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Anoymus:
I have a girlfriend I am meaning to propose to during the festive period, she's everything I want in a woman except few exception which might be a hindrance to the proposal.
Gist is, my babe is a graduate but lack of work made her to learn fashion designing, she's done with the training and she's very good with what she does.

After marriage, I have told her that I'll assist in her business, I'm planning to get a bigger shop space for her and equip it with modern day machines, tools and tailoring materials goods to help make her work lucrative. I'm budgeting about 1.2-1.5m for this.

The issue now is that, 3 days ago, I asked her what her role would be if eventually after marriage she gets the shop, equipments and all, where she would come in in terms of responsibilities in the house. Her reply was she doesn't want to assume any responsibility and that it's my duty to cater for the family and she can only help & I shouldn't make anything compulsory for her. So many thoughts came through my mind. One of it was that, where the proceeds of her investment would be going to if I should shoulder all the responsibilities in the house knowing fully well that she makes money.

I rang my mum and told her of her response, I was shocked that she backed her saying that I shouldn't have asked her to foot anything in the house that it was my sole responsibility as a man to cater for my family my wife inclusive. My dad too, same thing. Even told my gf mum about it too , she giggled and said I shouldn't have asked her n that it's my duty to provide for my family. They all sounded foreign to me. Or am I the one not understanding?

My question now is, why invest that kind of money in her when I'm not sure of getting little or nothing in terms in return help to run the family. That sum of money could get me 4 brand new bikes and 2 neatly used Keke Napep for transportation business. I'm sure I'll be getting returns from these investment weekly or monthly basis.

I don't want who wouldn't have any sense of responsibility at home after investing in her, even if she's covering 10% or 5% I wouldn't mind. Mere helping doesn't go down well with me, she might have and decide not to give out. I rather not invest at all and expect nothing from her.

I don't know if I'm the one over thinking this things or my parent and her mum aren't seeing things from my perspective or am I being inconsiderate?

Criticism, Insults and bashing are welcomed. Thanks

I hate meddling into affairs like this but something in me feels like I have to contribute.
My brother, in marriage what you actually marry is the reasoning of the opposite gender not her skin, beauty, sex style or other nonsense you people like nowadays. You marry the mindset that compliments yours. The one that has what you lack. In few years all the other nonsense will fade but her mindset grows. That is if she is a feminist, the feminism turns to androphobia and the rest.
What you are playing with is real fire. A girl that cares about you won't say such nonsense. She has made it clear that she is not in for the building of the family but as a guest that can leave if things go south.
Now imagine in worst cases when business aren't makkossa as usual and you want to seek help from her, what her response would be. She will tell you that she made it clear that your job is to provide and not hers. After which she will nag the living daylight out of you by telling you how you failed in your sole responsibility. That you had one job and you messed it up.
How do you think that those pity looking men we meet in bars that drink themselves to stupor everyday come to be? Those are the men that made the same mistake you are about to make. They ignore the Golden sign their guardian angel presented to them on the eve of their relationship. This is a sign my brother. You can join the bandwagon of bitter men if you ignore this.

Miracle1991:
go and watch what is going on in Ethiopia, then you will know what coming your way.

I believe ipob are waiting for you people in the east already.
Send some sacrificial sheep.
You don't know the meaning of guerilla warfare.
The worst is that they will be killing and humiliating your soldiers and we will be crying victim and writing petitions up and down like the hamas of Palestine

OyigboUpdate:
Person dey praise Igbo women u dey call am afonja.

Wetin he be before?

Miracle1991:
rebel aid is not applicable to sessesion. In situation where the soul aim is to divide the country,UN will never help you. I hope you are watching what is going on in Ethiopia.
I hope iam not talking to a kid sha

I don't think you know the meaning of Rebel.
If you do, you won't be confusing yourself like this

oyatz:
Na only this IPOB babe concern me.
The rest no concern me

Of course Afonjas were created to worship Igbo women

Miracle1991:
hahaaaa. I just pity your mothers and sisters.
This is what we have been waiting for now we got it.
The law said" Any civilian with arms is not more a civilian but a terrorist." We shall treat them as terrorists.

