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PoliticsRe: IPOB Kills Woman, 4 Kids, 6 Others In Anambra by Born2Breed(f): 7:19am On May 24, 2022
Farid24224:
The Northerners killed in their numbers in the South are cows abi, not human being?! undecided
The southerners killed in the north in their numbers since the 40's were/are what?

Over 500,000 southerners/christians has lost their lives in the north and south, compared to less than 500 northerners that has died in the south.
PoliticsRe: Who Brought The Unitary System Of Government To NIGERIA And Why by Born2Breed(f): 7:15am On May 24, 2022
Nebulax:
Taunting history if I may say
Not taunting, but educating some ignoramuses.
PoliticsRe: IPOB Kills Woman, 4 Kids, 6 Others In Anambra by Born2Breed(f): 7:12am On May 24, 2022
Inasmuch as we all are against this dastardly act by some bastards in the South East, the north should not pontificate itself.

We all know how many Christians and southerners thatt boko haram and bandit terrorist and herdsmen has killed both in the North and south.

Was there reprisals?

If the north want to be foolish let them try any non-sense.
PoliticsRe: Who Brought The Unitary System Of Government To NIGERIA And Why by Born2Breed(f): 6:45am On May 24, 2022
[quote author=drlateef post=113116528]Copied:

The same people who brought the system are now the victims of the system, read on:



Forgotten History Of Igbo Tribe And Northern Alliance.

Do you know that when Tafawa Balewa was Prime Minister of Nigeria;

Chief of Army Staff was from SE
Chief of Naval Staff was from SE
IG of Police was from SE
Chief of Defence Staff was from SE
Internal Affairs Minister SE
External Affairs Minister SE
Education Minister South SE
Many other key ministries to SE
Parliament President SE
Unilag VC from SE
The University of Ibadan VC from SE
North resisted same at ABU!

Still, there was dissatisfaction by SE, the officers from the region killed this same Balewa!!!!

Out of all the most senior officers in Nigeria, SE has 37, none was killed. 8 from the north, all of them were killed. 10 from the west, 2 were killed.

Then Ironsi imposed a unitary system of government on the country so that everything can belong to a region who snatched it!

We must know our history so that when we want to make corrections, we will not end up concealing the truth. This has nothing to do with tribalism but everything to do with the truth.....at times when lies litter the streets. There is a tendency to think those are truths and facts.

*What follows are documented facts that can be cross-checked for authenticity!"*

Thou shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free.

*“Prof. Ben Nwabueze was the man who drafted the constitution that took away powers from regions and handed it to the central government because his brother Aguiyi Ironsi was the head of state then. Today, he is shouting restructuring that he helped to destroy. We won’t forget.”*.

WHAT BIAFRANS WILL NEVER TELL YOU ABOUT THE REAL CAUSE OF THEIR WOES IN NIGERIA TODAY:

The Igbo man is known to enjoy blaming the Hausa fulanis, Yorubas and indeed every other Nigerian tribe and Lord Luggard/Britain for their seeming claim of being in third class citizen status in Nigeria. In their perpetual attempts to play the victim card, they recount the political events of Nigeria from 1914 to the present in a half-baked and highly selective manner which cleverly avoids the mention of the roles played by their elite who by all natural laws of judgement were actually responsible for the woes that befell not only the Igbo race but the entire Nigeria nation. The story told in the post above is one of such selective and distorted accounts of history which the average Igbo man is fond of narrating.

However, the national archives have the complete and unedited history of Nigeria regarding the political events beginning way back from even before 1914. I will therefore proceed to furnish my readers with the complete story for all to read and be endowed with enough facts so as to judge and act from an informed position.

Shortly after the 1914 Amalgamation of the Northern and Southern Protectorates, it started getting clear that the country was bound to fail as the amalgamation in question was done with colonial fiat without the consent and consensus of the different tribes which were over 300. This prompted the political leaders to start asking for de-amalgamation so as to forestall the future danger which the forced amalgamation portended.

