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diggz:
Make we all support Brighton today finish. Come tomorrow all man to himself as na Liverpool we go support 😂

diggz:
Since when you be Brighton fan? Hehe 😂

TemporaryHansel:
The bride price itself is usually 5k-100k, but the remaining items on the list can take everything to 2m-3m, I've seen a lot of ridiculous lists. By ridiculous I don't even mean the amount of the stuffs,but the items that are listed there. You see stuff like beers for all the youths in the town,bike for the mother of the bride,lots of funny stuff.

You spend 2m to procure most of the items in the list, and even then we have yet to talk about the main marriage expenses oh.

Na man do man sha.

Las las, the practice is still going on because men are still chesting it.

If na men like us full the country them for don abolish or reduce the stuff tey tey.

No matter how much I love you, I won't pay for those stuffs even if the money is there, if it doesn't make sense to me.

If people start absconding from marrying their daughters because of said list, they'll reduce it. It's just common sense.

Ibime:
Bassey walks in over Chidi Nwanu/Stephen Keshi
Osimhen walks in over Yekini
Perhaps if Maduka had been playing, he would walk in over Rufai

raumdeuter:
Bench how? Thats if they are allowed into the stadium

I think its a Gen Z argument sha

pocohantas:
SS return their daughters home.
My SIL is from SS and we were told on the bride price payment day. It didn't stop or change anything. Na my brother wan marry wife.

Godx:
Yes, I agree in some circumstances it can be harsh. If you don't have the means to return the deceased they are some rites the family members can perform back home but most actually do try to return their parents or love ones back for proper burial. Burying foreigners abroad is sometimes even more costly than sending them back home.

Godx:
To avoid such then you should have done those rites when she was alive and she must have told him countless times. They are traditions that are not negotiable. It's kind of a punishment for allowing their sister or relatives to die without marrying her properly.

Godx:
That's a weird culture that undermines her heritage. In my culture even if you die abroad you will be transported back to your family home and buried properly.

Godx:
There's nothing strange or unkind about that. You must marry a woman according to the traditional rites of her village to be legally regarded as a husband. That's
common knowledge and when she die you must perform those rites if you haven't before she can be buried. If you haven't done traditional marriage the family doesn't even regard you as husband and wives even if you have 10 children and have been living together for 20years.

Godx:
Why would wives be buried in her husband's place/Village before? Are they culture that allow such. You bury her in her village and that should be the norm.

izzou:
It's a very serious tradition there. Although I know that everything has a price.

And that's one of the reasons I detest cohabiting and babymamaship. Traditions will frustrate you if you haven't done some of their requirements.

Some will take the child if you haven't paid the bride price...It's a lot, abeg

Ibime:
Even I feel these lists are disrespectful to the grooms time. In theory, you are asking a young hustling man to be going to market upandan. Most times these are converted to cash amount. It's better you just send the cash amount. When I received my own list, I didn't even bother looking at it, I just told them to convert to cash amount, then I sent my Popsie to negotiate the cash amount in half. My original list was £12k, I told Popsie to reduce it down to £6k. I saw an email from one Aunty being disrespectful to my Popsie, so I booked wedding date and venue and sent them invite to pressure them.

izzou:
My brother

I actually know of a place in Delta. If you like, be Pastor Kumuyi Pikin, it will take a lot for you to bury their daughter in your own land.

For some Northern cultures, they don't waste a second to bury you. If you live in Kano, and die in Lagos, dem go bury you for Lagos sharp sharp, even in the absence of the family (I don't know of this is true)

That's why irrespective of love, it's good to do some family exploration, so you can understand what you're getting into.

izzou:
I am not defending the list. I am simply saying that those who broadcast this part of the culture, do not also add that is very open to negotiations.

If you were Jowizaza, or Seyi Tinubu, I don't think these lists would be a problem. Yet, people like that exist in that culture.

And even at that, people (poor people), still get married and fulfill the traditional rites.

