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Ope88:
Please don't read and pass, also Pardon all my typo, I'm typing out of duress.

I am from a family of six, 3 girls, 1 boy including my parents.
I had a horrible childhood experience, My Mum (no thanks to her) was something I can't quantify, I can't start writing every of the things she did and I can't say If the religion she practiced contributed largely to the devilish attitude she put up while growing up.

My mum has no good record anywhere, in the church, with the neighbours, with her siblings, we the children, her in laws and even at work, She was always at war with people, if she dreams that someone was trying to attack her in the dream, if she sees the person the following day, she was ready to attack the person.

Also, she would curse her children at any slightest provocation and leave only my brother out(last born and spoilt), She doesn't have any good relationship with her siblings and won't allow my dad visit his family member, I remembered them (Mum and dad) always saying this (don't be unequally yoked together with unbelievers). To them anyone who isn't a Christian (deeper life) is not supposed to be associated with.. My dad on countless occasion will call his mum a witch just because she was a Muslim and one of the oloyes of allasalatu(Muslims will understand this) and had nothing to do with his family members.

This went on and on like this until my elder sister moved out of the house and in the process of trying to find her feet, she got pregnant and my mom practically tormented her life, she later got married to the man, and for that act alone, she's always at logger heads with my sister and her husband..

Later, I got married and then my younger sister followed suit, leaving my dad, herself and my younger brother (whom I have disowned).

Ever since the three of us got happily married, and left the home, my dad slipped into severe depression. Although he has been depressed given lots of things he encountered, job loss, no social interaction, unforgiveness amongst others, it became severe when all his female children left, then from severe depressgion, he started having mental issues, he would wake up and leave the house talking to himself, or start preaching and going out of point with anyone he finds on the street, sometimes he would leave and come home at night, my younger brother who is supposed to comfort and help him, treats him with disdain, my mum who is supposed to check mate his excesses would leave him to his folly and now he has started standing up to her and everyone else in the house..

At 26, he doesn't know his bearing and obviously we have been seeing signs of him wanting to inherit the houses my father built in the same compound.. (and we have noticed that my mum has been making him understand that every of the property belongs to him).

The last straw which broke the camel's back happened one week ago, my elder sister ( who is 9 year older than him) took advantage of the lockdown and visited my father, he is usually exited when we are around him whc helps his severe moodiness. There and then an argument broke out between my sister and my brother, she asked why my brother was insulting our mum for an action that happened in the compound, he beat my sister up and her three children and boasted that, the rest of us (my sister and I) dare not do anything and that by the way we must stop coming to the house, that if he sees any of us He will beat us up, My mum who was supposed to resolve the matter started blaming my sister, asking her why she always love to come visiting, that she's supposed to be in her husband's house or father in laws place and immediately called her hubby to come pick her.

Its been one week my sister left for her house, my daddy who enjoyed her company when she was present started misbehaving again at home. He started roaming, he started cursing everyone.

The reason I'm writing is this, my dad is no where to be found, he left the house yesterday Friday 15th May 2020 and was last seen in ITAMAGA IKORODU, we keep trying his number but he is not picking and now his number is switched off, I'm sure he is still wandering about.

My sisters and I have decided that even when he is found(by God's grace) we do not what him to go back living with my mum and brother.

What other alternatives do we have to care for him, as his own siblings are not happy with him either for abandoning them and their mum (his own mum),, when they needed him the most..


I AM SO SORRY FOR THE LONG POST.. PLEASE HELP ME.



Modified..... My dad has been found today Sunday, 17th May 2020, my sweet mother (elder sister) found her, she has been on her feet since he went missing, luckily he was found but in a terrible state, I saw him via video calls and I wept, he can't recognize even my sister again, and just muttering some words we don't understand, he closes his eyes while saying this and asked everyone to go and leave him, he looks so faint and weak and would not leave where he his...My sister has called his siblings and she's waiting for the next line of ACTION from them.

I'll keep updating the house with reports from our end..

Why not take him to the Psychiatrist?
They will provide him drugs to balance out his chemicals or hormones.
I know the B vitamins help with moods but take him to the hospital.

Leece:
My 50 Yrs Old Boss Shows A Lot Of Cleavage When We Meet, What Could She Want?

So I got this job around 2019 and I noticed from the very day I went for my interview, there was this woman who happened to be very lenient with me and cautioned others when they asked me tough question. All she did saved me from disgracing myself in front of 5 panelist. After the interview I waited till they closed just so i could say thank you.

