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pyro62:
God has forgiven you already because you are just ignorant Acts 17:30. I recommend you stay humble and have a deep meditation for a longtime it would help your spirit connect with it's manufacturer (God). It would convince you of his existence, and gradually you would learn and grow. But there is so much work to do on you rn, because I don't even think are conscious of the existence of your spirit(THE REAL YOU). I will be praying for you

Augustwife:
I had to open a new moniker so I can rant in peace. My head is full, so it's going to be a long post .

I got married to the love of my life 2017 (we started dating 2009) and we have two wonderful children.
He loves me (I know for sure), doesn't cheat too and my in-laws are the most wonderful people on earth ( my mil especially).

We have a joint business but the bad part :he is addicted to alcohol.

He wasn't like this before we got married, he used to drink occasionally so I can't really tell how we got here.

It's so bad that he can't go a day without it. Once he can't lay his hands on alcohol he will begin to shiver like a malaria patient.

This addiction has gotten us into debts that I had to pay with my savings on several occasions.

I'm talking of debts of 120k, 167k, 136k e.t.c. He's takes several loans from loan sharks , drinks like no tomorrow.

He has wrecked ourbbusiness and only with the help of God was I able to rebuild It by taking loans and paying back.

We even decided he gets a job so he can be more responsible but after working for a year he had nothing to show for it.

Twice his parents had to take him to a therapist but it was all in vain as he would go back to drinking.

My head is scattered,I can't think straight, it's making me hate him. I tried leaving a few weeks ago , I went back to my mother's house but trust my mama, she begged me to go back and my mother in-law too.

I don't even know what to do, my mental life is zero, I have withdrawn from everyone, I'm practically in poverty due to this addiction
He is a wonderful man BUT this addiction is a very big problem. We have prayed, fasted, gone to doctors but it's still there.

I don't know what to do .

Alaigbopress:
Some days ago, I posted here about how my girl friend posted her ex pictures twice and I got a handful of advice, insults and very derogatory statements. Also at the same time I also got very few matured and helpful comment.
I wanted to apply the advice I was given here because I was furious and that could have been disastrous.

The next day after posting here, I confronted my girl, I told her it is over between us(all was a ploy to know how much she loves me). Since that day, my Girl's mood changed, she doesn't talk to people, she doesn't laugh and even started skipping her meal. She came to my house and was crying heavily that she was sorry. That has it been she know that it will provoke me that she wouldn't have done it.

I still pretended that I will never forgive her. Just yesterday she called my female bestie and narrated to her what happened and she called me yesterday evening and pleaded with me to forgive her. Which I did and You need to see how happy this girl has been. I will send screen shot of her recent Whatsapp status.


My Advice to anyone seeking for a relationship advice is not to follow the popular comment here.

Supreme145:
It's not in my nature to bother about people's relationships but this is happening to someone that's like a brother to me. He has been dating a girl for a year now and it's obvious this girl doesn't love him but he won't just give up. He keeps throwing money at her in a bid to win her love.

Things got messier when this girl met a particular guy some months back... This guy happens to live in the compound of my club mate so I know him well. The girl has begged my guy to free her that she's in love with someone else but this guy no gree instead he's planning to attack the innocent guy.

He confided in me that the girl has not let him touch her since she met this other guy, that's over five months now. I once overhead the guy boasting to his friends that he's a redpiller because someone else is taking care of his girlfriend while he does the knacking free of charge. He's even flexing everything that my guy buys for the girl.
All pleas to my guy to free this girl has fallen on deaf ears.

My club mate told me that the girl has been with the guy for over one month now, my guy comes to town once a week to see the girl, gets her stuffs and this girl will just go back to the other boy that is even jobless.

My guy is finer and far richer than this new guy, he's planning to start a business for this girl and I've been trying to change his mind to no avail. It's no longer normal, I would've said he's charmed but the girl has begged him to free her but he refused. The guy is even the one flexing the sample of the products he sent her. Everything she has done to drive him has failed so she just relaxed and enjoying the money.

