₦airaland Forum

Peachy14:
while some person like me call covid-19 in Nigeria is because, look at the way we Nigerian mingle together yet nothing happened, is Cross river and kogi state not in Nigeria? why is there no corona cases record there. some state governor are just forming figures. Fg should stop this game and allow us to go about our normal activities

Chikelue2000:
madam u fine but d truth is....they are concerned about our lives too....Corona virus no be play matter....imagine killing over 200k n still counting....just imagine it kills say 100k Nigerians....na war oooo

ybalogs:
If you see your mechanic,and his whole family going to church with your car,and you are on bike what will you do?

jaxxy:
Support her like u weren’t supporting her b4? I don’t get this role interchange just necks if who is providing at a particular point in time.

Even if the man was earning I expect him to support and not sit back. This is always a partnership and has nothing to do with who is earning more. By default the man leads also.

The role interchange for money sake is unnecessary and uncalled for. Unless by irresponsible and rude woman/wives.

jaxxy:
It doesn’t to me, the problem is the mindset. I have never said, the man doesn’t do stuffs in a relationship or marriage. And weather he does or don’t do he is the leader of the family. This is my point.

A ship can’t sail without a captain. I dont know why ladies marry or respect men these days it seems it’s strictly for money. Bt that is a stupid thing to do if u ask me. When u can make ur own money. The leaderships of the home is not a conditional one once u agree to marriage.

tonapuck:
My dad lost his job and his wife never for one second disrespect him, to the extent that we children thought our father was still the one providing for our needs then, anything she buys she says your father bought this for you, we thought our father has saved lot of money not knowing our mother was the doing everything. She bought a car and we thought our father bought it. After 2years when things were back to normal for him, he told us our mother was the breadwinner of the house for the past 2years. He can die for her.

Ybaby:
Wow.
Men still exist..... I thought they all drank soya milk and got feminized.

Real men are still around

Ope o!

Ryan03:
lol, thats not what I meant bro, a man is meant to provide, that fact cannot be disputed but when you marry a woman who didnt marry you just for your ability to provide, then you know you have a blessing in your life.
A man might meet with misfortune in life doesn't mean he wont stand up again, I don't want a woman who will start running to family and friends to beg simply because things are rough for me, or start prostititing herself because she have nothing doing or will simply walk out the marriage because I am incapable to provide fir a little period. I dont want that woman

LeOstrich:
Scammers.

Just wait and see how this same NCDC and NABDA with no track record in vaccine development and production will come out later and declare they have developed a vaccine.

That same vaccine is from Bill Gates and no other just as this rubbish development is.

The idea is now to make you have confidence in a local vaccine given that anything Bill Gates is now satanic.

Ladycewhy:
in those 20 years the man was doing his responsibility there was balance. Everyone was doing their assigned duty. But when the man stops providing ,the balance is distorted and more burden falls on the wife.


A wife has to not only do her duty but also do the man's own as well. The least he can do is not give her a hard time .


In a normal balance all a man does is go to work come back and lift his legs up to watch news but now you can't expect the woman to do all her duty and still feed you ontop while you continue to lift your legs up to watch news. If you can't be the head (which involves providing) then embrace your role as a house husband.

Most men think being house wives is a lazy job,well since you can't provide as a man ,then take up the lazy job of being a house husband ,it's that simple.


Infact these days women work and still do their duties while all the men do is work and come home to lift their legs up,you don't see women complain even though they are subjected to the same work pressure as their husbands,only to be a house husband to atleast ease the stress from madam,you hear these men whining and nagging like babies of how their penis will get smaller when they become house husbands.

executive12:
Not really. There are many supportive and understanding women out there. As long as the man is seen to be trying to get a job.

Karleb:
I'd love if you could come up with something for jobless wives too, it'll help alot.

tonapuck:
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Kenplay:
You forgot to write something.
Those times you are playing mr nice husband is the time she will lose appeal for you and began to sleep around. Acting Nice and slavish before wife because you lost your job is an insult to your manhood and a worst insult before the sight of God.

Why could you not save money during your working days? God forbid I try those rubbish you write there, the Time you lost your job is the time to bring out the beast and monster in you. Keep fighting, keep searching and also stamp firm your authority in the house, if she go away then fine but I assure in a short time you will have the last laugh and regain all what you lost.

LIFE IS NOT FOR THE WEAK.

jaxxy:
Not everything the whiteman or west teaches is beneficial sm are detrimental. Let’s pick the good and ignore the bad. It hasn’t worked so well for them. Embracing a 50/50 relationship doesn’t mean insulting the leadership position of the man

Psoul:
No matter how wonderfully good your wife is, once she starts feeding and it got to about 6months and counting, my brother, you're in for some insults irrespective of how you've bn carrying her all the year long.

Well, it's not their fault. They are not wired to feed men, just like men are not wired to sit at home taking care of babies.

The first time a woman fed a man was what brought this suffering to humanity. Adam was feeding Eve all along. The first day Eve fed Adam was the same day God sent them out from the garden of Eden.

bootstrap:
Why? You think it’s the pe**s that calls for the respect? It’s the breadwinner that gets the respect.

Husband is not a gender role, it’s responsibility role. OP, u forgot to add that the jobless man (wife), needs to be reading the role of the wife, as contained in the Bible.... He shld be submissive and the rest....

mandate12:
23 - make business calls or pretend to make business call.. it's important, it gives her hope you are connecting.. "my brother me and you know say na 10k you dey shout like that for" grin

24 - go grocery shopping with her, you get to use the opportunity to throw drinks into the cart and remove face immediately, if your eyes jam.. you would return that drink ooo.