When she came out around 7 pm she was more elegant and had this carriage that suits her age. I approached her and she recognized me immediately she was happy to see me and I thanked her. As I was about to leave she offered me a ride and being a very good conversationist that I am, I began to talk and she became very free with me. She told me a lot about her husband and his drinking addiction and how he neglected her sexual needs. I tried comforting her with words and ended by saying she is 50 na her libido should be dead by now, she didn't take offence but replied and said I cant handle her if we ever get down.

Fast forward to when I resumed, I realized she was the CFO of the organisation, now fear don catch me. I couldn't even look her in the eye to start a conversation. I think she noticed and she called me to her office and was laughing at me and later told me she would like us to keep talking the way we did yesterday cause she doesn't have much friends.

There was this day she was dancing to an old Fuji song in the office, her office is sound proof moreover it was already past office hours, i went to say goodbye, she called me to come in and didn't let me leave. I thought to myself another free ride.

She jumped up at a point and had a nip slip, i mean both breast were literally out. I just closed my eyes, she fixed it and was smiling at me.
Since that time till now she has been showing massive cleavage anytime i'm around her. She has started calling me my dear and other staff are calling me omo mummy and they dont know what I am facing

No complain of liver failure o because e be like say you dey remind me of the goat wet them dey lead to the slaughter in the Scripture below

Proverbs 7:
4 Say unto wisdom, Thou art my sister; and call understanding thy kinswoman:

5 That they may keep thee from the strange woman, from the stranger which flattereth with her words.

6 For at the window of my house I looked through my casement,

7 And beheld among the simple ones, I discerned among the youths, a young man void of understanding,

8 Passing through the street near her corner; and he went the way to her house,

9 In the twilight, in the evening, in the black and dark night:

10 And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtil of heart.

11 (She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house:

12 Now is she without, now in the streets, and lieth in wait at every corner.)

13 So she caught him, and kissed him, and with an impudent face said unto him,

14 I have peace offerings with me; this day have I payed my vows.

15 Therefore came I forth to meet thee, diligently to seek thy face, and I have found thee.

16 I have decked my bed with coverings of tapestry, with carved works, with fine linen of Egypt.

17 I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.

18 Come, let us take our fill of love until the morning: let us solace ourselves with loves.

19 For the goodman is not at home, he is gone a long journey:

20 He hath taken a bag of money with him, and will come home at the day appointed.

21 With her much fair speech she caused him to yield, with the flattering of her lips she forced him.

22 He goeth after her straightway, as an ox goeth to the slaughter, or as a fool to the correction of the stocks;

23 Till a dart strike through his liver; as a bird hasteth to the snare, and knoweth not that it is for his life.

24 Hearken unto me now therefore, O ye children, and attend to the words of my mouth.

25 Let not thine heart decline to her ways, go not astray in her paths.

26 For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her.

27 Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death.

Ehn! Will you drop that thing.




















The caption says, "reply as Nigerian Mum",

Not, "tell us yo Momma's reaction"

DamnnNiggarr:
Any man that convinced a girl with sêx(as if na sêx she go chop for her life)
Is a complete mugu.

Me sef I surprise.
Dem dey win women with sex?
You fit win woman with gift and money, I no know about this one.

Teeklef:
I swear, I wan cry that day. Why will you be greeting me without money?who him greeting help?

Food business Na good business too.

Teeklef:
The last time I got paid was in February.
My proprietor called during this unwanted holiday, I was very happy thinking something must to drop but the man just said"hello! I just want to say hi". I nearly cried that day.

Lol, abeg no make me laugh.

Ayomide11111:
I have laptop and networking devices that can help me into
Street, but that was when I was in school, all my niggas has gone
Far.. No one with me now

You did yahoo yahoo?
Most people that do yahoo yahoo say there are no repercussions.
But I think the devil has taken back what he gave you and more.

You need to pray for forgiveness and deliverance from the devil's grip.

PS
Never go to Mountain of fire and miracles or any of their offsprings o

Crownbefitsme:
https://punchng.com/pdp-rejects-curfew-extension/

Now PDP is talking.

We the people of Nigeria say no to the SGF as President of Nigeria.
The NCDC is not more powerful than the nation of Nigeria.
Neither are the offices DG of NCDC and the Chief of staff to the President more powerful than our Governors speakless of the office of the President Federal Republic of Nigeria!

We say no to tyranny.
And we say no to selling our people into slavery for personal and/or national monetary gains!.

Nigerian people are more important than greedy gains!!!

Dear Donald Trump,
Kindly withdraw funding permanently from WHO whether they promise you independence from China or not.
We beg you please.

Mrpsly247:
Which kind sly be this wey nor cunning...