This simping is on another level, it hurts me to see my guy in this kinda situation. I've gotten him picture proofs that the girl is cheating but he won't change his mind. The girl even admitted that she's been having sex with the guy buy he's claiming its a lie and the girl is trying to drive away.

Is there anything I can do to help him abeg.

Cassahav:
I am a fortysomething man in a long-term relationship – nearly 20 years – and have two children. For the past 10 years my partner has been having short-term lovers. These were clandestine, but more recently she has stopped hiding, called our relationship “open”, and currently has a lover who I do know about. But this “open relationship” can only be one-sided, because she is jealous and suspicious while I am basically not polyamorous. So why stay together? We get on, communicate well (other than the no-go zone of her other love life), rarely argue, are bonded by bringing up our children and are financially tied together.

However, the years of suppressing my emotions – of jealousy, rejection, insecurity, being lied to – have left me broken. Sex (which we still occasionally do have) has become stressed: if I don’t perform enthusiastically, it will justify her seeking other lovers. Also, I am expected to remain sexually attracted to her, which gets more difficult when I know she’s been with someone else recently. We had frank talks when she offered to end her extramarital affairs and be monogamous with me – or plan how we might separate without affecting our children. We were both very upset, as we are very much still in love, and wish the sex side of our relationship wasn’t such a terrible mess.

But it has occurred to me that I am emotionally and sexually broken after this past decade. If I was single again – or my partner was to become monogamous with me again – I don’t think I would be a viable person to be in a relationship with. How do I start to repair myself, inside or outside this relationship?

Any advice would be cool.

Jennyclay:
Then speak for yourself... Why are you now quoting me?

Please get out of my mention!!!

ubunja:
How Cold Hearts Get Gold Diggers Paid.

Gold Diggers. Two words that invoke images of cold-hearted greed and manipulation. Yet rich men can't seem to get enough of these icy, empty, conniving creatures. Nice Girls have never been a hit with rich men.

As a woman it might be puzzling how an icy cold heart makes men bust open their bank accounts.

It all begins with understanding how men fall in love versus how women fall in love.

HOW MEN AND WOMEN FALL IN LOVE.
When a man starts dating a new woman, usually he's in conflict with his friends and he hates the advice they give him. Most of the times they're disapproving of his actions because most of the times he's acting dumb doing too much too soon for too little.

On the other hand, when a woman starts dating a new man, usually she's in harmony with her friends. They're all of one mind. The woman agrees with them, welcomes their advice and follows it.

Why do men and women start out so differently?

A man is roughly 80% logical and 20% emotional. A woman is about 80% emotional and 20% logical.

When a man is attracted to a woman and approaches her, he's in a rare EMOTIONAL STATE. His 20%. He's in his feelings and even his friends can't reason with him because he'll do anything, say anything and give anything to have her. He's thinking with his heart. That is why emotional him stays in conflict with his logical friends.

On the other hand, although women are emotional by default, the woman, when she's first approached by a man, he'll find her in a LOGICAL STATE (her 20%). Because at that point he's a nobody to her. She doesn't love him. She doesn't hate him. She's simply indifferent. AKA Logical. And because her friends are logical as her concerning her suitor, there's harmony in the girls camp.

Unlike in the guys camp.

And so the woman, with a cold pragmatic eye and reasoning logically, she closely scrutinizes her suitor's credentials, his financial state, his character and his friends. She's as logical and as calculating as a man considering a business deal.

THE GREAT SWITCH.
Now, as time goes and things progress, the man and the woman start to switch places...

Because the woman has sufficiently studied her new man, shared sensitive information, bonded with him through shared experiences like going on dates and trips, or even slept with him, she stops being indifferent (logical) and gradually gets into her feelings. Now what her friends and family have to say about the guy starts to clash with what she has to say. And she begins standing up for him when they badmouth him.

She's finally emotional and can no longer be reasoned with. This state she's in now, the man started out in.

