me. He rebukes his son for treating me bad but that crackhead wont listen.

Last time,Brad (my boyfriend’s father)flirted with me real bad,we started....Read More



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Weti u xpect?

z11111:
Ore mi.
You d fear like this ? Loool.
Okay, I'm a guy . Just that so many use my system to explore naira land. Once I come online ,don't really check whose (which grammar u call am ?) User name.
But I will be checking now. But will love to chat you up

Such a pity

Any circumstances can be changed via the word of God

This is a special case my friend

z11111:
It's true nah
It's a mindset that can't be removed from some persons

That's cool

preciousluv2018:
Yep!

Counselling and rehabilitation is all she needs.

You're welcome

JONSYN7154:
I'm sorry. mean to hurt you. once from the bottom of my heart I'm sincerely SORRY

Dear LS,

I may have made a horrible mistake and I do not know how I am going to correct this mistake. Please I need your help before its too late. I am at the risk of loosing my marriage of over 14 years.

My marriage has struggled with childlessness over the years. The early years,we tried to have faith in God,we did alot of IVF and eventually in the eight year,we decided to adopt a child.We were not getting any younger and we felt it was ok to adopt. We adopted a beautiful girl who is now six years old. During the time I was always visiting the IVF hospital,there was a nurse who was encouraging me to try surrogacy. Which means someone else will carry our baby for us. That time,I was scared and dismissed the idea.

A year ago,my husband brought up the idea of surrogacy after hearing that many people have really embraced the idea these days. So we talked about it and approached that nurse to assist us with the surrogacy ,at least we can have our own biological child. It was agreed that I would pretend to be pregnant when the surrogate gets pregnant,so when she give birth,it would look like I was the one who gave birth. All the legal paper work was done and with the help of Nurse A,we got a surrogate. It was successful and she became pregnant.

Unfortunately,this lady lost the pregnancy at the 4th month. We were devastated but we decided to try again. In a month,she got pregnant again after a successful insemination but she miscarried again in less than two months again. These things cost money and we had actually spent so much so we decided to forget about it for now. However,this surrogate woman came up with a proposal to have a baby for us and we would pay her 2 million. She suggested that in order to save money (IVF cost about N1,2M each attempt),we go the normal way of trying to conceive which is by having sex with my husband. That way,we save money and we can try as many times as we want.

Immediately,I was against it. That was wrong for me. It wouldn’t even be my own egg if she has to sleep with my husband. The thought of my husband having sex with another woman just made me cringe. But this woman said,she has done it for several couples. She said she is willing to sign a non disclosure with us. Its just business for her and no strings attached. The nurse confirmed that this lady has done this for some other couples and that these couple who couldn’t afford IVF used this option to have their own babies.

I still refused but my husband agreed. He argued that many people have done it and its like adoption but this time,this child would actually be ours biologically (at least one of us,biologically). I still refused cos I couldn’t I felt betrayed. Since that time,my husband started keeping malice with me and called me selfish for depriving him of having his own biological child. That he had been patient all these years. He loved me despite our childlessness and I still deny him. That he could have cheated on me but he was faithful. That this arrangement was purely business,like sleeping with a prostitute,no strings attached.

All the above put so much pressure on me and I eventually gave in. My husband assured me that he would not do anything to hurt me. He even asked me to be around during sex with the woman so that I could be sure nothing emotional happened. Crazy right? Well,the day finally came,I convinced myself I was doing the right thing. But just before t was going to go down,I backed out. I couldn’t go through with it,so I asked them to go on without me being there as planned. I went out and cried my eyes out. They have been having sex for the last four days cos the lady says its her ovulation and its best that they have sex as .....Read complete story


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My people say when death dey call dog, e no dey hear im oga wistle. Madam you fall ma hand even after several warning. I hope oga find way for im heart to 4give u.

She should move on with her life period! There many dud out there like...

liquidlove2018:
Its still possible ,though the chances are 9%

loool

Maturity is the key to successful relationship, which most people dont know

Grayjoy:
that is to say he is nt matured enuff then.

Not funny at all

JONSYN7154:
I see you too. you bend like crayfish. Lol

desperation can make some people do anything

HRHQueenPhil:
deliverance ..50k. no wonder it did not work, OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST destest such, infact its a clear sign of a fake church.