Maybe im friend dey here.

InvertedHammer:
I don't think you have learned anything in life.

Yes o, lesson dey wey person must learn for life and im must learn am hard.
And when person learn am finish e no come still get sense, e must suffer am.

But God just still bless some people sha, them dey sabi learn lesson from another person experience.

Starhearts:
Lies everywhere in the country

Lol, in the Country??

MrBigiman:
No. All my attempt at best friends failed. Short story

I was always first in secondary school, and at worst 3rd position, and my so called best friend was jealous of me. When my JSCE results came out my own best friend told me I failed woefully, when I had in fact picked all As. That was the end of our friendship.

In the University, I had a set back. My best friend started working before me. When i discovered he was serving close to where i lived i buzzed him up to check on him, probably he could dash me some change. He totally blanked me, and never sort anyway to see me for a whole year. Probably because he was now successful. But we were like brothers before the fame.

I have learnt the hard way that people don't necessarily take us the way we take them. And that it's best to forge on in life without grudges, but keep a safe distance from having any emotional attachment with any man.

A chap stayed with me without paying rent. He was processing IELTs to travel, but I didnt know, which is no problem at all. He ate my food, slept on my bed, and did his graduation party at my place without paying a single rent. He even did his graduation party in my house. He served and travelled out, only reaching out to me once. He then changed numbers and I never could reach him. When I saw his post on FB, I left a comment for him to inbox me his number but he never did, probably because he was abroad and i will be a liability.

Life continues

Bigiman

Oya naw, start to post Bigiman pix for FB make we see whether na because of liability im cut you off

ak22:
Remind him and if he Apologize then welcome him and do a little help that you can do. Do you know that if he didn't react to you that way you will still be with him and due to that you can still remain poor . but in all things let give thanks to God . but you don't tell us type of the work you are doing .

No be the guy help Op.

God, who is a Specialist at working out everything for the good of those who love Him, was the one that helped Op.

God is the one that turned a terrible situation around for good for the Op.
So Op owes God his gratitude, not his friend.

xangerar:
I won't advise you to take him in. If you can afford it, show him good faith by lodging him in a guest house at least for two days and that would be enough.

Since 2006 till date, I live with a pain, and wished I never allowed a certain fellow remain my best friend after I realized his intentions towards me were not pure. I was afraid of losing a friend since I didnt have much friends, but for 10 years and more now, I look back and I wish I ended that friendship in 2003.

E yaah sorry o.
Share story give us make we learn nah.

lesson44:
I had close to your experience in America when I moved here 16yrs ago. Best friends eyes dey red because I needed them for the first time in our friendship. But I got my things together by God grace and I catch up with them and Overtake some. My advice is, be careful with how you deal with him if you decided to let him stay in your house. He can't stop your Shine in though.

So when you overtake them, wetin them come do? Them come be good friends again to you?

idonhammer:
2milion naira in two months is even small...it is called soft work. Can u do it?

Wetin be soft work? Yahoo?

1EmmyKay:
Op better use your head.. People like that are toxic and can harm you even when u least expect. I've had a friend whom I allowed into my abode everywhere set.. Told him am lefting for school. So he could stay but just pay the rent and use my properties for free.. When he came in sef na only clothe he bring com d houx.. Bed chairs all furnished.. After a year baba show me way out oo.. Since then I believe people are just good or laugh with you cause they see somtin to tap.. Remove that thing from ur life they act like they never knew you.. So pls just don't have him in mind just free am.. E go better for everybody. Just dey ur dey.

We no understand wetin you write o.
He showed you out of your house or what?

What shall it profit a man f he gains the whole world and suffers the loss of his own soul?

No let money go let you be devil recruit o.

James4bright:
Lagos or northern regions. North is the cheapest sha. Owerri is for big men, who spends stupidly.

Lagos no cheap na.

James4bright:
Don't relocate oh. Owerri is expensive, forget those beautiful pictures.

You would barely get a good job there, only if you are a politicians.

Uh-oh! Owerri is expensive?
I no go again be that.
Abeg, which state come dey affordable for this Nigeria?

68816419:
He left Jos yesterday on his way to Saudi Arabia on a bicycle. he confirmed settling the needs of his wife and children, please whats your message for him?

Abdul-Majid Lawan @Abdul_Majid84 writes:

But how will he cross the sea?

Zico5:
The person that prepared this shit is terribly sick. Do u want people to have HBP or how many average Nigerians earn above 150k with this current poverty in the land. Go to the street and see how PhD holders are struggling to get even part time lecturing jobs.

You are just consoling yaself

Maadoo:
Let have someone fun here.