To that end, Ahmadu Bello, speaking on behalf of the Northern protectorate in 1944 described the amalgamation as "The mistake of 1914 which if allowed to remain will ultimately lead to unstoppable bloodshed and a failed country".
Awolowo, speaking on behalf of the Yorubas and Western minorities, described Nigeria as a mere geographical expression not qualified to be called a country let alone a nation. Awolowo added that if the amalgamation could not be reversed, then Nigeria should be structured as a strictly federal state so as to enable each tribe enjoy autonomy this freedom from being dominated by any one single tribe.

But Nnamdi Azikiwe, speaking for the Igbos, denounced Awolowo and Ahmadu Bello, terming them ethnic champions. He accused them of nursing a sectional agenda against the unity of Nigeria, and he declared further that the Unity of Nigeria was non-negotiable.

After moving the motion for independece in 1953, Anthony Enahoro proposed that a secession clause should be incorporated into the future constitution of Nigeria so as to give legal backing for any tribe to peacefully exit the forced union if it feels marginalized in future. According to Enahoro, such provision in our constitution would instill in all Nigeria's future leaders the fear of the consequences of misgovernance. But Azikiwe, speaking on behalf of Igbos, rose against him in the parliament and labelled him an agent of disunity, and enemy of Nigeria. At a later date, Awolowo too made a case for secession clause, but Azikiwe again resisted him and instigated the colonial authorities to threaten him and Enahoro with charges of treasonable felony if they didn't stop proposing secession clause for the future constitution. While Azikiwe did all these, Igbos cheered and urged him on because they felt the future Nigeria was theirs to dominate and lord it over every other tribe

Before independece, Tafawa Balewa too had in a public speech described Nigeria as a British experiment and Nigeria's unity as a British intention which Nigerians themselves don't believe in. But Azikiwe kicked and demonized him too. Had Azikiwe co-operated with Enahoro, Awolowo, Ahmadu Bello and Tafawa Balewa about the secession clause, Nigeria perhaps would not have been this misgoverned.

For those in doubt, here is a link of one of the numerous instances in which Nnamdi Azikiwe fought against the secession clause proposal for the future Nigeria constitution.

It should be noted that there were many Igbo members of the parliament in which Azikiwe fought against Awolowo's secession clause proposal in the link above, but not a single one of them rose against Azikiwe or condemned him.

Igbos initially never wanted to hear anything like secession in Nigeria because they so much believed, though falsely, that they were the most educated tribe. (The first Nigerian tribe to produce a university graduate is the Binis). As an evidence of Igbo domination agenda hence their initial resistance to the idea of secession; here are some quotes:

"From all indications, the god of us Igbos have destined us to rule the whole of Africa"..... Nnamdi Azikiwe (1945).

"It is getting clearer each day that Igbo domination of Nigeria is just a question of time"... Oscar Onyeamma. (1949). Anascopeterson: As at 1900, the whole of the present Benue State, Kogi East Senatorial District and some southern parts of Taraba State called Munchi District back then; were all in the Southern Protectorate. Whoever doubts this should consult MacMillan Atlas for secondary schools in Nigeria. With that situation the South had a higher population than the North hence always had an upper hand in any democratic bargain.

But as at the early fifties when the regions were being created, common sense dictated clearly that these areas should fall in the future Eastern Region. But against common sense, the colonial masters decided to gerrymander them into the Northern Region. While they did that, Azikiwe who was supposed to be in Enugu fighting against it as the leader of the East, was far away in Ibadan struggling with Awolowo to rule the Western Region and also playing the spoiler role against Awolowo's attempts to have Kwara and present Kogi Yorubas carved into the Western Region from the North which was already too large by landmass.