Dear Jzhane,

I am a fresh graduate and I live in Minna, Niger State.am in a fix and need advise as quickly as possible.
My best friend sent your story excerpt on Whatsapp to me. I was initially reluctant to click on the link after reading the highlight because I avoid any relationship site that will be pointing out my deeds to me. I don’t like people using abusive language on me. But my friend who is privy to my predicament actually convinced me about your blog, which i now also recommend to everyone.
After reading few of your stories, I concluded that this is the right person to share my pains with where I will not be judged. Ma, your comments are on point, no criticism on people personality. Pardon me to say but I like you ma because of you Godly counsel, though we have not met Am sure anyone having you as a big aunt is blessed.
I will be getting married in 6 months time to the most caring, gentle and wonderful man ever. I have a concern which have kept me in bondage, fear…. I was abused at a very young age. After the abuse,I became a sex slave. This young man that I am getting married to is Wilson. I have been dating Wilson for 2 years now but he has not been able to ever satisfy my sexual needs. What he doesn’t know is that,I have met with other men behind his back. I am not attracted to them,I just have insatiable needs which Wilson cannot meet.
My Condition started at an early age, precisely 7 years. My mum will leave me with the young man,our neighbor who was about 25 years at that time. He was always coming to our house to gist with us. My parents didn’t suspect anything but he pretended to be playful with me but any chance he had,he abused me and made me promise to keep quiet. It was our little secret. He would give me candies as my reward for keeping quiet. This continued until I was 8 years old. We then moved out of that neighborhood.
When I was 12 years old,approaching puberty, I began to observe that I was drawn to s*x. The young boys in my area would playfully touch me and I would just allow them. It felt like food to me. I was being used by all the little boys in my area.I left for boarding house and that didn’t stop. I was abused by my seniors and house teachers. And I loved every bit of the abuse cos I loved sex like I needed it to breathe. I lived quite freely in the University. I had slept with several guys and lecturers before graduation.
Gloria has been my best friend since uni. She is the one who introduced me to your blog. One time,while in school,She took me to a Church in our desperation to solve this matter. I paid...Read full post here



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That is the reason for sharing her story with us. nice to know it can be cured

QueenSuccubus:


Sexual spirit? And she paid 50k for deliverance? Isn't that supposed to be FREE? Whoever gave her this fvcked up deliverance shud be cane 50k times too...She was duped by her so called pastor

Haba! She's a nympho...is it curable? YES! DEFINITELY... only if she's willing to undergo counselling & rehabilitation..SMH..

Dear Jzhane,

I am a fresh graduate and I live in Minna, Niger State.am in a fix and need advise as quickly as possible.
My best friend sent your story excerpt on Whatsapp to me. I was initially reluctant to click on the link after reading the highlight because I avoid any relationship site that will be pointing out my deeds to me. I don’t like people using abusive language on me. But my friend who is privy to my predicament actually convinced me about your blog, which i now also recommend to everyone.
After reading few of your stories, I concluded that this is the right person to share my pains with where I will not be judged. Ma, your comments are on point, no criticism on people personality. Pardon me to say but I like you ma because of you Godly counsel, though we have not met Am sure anyone having you as a big aunt is blessed.
I will be getting married in 6 months time to the most caring, gentle and wonderful man ever. I have a concern which have kept me in bondage, fear…. I was abused at a very young age. After the abuse,I became a sex slave. This young man that I am getting married to is Wilson. I have been dating Wilson for 2 years now but he has not been able to ever satisfy my sexual needs. What he doesn’t know is that,I have met with other men behind his back. I am not attracted to them,I just have insatiable needs which Wilson cannot meet.
My Condition started at an early age, precisely 7 years. My mum will leave me with the young man,our neighbor who was about 25 years at that time. He was always coming to our house to gist with us. My parents didn’t suspect anything but he pretended to be playful with me but any chance he had,he abused me and made me promise to keep quiet. It was our little secret. He would give me candies as my reward for keeping quiet. This continued until I was 8 years old. We then moved out of that neighborhood.
When I was 12 years old,approaching puberty, I began to observe that I was drawn to s*x. The young boys in my area would playfully touch me and I would just allow them. It felt like food to me. I was being used by all the little boys in my area.I left for boarding house and that didn’t stop. I was abused by my seniors and house teachers. And I loved every bit of the abuse cos I loved sex like I needed it to breathe. I lived quite freely in the University. I had slept with several guys and lecturers before graduation.
Gloria has been my best friend since uni. She is the one who introduced me to your blog. One time,while in school,She took me to a Church in our desperation to solve this matter. I paid N50k to conduct deliverance. That didn’t work. After narrating my whole experience to the Pastor, he said the man the abused me when I was a child transferred a sexual spirit to me and that why I don’t get satisfied. I have lived my life like a cursed child.
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liquidlove2018:
Very good eye opener.

