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NLElder:
First of all don't be quick to judge me. I am just here for matured help/advice cos I am fast loosing it. I am sure if it's abroad I will to told to go meet a therapist.

I am a young man in my early 40s and married for 9 years now with 2 kids. My nature of work is such that I am living on another town 5hours away from my family. This has been the case 6years out of the 9 years I am married. I have never really enjoyed my marriage as a young man cos I am always driving up and down every weekend to meet my family and when I got a promotion with more responsibility I reduced it to every 2 weeks, and as the stress of work and driving became more stressful, I now go every month. I have tried all my best even till date to see if I can get another work in the same state my wife and kids reside to no avail and my wife can't leave her work in the state join me as she is in a federal government establishment that has no branch in the state I live and work. The scenario so far shows you that I am not enjoying a healthy sex life with my wife, but being someone brought up to respect the marriage institution, I have resigned to my fate and taken life as I have seen it. To make matters worse, with due respect to my wife, she suffered female genital mutilation and you know it affects women's sex life and their man is always worse off for it. In summary we lead a routine boring sex life in the few occasions we even get to have it. However, the 6 years I have lived and worked in another state, I have never cheated or thought of cheating on her despite all the cold lonely nights I have to spend alone. I am a kind of introvert and never hide it from people that I am married. Some will be like "u no get side chick"? I will say no. The problem started 4 years earlier out of the 6years in the city I live and work. Since I am always lonely and bored in my crib, I mostly do video calls with my wife and kids daily or chat online with friends to keep my mind busy and avoid unnecessary tensions that will remind me of the lonely boring life I was living. This also keeps me away from sexual urges if I feel any as a fool-blooded young man I was. It was in one of these online chats that I got close to one young lady of about 30. We really got close through chatting and graduated to exchanging numbers. I always make it known that I was married to everyone I meet and she was no exception. We became best friends online and kept our limits as married man and a single lady would. We became curious and excited to meet each other live when we found out we were in same city.

We arranged a harmless date in a restaurant in town were we really got to know more about each other. I found out that she was a struggling young girl teaching in a private school with NCE and was unable to proceed to degree level due to lack of funds. Her salary wasn't even up to 18k and she was squatting with one lady in very uncomfortable circumstances. After that 1st live meeting, a very good friendship ensued but entirely platonic .

All these past 4 years before I met her, I cook for myself and go to market by myself. One Friday she called and I did not immediately pick cos I was in the kitchen. I called her back later and told her I was cooking and she jokingly asked if she could help. As at then she was yet to come to my place, so I told her if she really wanted to help then I would come and pick her up and that was how for the first time in 4 years, a lady visited me in that town. It felt awkward. It did not take long for me to find out how homely she was...washed plates, tidied everywhere, and finished up the cooking. I really felt at peace and started getting worried at the same time. We spent time chatting but kept our distance and nothing happened between us and I dropped her off later where she was squatting.

After that, our friendship went to another level and the visits became more frequent but still nothing happened between us. I got to know she was a well brought up lady that still had values and I also confirmed she had no man as at the time she met me. She said she had always wished to be married before now and never believed she would reach 30 and still be single.

I know my story is getting rather long, so let me try to wrap up. In summary, she started having issues with the family she was squatting with and didn't have enough money to rent a place of her own. I didn't have enough to rent for her either as I was already carrying a lot of financial responsibilities for her by then...monthly stipend of ₦10k to add to her salary, tolletries, making hairs and even helping out with her sick mum hospital bills. So without a 2nd thought, both of us decided she move into my place. Inside me I knew it was somehow but I think by then we were already in love with each but maybe living in denial.

So she moved in and that was it. Yes, we started having sex, uncomfortably at 1st but later became 2 sex maniacs. It was as if she was sent to compensate me for my horrible marriage sex experience I have endured all these years. We couldn't have enough of each other. In fact when I want to travel and see my family, she breaks down crying. I knew it was more than a side chick matter. In fact this lady gave me a fulfilled sex life that I swear if it's in the olden days I wouldn't mind taking her as a 2nd wife. Months grew into years and our passion for each other grew to the point that we got jealous of the opposite sex calling us. She even starts frowning when my wife calls or tears will start running down her eyes. People, I became so confused. We both knew we have gone too far and yet were not ready to end it. I even because part of her own family cos I go with her to see her sick mum and played a prominent role when she died. I don't know her older siblings knew if I was married or not , but I think she confided in her older sister who seemed to like me so much and only warned her to be "careful."

