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Guyman02: Please can you summarise the most important tips and suggestions you picked up so that others can learn from them. Dont just walk away like that after Nlers have spent their time on your issue. Thanks as you do so.

MRbrownJAY: lewis in a race car is a demon, and can make a race car do stuff that many never dream of. i fully respect the abilities of this man, and would never dare to say that Alonso is a better driver than the Hamster (he just won more championship than him, lol). Vettel has also won a few championships, no questions about the fact that he can certainly drive, but we can all confirm that his style is boring, to say the least, and we rarely see some wonderful driving. he simply puts the car in pole, then drive in clean free air till the finish line.......oya, Vettel cheerleaders, come argue that one out!!!

ablyguy: I know of a man with not so different behaivour. He's a driver. Whenever he has a misunderstanding with his wife at home, his heart keeps fluttering, making him restless and out of focus which according to him affects his driving. Because of that he usually distances himself from arguments and would be the first to beg no matter who is at fault. Unluckly for him he married a wife with an acerbic tongue. He does the same with ousiders. But when it comes to physical provocation he turns into something else. If you value yourself during conflicts you don't want to lay your finger on him. He won't run away from a physical fight but would from a verbal one.

I think the problem with this kind of people usually stemmed from their mother. If the mother was verbally abusive, then expect such behaivour from him. Because the only way he learnt how to handle such was keeping quite. But running away from home for months is something I can't explain. Probably what was said to him must be really bad?

I think the only way to solve the problem is to watch what you say to him. If you can't, then look for someone else that can tolerate your words...

yellowpawpaw: Oh! U did nothing wrong sir. A friend said she lvd ur posts and was like..........u no de rest.
HML to u.I will laugh at her tomoro.

drake2: Its not funny at all. My Uncle once married a woman, they both had 2 children ; very good job with a british company and very rich too.

Every thing is available in the house including official and private cars, but this woman would often nag and even violently smash the windshield of the car in which he was being taken to the office in the morning .

He devised a way of avoiding her hurting words and violence by frequently going to work from a hotel room in Ikeja anytime he smelled trouble in the house.

The marriage has since become history, some women can truncate your life ; my eldest brother died of stroke cos of a similar scenario.

yellowpawpaw: Biolabee,r u married? I mean it o.

Beebash: Hello peeps,pls I need ur candid advice on this one. My elder sister and her husband work in the same company and the company has a hidden policy that doesn't tolerate husband and wife working together in the company,so someone has to resign. Here's the problem,my sister earns twice her husband salary and has been our breadwinner since the demise of popsy,pls what can she do to save her marriage,thanks.

ladeski: murrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrraaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

Ujujoan: Actually it's not very funny. I was raised by very strict disciplinarians but not once was I ever chased away from home for not calling before a visit. . .

I remember one time I came home from school around 10.00pm. . . Mumsy was too glad to see me safe to bother about not getting a call. It's strange I tell you . . . very strange indeed!

Ujujoan: May God not let me establish a home where my own kids need to give me notice before the visit! Na wah . . .

I wonder what would have happened if the neighbour your mother 'banished' you to refused to let you in because you didn't call . . .

kulyie: if I can do that to someone that is not my blood,biola gbagbe,I will do worse for someone who is not my flesh and blood.my own mom has made me sleep in a neighbours house because I did not call her before comming,even my dad didn't say anything.if an outsider sees what my mom did to me,you think she won't know she will do worse

kulyie: yorubas say mowa foniwa oun logun ore.if you know this persons principles and belief system,do it to avoid unnecessary squabbles.its part of civility.is that to hard to ask for.oga o


My siblings know me and what I am capable of doing.I respect their likes and dislikes.mysister does not like me playing game on her phone even when her battery is full,my mother does not like me searching her handbag and wardrobe and I respect it so I don't expect any of my siblings to cross their boundary by not respecting my own principles to.if they try it they know what I will do and if I try flouting theirs I know what they will do so that is how we were trained to respect our differences how much more inlaws.even if it is raining and you come to my house unnanouced,the only help I will do is to give you umbrella to go back to where you are comming from and I will pray for journey mercies.kojubelo

I join you in this prayer. No one can come and scatter my children and what i built. Holy Ghost fire!!!

kulyie: that is the way my mother taught me and that is the way i will teach my children.yorubas say no ,matter how close a father and a son is and they both have a farm,that farm must have boundaries.


In cases of emergency,thats quite understandable,i mean i am human,so i can understand,but when you just show up on me unannouced,omo,you will go back to your house that same day.i remembered some few years back.last year or so. one of my cousins,from my dads side came to the house ( i was on leave so i went home then) she came around 7 pm,my mom did not open the gate for her and she said none of us must move an inch.my dad had already slept then because he was ill then.she went downstairs and was talking to her from the gate,without opening the gate.i( took my moms behaviour anyway,her,she is very strong willed) just as i am,she said hope no problem,nike said no,mom said do you have a phone,nike said yes,mom said so why cant you call,nike said i felt it wasnt necessary since you are my mom also.my mom said,whats your time,she said quarter to 8,my mom said i wont entertain indiscipline and lawlessness in my home,go back to wherever you are comming from,she said ma its late na,this is quarter to 8.my mom said thats why i first asked you if thjere was no emmergency and you had a phone.that day she went back.she was very upset with my mom and kept malice with her for a long time.. my mom didnt send her,much later she did her wedding.my mom still came for her wedding and contributed financially to the organisation of the wedding.i dont even know how they settled their issues because i travelled back to my base but if i was my mom i will do exactly the same thing because she has taught me that i should call whenever i am comming.

donchris9999: Chai! I should let my brother know that i want to visit him before i go visiting him. My own brother same papa same mama, choi! Mehn, the world has changed oo. So before my brother comes to visit me, he should let me know first because of my wife. My brother same mama same papa. I wish you lots teach your children all this things you all post on nairaland oo. Choi! Instead of people to be balanced in giving advice they just tend to be one-sided, because, its not their children. Imagine me calling my brother or my brother calling me before a visit because of my wife. Choi! When i dont even give a damn how many time my wife's siblings visit, when, they are siblings and not strangers. Welcome to nairaland the land of naira!

MRbrownJAY: ^ bro, the way Perez is driving, challenging Button etc, is what is needed in these teams. forget respect given, let it be EARNED on the track. we can clearly see that he is hungry for it, unlike many out there who are just paid drivers with absolutely NO skills, NO drive, NO hunger.

MRbrownJAY: ^^ if none of the top drivers, i would prefer one of the Mexican drivers: Perez or Gutierrez.

platos56: Are dey really d same....mehn!!!