This got me ROTFL... But why is it that a man goes lean being fed by a woman, while a woman glows being fed by a man ?

efosky1246:
But is it that guys don't save at all. Every right thinking man that takes seriously his responsibility to provide should have a decent amount that can take his family through a crisis for at least 6 months saved somewhere.

At least that is more than enough time to get your shit back together.

Uckroot:
The most useless thing I’ve ever read on this app.

1. If you write this same thing for jobless wives heaven will come down.

2. Any man whose character changes when he has money vs when he doesn’t have is a full time bitch. Moreso when someone who supposedly loves you is the person you have to do all these for in order not to “piss her off”.

3. Any man that doesn’t already do house chores whether broke or rich (in the absence of an actual housekeeper) is a raging lunatic and a pig!!! You don’t need to be broke first because you know you’re not a kid that litters the sink and soils surfaces for your great grand mother to clean up after you.

4. Money doesn’t make a man. I don’t care how much you people try to paint it in this modern society, everybody should have a standard they can never go below. Male or female. Being unemployed is not the end of life and it doesn’t negate your humanity... MOST IMPORTANTLY DO NOT LET ANY BODY TAKE THE GLORY FOR PUTTING FOOD IN YOUR MOUTH, at any cost... Someone could be footing the bigger bills till you get on your feed but even if it means you have to drink garri to avoid the insults and demeaning treatment that rice and stew will bring please do it.

5. Any woman that changes attitude just because you hit a rough patch is NoT meant to be your wife, same applies to any human infact. If your worth is what you can afford then you have no value to such a person... you’re just a convenience that will be shifted once they think you no longer have anything financial to offer.

6. Married or not, you must respect yourself. This means don’t take what you did not keep EVEN IF YOU CAN BUY IT. Go and buy your own instead. The person that kept it is not foolish. Boredom or not, if you can’t take permission before touching people’s stuff then hold your throat.
A lot of people have this bad habit already and it will lead to rubbish talks as soon as you are percieved to be broke. 100 naira biscuit go turn insult.

Number 28 is the funniest thing on this post...
That is just a show of shame. If you don’t give her money in public like that she shouldn’t dare do it to you.
I’m a heavy advocate for do me I do you...
If you treat me less than human because I’m on a rough patch best believe there can never be a happily ever after...even if your vagina is made of diamonds and pearls and you are the most beautiful woman in the world. Don’t belittle me if I don’t belittle you....
You know the true nature of friends and spouses when they have it all and you have nothing.
Nobody likes babysitting another full grown adult BuT it doesn’t call for outright disrespect especially in front of 3rd party.

Very funny I will just leave you. Even in the middle of my life being in shambles... anything that will kill my esteem deserves to be killed. And that is final.

Ryan03:
I laughed all through, I like you tho, from your write up, its obvious you married your friend. Not someone who married you for what you can provide. Kudos

crackland:
That's if she will see you to quarrel with.

phantom24:
Just heard on this morning on comfort 95.1 fm that each state of the federation is to receive about 1.5bn dollars each from the world bank as measures to cushion the effect of covid-19 on the economy. By my calculation this money is almost 500bn in naira equivalence for each state. This is aside from the normal statutory allocations from the FG. Please lets hold our government accountable because this single donations to each states is beyon the annual budgets of individual states in the federation. We must be watchful over the affairs of our leaders if we truly need to furge ahead.

crackland:
Cosigned...

In addition to all this, please make yourself as scarce as possible in the house and around her.
If possible, just tell her that you're travelling and spend a week or two away...then return back and continue being very scarce around her.

LeOstrich:
As I said earlier, you are a liability to Bill Gates AND must be fired ASAP!

LeOstrich:
Already it has begun.

China plunged into darkness in midday.

BayMc:
oh'kay!
so as a person, on personal grounds, all you ever wanna be is a "house wife" to a man?! a man working his arse off while you bring virtually nothing to the table?!
like you've got no goals, no prospect, no ambition to make your own damn money...buhh would rather depend on your so'called rich husby for every damn cent you would spend?!

"I'm a housewife to my husband", as if it's a proud thing to say.

no one is crying you a pond, talkless of a damn river!
Snap out of your illusion.

sexylassie2:
The biggest mistake a woman can make is marrying a man with no income.

The reality is most men want to eat their cake and have it, they want a traditional wife but cant carry the responsibility of marrying a traditional woman.

Shebi you are the man, why do you need a woman that works, aren't you guys the superior being.

The only reason why you need a working woman is to prey on her finance, to be realistic, only broke men want a working woman, a rich man wants a house wife.

Note: cry me a river, you won't get any reply from me.

GRAMMARJAMES:
Hello Nairalanders. Make una no mind my English abeg.

My 2020 resolution was to save as much as 500,000 so I can get myself one small land for area. I work with a private firm earning salary between 30,000 - 45,000. Na so the firm stop our salary because of say Colombian Drivos (Covid19) drop sales.

Na so hunger set in. I tried not to be tempted to touch my land savings but mhen, hunger kill pass corona. Na so I vex break my MorteinBank. Guess how much I save from Jan till date!? 25,000. I cannor GoaN comaN kee myself. I've already written down what I'm gonna shop tomorrow (food stuffs), I'll be managing the rest pending when my firm calls us back!!

MOBBDEEP:
@Ope88, amidst all other things e.g reckless permissive upbringing on your brother & the likes, your dad has mental disorder (a psychotic problem) and your brother too. Your brother is most likely manifesting this illness onset early in life as encountered in reality more often than not compared to your dad.
They both need medical (mental) care.