onlyme07:

Can we tag it insecurity? I don't tbink so, 'cos even in marriage,the parents are meant to stay away to avoid clash. A woman will always be a woman,a lot of ladies will capitalise on it and even go back to their dad if their is issue at home which can be seen with the high rate of divorce among the well to do in the society.

To me,the dad can buy and give to the husband and or give cash to the wife has a price tag for making him proud. Let us learn to respect marriages to avoid divorce. No matter how rich our parents are,our husband is still the head. Be proud of your husband irrespective of your background. Goodmorning this morning.

God bless, most kids dont know how far.

theo1477:
I may not feel disrespectfull if women are to be trusted with wealth and fame without being arrogant. But maintain a sort of dignity and respect for you from the woman, your father should carry you along. Not informing in everything that come into your house is not the best.

Thank you.

jaxxy:


The op has he reasons for taking dat line that many guys have failed to see. If u hv ever heard of a controlling father inlaw u will understand. U act like because u married his daughter ure now his son and u will control u more than ur father sef. In such case u hv to put ur foot on the ground. Even when the daughter is respectful to u or else u turn from husband to baby. This happens alot with fathers who are well to do and connected. They will dish out orders to their daughter in ur house and because he feeding u because of ur stupidity or lack of foresight u can't say no to his commands.

So i will say it depends on th type of father inlaw u have and also the understanding with u wife. Just like u want ur mum to respect ur wife. She shud also want her father to respect u. So don't go eating smtn dat will hook i in the neck later. Lol

Thank you.

DrinkLimca:
So because his daughter is married to you..

A proud father can't buy gifts for his daughter again...

The husband should know that the Father inlaw is rich Even before he got married to the girl.. A real husband should be happy for his wife..

He will have to deal with it for the rest of his life, the best he can do is man up and be richer than the Father inlaw, so next time, the father inlaw will have no need to buy a car for his daughter because the husband can do all that..

I have two younger sisters that I love More than life itself and nothing will stop me from buying the whole world for them Even if they are already married or not..

Family over everything...

no woman on earth can take the place of my sisters.. and i mean it..

Not after everything we have been through..

modified and Note: if you are a lady reading this and will probably be my future wife tomorrow, don't be scared, my sisters are good and God fearing ladies..

I will love you as I love them..

Ever wonder why only women are quoting you to have your back, i wont honour you with a comment.
When you are of age, you will know how far.
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By the way, when you are married, your wife comes first and when your sisters are married, their husband becomes their number one. When they start dating, they will show you what i mean not to talk of when they are married.

booqee:
But it would be wrong if the FIL doesn't inform the guy before making the purchase

Initially i didnt want to comment, but on reading your post i have to give you a thumbs up. So many immatured kids on this forum, i will never stop my FIL from buying my wife gift, but i will feel disrespected if i was not informed.
Its never about the gift, its about honour.
Thank you.

psalmistkakah:
Am sorry to say this about Yoruba men, but so piss up, my elder sister got married to a Yoruba man who claimed to be a born again Christian till date. over fourteen years with four children the most senior is over 13 years old, he has never send any of them to school, he owned a small private school, some how the school fold up over ten years ago, he refuse to get a job, all he keep saying he want to be a pastor by owing his own church but never want to be a sheep of an established pastor before establishing his, he made my sister to burn all she acquire while she was single saying she got them in a sinful way, aquising his mother to be witch, never allow his family to visit his parents, till the dead of his dad he wasn't in good term. My sister feed from hand to mouth, we do send money and bag of rice to her and my mum family have been of help to her.
The last that just happened now and we ask my sister to come back home and leave him, we gave her money to sent the children to school and she manage to get a job, just last week he asked my sister to stop work and the children should stop schooling, that he is going to open his school, he has no kobo. He is depending on the money my sister will get because my uncle out of his good will farm ginger for my sister and asked her to go and harvest it, which she did and on process even the transport for her to go and harvest he doesn't have I have to send it, imagine he told my sister to asked my uncle to do harvesting sell produce and sent the money to them. My sister and the children are now with us. Are Yoruba men this lazy, I have a neighbour too she is Yoruba and the husband's too, the man refuse to work just lazing around, learn hand work he refuse, the woman got angry and kick him out..Abeg make una reason am, because am thinking of arresting the man for negligence of family responsibility after all he physically fit and can work.

The moment you begin going tribalistic, i knew u wouldnt have any thing good to say, so expect no good advise from those that will comment.
Contrary to your belief, yoruba men are hardworking and dont take nonsense, and being lazy is not about a tribe or religion or a colour, its about the personalty of the person.
The question is, was your sister forced into the marriage?
Didnt she see this traits in him beofre they got married, why are you now taking panadol for your sisters issue?
This your story does not even add up at all, u said the man is a school owner, tell me...what kind of school owner will not send his children to school, not even his own school before it pack up?