Some will still go and marry after messing up the ones in the city.

This is an eye opener for those dreaming to marry village girl

Radiants:
she really messed up.... just wondering what revenge she is revenging...

, I wonder

Dear Admin,

Some say that I am wicked,some say I should forgive and move on. Hell has no fury like a scorned woman! I have lost the most precious thing in my life, life is not worth living without Jamil. Jamil and I were high school sweethearts. We grew up in the city of Kaduna. We always knew we were meant to be. I loved him with all my heart and he too loved me. Ours was like a fairy tale love story. Even when I went to polytechnic,Jamil and I remained close. We became engaged to be married after my OND.

Aisha my cousin,for reasons best known to her,decided to drug Jamil one day and set him up with a friend of hers. They planned the set up so good that I didnt know. Aisha was the one who told me Jamil was cheating on me. She dragged me to Jamil’s house that day for me to see a naked Jamil in the arms of another lady whom I didnt know was Aisha’s friend.



I was so heartbroken at what I saw and I took off. I left town that day to Abuja. And since since then,I never returned. I just couldnt deal with the fact that the love of my life betrayed me. I changed my phone number so Jamil could not reach me and I made my mother swear not to say where I was. I was hurt for several months. I tried to move on.

One day,I was in the market when someone from Kaduna recognized me. She is a distant relative. We hugged and we were happy to see each other. We tried to catch up and she wanted to know why I ran away from kaduna. I told her about that I found out Jamil was cheating on me. She was very sympathetic but she then told me that Jamil got married to my cousin Aisha three months ago. I was quite taken aback. I wondered how Aisha knowing what Jamil did to me would be married to Jamil,my Jamil.

I called my mother later that day and she confirmed that indeed,Aisha and Jamil got married. According to her,Jamil never recovered from our break up,he started to drink and somehow,Aisha was the shoulder to lean on. Aisha claimed she was pregnant by Jamil and hence they had to plan a wedding hurriedly. At that point,I began to suspect my cousin. I traveled back to Kaduna that weekend. Soon as I got home,I changed and headed straight to Jamil’s house. It was Jamil who answered the door and he looked at me like he saw a ghost!

Aisha came out pretending to be happy to see me but I immediately asked her why she married Jamil in front of Jamil knowing that Jamil broke my heart. Jamil was shocked at my question to Aisha and said but you were the one who broke my heart and left without a word? I told Jamil that Aisha informed me he was cheating on me and she made sure I caught him with a woman ,thats why I left. Jamil looked at me and said he never cheated on me. He explained that Aisha’s friend drugged him but he never did anything with her. I began to cry and at that point,Jamil and I realized what Aisha had done to us.

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, No hope you advise her well initially why you come dey give her hope toward the end of ur comment?

Radiants:
lol... he broke up with his girlfriend in December and reconciled with her in January...

There was no breakup, he was cheating on his girlfriend with you.

I guess the girlfriend wasn't available in December and he needed somebody to warm his bed...

sorry babe... count your loss and move on


we never can tell sha... the guy still fit marry you... men are onekain

you are right, stupid indeed! that why some we go as far as committing suicide. Nothing like giving people fair hearing

preciousluv2018:
That's stupidity

Anger is one word short of "DANGER" Learn to control it

this is insightful. i have to share the comment the blog

shaybebaby:
Well I figured she'd have to see me to be able to give me attitude. So I changed that.

She can still have a relationship with her sibling everywhere but in the home we share. I am not going to let another human being make me uncomfortable in my own yard.