Anascopeterson: While he abandoned his burning house and was far away in Ibadan struggling against Awolowo for his own (Awolowo's) region, Igbos saw absolutely nothing wrong with that. Rather they applauded him as a nationalist. A nationalist whose house was burning yet busy chasing rats in a far away land.
Anascopeterson: When opinions became unanimous that Lord Luggard and his government must be forced out of Nigeria and indeed the whole of Africa, it was still the Igbos that frustrated the attempts. Here is how:

In 1948, Anthony Enahoro organized an anti-colonization symposium in Lagos for which Azikiwe and some other Igbos had agreed to deliver the keynote address. But when the D-day came, Azikiwe was nowhere to be found as he deliberately disappeared into thin air for fear of being arrested and dealt with by Lord Luggard. Anthony Enahoro then quickly replaced Azikiwe with another person who did the job improptu but perfectly well as he lambasted and lampooned Lord Luggard and the British Government. However, the British soldiers invaded the symposium venue, arrested the speaker and Enahoro and jailed them for treasonable felony. Ironically, the next day Azikiwe came out of hiding and granted a radio interview in which he accused Enahoro and the other organizers of suffering from youthful exhuberance.

On regaining his freedom few weeks later and being told of Azikiwe's radio interview, Enahoro resigned from his post as Editor of Azikiwe's newspaper - The West African Pilot.

Then he wrote a book titled "Nnamdi Azikiwe: Sinner of Saint". After launching the book, Enahoro left Azikiwe's party - the NCNC, and moved over to Awolowo's Action Group.

Anascopeterson: The first military coup in Nigeria was carried out by majority of Igbo army officers. That was the coup that truncated democracy just six years post Independence and led to a succession of coups which put the country on the reverse gear for 33 years.

Through that first coup, those Igbo army officers who accused the politicians and government of the day of monumental corruption, killed the political leaders of the Northern, Western and Midwestern Regions but allowed all Igbo political figures to escape by tipping them off prior to the D-Day. In addition to the killing of political figures, they also killed a total of 27 innocent high ranking military officers from every region except their Eastern Region.

In the end an Igbo man called Aguiyi Ironsi, who was supposed to have been killed alongside other military officers, ended up becoming the new military ruler of Nigeria. Rather than immediately arrest and punish the coup plotters, he kept them in detention where they were treated as heroes. This was actually what sowed the seed for the eventual Biafra War. On the 23rd of February 1966 (i.e. a month and 8 days after the first coup porpularly but wrongly known as Nzeogwu coup, an Ijaw born Army officer called Isaac Adaka Boro who hailed from Kaima town of present Bayelsa State, declared the secession of the Niger Delta Republic in an attempt to free his Ijaw people from the monumental marginalization they had been suffering under Igbos in the old Eastern Region.
But Aguiyi Ironsi immediately ordered Colonel Odumegwu Ojukwu to arrest him and hand him over to the military high command under him in Lagos. Ojukwu went all out against Isaac Adaka Boro with federal military might and within 12 fighting days killed 150 Isaac Boro's soldiers, arrested him, stripped him naked, and had him driven to Lagos and handed to Ironsi who immediately charged him to court and within two months secured against him a conviction of treasonable felony for which he was sentenced to death by hanging fixed for December that year by the Supreme Court. His 'crime' was that he declared secession of The Niger Delta Republic from Nigeria. Meanwhile the Igbo coupists who shed innocent blood of other tribes and even sprayed bullets into the bellies of the pregnant wives of Ahmadu Bello and Brigadier Shodeinde were not charged to court or arraigned before any military tribunal.

Isaac Adaka Boro was in detention waiting for December to come for him to join his ancestors. But God so kind, a revenge coup happened on July 29 by Northern soldiers and Ironsi was overthrown and killed. Gowon took over and released Isaac Adaka Boro unconditionally, reinstated him into the Army with his previous rank.