Meanwhile, the man, because he has got what he wanted (sex), cooling his head and getting him back to his senses, the emotions that have controlled him all this time evaporate and he goes back to his old logical self. Now he's the one sober minded and thinking straight. This is when he'll start acting funny and ghost the woman.

This state he's in now, the woman started out in.

The man and the woman have switched places.

She who started out indifferent, is now in her feelings. And he who started out in his feelings is now indifferent.

THE GAME GETS COLDER AND COLDER.
Ever noticed this? A guy pursues you and you give him cold shoulder after cold shoulder, which ironically makes him pursue even harder. Then at some point, finally impressed and satisfied with his determination, you turn around and become kind to him. At which point he starts acting funny and pulls back!

What just happened??

You were supposed to stay cold that's what!

A Gold Digger, when she's finally satisfied with a man's determination - when she realizes he's sincere - instead of warming up to him and becoming soft and kind like other women do, she gets colder and colder. The man's determination inspires manipulation. He's so lost in emotions by the time he snaps out of it, he'll have paid mountains of bills, bought bags and bags of groceries, given accommodation, allowances, investments - and if the spell was particularly strong - bought even a car.

And the scam that scams him is a simple scam...

A gold digger DOES NOT ask for money. What she does is She presents a problem. If a man loves her enough, he offers a solution. By spending. Without being asked.

That's the standard method. And it works everytime. While protecting the gold digger.

By talking about her problems to a man the gold digger is dropping hints that she needs his help. Hints are preferred because men don't like to be asked for money. It's crucial that if and when a man decides to help with money, he imagines his offer originated within himself. He must not realize that the woman is infact asking for help otherwise he'll feel used and demand for something in return (sex).

How does this approach protect the gold digger?

You've heard this angry argument before, even in the movies:
Man: "Remember I did this, this and that for you! I did it all for you."
Woman: " But I didn't ask you to!"

Of course she didn't ask him to. Not directly anyway. What she did is she mentioned a problem a few times, she spoke about her situation a couple of times, which put the idea in the man's head to help. By spending. But the idea was put in such a way that it can't be traced back to the woman. That's why she can confidently say, "Did I ask you to do those things for me?" And the man can't answer.

It works everytime.

When a gold digger voices her struggles and a man offers his help, she, to strengthen the man's belief that his offer to help is self motivated, she will flat out refuse his help - Waiting for him TO BEG HER TO ACCEPT HIS HELP. It's a mind trick that allows her to gauge the strength of his love by how strongly he'll insist and press his offer on her. If he doesn't insist and force her to accept his help but instead feels relieved his offer has been declined and he gets to keep his money HE'S THE WRONG TARGET. He doesn't prioritize her happiness high enough. Moving forward getting anything from him will always be a chore.
A Gold Digger needs men so keen on seeing her happy that they put money in her hand by force to solve her problems.

Guys know what I'm talking about here.

Almost every guy has that one girl he cared about so much he personally put money in her purse by force even after she turned it down. That's exactly what gold diggers are aiming for. But with rich men.

If a gold digger speaks about a problem a couple of times but a man ignores and doesn't offer his help, she doesn't beg, cry or put a gun to his head. He's the wrong target. She quietly moves on to the next man.

When Gold Diggers fail to achieve with a man, they know it just means one thing: "It's not that they're asking for too much, THEY'RE ASKING FROM THE WRONG PERSON."

Gold digging is NOT the ability to scam every man but the ability to pick that One Man who can't say NO to you. It's not about begging men for things but finding that man you don't have to beg for anything - because there's nothing he won't do for you.

ALL women do this. But gold diggers do it on a grand scale.

The average girl knows that if she complains long enough to a guy about her old phone and how its cracked screen makes it hard for her to read his messages, IF THE GUY LIKES HER ENOUGH, he'll offer and get her a new phone. It's a common scam. By a common girl.

Gold Diggers run massive scams.