Abeg, go park well and lets move on to reasonable things.

NIGHTMAREOO7:
Go to every betting shop in Lagos and see many of playing gambling.
Thats what they know how to do best.
They like to make it through shortcut they dont like working for it.
Thats why u see them here Laffing at hustling igbo boys selling gala.
While they stroll lazilybin groups in the street

I guess those are the kind of people u roll with, which says alot about you. #Ode

tossie101:
Yoruba men?
Thats how they behave oo.. talking from experinces...I live and work with them.

There are good ones but just rare VERY RARE!.
Initially they pretend to be good just to get what they want. But later u see their true colors.

mumu

CaptainGOOD:
Majority of them are like that. I tell u.

Idiot

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How much for this matress pls?and also include location.

MisoCytotec:
Doctors, Come In To Help Please

I don't care about the judgement right now.
drsteroid

Doctors, please help me and put me through my difficult time.
I discovered that I am pregnant after a blood test, the pregnancy was not up to Four weeks because I was suppose to see my period on 6th of January. My last Period date was 14th December.

I took Miso-fem, 800mg vaginally on 9th of January, there was cramps and pains but no bleeding at all. I took the second set the next day by placing the tablets under the tongue and yet no bleeding. I was scared because there was serious pains but I did not even drop a blood.

On Friday, I went for Ultra Sound. The man that attended to me said that if the pregnancy is not up to 4 weeks, It will not show on the scan. I asked him if I was not suppose to see blood after taking Miso-fem even if the pregnancy is not up to a month. He answered affirmatory that I was suppose to bleed.

I talked to a Nurse, the Nurse advised me to get Cytotec.
On Sunday, I bought Cytec. I used it vaginally as well, there was pains but no bleeding. Up till now, I have not bleed after taking Miso-fem and Cytotec. I have been doing exercise hoping it will push out the blood. What could be the problem? Is there any explanation for this? I have not see my period, no blood and my breasts are sore. Am I still pregnant? Will I bleed later?

Mods, I need you to push this to FP please.

You have deformed the baby already. With all these drugs you are using, I hope u have not damaged your womb like this
God forgive you

Papanwamaikpe:
Ambode is working. This picture is to deceive those that have not been to Lagos recently

What does that say about the people living around that place and the companies around that place. Ambode cannot be everywhere and he can't do it all himself.
Some of you will stall blame government even if you cannot fu*k your wife to her satisfaction.

Blonchilli:

There's an update. I've reported to the police and I'm trying to track his phone number. However he was seen on whatsapp 22:25 hrs the day he left home, and 19:25 hrs yesterday and he's not replying messages. My major concern is tracking his location so if you have other means we can track him I'll be grateful

When you obtain a police report and some other documents the telecom company will request for, Since he's on whats app. Keep calling his number, Go to the telecom company, they will give you his last location, what i mean is that the mast his phone used in communicating will be traced and they will give you his last know location, from there you can easily traced what he is doing in that area if there is someone he knows there.
God help you.

Hopeak:

I borrowed some money to arrange myself after I was relieved of my job(though contract) and I also have Phcn bills which has accumulated for some number of months.. They brought me a Disconnection notice and stated the amount that I have to pay, else they will disconnect and take away the wire. I had to look for a way to plead with the guy and told him that I will try and do my best before they come again.. My best hasn't been fruitful because things are really difficult for me right now..My concern is really on the debt I owe to 2 of my neigbours before they lost the trust they have in me.I can afford to live in darkness, but don't pray to get humiliated or lost my trust with my neigbours..

You cant afford to live in darkness? and so the best way is to come to Nairaland to beg for money, you did not even ask for job or anything opportunity to earn something in life. You are begging money up and down, will you come back to beg again when the money finish?

iamJ:
at ur old age, ure saying mummy

ur sense neva mature yet



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to all those mentioning me, a matured man calls his mama mum, mother not mummy

I think u are the one without sense here, how is how he calls his mum your business. Mumcy is nonsense u know, its just a made up word.

vickydevoka:
Who be diamond self

Serioudly, you don't know who diamond platinum is?
He's far better than 99% of Nigerian musicians
He has bring in the scene for a while now and sing good musics

Jodha:
Generally it's wrong for a lady to cook for a guy she's not married to....

Only yhu go ...go him house only yhu go cook for am...tufia....
If he visits yhu courtesy demand yhu entertain him..with either food or snacks...

Apart from that...ladies do not cook for a guy that's not yhur husband... Do not give him yhur other food...

