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BigBashiru:
i could be wrong of course.

Yet, you opened a topic pontificating like you got the gist from Mt. Sinai, but you're not a psychopath.

BigBashiru:
Do u want me to show u three cases from newspapers where women and girls lost their lives in Nigeria because they said no to a man's advances? I can show u three cases within the last 12 months from credible news sources such as Punch.
Anyway the thread is closed. Let each person do wat suits them.

By all means show these articles, because three out of a million cases is tantamount to a proliferation.

Shugavee:
bless you

If you really wanted what was best for your sisters you wouldn't endorse lies that could put them in jeopardy. Women may not like being overlooked when they cross 30 but a thread like this dies nothing to help them accept reality.

You don't see men forcing women to marry them when they are broke or short or ugly. We know what women want in a spouse and we try to meet up. We don't feel entitled to a woman's love. We don't demand that they marry us no matter what.

If you like propagate this trash OP has written, you know who will regret eventually. As women approach 30 more are just reaching 20, 21, 22, etc. Wake up and help your sisters.

BigBashiru:
The crux of the matter is if a woman told a man she can't date him becos he is over 30, the woman risks losing her life from violence from the man.

It's obviously a double standard but is a women's issue.... so I will post it in a women only forum and the thread is now closed.

Ah ah, what uisall this sophistry? Am I the only one who thinks this person needs urgent mental care? A woman risks losing her life from violence from a man if she tells him she wouldn't date him because he's over 30?

Anyway, let me educate your obviously ignorant mind. A woman will marry anything as far it has a big dîck and enough money. Looks dont really matter, age doesn't really matter. Men and women look for different things in a spouse. Men look for youth amongst other things, women look for financial competence amongst other things. You should stop talking about things you know nothing about.

Maybe you're just trolling. Your comments don't sound like they come from a sane woman's mind.

BigBashiru:
Okay.

I will now no longer reply to ur messages so as not to get personal. If u have personal issues they are YOUR PROBLEM.

Says the woman who wants to force men into marrying old hags. You could not even beg us to consider you people. You just came demanding like God gave you the mandate to demand that we pick less quality women. Waka dia.

BigBashiru:
In general I don't deal with barbarians and savages so this thread is closed. No more new posts.

Well, now you know this place is crawling with barbarians. . Sorry to ddisappoint.

BigBashiru:
PLEASE THIS THREAD IS NOW CLOSED AND NOT OPEN TO NEW POSTS. I HAVE TRANSFERRED IT TO A WOMEN'S ONLY FORUM.

When we no longer are able to post, then can the thread be considered closed. We don't rely on the words of a professional sophist to tell us anything of significance. Move on to your other place and do your thing.

BigBashiru:
You are still getting personal. I don't know u and won't go that far. It crossing the line. What is wrong with these ppl.

Okay I wont be missed. You are king.

Why are you calling me king? I beg you for title?

BigBashiru:
The African always starts with an insult. These are a cursed and barbaric set of people.

I will contact the moderator to have the thread closed.

Your lineage is cursed. No wonder you cannot find a man to marry your old ãss. Nobody likes to hang around a curse.

BigBashiru:
You are the man. You have won the power battle. You are right. Nairaland is no such place. I will close the thread shortly. Whatever you say will be done.

The thread is now closed and will continue on a women only forum.

Adios. You won't be missed.

BigBashiru:
@Belafont
The honourable thing to do will be to stop posting. You have won the ego/ power battle - I've given it to u. U r sane i am insane. We are old women u have ur rights. So now please kindly go away.

The honourable thing is to accept your mistake like a man. Move your pathetic attempt at pûssy-huning to a place more inckibed foolishness. As far as you put your thoughts on here, they will be challenged.

The only way I'm going away is if this topic ceases to exist. You expect to just post diatribes and expect we backward menfolk to cower? Think again, missy.

BigBashiru:
Please it's not by force to participate in the thread. It's actually a thread created for women participants only. But you have already come here to post.

Then open the damn topic on a women's only forum. Unfortunately for you, nairaland is no such place. You don't get to post a topic and exclude a section of society form participating. Does your method even sound logical to you?

BigBashiru:
You read an academic thought and took it personally.
Africans remain the most backward set of ppl on earth and it's easy to see why when u see how they think. It's already becoming a fight but I won't engage. I don't engage strangers on public forums nor in personal attacks.

Academic thought is not the same as logical reasoning and conclusion. Socialism is an academic thought yet the entire world has rejected it in favour of capitalism, just to give a living example.

It is a fight because your topic isn't a call for truce but an attempt to foist a gynocentric thought pattern on men. You thought you were onto something profound? You're an intellectual midget with no workable opinions on the subject matter. Perhaps, if you wanted civil discourse, you should start your topic in like manner not a half baked diatribe that only old hags and their protégés would like.

BigBashiru:
The point of the thread is that women over 30 are ppl too and should not be smeared by name calling or subtle threats that they can't get a man. It's not a good thing.

