Hmmm

I don't condone violence from male/female.

But if you face a woman who isn't half as strong as you and start panel beating her like that man up there described,I hope you will be satisfied when you finally make her disabled or dead as we keep reading and seeing every day.

Best thing to do is end any relationship with a violent person(male/female).

If you don't agree with my comment don't insult me,show some manners,to that G.O.A.T that called me silly up there,thank you.

My best friend won't take it likely with you if you use the term "your husband's house" for her

I always wonder why she gets angry,now I know better

Lemme explain this to you the best way I can,have it at the back of your mind that we are all learning.

Now,you have a girlfriend/wife who is violent and tries to ruffle you up during an argument and as a man you get angry, you don't want to hit her,you refrain,you even manage to escape her because she is a woman.

You are doing that because you have self discipline.
It is established that men are generally physically stronger than women,now imagine you react back by giving her a hot slap,she can go deaf or blind or have serious headache etc. But if a women who is weaker than you slaps you,it hardly have much lasting effect on you.

But generally my advice for men and women is to avoid such violent people,take them for therapy,keep praying for them,then don't let them influence kids around them.
Mos violent people are influenced by their upbringing.

Sad end,more

Below is a shocking story of the pregnant woman, Chinyere Sylvia Akaleme, who died after she was allegedly beaten by her husband, Obinna Akaleme on the day she was due to give birth.
Shared by Facebook user identified Ukan Kurugh on Facebook

“DOMESTIC VIOLENCE:THE UNTOLD STORY OF ENGR. CHINYERE SYLVIA AKALEME (NEE IGBO)

The menace of Domestic violence in Nigeria and it’s implications on the families of the victims.
Late Engr Sylvia
Unfortunately for Sylvia or Chinyere as she was fondly called by family and close friends, she did not live to tell her own story. She was cut down in her prime by the man she loved till death did them part Obinna Akaleme, her husband. She died on the day she was due to give birth after series of miscarriages in her husband’s house.
A brief biography of the victim
Chinyere Sylvia Akaleme (nee Igbo) was born on 27 april 1981 into the family of Mr and Mrs Reginald Chiaka Igbo. The second child and 1st daughter of the family with six other siblings, Sylvia was raised in a middle-class Catholic family residing in Ajao estate, lagos where she had her nursery, primary and secondary education. She was a very bright pupil and her position in class never went below the top three. She gained admission into the university of Ilorin in Kwara state where she read electrical engineering and graduated with second class honours. She started a career in information technology and quickly got several professional qualifications including sisco into her academic profile. She started her working career with Karox computers before moving on to reliance info systems ltd where she became a product and sales manager

Sylvia at work
Her last job was with the Wini group, an Ikeja based corporation.
In 2012 she met and married Obinna Akaleme a farmer/ chef/ kitchen assistant and thus began her journey to an untimely death in the hands of the man she loved so much and catered for. She died on the on the 29th of march 2017 and she was committed to mother earth at the Ikoyi cemetery on the 19th of july 2017.
Engr sylvia is survived by her aged grandmother, her parents, siblings, uncles, aunties, nephews and nieces. May her gentle soul rest in peace, Amen.
What Happened?
Her parents and siblings never knew Chinyere endured several years of abuse in the hands of the man she called a husband. She assumed the role of a typical Nigerian wife who must always display a non-existent happiness in a marriage filled with sadness and regrets. The only clue about what happened to her during her over five years of marriage was the account of the neighbors who narrated how on a particular night Obinna her husband beat her up and she ran to their landlords house for safety. Also the little girl who lived with her revealed that Chinyere warned her not to tell her parents that her husband used to beat her up even while she was over eight months pregnant.sylvia and a friend at an event
That explained the reason behind the series of miscarriages she had before her last pregnancy which was full term. Her parents got worried that their daughter had about four miscarriages in less than four years decided to take her to come stay with them when she took-in after her eight month old miscarriage. She lived peacefully with her parents and her pregnancy advanced with Chinyere in good health and high spirits anticipating the birth of her child. Unfortunately for her, on her due date, Obinna, her husband came to pick her up from her father’s house at 10 am to the hospital and as a dutiful wife she was, she obeyed him and went with him. According to the doctor, the mother and the baby were confirmed healthy on arrival and Doctor asked her to go get her bag in preparation for delivery that evening. Obinna took Chinyere to their matrimonial home. Sadly for Chinyere, he got into an argument with her over money, beat her up so badly and left her unconscious in the house. He left the house and switched off his phone and her phone so no one could reach them. He left her in the house and every attempt made to reach them was futile. He later returned and took her to the hospital when he discovered she was dying at about 4.30pm and did not deem it fit to contact her parents or siblings, he did this so as not to run the risk of her coming out of coma and telling her family her ordeal at the hands of her husband, it is also worthy to note that the hospital were she died is less than a hundred metres from her parent’s house. Obinna eventually came to her parents house around 8.30pm to tell them she had passed on. Further findings from her siblings and the doctor’s confirmation revealed that Chinyere was brought to the hospital lifeless (practically dead). The doctor decided to do a cesarean session to try and save the baby but it was all in vain