Bring it on. Ipob have proved beyond reasonable doubt that Nigeria is run by illiterates.
What do you think they were doing with all those propaganda and petitions?
They have successfully blocked the bridges and made Nigeria appear as an islamist country.
Try anyhow and watch UN approve another rebel aid as they did in Libya.
Its just funny that before you people realize what was going on it was already too late.
They exploited your weakness which was desperation to show force and intimidate

Miracle1991:
so you didn't see the video with their AK-47 abi? Or you just chose to support illegalities?
The law said, any civilian with weapon is not more a civilian but a terrorist.
The UN will never support armed group.

You've never heard of the term rebel aid before?
Go and read about Libyan Revolution

NoIgboSoundTueh:
Nothing concern me self since to be slaughtered is what Igbos are made for. continue with your chestbeating it will end well for you

Are your Obas not the ones being slaughtered on daily basis?

mekysmart123:
How do you even have the heart to be typing such hogwash? Are you guys trying to attract another war to South East? Do you know is the innocent people that will surfer the most? You guys are just something else

Story, when your government were killing my kinsmen and term them IPOB TERRORIST you didn't know that it will attract self defense.
Hypocrite

samyj2477:
shut up, did u see anything like that on their press briefing. This is not IPOB but eastern region security network just like they have in the north and west. In the north they have over 15 security networks other than the police and no one is saying anything about it. u b mumu o

Which organization does the leader and members belong to?
Nigerian you are just shocked that they pulled a fast one on you guys.
Well, Brace up more shocks are on the way

NwaAro:
Dem see boys wielding Ak47 assault rifles of course they will have several panic meetings to rethink their next "strategy" - which as we know already would be to send in hilux-full convoys of heavily armed soldiers and tanks down to East... then they will do what they do best (we saw it happen in Oyigbo), round up several unarmed young men pretending to act on some bullshit special Intel report, and then brand them as members of the "terrorist security group" who were overpowered and rounded up by the superior Nigerian security forces... then the rest as we know will be history... shoot them.

Then ESN will neutralize their convoy and gain more military hardware like boko haram did last 8 years and the real deal will begin till they run at the mention of ESN.
We know how it goes

uruba23:
hope there is a structure to pay them salary so they turn to crime... Problem with Igbos you would be copying my cunning Yoruba brother's but you don't apply their sense. My Yoruba brothers registered a vigilante group registered by law and followed proper guidelines but I am sure ESN is probably not registered with no operational template because it is been run by an illegal organization called Ipob. If the mistakenly kill innocent Nigeria citizens and the army decent on them they would be shouting Nigeria hate them.... I don't remember vigilante group been allowed to carry AK47.

ESN is not for Nigeria and the structure was against Nigeria so what are you saying?
The earlier you people accept that Ndigbo from another country the better for you all.

Pierocash:
if you support this, you will end up becoming refugees like those in north east.

When there is no soldiers to fight,they will establish a government on you guys and start tormenting you guys like the real terrorists .

They are IPOB and their job is to establish a government so what are you saying?

wellmax:
Hahahahaha, you call these security operative?

More like criminals

"Security operatives" is a word used by the people they protect and "criminals" is the word used by the people they are against.
Even ISIS call US army terrorists.
So what you said shows that they are getting it right. I'm not surprised

NwaAro:
And they will just stand and watch as your soldiers mow them down abi? we all know your useless soldiers are afraid of dying as facts have proven... Las Las they will tactically avoid the armed ESN boys and "swoop" on defenceless civilians... and brand them "IPOB" just to score cheap media points, we've seen that script play out ever too often already.

Have you noticed that army have been quiet since it was launched unlike before?

What do you expect them to carry before?
Torchlight and flags? So that your shameless soldiers can go and massacre them again.
Who noticed that since ESN picked up arms we are yet to hear news from the Military HQ unlike before.
If it was when they were carrying flags Army HQ would have sent 12 soldiers to kill them all

xcon:
Hope when we start to see Igbo killed you will not call for UN help.