After 2 years, she started agitating about marriage so much that she said she needed to move out of my place. That as long as she is with me, she might not get married since it's obvious I wasn't going to marry her no matter how much both of us pretended about it. Deep inside me I knew she was right and I couldn't be selfish to keep her from meeting single suitors but I felt an inexplicable pain in my heart as if a part of me was about to be cut off. However, I forced myself to assist her to get a place and yet she on her own kept coming to my place every weekend until she moved in again leaving her place wasting for over 2 months., only going there once in a while to pick things..

All the 2 years we were together she was open and truthful to me about relationships she was now trying to build with single guys she hoped would marry her. I was already feeling bad inside me that she was about to leave my life, but she kept assuring me that she was with me and truly told me everything happeneing in the new relationship she was building.

She later moved out completely from my place after 2years on a new year day. She said needed to start the year on a good and clean note and had gotten serious with the guy that said he wants to marry her. I began to feel extreme jealous I couldn't explain. I knew it was not right but I couldn't stop myself. I tried my best and stopped calling or chatting with her but I still didn't find peace. One evening a month after when it was now clear that she has decided to get serious with the guy she said was coming for marriage, she visited me and and you can't believe it, we made hot passionate love. And when we were lying side by side, her new man called and she quickly ran into the toilet to answer him. I felt it was time I ended this whole thing, it wasn't looking right again. So I confronted her why she was still leading me on when she is now in a marriage -bound relationship and she said because she still loves me and doesn't know how to let go of me. We cried together that it wiould be tough as we would soon separate from each other for life and she left. I cried like a baby as we made love again and she consoling me to try and teach my wife the things she does to me despite her FGM predicament.

The period she was with me, she was uncomfortable answering calls from her man and I got fed up and decided to investigate. So I went to the street where she showed me the guy lives(she was truly open to me and I give her that) and waited to see if she has started visiting him as she mostly denies and lo and behold, I saw her entering the guy's house. I felt a sharp pang of jealousy which I couldn't control. I picked up my phone after some minutes and started calling her, but her phone rang severally and she didn't pick. I was almost half-dead with jealousy. I cried iny heart and drove away. I sent her a text that because she was "enjoying" herself with her man she was now avoiding my calls. That maybe tbe guy was so good at it. She called about 2 hours later and really took offence that because she visited him and did not pick my call was simply because she doesn't want him to start asking questions and not necessarily that they were doing anything. We quarrelled like never before and said hurtful things to each other and I asked her to return my key at my office the next day cos by then she no longer visited my house as she has really gotten serious with the guy. She returned the key and for over 2 months we stopped communicating and became strangers.

Instead of pushing her out my mind, I felt a daily torture looking through her Facebook pics, WhatsApp status, and other social media. I will go to her guy's street and painfully watch her enter his house from afar. I was fast losing my mind. I knew it was over for good and don't want her back but the obsession is yet to leave me till date. Everyday, I check her pictures and feels pangs of pain and jealousy as I see her lovely smiles. My people it's punishment and torture for me. I keep obsessing every second of my life about her. Who can help me? Something is definitely wrong. In one of her recent status, I saw her flaunt her hands with an engagement ring and I felt a sharp pang of sadness instead of happiness. People help me I am loosing it. Even though she has apologized to me and I too have apologized for the hurtful things we said in the course of our quarrel, my mind is still not at peace. Even now presently she is engaged she still calls me and tries to engage me in friendly conversations but I will just be answering without interest. She even sent me a pic recently at a wedding she went to and I told her she should stop sending me her pics but should be sending to her man. She apologized and said she has taken note. Yet, I will feel bad inside me if I don't see her friendly chats which my attitude has made her reduce. Yet in all these, first thing in the morning I will quickly rush to check her pics, if she has made new posts, etc etc. I need help, I really do. Sorry my people for the long post but I really needed to empty myself to see the help I can get if any cos I want my normal sane life back. I have also prayed to God and asked for forgiveness for cheating on my wife ....I have no excuses for doing so but from the long story you can see it was never my intention.