Chinyere’s sad story is one among millions of Nigerian women who fall victim to sexual and emotional predators because they want to be accepted by the society at large . They hide their ordeal from the very people that can rescue them. Their families. Women nowadays​ pretend that they are in happy marriages even when the obvious signs says otherwise. For how long will we keep up with this trend of pretending all is well when it obviously isn’t? Must we live a lie for societal acceptance? Let’s come together and say no to domestic violence and spousal abuse. There are many families like Chinyere’s who wish their children had remained single and lived with them instead of getting married and killed by their partners. Enough is enough!”


http://www.myowngist.info/2017/08/story-of-pregnant-nigerian-woman.html?m=1


Lalasticlala
Royalroy
Mynd44
Dominique

Some parents are just taking the innocence from this kids by dressing them in this manner,its totally wrong.
Gone are the days when our party,church,visit,outing wears as girls was redmade(ready made gowns) and cover shoes.
Now they dress little girls in tight fitting gowns,why?
What for?
Why would you fix weavons for kids younger than 10,some even perm kids hair,why?
And they expose this kids to x-rated songs forgetting that kids learn very fast and hardly forgets.
This generation of parents are moving with the norm at the detriment of kids innocence.
Someone need to start talking sense into them.

Daboomb:
I see a lot of women rejoicing on this thread that finally, another Husband has been conquered and made to crawl back begging.
Nice!! Really, really Nice.

But let us pause and think ahead, while looking back a bit because there is a cliche which says "A half-blinded Eye, will beget a major scuffle".

- No one is talking about the wife that brought her Boy friend and lover, to fight her husband.
- While both husband and wife's lover are fighting, wife jumps-in to defend her lover and took the blow meant for the lover, on her leg (Leg gets damaged)
- Wife takes to Social Media, gathers sympathy and embarks on a journey to ruin the husband.
- First, you get him locked up
- Next, you take his job and source of livelihood
- He runs away to America and you still chased him that far
- Now, you got his Visa revoked and he would have to come back to Nigeria.
- Maybe you would even succeed in sending him to jail, who knows

But remember, after all said and done and he comes back from jail, you will always have to "watch your back, day and night" because the first wound, is not always as heavy and deadly, as the 'strike-back'.
Those whose lives have been destroyed and have nothing more to live-for, are the worst sort of people to offend.

If marriage breaks down irreconcilably, either party should seek a peaceful divorce rather than engaging on a vengeful mission to destroy the other.

This is me speaking in PARABLES.

[b]Sir are you for real?
All those blind eyes at the detriment of the women involved?
For very long some men has gotten away with every act of wickedness because of nothing but because they are "MEN" they mustn't be questioned,their image is at stake,they have egos,just like what your just put up there blah blah blah,and for once a correctional approach is gotten and you say women shouldn't rejoice because all eyes will go blind?
Did you even follow this particular story from the beginning? After breaking her legs he went ahead and tarnished her image and accused her of adultery,then ran away with his mistress,and you say this? (The man went to her house,she didn't take her boyfriend to meet him,he went to meet her himself in her house,So you mean her boyfriend should have stayed and watch him beat his wife up,or even the boyfriend should have gotten the broken legs? I dont understand that funny point you just brought up,if that story is true at all,a man physically unprovoked,went all physical on two people and they should stand and watch? Or what are you implying sef?) Please its not in this situation you type words like this,this is a well deserved punishment,let him lick his wounds,come back and serve his jail terms with hard labour and come back first if that does not cure his violent nature and he still feels he will hurt her when he gets back then he should die there(those threats don't work for all women) or have his own legs broken and shattered to pieces until then this story you write na bullcrap[/b]

Prognose:
Wait oh.

