₦airaland Forum

Kobojunkie:
What in the world are you talking about?

"Your case is like that of a woman who thinks the only way to raise is to flog said child whenever it errs,ignorant of the fact that there are less brutal and even more effective ways of doing the exact same"

Kobojunkie:
I didn't answer because this issue is not meant to be subjective but objective .

And that's why you downgraded the female gender in your previous statement?

Kobojunkie:
Oh, now you think because my opinion and experience differs from yours it means I am not married. Look, your case is like that of a woman who thinks the only way to raise is to flog said child whenever it errs,ignorant of the fact that there are less brutal and even more effective ways of doing the exact same.

Marriages break up whether you check each other's phones of you don't. So, telling me that not checking your partner's phones is key to longevity marriage is another foolish trip down the path of denial.

You didn't answer the question sir. Rather resulted into demeaning the conversation.
It's obvious you're still suckling.

Kobojunkie:
Privacy in marriage?

Exactly. Are you married sir?

Jennyclay:
If I can’t go through my man phone, then he shouldn’t go through my phone.

I must know his password to his phone and ATM card.

Ole thief

Kobojunkie:
Any woman who suggests this to others is not in a marriage herself but a prison defined by such restrictions. If you are not free to even look at your partner's phone, then you might as well say you are just fuckmates?

You are wrong here sir, I think you need to check the meaning of Privacy! The thing is there's nothing wrong in using your partners phone but invading into conversations such as messages or calls that does not concern your partner is the problem. We feel too entitled in this part of the world.

E nor change anything price o

UCyril:
Some of those motorist don't have driver's license or valid vehicle papers yet we don't see anything wrong with it.

Two wrongs make a right? Oga go sit down.

You're not o. This one wey them wan start deportation so.

Way to go bro, fire her better warning then apologies later. If she dears again, make the firing harder.
If she no get manners, make she find another man for daughter wey no know where to place respect of common sense.
If I was in your shoes, they will have been begging by now.

About to check the difference btw clue and clueless. Make Niger open border for am.

Biodun556:


May God let Tinubu/Shetima tenure he a source of blessings for me and my family

And me and mine too (Amen)

Ahhh

nedekid:
Me with 3, and for over 21 years. Based on what this fellow said. His wife seems not to work. She is at home with one child. He goes to work, come back in the evening, she is even wearing the same pant and bra ie she has being lazing around. You then expect the man to do chores? Howww??.
I am not saying chores should not be done, I do it, even up till now my kids are grown. But in this man's unique case, his matter passes assisting his wife with house work.

Well, different stokes for different folks. I do think a change of approach by him is required. Since he loves her so, sacrifices just have to be made to make things right. Ego! Thank God he has a good one, cannot be mismanaged at this time.

nedekid:
Yes, are you?

Yes I am. With two wonderful kids that only my wife can't handle.

nedekid:
A lady that is not working, the man should come back home and do chores etc?

Are you married?

CuriousMind2022:
It's a known fact that most Nigerian girls marry who they consider ready for marriage and not necessarily who they love. I am exactly in that dilemma and the question I am asking myself is whether I should continue in this loveless marriage or slowly drift and walk away.

My marriage is barely 2 years and a few months, but it has been a rough journey for me. Things I never envisaged I would experience in my marriage, I have suffered, from utmost disrespect to verbal abuse.

I came to the conclusion that she doesn't love or care about me based on what happened yesterday. I was recently transferred from my base to a new location and because of that, I would only be able to visit weekends or twice a month. Prior to that, we barely had sex once a week.

We had already had sex the normal once we usually had it (Saturday morning), but I wanted more because I will only be coming back after two weeks. I initiated a move on Sunday morning, she declined because she was thinking of preparing food for our baby before we leave for church. We went to church and came back, and as usual, my wife was in her undies (just panties and bra) in the sitting room (This was what she wore throughout that Sunday).

I watched her walk around the house in that and that even turned me on the more. I am a practicing Christian, and I try not to look after other women lustfully, but common this is my wife, even God sanctions that. After being turned on throughout the day, I went to my wife in the night, (note she slept in the sitting room with our baby leaving me alone in the room) to enjoy my conjugal rights with her, but she gave me excuses that she is upset and not in the mood.

I left and went back, seriously konjified, I managed to sleep. The next morning, I woke up with my urges and went to the sitting room to have my morning devotion, but I could barely concentrate because I was still very Hot. I explained to her that so really wants me to go to my new station like this knowing fully well I will not be coming back until 2 weeks time. This woman did not care!