Then on May 30, 1967, Ojukwu too declared secession of Biafra Republic from Nigeria and without consulting or apologising to Isaac Boro, drew a Biafra map which included the very areas that made up Isaac Adaka Boro's earlier declared Niger Delta Republic for which he fought against him and killed his soldiers. Seeing such level of arrogance in Ojukwu, Isaac Boro asked Gowon to provide arms for him to crush Biafra by fighting on the Nigerian side in vengeance for Ojukwu's frustration of his own secession declaration 15 months earlier.
Isaac Boro, as an Ijaw man conversant with the waterways, led the Nigeria Army through the coastal areas into Igboland to finish off thousands of Ojukwu's soldiers thus leading to the crushing defeat of Biafra. But today, Igbos accuse Ijaws of betraying them in the war. But from the facts as above, who really betrayed the other in all honesty? Be the judge. Why Gowon fought against Ojukwu's declaration of Biafra was as follows:

After Ironsi and Ojukwu successfully crushed Isaac Boro's Niger Delta Republic declaration, Ironsi immediately proceeded to promulgate the Anti-secession Decree which made the mere mention of secession from Nigeria punishable with death by hanging. Ojukwu openly supported and endorsed the decree despite disapproval of it by the general public. So when Ojukwu later declared Biafra secession, he was reminded of the Anti-secession Decree made by him and his brother Ironsi.

Deadly Truth: Igbos frequently reference Aburi Accord to create the impression that the rest of Nigerian tribes don't honour agreements. This is a very dishonest narrative from Igbos.

First and foremost Aburi Accord was organized by soldiers and unelected civil servants who should not participate in political exercises like making laws due to the civil service anonymity principle. Secondly, those civil servants and military men in attendance were not elected by their federal constituencies to the Aburi summit. In the philosophy of democracy the only universally acceptable way of making laws is through duly elected representatives of the people. But in going to Aburi the peoples' representatives duly elected in the 1965 elections were all sidelined for soldiers to hijack the process. Where on earth do soldiers make laws for the people? Rather, the civilian populace makes laws that guide the military. Aburi Accord therefore had no seal of the people's sovereignty hence it was an illegality which shouldn't have been allowed to stand.

Thirdly, in 1957, Nigerians from all federal constituencies democratically elected representatives whom they sponsored to London, paid their flight tickets and hotel accommodation for the Independence constitutional conference. Those representatives all resolved and agreed on federalism marked by regional autonomy and resource control in the Independence Constitution which they brought back home and everyone accepted it.

In that constitution, Nigerians all agreed that on no account shall the military take over power. It was also clearly stated in it that ammendments to it could be done by only democratically elected representatives.

That constitution was the first ever agreement between all Nigerians. On the day of his inauguration as the Army GoC, Aguiyi Ironsi stood before the whole world and with his own mouth swore to protect and defend that sovereign Independence constitution regardless of the circumstances that may later arise. But just six years after he manufactured an excuse to clinch power against the clear provisions of that constitution we all agreed to, unilaterally began to amend its provisions with his very offensive Decrees, and ended up dismantling the federalism and resource control therein, and ultimately subverted that constitution we all painstakingly sacrificed to draft. That was the height of Irresponsibility and the dishonoring of sacred agreement. That was how Igbos breached the first agreement, all Nigerians, ever all mutually consented to, thus laying the foundation for violation of future agreements.

So Aburi Accord was only treated exactly the same way Igbos treated the Independence constitution agreement.
Anascopeterson: Obasanjo removed history from the school curriculum hence the reason why many of what we know of the eventualities in Biafra war were altered to suite their narratives.[/qu


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PoliticsRe: Who Brought The Unitary System Of Government To NIGERIA And Why by Born2Breed(f): 6:42am On May 24, 2022
Nebulax:
Unnecessary at this time honestly
History is meant to be told and re-told.
PoliticsRe: Who Brought The Unitary System Of Government To NIGERIA And Why by Born2Breed(f): 6:41am On May 24, 2022
Everything here is 85% correct.

