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Guestlander:
This current crisis is directly related to the drop in oil prices. Even advanced economies like Canada's Alberta felt it.

It's actually a fallout of socialism in Venezuela. While economies like Alberta's that you nmentioned and Nigeria's took a huge hit, they have survived because of capitalism. If Nigeria had been socialist like Venezuela, what we are experincing now would be child's play comapred to the alternative. We are crying in Nigeria and we aren't socialist. Let that sink in for a minute.

Sunnah1:
Your father is the cow And your mother is the goat.

There was absolitely no need for this comment. None. If you think someone is being foolish, you can't help or change them by stooping to their level.

Useless9jagirls:
Arsenal vs spurs Goal goal

BTS &ov2.5 . But this your username just make person weak.

DejiSantos:
It is abusive

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When done right, spanking is beneficial to a child's upbringing, and I say this from experience. If patents know what they are doing, the need to spank a child is almost non-existent.

The first form of discipline a child should have is example because humans, children more so, learn through observation. So, your child has learnt to do certain things because they've observed you do them or observed someone else do them. In this case, you should discontinue behaviour you don't want to see from your children or remove them from the influence of people who they copy. It is really foolish, and abusive, to repeat a behaviour and expect that your own children will stop. Beating them for not stopping only shows you to be a mentally unstable parent.

Secondly, you must learn to speak firmly with them, no stupid shouting like an uneducated market woman. Deepen your voice, look them straight in the eye and ask them to stop. Simple. Will they stop? Actually, most times they will. This is a good time to explain what you don't want them doing and why. Treat the children like they have a brain and can actually understand words, because thats the reality. Of course, this doesn't always work but done right, it will save you the need to spank them by, at least, 90% and you still get to pass the message across.

Thirdly, raise your voice. Something along the lines of "hey, I already told you not to do that", "what is wrong with you, etc". What this does is jolt them and actually bring their attention to what you're saying because talking sometimes just flies over their head and they get used to it pretty quickly. So, give them a menacing look and raise your voice. This drastically reduces the need for spanking.

Fourthly, spank. One hard smack to the bum. This is a proper hard reset. No continuous flogging like a crazed loon, your child hasn't been sentenced by a Sharia court. . Depending on the age of the child, the smack should be sufficient to induce sleep after proper crying. Also, depending on the age of said child, smacking can be increased to about three or four. Never smack a child out of anger. Never. That is the pathway to abuse. The idea is to send the message that "I would normally not do this but since you have chosen to repeat this behaviour, I have no choice but to regster my displeasure and non-tolerance."

Also, you can set them on chores to do around the house. Something you know is beyond their abilities to do like making sure there is no single speck of dust in the house which is an impossibility. The idea is to just humble them by making them feel helpless and incompetent.

Worthy of note is the fact that you must placate them for each level of discipline. They say, "when you discipline a child with the left hand, you console them with the right". The idea is to let them know they brought it upon themselves and you'd rather not punish them but they forced your hand. This lets them know discipline is nin-negotuabke no matter how much you love them, actions have consequences.

By the time you need to start using canes and such on a child, you've already failed as a parent. Discipline is a progressive instrument that is required daily.

Some men are just useless. This man shames all right-thinking men. Not absolving you of your own probable shortcomings but your so-called husband has self control and responsibility issues.

At this point, I would advise you to have your own hustle and take care of your children as it's evident this man is anything but dependable/responsible.

Mindfulness:
If you have no intention of remaining faithful, why marry and take the vows, since you do her a favor without getting anything out of the arrangement called marriage?

His fidelity or kack of is not tye issue here. The issue is that the comment i quoted stated the wife gave her all to marry this man, which is just hogwash. Stick to the issues and stop flailing about like a headless chicken.

Hello, Mindy, how have you been?

biacan:
The video was so sweet to watch...... what a wise woman that knows what she wants

she actually dealt with him so bad two thunderous slaps You can't cheat on a woman who gave you her all by getting married to you it's never been done that way..... I hope he has learnt his lessons..... dog

Will you shut up! Gave her all by marrying a man? Is she not the one who will be blaming village people if she doesn't get suitors and going from church to church? If anything, it's the man who has helped her condition by marrying her.

JULIE1925:



So Nigerian girls juz love money and a good diicck abi?

What's missing on the list? Feel free to add it.

I change phones quite regularly, and I've currently got two; a main phone and a side phone for when the main decides to misbehave.

