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mbhs139: i'm somehow in that dilemma too. the only difference between me and him is that i can't get married to the woman in [b]my own case because i have elder ones who will first be given the first right of refusal. but i'm taking care of her within my resources even though i'm still single. [/b]i just wonder how she's been coping for the past two years

Badt guy... However don't make it like it is limited to a certain culture.
It is rooted in most traditional cultures to ensure the woman did not go with the inheritance of the late brother
Judaism also allowed it

Toonice: THANKS

no p.. so how is it going now?

VALIDATOR: This is a very difficult situation the OP has found himself in. First of all the government does not cater in anyway for the woman and her 5 children. Hence, she needs financial and material support. Secondly, she needs emotional and sexual fulfillment as well. Where should she get that from? From unmarried guys her son's age? Or is there any man that will find a woman with such a baggage attractive? The best person for the job is the OP.

May be you should give your wife a hint of what your bros wife is going through and watch her reaction. You can't marry her. I am glad you are already supporting her materially. May be you should start having discrete sexual intercourse with her once in a while (say monthly). She should understand too that she can't have it the way she wants it.

Ver importantly, do not take your decision alone. Let someone else know about it. Maybe your wife's brother. I hope he will be understanding. And heyy, use condom always if you have to enter the place.Not ideal but better for her than nothing.

dude, it is even beter they get married than this your particular advice
what is she gets pregant again
Do you want the family to think the man killed his brother to inherit his wife
What if she wants more of the man and resorts to other means including diabolical ish

wirinet: This is a touching story, but it highlights the contradictions within our society. That is why i do not support wholesale adoption of foreign religions and culture. Societies that mandate or allow young widows to re-marry the late husband's brothers were attempting to solve practical problems in a very pragmatic way. I am an advocate of women protection and women's right and it is sad that women (and orphaned children) are not protected under the Christian religion.

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To me the situation is a very complex one, but the best way to resolve the issue is for the whole family has to be involved in any decision taken.

Excellent POV, wirinet, very well put out

@maclatunji
I just have a question for you
Earlier you made this post,
they seem similar to me in principle
Can a woman marry teo husbands.. please let me know what you think

maclatunji: Excuse me madam, Islam totally forbids marrying two sisters as co-wives.

This is [size=28pt]DAY 16[/size]

OP you can do a search on NL for some of this your topics. Nothing is new under the sun

https://www.nairaland.com/1211928/wife-cooks-badly

If u use the search button on NL, there are countless threads on Househelps
Read and contribute there

Mods pls close

continue.. make u dey nack dem akpako!

carry go

Afam4eva: Pls is this the Inter Milan team or International Milan club in Botswana? How can a Grade C team like tottenham be beating an Inter MIlan team by 3 goals to nil? I can't believe this.

it is the curse of benites

freddoo no wahala


this defoe sef dey waste chances

fredoo i hail o

do u follow f1 too

selfish defoe

na inter b dis....

this vertoghen is good o

gol

i hail baale o

valid call, held his man before d jump

Goal for steaua


utd scummies, oya UEFA conspiracy again

pen! betrand

chelsea is finished .. no purpose to their play

[quote author=Alaura-Laura]You gotta be kidding me....This Is Front Page?....LmL...[/quote]so why cant it b front thread

chelsea are european champs

that shd be a yelow he pushed torres

no shots so far

Eze Promoe: [color=crimson]I'll advice when I confirm the credibility of the story [/color]

LMAO.. this guy u no go kill persin

The reality is that it may be true or not
But pple post based on experiences close to them or around them

It is not new that the concept of spousal inheritance but it seems to be at variance with modern realities whcih is the need for the advice

If u get anytin to add, add
we all learn everyday

jiraiyas: Dude dnt argue kakashi said so period ,he is nt tellin u dat is d true bt he is only tellin u wat kakashi said

tx sir, there seems to be a love of intellectual stimulation on the thread

adabeke12: you guys are saying she is taking this serious... shiiit i would if it was my bestfriend. nd i feel like ya'll r saying no to revenge bcuz it's a fellow nigerian. Hurt him financially, physically,emotionally, spiritually etc. BREAK THE MAN IN HIM.

If all you can read so far in what everyone has posted, that she/her friend is being admonished to drop the hatchet and move on wit Her life, is that they are saying what they are saying because they are nigerians and protecting the man because he is nigerian; then your level of delusion far exceeds that Of the op.

Continue your plotting then op since cheating is obviously a naija thing and does not exist elsewhee

EZE POMO U DON HEAR NAU..
OYA ADVISE AM

bros i dont think its a good idea for you to be involved with your late brothers wife except maybe on the grounds of tradition
That is if it is allowed in your culture

The jews allowed it for purposes of inheritance and i dont see if it is relevant in this issue
even if it were, the pitfalls are too many

Stay clear

babyosisi: I bet she sits up all night commanding the cockroaches in her kitchen to die die die

Die Die Die witches fall down and die

rotflmaO

[quote author=tpia@]I think you should just go to the market or a store instead of opening a thread about it on nl, because by doing the latter you attract all kinds of evil wishers and satanic agents who do not like to see anything good.[/quote]Now this is the definition of hyper - paranoia
You must be scared of your own shadow. heck your breath sef

M M M: EWU nta NAMA

Mumum why u sef dey misyarn
anyhow sha.. have fun

Goshen360:

Okay sister, lemme start by stating the basic of our teachings.

We accept the Grace based giving as taught in the New Testament - that is, sharing our income and resources with God's people, the church and the worship places for the advancement of God's kingdom and in keeping up with our other social\family\living responsibilities. This Grace based giving and sharing can be any percentage as a man purpose in his heart to give and we believe therein lies God's blessing because as the earth remains, seed time and harvest shall not cease.

We reject the teachings of 'fixed' or 'legalized' (according to the law of Moses) or 'compulsory' and 'mandatory' of 10% of Christian's monthly income kind of giving called by the name 'tithe'. We believe Hebrews 7 in the entire context ended the Moses law of tithing, that is, tithing according to the law of Moses and tithing before the law of Moses while the teachings of Christ and the Apostles released Christians to free will giving.

This is the simple tenets of our Christian teachings here under Grace and herein we teach the truth of God's word for the Church. The above, if expanded contains bible truth and consistence from Genesis to Revelation. Thank you!

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christemmbassey: in addition we are NOT AGAINST GIVING TO 'PASTORS', you can give 10% or 100 of whatever but dont call it tithe odawise ud be puting a condemned thing(law of Moses) over and above TREASURE(GRACE) and that is profanity. Remain blessed.

alexleo: Now we see a confused house here. While two of you agree to freewill offering. A confused and rebellous frosbel kicks against any kind of giving in the church from the posts he has been putting here and cartoons. You people should go and harmonise your stand and spare us the discordant tune. And mind you- we aint gonna stop giving our tithe and offering. Save yourself the stress Goshen360 and christembassy. As for the confused chap(frosbel), let him keep wallowing in his utter foolishness and rebellion. His little mind will be telling him that he is converting A WHOLE LOT OF PEOPLE into his anti-tithe and anti-giving in the church madness when he is actually not doing a pinch. PITY.

@alexleo from this summary and from where i see it, the POVs are consistent
Their focus is on the motive for the giving
If you give ten percent of your income to a charitable cause (churches, orphans, widows, less privileged) ensure you check yourself that there is no pride in your heart and it is borne out of gratitude for His Grace in your life rather than a legalistic act with a motive to reap somthing from baba
That is kalo kalo