So no one can realize that this story is completely fake???

Lolz,because na man do now its fake?
Sorry to burst your bubble its not fake,its very real,I follow the person that put it out on Facebook,and this is not the beginning of the story,I can narrate it if you are interested.

unqombothi:

I'm sure he made sense to people who're interested in this.

And who are the insane people interested in dehumanizing there daughters,sisters and girlfriends?please speak for yourself

kingdom88:
Dont worry haters on that day i will make sure all of you get something nice to eat as for those that celebrate with me your own is the next to be celebrated..........and for those saying trash about me being broke look well i am blessed....... I work as a graduate and a legitimate job also my wife to be is also a banker at access bank ......you are all invited

What you said was absolutely unnecessary and stupid,I pity the woman getting married to you,suddenly virtual people are your haters?
Y'all abuse that word too much.

prof1990:


I'm a Christian but we have to stop separating people based on religion. Let's stop making nairaland divisive.

Give this reply to the comment I quoted

usqoh:

Most Muslims do not abuse the Christain God. We do not abuse Jesus and Mary and promote falsehood.

You guys abuse the Islamic religion, prophet Muhammad and are intolerant. That was why he did this. Why should you blame the owner of the forum. Talk to your people to be tolerant.

Celebrate humanity

You don't mean it,Christians are intolerant?
I'm yet to see them killing people in their numbers because they didn't accept Christianity sha

prof1990:


Bigotry at its peak. Are 'muslims and others not human?

Muslims are surely the biggest Bigot of all.
Hope you are aware that there is a section where only Muslims can post on nairaland,obviously Christians are not human here.

Daslim180:
Indeed

Yes indeed.

Barka de sallah

Sexytemi:
I'm living things, money money kin sha ti lowo, wire wire kin sha ti lowo...

Well, I quite agree he sang his song based the kind of people he feels listen to it, and I also agree falz is right for saying they should stop praising fraudsters, but falz also needs to caution bloggers too for praising these fraudsters, you wake up to read how hushpuppy bought a range rover for his gf in Dubai, or how opa6 just closed a mall in Dubai for his babe and you began to wonder "oru ori wo lo gbe wa'ye"

Hushpuppi does not even have gf or flaunted any gf,check his Instagram,no girl at all.
I'm beginning to think he is gay and made money from being gay olosho

Blueberrie:
I really don't like these kinds of posts. Right from the title and everything written above. They always portray being single as the ultimate failure in life, forget abt the fact that u may have made numerous accomplishments in life. This is exactly why so many ppl end up settling for jst anyone who shows them the slightest interest and then they end up tolerating that other person for the rest of their life for societys sake and innocent children. Unhappy families= rotten societies and the root of all evil.
There is nothing wrong with refusing to settle for the best. If anything I admire single ladies and men who jst didnt rush into marriage for the sake of it but who waited for the right one, for as long as it took. And hey if they dont come along, then fine. But thats much better than being in an unhappy marriage and bringing innocent kids in it.
Fighting ths perception that remaining single is the ultimate failure begins with disagreeing with posts like these.

Very funny

coolviv:
Looolll...see my fellow men masturbating on this post. Nice write up, well balanced, true talk and so on and so forth.
Abeg well balanced towards where?

Well, my take is that ladies stay late to get married for the same reason men stay late to make money. Nobody better pass Na God's mercy and help.

As in the masturbation is just too much.

Wolfbrother:
The way you people carry single ladies matter n to your heads is becoming annoying .. how is it any of your bloody business?

I really really tire

Oyindidi:
Most of the boys arguing here are yet to grow balls not to talk of getting married.

How many of you can boast of 50k in your accounts? Will the ladies marry themselves? Rubbish

I swear I don tire.

feelgoodInc:
You'll never see a long post by women writing about how men should behave in front of ladies, all you'll see is men writing shit.