I'm yet to see a country that disseminated guerilla without having times 10-100 casualty. That is if they will win.
Infact no nation has successfully defeated a guerilla force in history. The only way to defeat them is by negotiation like the ND avengers and MNK doesn't look like someone that is open for negotiation.
Nigerian army can try their luck and be humiliated like the Syrian and Saudi army

KnightsTemplar:
Without a legal backing, you know he is wasting his time. And setting their members head on with the Authorities.

What do you think he was doing before?
He and his organization plus many Ndigbo does not recognize the authority, so they can come and try to stop them.
Na scores all of us go count.
Gone are the days NA will kill unarmed Igbo people without pictures of their fallen comrades following suit

wellmax:
Audio launch

Abi oh

Interesting.
May the best man win.
This time they will understand the full meaning of home advantage.
I will like to see how a bunch of people trained in Sudan and sahel savanna of Zaria will defeat guerilla of rain forest.
Since it's not an open warfare, it will be decided by who knows the terrain more

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Bagehot:
Ever heard of a pyrrhic victory?

Can you tell me the great loses?

gidgiddy:
If the sentiments of Mr Oraka is that of the majority of Uhrobo people then I urge them to stay in Nigeria and continue their struggle for restructuring or resource control. However, us Igbos are leaving with our Anioma kith and kin

You should be able to identify propaganda when you see one.
Besides one person can't speak for a full ethnicity. One person is one vote.
If the ideology of a group is determined by any voice on the streets then spies will also have a say. If they think urhobo are out then they should put it to test with a referendum not noises.
Just like the case of pH. If I haven't met highly igbophilic ones that told me their real history and reason for Igbophobia by some groups around them, I would have taken Wike serious. The Igbo phobia actually started from Ekpeye. If you want the story tell me

Ojiofor:
IPOB always brags in time of peace only for them to be massacred in battle.Mitcheww
What do you have to say about this below?

Those Igbos supporting Nnamdi Kanu's so-called Eastern Security Service are gullibly minded folks.they were Hoodwinked by Kanu's usual tricks.
I am sorry for those Igbo who clapped for a man displaying our unarmed youths on social media in the name of Eastern Security without the legal backing of SE governors or communal opinion moulders .
Who gave Mr Kanu the mandate?pseudo intellectuals claimed that nature abhors vacuum and had SE Govs done the right thing Kanu wouldn't have floated so-called ESN.
When the push comes to shove we will realize,tell me any instance where IPOB protected themselves from Army aggressions talk more of the entire SE.he floated BSS in 2017,observed guard of honour that led an unadulterated vindictive Machiavelli into mowing Igbo youths down.
Amotekun is backed by SW governors and heavyweights,Hisbah is backed by Northern governors and heavyweights.ESN is backed by a paper tiger in far away London.
It seems we have penchant for suicidal ideation .
When the push comes to shove,by the time the Army must have hounded our youths indiscriminately the Supreme leader in his usual bragging self will put the world on notice .
Mind you the world you are looking up to are the same Britain,Russia ,America that murdered you between 1967-1970 without prosecuting themselves in ICC located at Hague Netherlands.tell me a judge that prosecutes himself in his own court and I will show you the worst falsehood peddler.
ESN is one of usual tricks Nnamdi Kanu mastered on his deluded goons on the prowl and no well meaning Igbo should be Happy to watch untrained,unarmed, defenceless youths get lynched unnecessarily.
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In your bid to write the misconception "brag" you ended up writing nonsense.
1)Where is there anything that looks like brag in my previous post?
2)I analyzed something logically but your programmed hate for ipob can't let you see the obvious.
3) where is it in my post that I am an Ipob member?
4)Oga I am a concerned Igbo and I believe that ESN is the right thing to do.
5) as for the sake of approval from so called governors forget it. If Ipob are freedom fighters as they claim, they don't need any approval from a Nigerian agency. SE governors are mere Nigerian arm (the arm of the oppressors they are fighting against)
BE logical when you reply me. Don't speak with hate