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oldtimersince06:
I had to create a new account to post this.

So, my husband has beaten me 3 times prior to yesternight. I had said if it happens again, I'm going to leave. Last night, he punched me in my face severally and pushed me hard that I sprained my knee.
My concern are my kids. My older child loves his father so much, while the younger one loves me so much. The kids love each other. Do I take my younger child and leave this marriage and separate my kids, or do I leave them with their dad or do I take both of them and trust my older child will be fine without his father?

He has apologized severally this morning but I'm done. He is emotionally abusive on a good day. I can't count the no of times in a day he insults me. He threatens to Kill me and kill himself. My dad doesn't talk to him any more. Let me tell you why.

He didn't have a car at the time, and would go with mine. He was meant to pick the kids up, while I was also waiting for him to pick me up from work. At about 7:30 pm, I called him again asking for when he would get to the kids school and he told me he was busy(Busy here means busy drinking). The school kept calling me, the teachers need to go home. 8 pm, I picked an uber and went to pick them. My phone died and I couldn't charge it till I got home. As I turned my phone on, his call came in and I apologized, that I had picked them up but my phone went off. He said he was in the school and was looking for the kids. I kept on apologizing. He promised to deal with me on getting home. He then called my mum and was shouting at her on phone(he does this regularly). My dad stepped in. He tried to understand the issue. He told my dad, that I disrespected him and that if it was his subordinate in the office( He's in the para military) that disrespected him, they would kill the person and nobody would find the dead body. My dad then said, but she's your wife and not your subordinate. He shouted at my dad and dropped the call.

I go through a lot of emotional stress on a daily basis. I need to leave for my sanity. He's a great father.What do I do about my kids? Matured responses please.

okenwa101:
Sterling Bank Specta tried but Nigeria masses defaulted so much that they halt the thing for now.
I benefited from Sterling bank Specta, (had no acct with them, and not a salary earner too, self employed) I got a loan right from my desk in my office without any call or meeting anyone or going to bank for any paper or collateral.
meanwhile some banks I have been using for decades had never trusted me to assist e.g GTB, FBN, UBA
Thank you Sterling bank,

Debodimeji01:
Well... it's real cos I work there and we have given out countless AGSMEIS CBN loans out. If you have a business that needs financial support to expand, I will strongly advise you to take advantage of this scheme. It's a 9%/Year interest rate. No financial institution in this country will give you such.

illicit:
She's naive lol

jude79:
Those deities where subdued and defeated by the church, that's why they are in prison or museum as people puts it.

AllyPolly:
It's 25k sirs,
Message me on call/msg me on WhatsApp. First come first serve ni

Openbusiness:
OP, actually, the number 1 cash prize winner is ERICA, like play like play her $100,000 GoFundMe don pass $66,000 . If she completes that would be about N46m. Dis life no balance oh. September 6 to September 28, that is in 22 days, people have raised about N30M for Erica. The girl get serious backup

Gbest90:
Nice one.... but plz kindly remove Lampard and Ole from that list.

D
Let's give them benefit of doubt bro..
At lest they handle big team..

Olarewaju89:
You get issues oo

How many matches have they play that you are predicting top4.

Pls calm down

DaddyRochie1642:
Am a big fan and great admirer of Lovely drawn Tattoos.

That guy's tatoos are not Attractive at all. They look like "Dark Patches" on the skin.

He's dark Skinned and he still went to draw

DamnnNiggarr:
he's from Jamaica.

Issiijay:
Well, I attend Federal University Oye Ekiti. I'm in my 2nd year studying industrial chemistry.

Ever since secondary School, I've wanted to study civil engineering. Chose UI twice but I wasn't picked. Not until I chose Fuoye, this time I had to go for a course in science. I got confused, I don't know which to do. My best or favorite subject then in Secondary School was mathematics, I know it to the core. But I thought of not studying it cos I don't want to go deep into maths, I want something different.

Choosing a course to do became difficult cos I was being careful as not to choose what I'd regret later cos I feel doing a certain course in school isn't about choosing any course.

I also didn't want to go deep into Physics, despite the fact that I know Physics well just after maths, then I went for industrial Chemistry. My Dad was worried too, he felt probably I should go for something related to engineering. I felt chemistry would do

Resuming, most of my course mates would say they're studying industrial chemistry cos Chemistry was their best subject and they had interest in it. I felt disturbed cos studying it for me is of a different reason.

Coming to exams and grades, which is the main part. There's something bout me, I hate qualifying myself. I prefer wen people do so themselves. With my grades n intelligence, they say I was the 3rd best graduating student in my secondary School. But for me,I'm really really average.

Everyone dislikes reading school notes I guess,most read to pass not to understand. In University, you must learn to read well and assimilate well. When I go for lectures, read my notes after, at the next day I'd forget all I've read.

This stuff has been happening since secondary School I guess but it became worse in University. My Dad is so brilliant, he's always wanting the best from us as the children especially I as the first born. I've prayed several times,fasted,even met with a lecturer n a counselor on what to do.

This discouraged me that I don't really have to read after lectures,instead I read when it's 4 to 3 days to exams so as to remember some, making it be like I'm reading to pass. Cos if I read them long ago, I'd have forgotten. The problem is that the notes tends to be now plenty to assimilate n understand.

I'm always depressed about this,and I'm tired,I don't know what else to do. The main problem is remembering most I've read. Some times I'd want to read my notes, I'd be like if I read, I'll still forget once it's tomorrow ���‍♂️. I don't know what's wrong with my retentive memory.

If I can read n remember most things I read I'll be having good grades. Infact I'm so so ashamed to write out my CGPA. even if my parents or friends in school sees it, they'd be so disappointed cos if the fact they know how intelligent I am.

For my 100level,it's just 3.00.. it's so so so so lowwwww. My dad could cry if he sees it. He wants me to graduate with a first class also I too.
We haven't done first semester exams yet in this 200level,I need to do well at least have more than 4.00. I cry when I imagine how can this be possible. I've bought lots of photocopied past questions of each courses. Just as how I've gotten handouts. I look at how plenty those notes are and past questions are and be like how will I read , assimilate and remember all.

I'm so bemused right now cos school's resuming soon. And we might be rushed to so exams. I don't want to fail. I even picked my notes recently at home and after reading the first page of the handouts,I saw how much lessons the notes still hold and how much I'll read,I stopped feeling discouraged and just now as am typing,I can't seem to remember all I read in that first page. It's annoying and painful.

Is there something I can drink or take or do I have to keep reading and reading and never stop till it's stuck in my head. Maybe a topic from each courses per day, I don't know. I'm not lazy to read the notes. I'm only feeling discouraged of my ability not to remember wen I read.

And something,I am not a night reader like most do. I don't read at night. I've never done it. That's wen I get to sleep. My lecturer says if it's like that prolly I should be reading at the noon time or when am free during the day, making use of all opportunities during the day.

I go to classes by 7,come BK by 5 during Mon n Tuesday, 7 to 3 on Wednesday n Thursday n on Friday it's 10 to 12,by 5 to 6,I go for church choir rehearsal. Saturdays, a lecturer could get us to come for some classes,by 4 to 6, I'd still go for Choi rehearsals cos am an esco



PLEASE I NEED EVERYONE'S HELP

Zzor:
another one spotted,go learn how to be a real man

loveth360:
Kwara is gone for good,They are not joining any odudufraud.





Kwara remains fulanis territory.

Ategberoson:
I was telling someone that if Dorathy is evicted and Ozo stay then Laycon fans will have to do extraordinary work but as it is now I don't see the rest of the housemates as a competitors



his victory lies in the hand of his fans anyway