Ubunja, biko check ya mail.

Lol. So? He's not the first he won't be the last. Lest address more worthy issues please.

Your husband sounds psychotic. And being the angel that you are I think you should stick with option 1, before he graduates form spitting to biting. This is how rabies starts.

makahlj2:
Would they let her in if it was a dog?

They would actually, but it's got to be a small dog. Also, there was an incident where a dog bit another passenger on a flight badly injuring them. I think the policy of bringing animals on board aircraft is being reviewed. Your freedom shouldn't infringe on other people's.

Aspiregreat:
She's reliant on the bird for emotional support which is quite acceptable.

It is unacceptable. What happens when people rely on their pet lions for emotional support? Abi you no know say people get lion as pet?

Ishilove:
Belafonte and Alexialin, get a room and stop spraying romantic fumes everywhere. Mscheeeeew

You're just jaylux.

Shugavee:
smh!! Where is the lie tho!! Scummm

Ah, I see you're freaky. I'll handle accordingly.

alexialin:
My dear, I smile when ladies, guys look at me and they give me this admiring look like am so lucky in life. I just smile and I say to. Myself if only they know my story. It was a rough bumpy ride getting to where I am today. It wasn't luck but hard work and resilience and the thirst to survive and succeed.
You can say I went through many tests and those tests nearly made me gave up in life cos it became too much for me to bear. Family turned their backs on my brother. Everyone had one excuse to give, and kept their distance watching. I felt betrayed by all. When it was time to bury, they all crawled out from their holes to bury him, I didn't even spend a dime to bury. Thats when family now have money to bury. Can u imagine? Waiting for him to die And I realized when one is doing well, everyone wants to be your friend but when one is down, everyone backs off and disappears. Anyways it's part of learning the dynamics of humans and life.
The experience made me strong, wise, self independent and it made me appreciate life more.
But this year o, is a year of joy and great smiles for me. It's already showing.

As per my sisters, there are still some good men out there. They shouldn't settle for fuckbois or gigolos. They shouldn't. And they should try come down from their high horses, then the right guy and the kind of man they desire will come.
With the right attitude, having the ideal man to settle down with is not hard.
For me, I no longer have issues meeting my ideal man. Of course gigolos will always try their luck but as a lady who knows what she wants, u tell them no! Am taken. Simple. Then be friendly, Humble to everyone u meet in life. One never can tell. That's the secret.




Yeah you can PM. me

Lemme see the real Belafonte with pics.

Cant stop wowing. Phenomenal story really.

Truth is nature is what it is. You cannot break laws of nature and expect not to suffer consequences. Hopefully, as women get wiser they stop incenivising fûck boys. If the demand for fûck boys becomes minimal, you'll naturally see a reduction in their numbers, and guys can be confident that their nobility wont be taken advantage of.

I don't hahve any recent pictures. Don't be disappointed, my latest pic is from primary school.
PM sent though.

alexialin:
They will become tired after a while.
I had to fit in those shoes, because parents were late and I was left with a younger brother who was a student of unilag. His feeding, school fees, his transport fare, cos I didnt want him to stay in the hostel, he himself prefers going from home to school, we were inseparable , his upkeep, clothing, our own feeding, my tfare, rents for both where we live and where I work, my clothing, miscellaneous bills, security bills both house and my office. Mehn it was one hell of a huge financial load which I. Must carry.
I can't run away from it.
But on his 4th year in school, he had stroke and died after 3years of spending so much on his therapy. The more I spend and he's given therapy and drugs, after some few months he will relapse back to square one. It's like the doctors, pastors combined were not even doing anything. After 3years he still died in his sleep.

So have gone through alot of responsibilities for years, I even began to feel like a man
No time for relationships, or romance then. Everything was just choking me and the last thing I needed was a boyfriend depending on me I go just die! Kukuma kill me
Lol

So. I kept. Off romance and relationship for 6years. Mehn I don see o, for this life.
But God knows why.

It's just 2years back, am getting myself back and beginning to feel like a woman.
Mehn life is tough! Have paid enough dues. It's time to relax and breathe again.


So am not ready to be a man o!

I dodge am pass, abeg!
No way!

Wow, Alex, this is gangster. You just dropped the bomb on me without warning. So sorry to hear about your brother. At least, we can be comforted with the thought that he's in a better place away from the suffering of this world. I've come across your posts over the years here on nl and nobody would guess you were going through such humongous tests. You passed with better than flying colours. Kudos.