They wanted it all but lost almost all.
Nairaland GeneralRe: The Snake I Killed In My Room by Born2Breed(f): 6:32am On May 24, 2022
It's advisable to fumigate be moving into a new building.
PoliticsRe: Thank You Alimosho by Born2Breed(f): 6:30am On May 24, 2022
Nice[quote][/quote]
PoliticsRe: Peter Obi The Only Aspirant To Be Invited To NO 10 Downing Street By UK Prime Mi by Born2Breed(f): 9:08pm On May 23, 2022
Obidiently solid.
PoliticsRe: Sagay: Obasanjo Violated Constitution, Executed Coup Against Fayose, Ladoja by Born2Breed(f): 5:57pm On May 23, 2022
Garrison commander
PoliticsRe: Adeleke’s Billboards Set Ablaze As Osun PDP Primaries Ends In Violence by Born2Breed(f): 5:57pm On May 23, 2022
Main election never start, political war don start.
PoliticsRe: Southeast And South-south May Back Lawan,and They Should. by Born2Breed(f): 5:56pm On May 23, 2022
grin grin grin

Pipe dream
PoliticsRe: 2023 Elections: Seven Political Parties Merge To Become ‘3rd Force’ Mega Party by Born2Breed(f): 5:52pm On May 23, 2022
3rd force with greedy people.
PoliticsRe: 2023: Don't Accuse North What You Are Guilty Of..Nwajuba To SW by Born2Breed(f): 5:31pm On May 23, 2022
grin grin grin
PoliticsRe: BREAKING: Angry Mob Destroys Ademola Adeleke's Billboard In Osun (photos, Video) by Born2Breed(f): 2:01pm On May 23, 2022
cool

APC
PoliticsRe: If PDP Picks Peter Obi.... - Reno Omokri by Born2Breed(f): 11:56am On May 23, 2022
MissionaryArchi:
If someone else call you a fool now for this you will run and report the fellow with your other account @NLPoliceW0man
No wonder they don't take you serious. Oya report this again
she is a f00l no doubt. Never made any sense and never will.
PoliticsRe: If PDP Picks Peter Obi.... - Reno Omokri by Born2Breed(f): 11:50am On May 23, 2022
Hissing...if APC wins no biggy,so long its a southerner.

If PDP picks any northern, pthen it's the end of PDP forever.

But if one want to be foolish and stupid like those that voted Buhari for the sake of power then two can play the game.

APC, will become history.
PoliticsRe: My Story Wih Fulani Herdsmen By Okafor Stan (Pictures) by Born2Breed(f): 9:26am On May 23, 2022
Thank God oh.
PoliticsRe: The Hypocrisy Of The Highest Order From Media And South East. by Born2Breed(f):
johntredon:
It is clear that your God doesn't give a damn about the ra.pe victim. He is only concerned about the violation of another mans "property".
Death to the Ra.pe Victim (Deuteronomy 22:23-24 NAB)
If within the city a man comes upon a maiden who is betrothed, and has relations with her, you shall bring them both out of the gate of the city and there stone them to death: the girl because she did not cry out for help though she was in the city, and the man because he violated his neighbors wife.
Allah makes permissible for Muslim men to rape non-Muslim women in order to 'humiliate' them. The astonishing claim was made by Suad Saleh, who is a professor from the renowned Al-Azhar University in Cairo, Egypt during the interview on Al-Hayat TV.


He said that raping me is his prayer to Allah. I said to him, ‘What you’re doing to me is wrong, and it will not bring you closer to Allah.’ And he said, ‘No, it’s allowed. It’s halal,’ ” said. “He kept telling me this is ibadah,”
PoliticsRe: The Hypocrisy Of The Highest Order From Media And South East. by Born2Breed(f): 7:16am On May 23, 2022
johntredon:
Maybe you forgot that your Bible preaches ra@pist, murder etc

More Murder Ra.pe and Pillage (Deuteronomy 20:10-14)
As you approach a town to attack it, first offer its people terms for peace. If they accept your terms and open the gates to you, then all the people inside will serve you in forced labor. But if they refuse to make peace and prepare to fight, you must attack the town. When the LORD your God hands it over to you, kill every man in the town. But you may keep for yourselves all the women, children, livestock, and other plunder. You may enjoy the spoils of your enemies that the LORD your God has given you.



