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Advice kwa?

Did u seek our advice when u dey raise her legs up and throwing her upandan in the room, during your planting period??

Guy, no make us vex for u ooo

No mind me ... Are u ready to settle down? If yes, go pay her bridge price ...

If not, may God help u

Mrkc:
I am jobless and she is 3 level doing 5 years course.
She is suggesting I pay her bride price or remove the baby
I need advice

Clap for yourself ...

Now, i'd like to ask you what you're trying to achieve .... I guess its called premium tears ...

I am not in support of cheating hubby o but going to this extent? Naaah ... its bad ... this is a recipe for high BP ...

If u wan catch him, just go about your normal activities, i can assure u, dem go serve into your hands without stress ...

not all this call divert shenanigans you're doing

Preciousgirl:
I have diverted my husband's phone calls so when the calls come can I pick?

Hey chief, i got notified that you sent me an email but it never entered my inbox ...

PureSperm:
Good morning Nairalanders, Please there's this issue that has been bothering me for a while now. There's this lady whom I met and have been dating for about 3 years now.

Though we've been doing alright all these while but suddenly she started having dreams concerning my family. Last night, she had a dream and she said inside the dream, my elder sister was berating her why she hasn't gotten pregnant for me all these while.

The truth of the matter is that we've only been cohabiting for 8 months and she hasn't for once missed her period.

Whenever we made love, I always noticed that she'd go the bathroom to pee and wash her private part. I have asked many elderly people around what that means and they keep telling me she doesn't want to get pregnant. Is that even possible at all?

The other disturbing part is that her mother is a traditional religious woman who worships the gods of her village and my woman also does the same. Recently I've been considering on how to marry her and have even been working towards it, and would be around March, next year.

Please, Nairalanders, what could be the problem. Should I go ahead with the whole relationship, considering how her family background is surrounded by the traditional religious practices of her family and how fetish she's. Could that also be the reason she has been finding it very difficult to take in?


Please mods, help me push this to the front page so that I can hear from others experiences and get a wider advise on how to go about this.

Please go and scan your car and let's have the codes here.

Most likely, your ECT is gone and maybe O2 sensors are dirty or bad

isholapeter9:
Please house kindly help me with my Toyota Corolla 012 Nigerian used that I just bought do consume fuel alot and at the same time the engine do vibrates at idle, any good technician in badagry that can help me fix this please 🙏

Bro, i'll advice you find a way to part ways but on certain conditions:

1. Do u want her to take in for you before you consider marrying her? If yes, does she agree with that? Have discussed it? If not, please talk about it verbally without assuming anything. If she is against it and you just want it to happen, u gotta run ...

2. Why is she not taking in, atleast for once? Let her know you've observed that she has not taken in for u ... But its advisable u go and run SFA at a reputable lab before u take this 2nd step ... Its about 10 to 45k and its an analysis for your sperm health ... if u have good result that shows ur soldiers are actively matching and with good health, u can take this step 2 and if possible, suggest u both visit a health clinic to examination ... she might have something as simple as hormonal imbalance which can be correct but all these, can't be done if she is not willing ... and if she isn't willing, pls don't run, fly with 25 jet engines ...

3. Ask her why she always runs to be bathroom to pee and wash her vjayjay ... Obviously, we know why: she doesn't want to get pregnant ... But still, ask her why, to see if she will lie about it ... if she does, then brova, shove ya azzz along and move to the next relationship.


At this day and age, nobody has the time for lies and dishonesty especially, in a relationship ... why waste each others time and efforts, ehn

Those are my views bro ... if u still need to maybe discuss further, drop ya contact ...

PureSperm:
Good morning Nairalanders, Please there's this issue that has been bothering me for a while now. There's this lady whom I met and have been dating for about 3 years now.

Though we've been doing alright all these while but suddenly she started having dreams concerning my family. Last night, she had a dream and she said inside the dream, my elder sister was berating her why she hasn't gotten pregnant for me all these while.