Per your sisters, though; most are getting tired. Some have made all the money and while they enjoy the fruits of their labour are increasingly frustrated with the fact they cannot get a man or, at least, the kind of man they desire. Many are asking where all the good men have gone, answer is pushed away by their attitude over the years. I visit a female dominated blog from time to time and most rich women are frustrated with the fact that they attract more gigolos than eligible bachelors. Some have tried these gold-diggers out and only have sad tales to tell. You can try to rewire nature but it won't work.

Again, your story his just wow.

Mind a PM?

Shugavee:
sssscccccccuuuuuummmmmmm

You're going to make me cûm if you keep the name calling up. Do you swallow? It's not going to clean itself up after all.

Alexialin: Belafonte! That's not true.
Percentage of women trying to be like men are not more than women, who prefers to be feminine and woman like in nature.
For me, I want to be a woman anyday time, have been a man for so many years due to responsibilities I couldn't run away or hide from and am tired already
Have struggled like a man long enough, even God and heavens sef knows.

So don't even say alot of women want to be like men. Not me sha

But that's the thing. So many women are struggling and hustling like men. They want to prove that they can do better than men, but that's not really true. The world over, the social experimenting that is feminism is yielding bewildering reports of how women haven't still been able to match up to the ideal male standard. Even with all the help and quota women receive, and this keeps increasing, women still haven't been able to be men. Some are giving up, some have succeeded and have found that they don't really wnat what they thought they wanted and fought so hard to achieve.

Of course, for some, they have no choice in the matter. Like you said, you have had to d I'm sure there are many women like that but what really is the percentage of this subset?

Women are becoming less feminine by the hour. Feminity makes women beautiful, but they're trying so hard to be men. Sad!

Who is this ugly koala talking rubbish? Why do women think they have to be rude to be considered strong? Could she not have put her point across without the use of vulgar language? Shade Ladipo, your opinion is not fact, the knowledge of that will keep you humble when you feel like going on an ill-advised rant.

Methinks, Paddy has chopped this girl and cleaned mouth or he rebuffed her sexual advances, that's why she sounds so bitter.

Percocet:
Not a chance!
I'll take you to the cinema instead. I mean...Why can't I take you

The problem with doing this is she'll do it again and again to force your hand. And what happens when you cannot do what she wants? How do you stop her from soliciting from other guys? What do you when she wants to collect gifts you cannot afford? You should take her out on your own terms not because she's found someone who wants to. The fact that she doesn't even have the sense to reject the outing tells just how greedy and materialistic she is. Definitely not long term material.

mgtow:
I've always known this bro. Na today?

E done tey.

mgtow:
And all the girls that reject men on a daily basis because he is broke, too short, too handsome, too dark, too ugly, too skinny, etc., why haven't they all been killed or treated to violence? You are obviously very stewpid.

If you wanna pass a message please do so without adding unnecessary maggi and spice. Maybe some clueless guy will take pity on your old self and marry you.

Women are incapable of violence. Didn't you know this?

What a waste of life. RIP to her. She kinda looks like a slut though, just look at that thousand cõck stare.

quinSonia:
I feel sorry for her MoM
its hard losing a daughter

I'm sure her dad would be devastated as well, but you're right.

Shugavee:
hahahahah nut is loosing somewhere in ur brain

Help me, I help you, that's my own. If you like pass up the opportunity, na you Sabi. Me I sha know how to eat wella.

Shugavee:
way better than men!! If it be a woman thst posted this thread !!! U see women concemning her 4 the act of thinking cheating n men posting ashawo everywhere but just imagine ur comment!! Like it's nothin!!

Eyah. Sorry, but it is what it is. Men cannot be called ashawo because cannot be ashawo. How many men have you heard asked out by their wives for cheating. Even when the wives are with not tolerate cheating, they leave, not the man.

But of course, we know women cheat on the low so we ain't bothered by your public cries. A woman who will not comport herself is free to try her luck elsewhere. It is not by force to be with anybody.

Shugavee:
smh!!!!!

There's a place I think you could the shaking to better use. If you know what I mean!

Shugavee:
but if i say men are scums u all be lamenting!! Smh

That would be your opinion. I think both sexes are scum. Or are you saying women are angels who shît roses?

Shugavee:
smh!!!!!

I feel the same way for ya.