A gold digger tells a man she hasn't fvcked yet that she can't invite him where she stays because she's sharing a flat with two friends and there's no privacy. To which he assumes she's ready for sex, so he tells her to look for a place of her own. To which she tells him she's broke. To which she tells her not to worry. A month later she tells him she's found a nice apartment. To which he makes the bank transfers for the rent. To which she tells him she can't move in because it's just empty rooms. To which he again makes the bank transfers for the furniture.

Now here's the scam:

The apartment already belonged to the WOMAN, so deposit and rent money goes straight to her pocket. The furniture bought is bought at inflated prices, so money goes straight to her pocket. Some of the property bought is secretly resold, so money goes straight to her pocket. Some of those items bought at normal prices are taken back for cash refunds - without the man's knowledge, so money once more goes straight to her pocket. Now the woman has a flat full of furniture. And pockets full of money. But not a single drop of sperm in her pussy.

Such is how a man's bank accounts are emptied. Without showing him even a panty.

It doesn't matter if he's seeing other women's panties, the gold digger with her legs closed always wins. Because of one little-known fact: a man can fvck 10 women but he can love only 1. While a woman can love 10 men but she can only fvck 1.

This is the center core of male-female sexual dynamics. Everything revolves around this little-known truth >>>Women open legs, Men open hearts.

It's not about who a man fvcks, it's about who he loves. And it's not about who a woman loves, it's about who she fvcks. A man's dick any woman can have, even hoes. And a woman's heart any man can have, even a simp in her DMs. It doesn't matter who, where, how, a man is fvcking; to win his heart all you have to do is spend his money. Because his heart follows his money.

NOW, THE MORE COLD-HEARTED AND RUTHLESS A GOLD DIGGER IS in emptying a man's bank accounts, while he's blinded by emotions willing to do anything and everything for her, the stronger will be her grip on him when he finally snaps out of it and comes to his senses - He can't trivially toss her to the side because he has spent too much on her. It will be in his best interest to make sure the relationship works out. With or without sex.

AS REFRESHING AS AN ICE COLD HEART.
Here's the summary of what we're saying: You get a man irreversibly invested in you while he's hopelessly smitten with you (and while you're still cold before you feel anything for him), so that by the time you yourself fall hopelessly in love with him (which coincidentally will be when he starts going cold on you), he can't play you because he's bound to you through his investment in you.

MEN FALL IN LOVE BY BEING LOGICAL.
Men are logical in nature. But when a man sees a woman, he's drawn to her by what he sees and how that makes him feel, which makes him emotional in that he's acting by his feelings. A man will see a woman for the very first time and shout "That's my wife right there!", genuinely believing he's in love. But what he's really experiencing is a rush of feelings and emotions that he's incorrectly decoding.

This rush of feelings and emotions is not a man's natural state. It is a temporary state. And his weakest state.

When that temporary/emotional state passes - usually after sex - what remains AFTER, in the man's head, when he becomes logical again, is what determines if he's in love or not.

A man's shift from being emotional to being logical again is best understood in the context of something called Post Nut Clarity, where a man does not know if he's in lust or in love with a woman until he sleeps with her. Men are emotionally clouded until sex which clarifies their emotions for them. MEN KNOW IF THEY LOVE A WOMAN BY HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT HER AFTER FVCKING HER.

Whatever a man might say about loving you, there's a 50% chance sex will prove HIM wrong. A guy can honestly believe he loves you, but toss you aside after sex. Not because he's a Player. But he was feeling this rush of feelings and emotions but which turned out to be lust. Sex clarified this for him.

Post Nut Clarity is a man getting back to his logical state after starting out in his emotions. Any scam or manipulation to get to his money must happen BEFORE this clarity. Before sex. It is before sex that a man's logic is disconnected. Sex reconnects his logic.

Because of Post Nut Clarity if a man gives you, let's say a phone for sex, one second after ejaculation he's already regretting his own stupidity in giving you that phone and he's wishing to take it back. He has come to his senses. Any man who has ever fvcked a prostitute knows that the minute you climax is the minute you regret wasting your money paying for sex. This is also why guys promise women money for sex but after sex guys change their mind and refuse to give women the money. Sex gets men back to their right senses.

