This is difficult situation for me, my mom's house has been left uncompleted since 2014 just the foundation and probably 2couch were placed ontop since then it's been there because she had to send my siblings and I to higher institution. Now am of age, doing quite well for myself. I think am finally ready to build a house, was thinking about getting a land 100 by 50 and raise 5 bedroom flats... but on the other hand that my mom's building had been left uncompleted since it's a family land, relatives are starting to say somethings and sometimes I could see the shame on my mom's face when she goes to her family compound. Almost every months they always call her to come clear it that it has become harbor for snakes and pests. So I thought why don't I just complete it for her first.
The issue here Is immediately I told my fiancee she said it's a good idea but kicked against it. That I should build mine first, before completing my mom's. That it can wait.
I also confided in a friend of mine, he said almost same thing, that my thing is different from our own. Saying am not the only one my mom gave birth to, if I complete it now I should be ready to share it with my siblings no matter what when the time comes.
I'm confused and need advice on the step to take. I would really want to complete that house for my mom I Know it would mean a lot to her..I'm really confused.
One way or the other somebody has to develop it, if I the first son don't do it now that am financially stable. Then my younger bro will do it, trust me it won't make sense that way that's just my fear.
There is always what is referred to as family house.
Also, you made mention of making your mother happy.
Why not give her that joy, let her wake up every morning and say this is my house which my beloved son with whom, i am well pleased built for me.
You will be shocked that after the house warming, that bigger doors will open and your personal building will commence. The prayer of mothers, opens bigger doors.
Afonjamuslim24: A typical head slammer is mean, barbaric, wicked and oppressive. Even in this Nairaland forum, you are made to swear an oath of allegiance to head slamming, before you can comment on head slamming related posts. You are immediately suspended or your comment deleted if you speak against head slamming or head slamming regions.
As usually, my comment will be deleted soon by a head slamming mod.
Naira land has always shown a special preference for Muslims, it's baffling that the owner isn't even a Muslim.
Christians are cowards though hence the trampling.
SAYEDADAMADAMS: This issue is not a complicated matter as some want to make it appear. 1. Deborah did very bad and put herself directly in the line of harm by her wicked swearing against the prophet of Islam SAW.
2. Globally every idiot knows that insulting the Prophet is a no go Area whether in Muslim communities, the West or any part of the world. This stance was made pronounced since Salman Rushdie, the Kano Quran desecration case, Charlie Habdo cartoon etc .... All Muslims are Unanimous on zero tolerance against insults on the Prophet of Islam SAW.
3. It's puzzling how Deborah who grew up in Kebbi (Tungar Magajiya, Zuru) famous for peaceful co existence amongst all adherents of faith will wake up one day in the course of a mere group discussion and non-challantly dish out insult on the Prophet. Even as she was being cautioned in the background this girl went ahead to post the insult.
4. As the outcry began she ought to have apologised or even run away to seek refuge until the matter die down. One must wonder why she did it? Why didn't she withdraw her audio? Why didn't she run away from the school afterwards? Were some people behind her, encouraging her ? Perhaps with some rewards and promises of protection? Are there no political motives in deliberately stirring this trouble knowing that it's crossing the Red lines in any Muslim community?
5. One is tempted to also Ask, why would that mob take the Law into their hands? Are there Laws against such inciting utterances? Are they implementable? What happened to those who violated the Law (if its in existence) against insulting other people's religion? Are we witnessing a growing trend in insults/desecration with impunity? If Deborah was arrested and handed to Law Enforcement would she be adequately punished? To this I must point out to the Government's failure in curbing the root causes of religious crisis and stemming things in the bud. The Law Enforcement must be seen as actively protecting everyone and especially ensuring that trouble makers (abusing other peoples religion) are promptly dealt with.
6. One must also Ask if the action of this Mob will serve as an adequate deterent?
To that I must say that mob action is not a desirable action, however I now believe with conviction that no one will try it again. Atleast not while living within the Muslim community or where Muslims live. Even Area boys that don't practice much religion could take her out... Sokoto don't have a history of religions crisis however she crossed the red line.
7. We have been saying for long that people are confused about their rights and freedoms. It is not freedom of speech to insult another persons religion. Thus the government and the Sultanate after arresting the mob must also come out to condemn any acts of desecration or insults against Islam. It is not okay to insult another persons religion and it's not freedom of speech to do so.
8. It is most unfortunate that it happenned in the first place. The girl must have been on drugs or something to do such a thing in Sokoto. I hope the school authorities and all communities will take precautions, brief new students and migrant communities against inciting trouble. Now after the Hullaboo on the social media for some days...then what? Deborah indeed killed herself.
She will be slapping muhamMAD head now in the grave and pissing on his body.
lalasticlala: Nigerian actress, Osas Ighodaro who just won AMVCA Best Actress In A Drama - Movie/TV Series has won another award as the Best Dressed at the red carpet. She won 500k.
WhatCanIsay: Na this kind of mindset makes it easy for evildoers to perpetuate their evil. You are now codedly praising and in admiration of cultists for the evils they can unleash.
Glory be to God, the the of Junior student of Deeper Life school ,Uyo who caused his seniors and the teachers of the school molestation was finally laid to rest on 13th of May 2022 as they two parties reconciled and settle out of court.[/quote