What kind of God approves of murder, violation, and slavery?



4) Laws of Ra.pe (Deuteronomy 22:28-29 NLT)
If a man is caught in the act of Desecrating a young woman who is not engaged, he must pay fifty pieces of silver to her father. Then he must marry the young woman because he violated her, and he will never be allowed to divorce her.



What kind of lunatic would make a violation victim marry her attacker? Answer: God in the bible.
Imam Maalik (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:

The man who rapes a woman, whether she is a virgin or not, if she is a free woman he must pay a “dowry” like that of her peers, and if she is a slave he must pay whatever has been detracted from her value. The punishment is to be carried out on the rapist."
PoliticsRe: The Hypocrisy Of The Highest Order From Media And South East. by Born2Breed(f): 6:49am On May 23, 2022
johntredon:
Shut up the Bible said they should eat human being and igbo Christian are eating our security personnel


2 Kings 6:29
So we cooked my son and ate him. The next day I said to her, 'Give up your son so we may eat him,' but she had hidden him."


to cut the story short,the bible god made people practice cannibalism,right?

Jeremiah 19:9
I will make them eat the flesh of their sons and daughters, and they will eat one another's flesh during the stress of the siege imposed on them by the enemies who seek their lives.
prophet Mohammad said, “Breaking the bones of a dead body is like breaking the bones of a live body. Al-Shafie said, “One may eat the flesh of a human body. It is not allowed to kill a Muslim nor a free non-Muslim under Muslim rule (because he is useful for the society), nor a prisoner because he belongs to other Muslims. But you may kill an enemy fighter or an adulterer and eat his body”.
PoliticsRe: The Hypocrisy Of The Highest Order From Media And South East. by Born2Breed(f): 6:49am On May 23, 2022
johntredon:
See hypocrisy when they have started killing your people, you are now condemning them. Continue we are counting scores
Or your people?

UGM ends in the east and dare not encroach main Mid West region.

If they decided to.kill themselves over there who cares, but if they kill you killers and rapist,don't wail. You sowed violence and they are giving it back to you.

Deal with it!
PoliticsRe: The Hypocrisy Of The Highest Order From Media And South East. by Born2Breed(f):
Difrent:
Why dont you also shut the fk up and join Jesus in hellfire his God created for you and him

Nobody has monopoly of foul language on any prophet
He died, he rose and ascended to God almighty and even your Quran testified to that in....

"Q3:55—God said, ‘Jesus, I will take you back and raise you to Me: I will purify you of the disbelievers(muslims). To the Day of Resurrection, I will make those who follow you(christains) superior to those who disbelieved(muslims). Then you will all return to Me and I will judge between you regarding your differences."


We all know where Jesus is right now but Muhammed who was poisoned by Aisha, died an agonizing death after being sick , pooing and eating his poo,vomiting eating his vomit, peeing and drinking his pee. He was locked up and no one had access to him , the poisoned made him run insane until aisha and father finally suffocated him to death and joined satan in hell.


Ignorant bvffoon
PoliticsRe: Lagos Arewa Community Supports Ban, Prosecution Of Okada Riders by Born2Breed(f): 6:33am On May 23, 2022
You have no choice. The ban stands and if you violate the rules, you lose your bike and end up in jail.
PoliticsRe: The Hypocrisy Of The Highest Order From Media And South East. by Born2Breed(f): 6:30am On May 23, 2022
The way you keep referring to Christians are killers, shows how ignorant you are.

The day Christians will take up arms for the sake of Nigeria will be the end of Nigeria.

Christians had always been on tvhe receiving end and don't provoke them, if not you will run past the Niger Republic.