Ladies wise up it's 2018...it's too early to be foolish...

Speak for yourself biko.

princealexndre:
that's his profits he is talking about not the shows profit

The show made 500M not his profit.

olasaad:
Adorable meanwhile some people will be masturbating now

What is the meaning of this nonsense now?

Keneking:
How much will he declare sef?

LIRS is asking for Year 2018 returns...what happens to previous years?

Anyway, my guy would go solo this year, perhaps travel overseas thereby going under radar or wait for Buhari to announce his non-interest in contesting for second term.

Abeg can anyone confirm if Davido, Wizkid, Kiss Daniel are also compliant..

LASAA should also send invoices to these guys as their advert is everywhere you go: lagos traffic, youtube, cd sellers etc

You did not even read the letter at all, he's to pay tax for 2017

fhorlar:




Ok thanks for your honest feedback and airing your opinion.everything you have said is duly noted but Well, as regards my material criterias, i really don't think am being unrealistic and far from egotistical at all.housing??
won't you need a house for shelter? Or a car to get around?come on,are u seriously saying that less than one percent of the world's male population have what i need? When am not even asking for dangote's wealth in the first place.those requirements are what I would simply term as basics of life not a luxury. Something that would be beneficial in the long term.
You certainly don't want your pregnant wife to be doing "standing" in a molue bus for instance. In my own opinion,hustle and hustle hard to get something comfortable for your family to take care of your wife and children and stop excuses . Plan your life and plan it well. I am also a hustler and a realist.Wake up at 5:30am,get back 10pm kind of lady. So the hustle is for everyone so let's just try out best.

Warm regards

Do u have a car yourself?

Dproles:
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taylor88:
Na ugly girls dey marry these days




Fine girls what's happening

Ugly girls know what they want and go for it. While fine girls are busy slaying without sense.

berrystunn:


Yes bro I totally understand your point of view.
Igbo's have this large family tree call kinsman...

They place that rules and tradition... Not the father.
I also married from Igbo land ...total cost on the list was 340k .. . the bride price is 2k they collected 1500 and give back the rest...

Now the list that amount to 340k... Drinks for so so and so Eg the Ada's , / kinsman, youth, and other related group confirming the marriage...

Goat , yam ,large pot of wine, etc... To different group...
That came to witness the marriage.

If you want to add to it just to make it sweet.. Fine
If you want to spend up to 1m, that is your business...of which too many girls want there marriage to look richer then others ...

And again Anambra list is different from IMO state list ...also different from Enugu list..

I do understand now sha.

berrystunn:


What do you know about Igbo's and their traditions ?

Every village in Igbo land have their different requirements for traditional marriage.
They will provide you a list and all the steps needed for the traditional marriage...

No body will force the list on you if you are not capable,
Or if you needed more time or years to get things done.. No problem

The stupid girl saw the list or know about the requirements before the marriage... But she waited till after the marriage... Before oppose the list in public...

For your information is not the Father , the list is from the village community/kinsmen.

That is the reason why they take the marriage to the village ,If not the father will choose to receive his in-laws in Lagos or else where....

I agree with you on the girl attitude. Back to the village wedding, it should not be so. Girl child should not be a commodity where the whole village will cash on.

Also, being able to meet up with the bride requirements does not mean the man will be able to take care of the woman. It can even make it worse because the man has this sense of him acquiring the woman like a yam u buy in the market.

horsepower101:


There was a thread on Nairaland years ago where Yoruba women married to igbo men all confirmed the same thing. They all said that Igbo husbands know how to take care of their wives and family. They will go extra mile to make sure that their family is comfortable.

Also one thing in that thread that yoruba men won over Igbo men was in being romantic. Yoruba men in general were more romantic but Igbo men took very good care of their family needs. It is ingrained in our Igbo culture.

It is well

Ekealterego:

Do you know that Igbo men will also go out of their family to observe the same traditions when they marry from another Igbo family? No one is extorting from you. People within the ethnic group know how to negotiate things down and make compromises.
Igbo men who marry within the tribe do not have a problem with the culture why then are people outside the ethnic group fighting to change the culture? Its like a rite of passage and very important to us, if you are from outside the ethnic group and not okay with this, you can equally go for the other pretty women outside the ethnic group but we can't change our culture to satisfy you when the Igbo men have observed this rite for centuries.
I'm sorry if you have an eye on one of our sisters, its best you go with an elderly friend an Igbo man will be better. In most cases, its the community rites and ceremony that shoot the price up and not the immediate family and you don't even need a white wedding or any other wedding to be recognized as a son-in-law.

Well said

tossie101:


Nothing

Okay

tossie101:


Yep

Good for you.