Leave the women alone stop peeing sheets, your heart wasn't broken by women, it was broken by one woman.

but to be fair I think I prefer the real femininity rather than a woman trying to be masculine in other to compete with men. No man is competing with you.

Walai I don tire,makes someone even scared to open nairaland sometimes,because you don't know which offence they will accuse women of commiting again
Asif na women hold their destiny

selflessmaya:
i love threads like these because while they show me how stupid some nigerians are, some comments also remind me that we have some functional thinking ppl in this country.
the reason while there are more spinsters in this generation is because nigerian women are finally realizing they can do and deserve better. most men here riding the "go and marry" brigade are the worst specimen of men out there. let's be fu<king honest, let's go there, how many nigerians want to have a marriage exactly like their parents? i grew up in a stable household with very nice parents but i can personally say that i dont want a marriage like theirs, a lot of you here talking trash wont even exist in this day and age cos your mothers wouldn't have settled with your fathers. but the differnce is that girls grow up wanting and grooming themselves for a more romantic fun marriage and guys are just more than comfortable being as uninteresting as wet bread.

most nigerians are very bitter when they see a woman who wants to do well for herself, be it a woman who strives for independence and success or a woman who wants to marry well and won't settle for less. that's why they gather like ants when celebrity marriages fail because they love to laugh at those who even had the nerve to think they can have it all and still have their happy ending and i'm using celebrities as an example because they're the only public cases we get to see. this is why successful women like genevieve and rita dominic are constantly told "go and marry" by ppl here who can't even afford 1/10th of the life they live, that's why anytime a scandal arises about adaeze yobo's marriage, they gather around to laugh and say "she never see anything" meanwhile she married at 20 and did not even get the chance to "slay mama" before marrying like most ppl like to justify their dragging with, that is why they drag female celebs who got out of unhappy marriages when they cry on camera, then drag them when they show signs of moving on with their lives. this is why they're happy whenever a new rumor rises about caroline danjuma's husband's cheating, "oh she thought fine girl will save her" "haha shey she's the one that wanted rich husband", this is why they're at the uche jumbo thread typing "ghen ghen" hoping her marriage fails so they can come again to tell women that working hard and being a boss is nahhht the way to go. this is why when an everyday case of domestic violence goes viral, they sympathize but when it's a successful woman who's a celebrity they do the most trying to attribute everything to her celebrity status, she must have been a bad wife (because she's successful in her own right and we all know women who don't need you in order to feed are just terrible and must be dragged)

the issue here is not that many women are not marrying but that many men are NOT marriage material but were raised believing "a man is never ugly" "woman education ends in kitchen" "let boys be boys"and they drank it in whole and did nothing to better themselves and are mad that girls are out here calling their bluff, getting sh!t done and not that bothered about marriage anymore with a "if it happens, it happens, if it doesnt, boo freaking hoo" mindset. basically these men are angry because they cant attract gold while being trash but in the old days of lesser female empowerment a lot of amazing women had to settle for whatever comes their way and these generation of girls are saying NO!!! no more being a maid with glorified title of wife, if men are not ready to be husbands, many girls these days are not ready to sit around wifeing for them and cleaning up after a grown man, whiny like a baby with a head full of entitlement that they dont even possess. many ppl born in the 80s-90s grew up in a world totally different from what it is now and they're refusing to stay stagnant as the times change. women are more practical these days, all the "slay mamas" are hated because girls these days are no more the breed to grow up with an impractical view of how life works, they see the harsh realities surrounding them and they know now that marriage is not a prize but a huge gamble. these men are so angry that women wayyy above them wont reduce their standards and settle for them, so mr man, why dont u reduce your own standard and find girls your own level, it's because mr man was lied to and told that a man is a prize and any girl will give an arm and a leg to have him and reality is just punching holes in the bubble he lives in. women just dont view men as a prize anymore, they view them as human beings and if u can't be the one, they're fine earning their cash, paying their bills and watching whiny threads like these from their comfortable cozy homes, live with it.

ps. lol at the one complaining that girls these days want wedding, pre-wedding pic and reception which is expensive in his opinion and they should settle for court marriage, my friend, when women were marrying a lot like u claim, the same laws applied, you're just broke.