The truth of the matter is that we've only been cohabiting for 8 months and she hasn't for once missed her period.

Whenever we made love, I always noticed that she'd go the bathroom to pee and wash her private part. I have asked many elderly people around what that means and they keep telling me she doesn't want to get pregnant. Is that even possible at all?

The other disturbing part is that her mother is a traditional religious woman who worships the gods of her village and my woman also does the same. Recently I've been considering on how to marry her and have even been working towards it, and would be around March, next year.

Please, Nairalanders, what could be the problem. Should I go ahead with the whole relationship, considering how her family background is surrounded by the traditional religious practices of her family and how fetish she's. Could that also be the reason she has been finding it very difficult to take in?


Please mods, help me push this to the front page so that I can hear from others experiences and get a wider advise on how to go about this.

Hey chief, I'll advice you stop that cream you're using ... Switch to something organic like jimpo (ori).

Most of those creams we use to, u know, stay fair does a lot of damage to our skins ... This black dot thingy is the only physical evidence seen...

PinkNature:
Good day

i’ve had these black dots scattered all over my body since 2019.

it all started when i left home for a new town and i quickly developed these breakouts which since then have refused to clear off. i haven’t taken any serious steps towards them, but rn its getting out of hand.

its also on my neck and on my back too.
ps: i take my hygiene very seriously, bath 2x a day and also change my sheets frequently.

i need help.

20k for 75gb

E no pay joor!!!

When for 30k, u get unlimited data (20mbps speed)??

Been using this plan since nov 2023 and it was 20k until the recent increment and it became 30k

Between Nov 10 and today, i've used about 460gb ... all on top 30k ...

I think u should add this unlimited 20mbps plan into what u suggest for people ... that's mid range users sha ... it might also work for heavy users as well!!!

Na my experience be that sha ....

I don try mtn or airtel regular data, na die ....

Uchenna300:
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Why people like it:
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It’s ideal for:
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Updating apps
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Popular options:
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Examples:
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You're a very bad boy

SpencerForbes:
Post their wedding photo shoot make we see whether na our ex😁

From experience, that your corolla 04, has that small button, below the big gear clutch button, on the gear, when depressed, it enables the gear to enter 4 (its usually labelled as O/D or overdrive) ....

If its not pressed and left in down position, it will stay in 3 ... U just wasted your 140k and now, you have bigger problem ...

Donsilase:
Early November my car(corolla 2004) started giving sign of gear failure, it doesn't get to gear 4. I told a friend, he said he has someone that repairs automatic transmission and the person is very good, I then asked him to take me to his workshop. When we got there we met the so called gearmaster, he drove the car and said he will fix it and give us 3 months guarantee. He charged me 140k which I gave him 100k as deposit then he asked us to come back in the next one week. after one week I called him and asked how far, he said he haven't gotten some of the parts, we should exercise patience. After 2 weeks I called him again, he said there is progress that he's about to mount it. Meanwhile I couldn't be going to his workshop from time to time because it's far from my place, so last week I decided to go there. When I got there first I discovered my windshield has cracked, I asked him what happened, he said probably it was a mistake, I then asked him what of the gear, he said he's fixing it that I should wait and carry it. I said no problem. I waited till evening when he finished doing what he was doing the started the car to test it, behold my car doesn't enter reverse again, even when he put it in drive one of the tires doesn't move, meanwhile when I brought the car it was entering reverse, the only issue was gear 4. That was how we started quarreling, I told him to return the gear to the condition it was before and refund my money, he said its not possible that he's even tired of the work.

Please how do I handle this particular man, I didn't want to touch him because he's an elderly man

We are on same side ....

What is wrong is wrong ... a woman or teenager or girl should never be forced but in reality, most are being forced or threatened!!!

PWANMaxGroup:
WHAT IS PRACTISED?

What about the little girls in the North given to marriage against their will?
Are they not women too or do we just call them 'girls?'