But it's the opposite for women.

Women have PRE NUT CLARITY.

As opposed to men's Post Nut Clarity.

Where men get clearheaded AFTER the sex, women are clearheaded BEFORE the sex.

In dating, because it's the man who usually pursues women, women start out cold and indifferent and have a full understanding of their feelings about him - that is, UNTIL SEX HAPPENS and suddenly they're not so sure.

A woman can read her own emotions clearly as day as long as she keeps her legs closed. But the minute she opens her legs, her mind becomes clouded because emotions have poisoned her judgment: "Does she love this guy or is it just good sex?"

All this means: A woman may hate a man before sex only to like him after sex. While a man may like a woman before sex but hate her after sex.

It also means:

Sex simplifies things with a man.
Sex complicates things with a woman.

Sex pushes a man away.
Sex pulls a woman closer.

Sex makes a man logical.
Sex makes a woman emotional.

And because manipulation works best when a victim/target is emotional since then they're not thinking straight, a man is easiest to manipulate BEFORE sex. While a woman is easiest to manipulate AFTER sex. Which is why gold diggers stay celibate. It keeps men emotional while they themselves stay logical.

When it comes to sex, men are easy. They'll sleep with anything. But when it comes to commitment they're extremely choosy. Because then they're logical. Who men fvck is an emotional decision but who they marry is a logical decision.
When a man commits for marriage, that decision comes from a calm, quiet and sober place. A cold place. The same cold place his business decisions come from. And that place a man only enters after the excitement of emotions have passed and he has cooled down.

When a woman rains pussy on a man - overdosing him with sex - it's the harder she makes it for him to make a decision about their future because his logic has not engaged. The big head will not engage until the small head disengages. Small head handles the small decisions (sex). Big head handles the big decisions (marriage). That's why it's when a woman finally closes her legs, cuts off the sex and sometimes moves away temporarily or even temporarily breaks up with him, that a man will propose. Because the handover-takeover between dick and brain gets a chance to happen.

Sex will get you nowhere with men. You can put your panties back on. Because you're only hurting yourself trying to use sex to gain marriage.

YOU'RE ONLY HURTING YOURSELF TRYING TO USE SEX TO GAIN MARRIAGE.
When a woman opens her legs for a man, she opens her mind to that man. By taking her panties off, she's putting a gun to her own head. Because sex, for women, triggers the release of very powerful hormones in their brain which have a very specific job: to bond the woman with her sexual partner. These hormones are called bonding hormones. Think of them as super glue. And oxytocin is the strongest of them.

If sex is a gun, oxytocin is the bullet. And its the WOMAN HERSELF who takes this bullet in the brain. Oxytocin is dangerous because it awakens something peacefully sleeping inside a woman's mind: Love. And when a woman's love is awakened by sex with the wrong man at the wrong time, then the woman has hurt herself.

Song of Solomon 8:4 "I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, that ye stir not up, nor awaken love, until it please."

AWAKENING LOVE BEFORE THE TIME.
When a man approaches a woman he's in his feelings. But the woman is indifferent/logical because at that stage the guy is but some random guy she just met. She's indifferent. Logical. But as the woman gets to know the guy she starts getting emotionally attached.

And it's easy to see that change happen:

At the beginning (the indifferent/logical stage), a woman is calculating and inquisitive because SHE'S SEARCHING FOR REASONS TO DISQUALIFY THE GUY. So it's always complaints: "he's a bad dresser", "he's not very good looking", "his house is not big enough", "his car is too old", "his job is not that great".

And her friends agree.

Then a few weeks or months later the complaints cease. And when her friends attack the man, the woman now comes out DEFENDING HIM and MAKING EXCUSES for him: "He's not that bad though", "He's a good guy once you get to know him", "he's been through a lot", "you guys don't know him like I do"...

What has changed?

The woman.

By getting to know the guy the woman has become attached. She has shifted from indifferent to caring. And most of the time it's because she has slept with the guy. Love is a game that women lose the moment they catch dick.