Can't believe I fucking read this trash,

Best advice go back to Ur wife.

GROUNDCHALEBOY:
before i used to think that i need love and a serious relationship,but time goes on i realize that relationship comes with side benefits. so i decided to toast 10 girls within two weeks i have bleep 5 within a week..redpillers dont take sh..t from any bannies, nigeria girls need more money than love,so no waste ur time dey do love when others the bleep ur girl..simps love no dey nigeria,the only love you need is a family love.

Your are welcome sir, and welcome to new life. pls bring more people

As you can see now, when you dey worship one pussy up and down, can you see the difference in just a week you bang 5 pussy and you just join us ,

Within a year you could have bang like, let say 5 × 52 = 260 pussy in a year , can you see wow wow wow

And now your are the controller of the pussy now, anytime you need pussy you just give them a call, and they will come. Bros Notting like LOVE in Nigeria, love exit oh but in foreign countries is like 50/100, but here in 9ja Notting work here so is 0.0000001/100 here can you see.

You are welcome again bros, no time to be worshipping one pussy given Ur hard earn money to the ungrateful being, begging then for sex, and they are the one that enjoy it most. But making you look like you are the only one enjoying it.

Liers cheaters pretenders gold diggers ashewo are all their names.

Am proud of you the life you live now, you will even pray your unborn children live it, a lion must always look like a lion.

My children must not be a simp pussy worshipper I regret it in Jesus name. AMEN

Even if you play Ur game very well them go collect money from simp and be given you.

Even if you play very well this Ur first season you go collect lot of trophy including UEFA CHAMPION LEAGUE

Like my own.

ObamaMessi:
See the idiot here. peace u shall not see

Monkey

ObamaMessi:
The Beautygoddesss u are fighting is my good friend.

Attention seeking !!!!!!!

I don't have Ur time here

Beautygoddesss:
the fight serious sha

Don't mind him joor

Just looking for attention here


How can he be saying he is fighting me in faceless forum

Tell him to come my house and fight me .

SisterFire:
...that mumu pass mumu.he is same as koyyes the ani.ma.l

Yeah,

That stupid guy will never hear

As I dey now u don't have time to talk to asshole

The mumu never push him to jam trailer

johnsonmartina6:
even 27 years still dey find husband,you way he 33 see one,you turn mumu

Don't mind the confuse beings called women


On march this month I meet one confuse beings on Facebook chat her collect her contact she was not even far away from me when I ask her street

So I ask her out ending of that march, she told me she can't date me I ask why, she said nothing.

Na so I ghost her for like a week I don't chat her don't call her,

She now dey tell me now what happened I did not call her again bla bla and so.

I just ignored her chat and call

Have already moved on and catch another fish, because them plenty for street.

ObamaMessi:
See olodo, i didn't quote u, i mentioned/tagged u. na me dey control ur destiny u and Winnerly.

You dey crazy maybe quote or mention, you still dey my matter you no get job



God go punish you

alphaconde:
this story is ranking 1st so far

But Omo I Bleep the girl like say tomorrow no dey oh, before that one happened I was even thinking she be my future wife, when I first date her I just use to Bleep her like 2 to 3 days in a month, because I have some other chick around me that time but she was my main chick that time, when the matter happened I want to break up with her, first I just think say my money will just wast like that, because I never Bleep the pussy tire, so switch to my plan B, which is to Bleep the pussy tire and tire, and break her heart and dump her.


So I called my side chick that I want to travel for like 2 month, that I will not be around, I don't want them to come to my house those period because I want to damage the pussy

In my life before have never Bleep pussy 3 to 4 time a week before, na so I dey Bleep her back to back almost every day, for 2 month I swear to GOD I Bleep her in her parents house in her own bed which she and her sister sleep, and I Bleep her in her father bed, that time her parents travel. I sleep there sometime , all there young brother and sister like me like mad because I dey give them money.