There should be a balance. If you say some cultures can have outrageous marriage lists, also say they are open to negotiations.

It's not a do or die affair

izzou:
All these things are just part of the culture. With time, some may be phased out, but we can agree that it's not a do or die affair, as Social media paints it.

And marriage is not even the worst of demands. What about burial?

There are cultures where if the woman die, you bury her at her father's place, not your (the husband's) place. Very common in some parts of the South South.

I may not like some cultural practices, but it's the variety of life. If everybody was upholding the same "sensible" practices, I wonder how interesting life would be

izzou:
While it is true that lists are outrageous, social media has made a lot of things to be exaggerated.

Poor people marry. 170 million Nigerians are in poverty, yet they marry. No be the same tribe/region dem dey marry from/in?

Marriage list are very negotiable. No matter what is written on the list, dem dey negotiate to the barest minimum.

My guy got married from Imo state in June. After the long epistles written, he paid the bride price, and settled the list with 300k.

A lot of Superstories are just flying everywhere, online

TemporaryHansel:
Correction, there's difference between bride price and marriage list. There's no where in Nigeria that the "bride price" itself exceed 100-150k.
The issue is the "marriage list".
Although both seem to be used interchangeably.

GloriousGbola:
As a naija matter the fire could have come from anywhere

Bad electrical connection
Storing petrol in electrical room

We had a massive fire in 2009 when the facility manager overhauled generator with tokunbo turbocharger. Generator exploded at night. They put out the fire not knowing the fire had followed cables and entered the building. Four floors gone.

One time they were eating in gen house and that led to rats running around the place . Rat entered panel, shorted busbar and a fire started.

It could be arson, but a lot of things people do casually can also lead to fire. Also cheap inverter install with lithium batteries

Right now a lot of people are jumping on electric vehicles and those ones will likely soon start their own combustion issues once naija mechanics start messing with the batteries

I am kind of suprised sha because my mechanic who is effectively a road side guy has arrangements with vigilantes because of risk or vandalism.

raumdeuter:
Anyone doing any type of business and making it anywhere in the world, I give massive kudos to them

Though insurance will likely pay but to get that inventory back plus th increase in insurance going forward

PDPGuy:
Later, one mugu will willingly pay 4 million bride price on her head
https://x.com/silly_lost/status/2115841190046183639?sort_replies=recency[/quote]Girls like this don't have any plans for anyone to pay bride price on their head.

Clitocurrency will always be more rewarding than any financial gains marriage can offer them.

iamoyindamola:
This is soo unfortunate, the guy business, clients car all gone
Omo I hate shiit like this either coincidence or intentional the guy can't survive this

I honestly have no words, man. I strongly suspect this was arson. They’ve completely wrecked Moses Benz. 💔 https://t.co/yb21FGWds4 pic.twitter.com/B9jna3a6h4

— Olajiire 🎭 (@olajiire101) October 30, 2026

iamoyindamola:
You sef see am
How the mighty have fallen

Bluelines69:
Alonso have now successfully added spurs

johnjunior39:
But if we be honest this is where good management come in, Arteta need to create and work it out for him. VG came to arsenal not just to win tittles for us but to also improve himself. We need to ask ourselves why some players leave Arsenal and start shining. Havertz is not a striker , will never be a striker , you cant rely on him to win games. Wetin pain for Havertz case is that he cant even nod properly, how he always find himself in good position self baffles me because he will always waste it.

Now the team too have to particpate in the calling out, Like I used an example once, Chamarkh had a goal drought and everyone was crossing for him to score, teammates did it for Giroud too when he came new, same with Havertz , If I even rememeber, VG first goal he hustled it. Everytime I watch Arsenal game lately , they also play like there is no front man. Tzolis try though.

Havertz is best a super sub than a starter

Realmrsean:
we don dey enter dry season naau
You know how it goes.. no more enough water to pump our hydro power stations

Realmrsean:
dry season+ Lack of electricity ×El Nino ÷ Tinubu relection