Nope, a woman can be forced!!!

Its not about what is written in anybook, its all about what is actually being practiced!!!!

PWANMaxGroup:
A women cannot be forced

No be like that person dey reason am ...

Most of these people have good soul and deserves to have good life too ... or u think she won't have urge simply because she has spinal issues?

Or she doesn't deserve to be a mother?

victorazyvictor:
Eeeeeyyyyyaaaaaaasaaa

..but some men get mind sha. Ur preek dey rise for somebody like this?

Chief, it will definitely ... And i don't think they've sat down to evaluate all these tax policies before signing them ...

Fingers crossed ... lets all wait and see

Dialpad:
I hope this taxation thing will not backfire on this government.

You want to copy the west but you don't treat your citizens the way they treat theirs.

The only thing you do is to make promises, I even heard that they can go into your account and deduct taxes.

That's when you will know Nigerians no get joy.

That's a great brand ...

I have the D2 ... wired/connected to my change over ... whenever nepa does their stuffs, i simply change over and carry on with my life as if nothing happened.

Its paired with a 605w solar panel so, i'm not dependent on nepa to charge it ... i'm technically off-drid (micro way ) ...

Its a great product ... and yeah, one day, i forgot to switch off my electric cooker ... guess what? Nothing happened ... the D2 powered it ...

If its the regular solar/inverter arrangement, it would have been fried ...

Ecoflow is awesome!!! Period

Chinatolagos:
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​It functions as an alternative to traditional, noisy, and fuel-dependent gas generators.

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EcoFlow portable power station is trending because:

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2. It is highly versatile and has a clean energy
3. Their X-Boost technology allows the power station to safely run some high-wattage appliances
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Have you had an ecounter with Ecoflow portable power station? What is your take on it?

Yes oooo ...

Especially, if u live up stairs with lil or no obstruction from surrounding buildings ... you'll be relatively fine at this period...

Exactly ... the fan will only move air irrespective of its temperature so if the air is hot, u get blow by hot air and that's where the AC comes in ...

Weird things? About ACs?

Its just mere speculations and misinformation jare ...

I'm considering getting ... a portable one instead of the split to avoid being wounded by nepa bills ...

RevenuesBoost:
😄😄
At least the well ventilated apartment is better off at nights.

It's as if the fan is blowing out hot air instead of remedying the situation.

I've heard so many weird things about AC that I haven't considered getting one yet.

Its not only your side ...

The temperature dey enter 32 degrees but the feeling dey be like 42 degrees or more ....

People living in not well ventilated apartments go suffer am pass ....

If u can afford it, get 1 hp ac or humidifier or mist fan to atleast, cool things down ...

RevenuesBoost:
Is it just my area, or is the sun getting hotter by the day?

E remain small mek person sleep inside refrigerator 😄
I honestly can’t wait for harmattan to finally set in so we can enjoy some cool weather again.

Meanwhile, Baby Light is already taking care of herself with her heat-treatment powder to prevent heat rashes that come with this intense weather.

https://youtube.com/shorts/oIC3OHZ6MAg?si=xKGeB3mp4hZRFHFa

10 Days Left and She'll be One Year Old

You get am ... nobody wants them cos of how they behave ...

I hope they won't turn SA to another conflict zone

Kayberg:
And soon… the South Africans will find out why all the Arab nations refused to take them in…

Suspend my foot!!!

FreeStuffsNG:
Mr. Wike stood in loco the President of Nigeria and Commander-in-Chief of the Nigerian Armed Forces on that fateful day. Consequently, even if the superior officer were still in service, he would not disobey Mr. Wike or obstruct him from entering the land. This was an affront to the civil authority of Mr. President.

The Minister’s method may be brash; but it is legal and lawful in all respects. Rather, it is the officer who obstructed him that has breached not just the Nigerian Constitution, but also service and extant regulatory laws. For the avoidance of any doubt, section 114 of the Armed Forces Act makes military personnel criminally liable for civil offences. This means the officer in question could be arraigned before a Court Martial for obstructing a public officer from performing his public duties, et cetera.