These killers are mostly idolatry and Judaism.
CrimeRe: Black Sunday In Anambra As Gunmen Kill Mother, Four Children, Two Others METRO by Born2Breed(f): 6:17am On May 23, 2022
Sad
PoliticsRe: Unfortunate Gruesome Murder Of a Northerner In Anambra by Born2Breed(f): 6:16am On May 23, 2022
Is this true?
PoliticsRe: The Hypocrisy Of The Highest Order From Media And South East. by Born2Breed(f):
grin


This post is rubbish. Filled with lies.

Before these UGM debacle, every killing of Northerners we're reprisals and since it started,one thing I've learnt is northerners are careful and think carefully before killing southners publicly.

And i know they won't dare it again, cos northern have been killing southerners for ages without reprisals. But the table has turned, the sagamu and orile reprisal won't be forgotten so quick by northerners.

No one has monopoly to violence and I condemn the UGM killings but the north started it.

So shut the fvck up and join Mohammed in hell.
RomanceRe: I Would Have Lost My Girl Friend If Followed An Advice I Got Here. by Born2Breed(f): 8:50pm On May 22, 2022
See brother.... grin
PoliticsRe: Nwabuoku To oversee The Office Of The Accountant-General Of The Federation by Born2Breed(f): 8:45pm On May 22, 2022
grin grin >:
PoliticsRe: Tinubu: If I Am Elected President, Edo Will Become As Beautiful As Lagos by Born2Breed(op): 4:52pm On May 22, 2022
rippa:
Lolzz
And he never make osun state as beautiful as lagos
This man na very funny man
E nor shock u grin
RomanceRe: Can't Get Over My Ex. Please Advice Me by Born2Breed(f): 2:32pm On May 22, 2022
Prettylitlady:
Goodday NL members.. I am here for any matured advice I can get as I understand we have matured people here who can talk senses into my head and make me realise one or two things.

I am in my mid 20's, I dated my Ex for few years, we were both students then in one of the West Universities (graduates now) and I really loved him, it was true love I felt for him to be honest, he wasn't working, I don't demand for money from him or anything, I sell clothes, shoes, bags and do other small businesses while schooling, that's how I foot my own Bills and also give him money sometimes when in need. His family knows me, my family knows him like we were so much in each other(or so I thought). I saw no other guy except him, I built my world around him, we were best of friends as I am an introvert and really don't keep friends so he was my all.
Even though it was a tough decision to make, I had to break up with him due to the following reasons;
1. He has beaten me once and promised not to do it again but he still slapped me in every slightest provocation.
2. He wanted to go into yahoo yahoo. That's not the kind of partner I want, I want a legit hustler not a fraudster.
3. He sometimes cheats on me and I will forgive him always. He tells me I am the main while the others is just for cruise that every guy cheats
4. He suddenly started smoking and drinking due to friends influence I guess (Eew, I don't want that)
5. He is Lazy, always wanting big money buh doesn't want to work. I told him to Start from somewhere after our graduation no matter how little buh he won't heed.
6. He always talks dirty with his female friends even in my presence, I wonder what happens behind me.

I ended the relationship after so much talking, pleas and counselling hoping he will change but he didn't. I dated another guy 2 months later, I know nobody is perfect but trust me when I say my current guy is all I ever wanted in a man. But the truth is I really do not love him that deep, He treats me fine and all but I still feel something for my ex maybe because I was already soo used to him. My boyfriend has told me to go back if that's what I want because he doesn't want a divided attention. I know I can't break up with him because it will hurt him so badly and my conscience won't even allow me because he has done literally nothing wrong, yes we normally have our ups and downs but he hasn't done anything worth breaking up over with.

I just need advice on how I can get this my ex off my head for good. We don't communicate, I have deleted all his numbers, We have been separated for a few months now but I still think of him every single day even when I have a good guy already. I don't know what is wrong with me pleasee
If you miss him that much then go back to him.

Any man that hits you and to crown it all he is lazy, such men should be avoided like plague.

You have something good, hold on to it, and talk less about your ex when around your current guy or you go back to your vomit.0

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