Women need to hold off sex with a new man for as long as possible - not to prove his love - but because the longer a woman waits on sex the longer she stays logical and rational, and able to keep her head in the Game. To properly strategize and play to win.

Sex gets women emotional, and sex before the right time (Premature Sex) gets women emotional BEFORE THE RIGHT TIME. And when a woman gets emotional before the right time, she'll be scoring own goals till infinity.

Premature Sex - sex before a woman has fully vetted a man - is dangerous for women because it cuts short the woman's process of correctly scrutinizing a man by moving her too soon from being Objective (unbiased and realistic because she's not attached) to being Subjective (biased and idealistic because she's now attached after sleeping with the guy). That all-important work of properly studying a man and gathering all the facts about him, to make an informed decision whether to accept or reject him, is canceled the moment sex happens.

Sex must only happen after this process completes. If sex happens BEFORE the process completes then that whole process - that entire fact finding mission - gets aborted. That sex is called Premature Sex.

Premature Sex is how women get stuck in relationships with broke men, abusive men and unproductive men.

The heart got involved before the head completed its work. The women shot themselves in the head. Shot themselves in the head with their own pussy.

Legs must remain closed. Because as long as a man's dick stays in his pants he stays emotional and dumb. While you stay logical and smart.


Happy 2021.

kushercain:
That's a Kangal. One of the strongest dog breeds. Nicknamed ‘The Wolf Killer’

Emuforlife1:
Dog fight wolf kwa? op, you think say wolf na Ekuke abi??

LordReed:
Who programmed penguins to be homosexual?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cgj7Wg1_Yc4

AbdulHakeem44:
Work dey for the next incoming President.

lexy2014:
You haven't answered the questions:

how did you know that Tinubu has anything to do with alpha beta? Is he the owner?

Orpe7:
All these dangerous devices will end up making you deaf.
Trust me
I had to spend over 130k on myself when I was almost deaf in my left ear using them pods

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Are you done?

FERNANDEZISBACK:
You are too scared..you could have kept on walking and ignored him..or screamed out for help..

He wouldn't stab you..that was an empty threat..why give In to him so easily..the moment you start acting like a kid then y've given yourself to them..

Ishilove:
The moderators of this section are not doing their jobs. AT ALL. This bullshit would not have survived during the era of sexkillz

TheGidRedpiller:
Define OVERDO.

TheGidRedpiller:
I'm here trying to spread awareness about something and you are just here trying to get an engagement from me? PATHETIC!

JaneYave:
What were they even discussing ? Some ladies are gifted but they don't know the value of what they carry. How on earth will you allow just anyone hold u? Gosh!

overdrive:
Lori iro.

Maxwell775:
My cousin sister (from my mother's side) who just got admitted into the university have been staying with me for the past 4 months now. I live in a 2 bedroom flat, and my house is just a throw stone to the university school gate.

Due to financial issues she couldn't rent an apartment, so she goes to school from my house. She's 20yrs old, I'm way older than her with abt 10yrs.

Before she started living with me, it was my mother who told her parents that she could stay with me, without my knowledge or permission.

The very first day she was on her way coming to my house, my mother called me and was like her sister's daughter is coming to stay with me bla bla bla.. At first I was upset, atleast she would have informed me. Am not really close to my mom's family people, we have this distance relationship (no hate, no grudges)

Now here is the problem. She likes wearing mini skirts, short gowns and tight trousers or leggings. Infact what she wears indoors is worse, she will put on very hot bum short, crop top and all manner of rubbish!!

Truth be told, I use to have very strong and hard erection whenever she walks. @20 if you see her banging body?? Slim, figure 8, Coca-Cola bottle shape. Her nyash dey clap if she dey walk. I don't wanna be emphasizing on that...But seriously she's tormenting me. Make I no go shift her pant, I don't wanna commit abomination. But mind you, I have a girlfriend.

Nairalanders please, How do I talk to her about dressing decently, without her feeling insecured or impression of a pervert.