Na one forgiveness I still dey ask God to forgive me one evening, her mother was sick and she was in church with her mother, na so her mother talk say I no come greet her for church like some days she have be there, na one Sunday evening i went there I play with them to like 11 o'clock,

when I say am going home her mother say it's late that I should sleep with them I agreed na in the night I dey Bleep the girl in the church given her From the back. Omo the felling sweet but God should pls forgive me for confession my sin.

ObamaMessi:
For me these are the most annoying nairalanders:


Satanist or Satan1st


DrMrsFunmi


SisterFire





bidexdo

Why quote me here idiot ??

MoneyMustBMade:
Chai!!
This one hot

Omo hot like boling water, women hmmm

alphaconde:
this story is ranking 1st so far

My brother na bad experience, I still regret that I have date that girl before, the reason I still dey remember her now is because na Feb 14 we dey celebrate our relationship before just 2 years we date.

Dehnis4001:
Crazy things are happening �‍♂️

I swear my brother, fear those bitch

I know you have not forgetting me abi

BoredBerry:
Moral lesson: If he was perfect... Keep him far away so you don't catch feelings again...

We broke up... He didn't do anything wrong...

He was extremely sweet and kind and romantic... Very romantic...

The sort of guy who would call you his queen and sent classic ballads and stay up with you late at night to chat...

We used to talk about everything... His country and culture and mine... Or we would talk about or future... Even act a telanovela! He would be the obsessed lover or the husband I had cheated on... Lol...

He would make a bad meal and send pictures of it... Or climb a roof to show me how beautiful the city of medellin is! Or send pictures of the fesivals he had attended and promise he would make a crown of flowers for me to wear...

Recently, we started talking... We have to translate our texts and audios... Sometimes I can't and he has to translate to English before sending the text... Double effort which I deeply appreciate... He's promised to send a poem or a short story every single day... And he has!

It's insane... I don't think I deserve it... But he makes me feel like I'm his world... Like I'm good enough to make these sacrifices for... And it's touching...

I don't know what's gonna happen... But I enjoy waking up, knowing someone out there loves me... So I won't tell him to stop...

I've even started writing! He's a miracle worker!

He makes happy... Like a little kid... In a good way... So I still love him...

Thank you.

See this one , you and Ur mumu oyinbo bf, he had finally leave you stupid olosho

Thanks God

Olam09:
Use 4-4-2 information.

Hmmmm

Two strikers

May God forgive me, have bang my in the church before

No be my fault I follow my gf to church because her mother is sick there, I slept there na konji catch me for night I enter raw.

Abeg update! Update

You be fool oga, with all what you read here about not being simp , you still dey act simp up and down , let me tell you something if you don't learn here, believe me you can never again in Ur simp life learn

If I have you as a brother I could have trade you for bitcoin,

Better stop be simp, don't no fall in love or have emotions for any stupid hunger and olosho Nigeria girls,

As my nigger have told you before just Bleep Nigeria girls and dump them, and move to the next available fish, do not settle down with them until you are ready to marry. Just Bleep them use them do 3 some even 4 some with Ur niggers and dump theirs ass,

Know this and no peace

I hate waist bead

athenswonders:
There’s nothing to do quickly at that time.... except you take bitter kola 10 minutes before match kick off, then this will bring it back.

However bro, the spirit is telling me you masturbate a lot.... desist from it

Lovely and nice story, na this type of story I want dey read here, not those types saying my gf break up or cheat with me and I want die now , will be asking guy if it was u what who u do, I hate those story ,

Fantazy:
Sorry o
You go don chop breakfast tire for man hand.
Wen una no get anything to offer, and una character no come make sense join.
Shior!

They have Notting to offer expect their stinking pussy

Dehnis4001:
Crazy things are happening �‍♂️

Yeah in Nigeria

MadeINchenzen2:
If u check well, that guy was her ex before she married Will Smith... maybe the guy they hit the punna very well

Many married women still return to their ex for serious rounds of hot steaming fvck every once in a while

It's called okafor law

Enjoying it while it last!