Just couldn't stop reading this and smiling all through,I even went to look for it and give you your like and share

Can't wait for the next 10 years though by then,all the entitled male brain go don format..
Haha haha hahahahaha hahahahaha
What a great century to be born in

RoyalBlak007:



Currently yeah, Super madt strike #WhileWeWorking™

I trust you getting the mulla

RB007:
Berbierklaus ♥


#Natural✓

Awwwn,thanks dear

Are you in lag? Heard there is a strike?

makydebbie:
Thanks dear.
Thanks for the kind words, amen to your prayers.

A special order has been made just for you.

Happy birthday dear.
Long life and prosperity.
Enjoy your day

TonyeBarcanista:
Jesus!!!

Your uncle should end the Union without delay!!!

Price of DNA test

zlantanfan:
all these bbn contestants including the winner are failures.

By now they are supposed to have had one or two tangible attribute to show like tintall boasted, it seems the only thing that keeps them relevant are hungry bloggers.

normal photoshot when everybody they do everyday don turn news, all these their little struggle for recognition go die finally when the next bbn start.

only uti know himself

You people will just sit behind your palasa phone and be typing rubbish on nairaland, while the rest of the world is moving on and people are doing good things with their lives.
Do you know Bassey and Debie released a song,do you know Bisola released a song and she is a prominent actress even before BBN? Doyou know Soma is ambassador for payporte and also have a program he does on TV, do you know Gifty is on a Set of a new movie as an actress,do you know Tboss acted in a movie that will be released or it has been released sef,do you know Uriel has been made ambassador for IMO state tourism,she is also an entrepreneur with a business of her own,she even opened a store in lekki few weeks ago,Do you know EFE is the ambassador for Nigerian youths,do you know Bally is set to release a song with Patoranking? Do you know that Thintalltony is making good use of his talent as a dancer,organising and doing shows,going to universities as invited guests,and making his money? Do you know cocoice recently releasee a single and also shoot the video some weeks ago,do you know Kemen is now a celebrity fitness trainer with the likes of INI Edo training with him? Do you know ESE Eriata released a new single the other day,and many other activities this people are doing with their lives, but you just sleep and wakeup in hatred and envy for your fellow human being, after beg your mummy for 100naira,buy mtn 10mb,come on nairaland and start spewing trash everywhere,because you can't even visit Instagram to see all this things with your own eyes,so you wallow in ignorance and type sh*t about people who are bigger and better than you'd ever be in your life,instead of you to pray and work hard to make it like them,na your father house you go dey jobless, typing hatred from your mosquito brain.

Better change,see good in others so that others can see good in you.
Don't bother replying,you will be ignored.

Jacksparr0w127:
This is what happens when married women portrays themselves as 'Slayqueens' on social media

Seriously

Avalon316:


Lol. I like intellectually handicapped girls like you. Na only pr1ck dey teach your kind lesson.

Make sense,we sabi how your mother train you now

thegrace:
@Cococandy and barbiercaus or whatever, I am enlightened and educated woman, will never support cheating husband I will most likely separate from the man as my religion forbids divorce but will never sleep indiscriminately to punish a man. It will be like drinking poison and expect another man to die as Mandela said of un forgiveness. My women lib did not reach like that. Peace.

Mummy,look at the spelling of my name well,no biggie there.
I am not supporting promiscuous wives,stop misinterpreting my joy on this thread. Just elaborating and letting it known that two can play at the game.

If you condone a cheating husband that's your opinion,which is why I adviced her to ignore your comment.

Its good to know you are enlightened, its a free world,and you are free to express your own opinion.

ajog1:
lolzz No need for that sweetheart, nature has imprinted the DNA result on our physique-we all look alike.

Hope you are aware that nature also made husband and wife who have lived together to look alike,they aren't even blood relations

Let's thank nature jor, some secrets will never be discovered

Kondomatic:
Yea. A born again Christian for that matter.



That's good. It's ok but it is better to speak up against anyone who does wrong irrespective of their gender and please stop saying most, you lump so many innocent men with awful people when you do that.

So why are you not interested in heaven?

I only made use of the word most yesterday,and it was deliberate, I've seen and heard men use the same word when describing ladies of easy virtues, especially on nairaland. Eg "All girls are ***** etc they even make use of " All"
But do you think "most men cheat" or "some men cheat" ?