Patriotic Nigerians have started talking.

The least FG and the Military authorities can do right now is to immediately suspend him while preparing for his arraignment.

Debit card ...

Works on Spotify and they just debited me some mins ago sef

silento:
Is it a debit or credit card ?

I use my stanbic ibtc master card ...

I get charged in naira ...

You don't need a dollar card to make payment again

silento:
please which virtual card can i use to pay for google play developers account or any method to obtain a card that can be used to pay for developers account that doesn't involve stress of Nigerian banks

Chief, use your money chop!!!

1 million won't go anywhere with how bad things are ...

Olodonairaland:
What country can I start a visa processing with 1 million naira , I want to apply as skill work visa.

Please nairalander I need your opinion
This is going to be without agent.

Eeya, you're doing great, helping out your siblings but i'd like to chip in 1 or 2 things.

What are the other 2 doing

See, there is only 1 Jesus and He died for us all, a long time ago ... Don't be another Jesus.

Lets the others get a job no matter how small to contribute, even if its 20 to 50% of the burden you're carrying... Even your brother in school should find something (legit) to do as side hustle ... Haba, you're not the one that put everyone in that condition na ...

Trust me, if you're not there (God forbid, if u pai), they'll find their way ...

This family burden carrying is the reason a lot of young people are dropping dead due to high level of stress, trying to meet up with "so called responsibilities"

I understand your momma's plight and that's acceptable but shouldering every little responsibility is a no no ... no let anybody fool u about one blessing or the other ...

As per the health thing, try do health insurance scheme for them ... u can get for as low as 14 to 20k (yearly payment) ... that will save u a lot of money buying drugs here & there ...

There's a limit to the amount of stress your body/mind can cope with .... don't allow it to overwhelm u ...

I might sound harsh but, your sanity and survival is your no 1 priority ... Stay blessed

MistyDense:
I don't know if anyone of you can relate to this. But to be truthful, I can't continue taking up these multiple responsibilities anymore.

I'm the oldest of four younger siblings, and we just have one Male among us, who is the Last born. I'm training him in sch, a tertiary institution. The other two girls are already done with their school and are presently learning some skills.
None is contributing anything. I work from Mondays to Sundays without Rest. From house rent to feeding, to medics, transport, sch fees, light bills and others, I do all of them. I make sure I work to earn every penny I make. It is so bad that I don't have any savings. My clothes are worn out cos I can't afford new ones. Also, I can't afford my soap and cream any longer because there are more pressing issues to fix.
The burden has become so much, coupled with stress from work. Sometimes I overthink things and breakdown.
My mum isn't working due to her sight. She's completely Without sight. I had to hire someone to be taking care of her as we all go out for our daily activities.
I'm thinking of asking my younger brother to drop out for now so that the burden can reduce for now, but I don't know how to tell him because I don't know how he would feel. He's already in 200L.. It will break him I know, but I'm trying to cut cost at least for a year first, before he can return back to sch. If this happens, I fear he may take his life, due to the passion he has for sch. He's a very bright student. The most academically sound person in my family.

A lot of pressure is on me. I don't want to do what other girls are doing. I don't want to start sleeping with men for money because I need to protect my dignity as a woman until I'm married. I've turned down a lot of suitors already because I don't want to drag them into my family's struggles and later they start insulting me for being a burden to them. I refused to marry for now because of this.
Life isn't easy and hasn't being easy since the loss of our dad 10years ago.

Sometimes, I stay in my room and cry all through the night. I can't share my struggles with anyone for fear of being mocked and insulted behind my back.
Sometimes I feel like running far away that nobody will be able to see me or even call my lines.
I'm really messed up.
At times, I feel like I should just vanish from the surface of the earth.

I'm just confused.

Nlfpmod

It should if you have the plans drafted out properly and know what u are doing & yeah, stick to a flat roof ...