I took my bath, prepared myself, and set out for my office. I was not happy with her but I kept my cool and left for work. She had demanded that I dropped some money for her before leaving and despite the fact that I was not happy with her, I dropped the money in a conspicuous place where I know she will see it before leaving. This was my own way of saying I am not happy with what you did, but I still cared.

I try to do things I usually do for my wife even when I am angry with her. This is my own way of saying I may be angry with you, but I still cared about you and I am open to a resolution. On the other hand, my wife doesn't care what happens to me when she is upset. She immediately stops cooking for me ad any other thing she does for me when she is upset. It is obvious to me now that to my wife I don't really matter in the grand scheme of things. She is only caring and concerned, when she is not angry (when we are good and we don't have any issues). I believe that when you love somebody, you treat them right and show genuine love and care for them even when you're upset with them. This is what I have constantly shown to my wife in our 2+ years of marriage.

Back to my story of what happened weekend/Monday. My wife never bothered to call me to check if I arrived safely since I left the house yesterday. I even called her once (primarily to check on my daughter), but she didn't pick up and she didn't call back, and up till now, we have not spoken.

She obviously does not care whether I arrived safely in my station or not. In this country of insecurities, a family member of yours will travel and you do not care whether he/she arrived safely, that is the height for me, and in the actual sense, I should be the one upset here because she left me high and dry, despite knowing fully well I am very Hot.

I am a family-oriented person, I have always dreamt of having a peaceful, loving, and Godly home but unfortunately, the reverse is the case for my wife. I began to understand why family background is very important in a person's life, after getting married. My wife is from a family where they place little or no value on marriage. Her mother had children with 2 men, and my wife is obviously working very hard to follow that same path. She shows little or no enthusiasm in making our marriage work. I am always the one to initiate moves to resolve issues when we quarrel, whether I am right or wrong, I do not care, my focus is just on making my marriage work and my home peaceful.

This last episode shook me very hard, and I have been asking myself whether I want to continue in this loveless marriage or opt out. Working and living in a different city will even make it easier for me.

I needed to let my thoughts out and thanks to Nairaland, I have done so.

My guy, I understand. You are not the first this has happened to. First relax. You really poured this out and from this, you are in control of yourself.
The truth is you'd have to endure and keep trying, one other ish is the distance, it's not healthy. Aside you marrying her n providing money, do you help her with chores! Like taking care of the baby, relieve her of cooking stress by eating out? Or doing laundry together once in a while? That could be the pointer!

Kobojunkie:
All I read is you equate love with sex and your wife denying you sex means she has no love for you. And you somehow think the blame should all be on her as far as the problems you perceive in your marriage, no be so? **yawn***

Wetin dis one dey talk. Abeg gerrat.

Sometimes I wonder if Buhari leaves in Limbo. The bros nor just dey ok.

Na insurgency cause am.

lonecatt:
you guys can continue gossiping

who is chairman is not the business at the election petition tribunal make una carry una joblessness go one side.

Ignorant point.

In an impoverished state? Is this governor human?

Lordofalmajiri:
I understand the Woman's pain, how big boy like this no go fit recite ABCD? But education isn't by force Sha , she can learn a skill in future or join the hookupians .. all join...

Did you even read the article? How do you expect a child that is out of school to recite the English alphabet? You and that woman are likes.

It's 13 players against 12. John Stones doing the damage. If you know, you know.

Simeonee111:
I like the guy

Seems to be a silent achiever unlike Dino who is a noise maker

Please list his achievements aside impoverishing LGA workers along side Bello.

If he's father and the rest had given us the health sector we want, e no go lead to this.

THIEVES!!! They are responsible for over 90% of deaths and state of penury of LG workers in Kogi State. Shame await you people in December.

SpatialKing:
Did any of you condemn his actions?

You dey follow me?

mycar:
your own is the worst, you should ask yourself this question.; The government you guys have supported and the government most of the obidients have supported in the past, which one was better?
The joke is on you
By the way, Adeboye did not make that statement neither did he authorize it

oga lor suun. take a good look at the country and her leaders. Who has been more successful at building men who has delivered something better one way or the other. Compared to one trying to equate economies together to form a non existing economy. Dey whine yourself.

SpatialKing:
Recently, Festus Keyamo descended on and insulted an ordained Cardinal, an Archbishop emeritus...
Who is more higher in ranking than RCCG daddy GO..
Just because he had a contrary opinion

You were all Clapping for for him..

And because i am not an obidient, i supported Keyamo's actions?

Really ehn, the level of intolerance and insensitivity of Obidients to contrary opinions is terrible. If this election is run again, Obi go still cast.

Felabrity:
Certificate that will be returned.

- Oby Ezekwesili

Agbados quoting me are in severe pains

U dey wilderness dey whine yourself. BAT shall return it after 8 years.