Having said this it's obviously a lifestyle choice. Men choose the women that work for them and women choose the men that work for them. Fair game.

Why speak form both sides of your mouth? You said this

Many women are happy to be single even in their 30s. Men need women more than women need men in their 30s. That's the truth because the Bible records that woman was created for man because God thought man would be responsible thru the ages.

If a woman told u she won't date u because u r over 30 how would u feel?

Summary is pls stop railing on the women over 30 are thus or that nonsense as it's not cool.

Judge yourself. Do you sound sane?

BigBashiru:
Why are you getting personal with bastard etc. The African has been proven scientifically to lack EMOTION logic balance. Their countries are all a disgrace to humanity yet the most prideful and egotistical set of human beings.

But you first got personal with your own attacks on guys who wouldn't date expired goods. Why do you think you reserve the right to personal attacks? Are you mentally stable at all?

Per the part in bold, it explains your lack of logic in playing men for their own choices while trying to promote female liberty of choice. Is that logical to you?

Abeg, BigBashiru, anybody stop you from marrying as many as you like? Is it by force to marry an old hag? Do women not have their own standards too? When women refuse to marry short, broke, ugly men do you call them out? Do we give them or try to blackmail them emotionally?

A woman's youth belongs to whoever she wishes to give it to. Correct. I agree. A man is also at liberty to choose who he will marry, a damsel or a grandma. You cannot force anybody to marry who they do not like. Or are you saying women can choose to do as they please and men have no such luxury? You dey crase? Abu Ogun wan smite your generation?

Many women are happy to be single in their 30s but you are trying to guilt and force us into marrying these happy single women. Are you mentally deranged? Are men not also happy to marry younger women? What makes a woman's choice more legitimate than a man's?

Who the fûck is this bastãrd OP for fûck's sake?

Get her to convert to Christianity if you can, there are millions of Christians who used to be Muslims. Of course, this will take time and there's no guarantee she'll eventually make the switch. But you can try and if she doesn't switch, at least, you got to add a notch to your pûssy count.

Well, she's only trying to keep up to date with your shenanigans and not lose you to some other female. At this point, you realise she's a stalker and you cannot, as a matter of principle have a long-term relationship with her.

I suggest you ignore her moves and do what you want to do. If she catches you trying dating someone else or even trying to date some other female, do not give a hoot. You should be thinking of how to replace her by now.

Great post, Ubunja. I'm especially impressed with the way you dissect profound principles into bite-sized, easily digested chunks.

Shugavee:
oh please what she said relates perfectly!! Just say u dont hv any other thing to say

I quite disagree. . Plus, I'm not really in the mood to bicker.

Proudgorgeousga:
chimamanda adichie

some non feminists are also unhappy in their marriages. so?

Learn to argue within context. Below is what I responded to.

[bmost feminist are married n doing fine!!! U all just too scared of strong women!! Fact!![/b]

Both statements can be correct. Unless you just like chatting with me, of course, then feel free to say anything you like

Shugavee:
fact Tell that to Beyonce and Michelle obama!!!

They must be the only feminists in the world.

sisisioge:
Thank you

You're welcome.

Shugavee:
u all talk abt feminism alot but most feminist are married n doing fine!!! U all just too scared of strong women!! Fact!!

Most married feminists hate their marriages or their husbands hate them or they wished they married manky men. Fact!!!

Amakavula:
I so agree with you. After all when they can't deal with the problems they leave. And we are stuck with the children and responsibilities. Find a man who wants a future not just with you but for himself in a family. Most just want Children and sex.

This is sophistry. Most men want a family but feminism is making more and more guys reconsider. There is a reason why divorce is on the rise worldwide not just in Naija. Western men are boycotting marriage in droves.

Marriage today isn't worth the stress for most men. If women go back to being feminine perhaps marriage has a future, but as things stand, expect single parenting to become the norm by choice.

Lol. What a fool. What does Trump need him for?

So?

Jupxter:

Word @ I've been broke and I've been comfortable and I know what women really wnat in an relationship and it's not love. It's someone they can live a lavish or, at least, a comfortable life with. No hard feelings though, it is what it is.

Nothing but the truth, bruv.

sisisioge:
No mind them. Them don go open my yansh for public say I dey bear nickname for social media. Thank God say no be name like deckbangerpaintlagosred I dey bear. I for hear am

Like your sense of humour. Here, have a like.

Shugavee:
dont give on love dear!!! So many women out there looking 4 a guy like u to spend their lives with!!

Lol. Doesn't mean it's out of love, which I don't believe in any way. I've been broke and I've been comfortable and I know what women really wnat in an relationship and it's not love. It's someone they can live a lavish or, at least, a comfortable life with. No hard feelings though, it is what it is.

jezuzboi:
You are blessed among women!!!

Did you just refer to me as a woman?

sekxyqueen:
relationship is over rated. ..

Agreed. Relationship is mainly for raising a family. Men and women want different things in a relationship so it's usually not worth the hassle. If not for raising children, mean and women really shouldn't be together for long.