And also, if u use direct labour but if na with building contractor, you'll spend wella ...

Most of these people are over hyping prices jare ... and some will still buy fake cement/blocks wiring for u

Sirchiboy:
Engineers in the house can 10m build two bedroom from down to finishing level

Bros, be calming down na ... 2015 13inches for 345k? Say wetin happen

Still bought one some 2 weeks ago for waaay lesser and its direct UK ...

If u want to get it sold faster, lower the price ...

I use the 15inch and i know how e be for mac world ....

alaricsaltzman:
13" MacBook Pro 2015 available for sale
2.7 GHz processor speed
Intel core i5 dual core
8GB 256 SSD
Price: 345k (negotiable)
Location: Ogudu/Maryland, Lagos
Call/WhatsApp: 08081734899

I pray and hope not but if it happens, its not the end of the world.

She go chop small slaps but we'll have deep dialogue and help her make a good choice "if" she wants to marry her baby daddy or finish what she's doing and move on with life.

Throwing her out is never a good thing. Na still my daughter na!!!

Principles are made for people and not the other way round!!!

The world won't end!!! We will overcome the issue and move on jare!

bigpicture001:
You have a young adult family of four children.. your daughter of about 22years got pregnant and brings it home...

As a father of the house what is your next line of action..?

The question nobody is asking is:

Se na tinted glass lead to insecurity

The answer is no!!!

We have left the way, enter bush ... Why do the masses have to pay for tinted glass?

The court should just ensure that registration thing is buried forever!!!

You're always welcome chief!!!

Together, we rise!!!

PoultryStuffx:
Thanks so much for your continuous response. I'll save a little more and get your recommendation. Thanks once again!

Well its not bad but with the experience i have, 8gb for mac is not advisable ...

it will work but when u try to run multiple apps, that's where you might not get top notch performance so, i'll advise u get 16gb ram version and 256gb storage upwards (512gb recommended) cos 512gb (my storage space), gets filled up fast when working and as a rule, its always advisable to leave about 5 to 10% of total space for better performance ... ...

The 2020 can be upgraded to MacOs Sequioa and will be relevant for a couple of years ...

M1 16gb ram, 256/512gb Storage is the recommended specs bro!

PoultryStuffx:
Boss, is it fair to get a 2020 macbook pro 2020 m1, 8gb 256 ssd for 1 million naira? And the version is MacOS Sonoma 14.4.1, will this work for my iOS deployment?

On point!!!

Its always advisable to have awopa at home ... soaked and ready to be used incase any malay wan show face ....

Malaria, especially typhoid, should never be toyed with

Kalulu44:
You had malaria and you run to pharmacist, when simple agbo would have cured

Wow!!! You've done really great keeping your chin up despite your status.

See, there's nothing to be scared or afraid of ...

I had a sister friend in church ... She got it via rape (armed robbers) ... Tried to kill herself, she was rescued, councelled and today? She's married with kids ...

The day we got to know, i was shocked to my bones cos we had lived under same roof, ate together, etc ... She was told to come and educate us about HIV matter ... after the speech, I went to hug her ... Cos the courage to still live ...

She didn't choose that path na, neither did u...

So, don't feel bad ... keep doing the best you can and i can assure u, you'll be fine ...

I believe with time, there's gonna be a solution but till then, keep using your ARV, ok

RetroviralS:
Before you scroll past, ask yourself: what does it mean to live with HIV in Nigeria at 20? Not just survive but thrive, build a tech career, and fight for your reputation.


✅I’ve lived through the fear, the stigma, and the silence.

✅I’ve skipped meds and nearly died.

✅I’ve built tech skills and found love. But many AYPLHIV don’t get that chance.

✅We don’t want pity.

✅We want access, support, and respect. That's exactly what we are providing at Retroviral Solutions (RVS)

I didn’t choose this path, but I chose how I walk it. If this story made you pause, share it. Let’s change the narrative.



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