Site back.... Welcome to Ala Owerri.

Owerri bicycle carnival on 16th May, 2020


edited: lalasticala, why is this thread not on front yet?

Abeg, how I fit take relocate to Owerri?
Somewhere nice yet affordable?
Where I go start from abeg?

Maadoo:
Let have someone fun here.


Site back.... Welcome to Ala Owerri.

Owerri bicycle carnival on 16th May, 2020


edited: lalasticala, why is this thread not on front yet?

Wow, Owerri is this beautiful?
I would love to come for a visit o but I no know where I go stay.

phransix2:
I can't wait please I have been fun starved... Malls, cinemas, beaches and other funspots should pls open abeg!!!

No forget to keep the rules and regulation wey dem go give o

meum:
NCDC can keep announcing their figures at midnight. We are moving on.

Hahaha. No be lie o. Midnight figures

But why is this thread not on front page?

Gjrich:
How Dokpesi Confirms Yahaya Bello & Ben Ayade's Accusation Of NCDC Forcing Covid-19 Cases On States.

Dr. Raymond Dokpesi of DAAR communication revelation about how NCDC alleged that he had Covid-19, when his test showed that he had malaria parasite in his body, upon which he was taken to an isolation centre, has only confirmed the earlier accusation by the Yahaya Bello of Kogi and Ben Ayade of Cross River that NCDC was forcing state to admit having Covid-19 cases. The two states, of Kogi and Cross River have been on a long drawn conflict, over the states' Covid-19-free status. A situation the NCDC has been uncomfortable with, and have severally voiced out their rejection of such status for the two states. This is even when NCDC have no reason to reject such claim, as there have not been reported increased sicknesses or deaths in those states.

Note that, Raymond Dokpesi was recently released from the isolation centre, and has now come out to say that, he is confused about the relationship between Covid-19 and malaria. And Dokpesi now seeks to know the difference, if any exist. His reason for this is that, the test he conducted in a reputable hospital shows that he had malaria parasite in his body. But that NCDC later tested him and claimed he had Covid-19. Interestingly, while he has the result of the test from the hospital, NCDC till date, never showed him any test result indicating their Covid-19 claim. Added to this, Dokpesi said he was given malaria medication all through his stay at the isolation centre. So, NCDC is now isolating people who tested positive for malaria as Covid-19 cases. This clearly explains why the agency continues to real out cases everyday, even of people who have never had any previous contact with a Covid-19 infected person.

This revelation adequately confirms what the Kogi state and Cross River state government have accused NCDC of doing; that the agency is forcing Covid-19 cases on states, in other to fulfill their projection of the disease spreading across all states in Nigeria. So why will NCDC, an agency who is meant to stop the spread of disease be forcing the acceptance of a none-existing spread of disease to all states? Funny enough the federal government is overlooking this huge accusation, which has led to the shutdown of the nations economy, with citizens suffering unnecessarily huge hardship.

Dokpesi is not the only one who has come out to claim NCDC did not show him the test result to confirm the agency's claim of him having Covid-19. The Lady who was taken as the first Covid-19 case in Benue, has also said similarity thing. In her case and as explained in her last revelation, she has been kept in NCDC isolation centre for 43 days, on the agency's claim that she has Covid-19, which she said is false. But without haven't taken any medication nor show any symptoms. And that it was after 15 days of her continuous asking for her test result, and when she had been moved to Abuja, that the NCDC showed her a test result that had her name, but with totally difference personal data.

She had flew into the country from the UK for her mother's burial, and she had gone to the clinic for a check due to jet-lag she suffered from the travel. According to her, the test result NCDC showed her, indicated that she flew into Nigeria on the 26th February, and went to the hospital on the 16th of march with fever and stooling. Meanwhile she only came into the country on the 22nd of March, and went to the hospital on the 24th of March to complain of body pains. Imagine this high level of conspiracy and lie against people by NCDC and some states government? Why will NCDC kept a supposed Covid-19 infected person for 43 days and there is no symptoms. Also she said NCDC have done three more test on her, without showing her the results, but she is still been kept in the isolation centre. Let's imagine the many people NCDC have claimed have Covid-19, who actually have nothing as such or only had malaria; but they have no where to air their frustration as Dokpesi and this lady have done. A large number of Nigerians may have been isolated for Covid-19 they don't have.

While everyone is eager and working to see the end to the Covid-19 pandemic, it is however satanic for the government or its agency to turn it to a venture for promoting lies and fear among people. The unnecessary lockdown that is being backed by the arguably NCDC figures of Covid-19 infection, is destroying the economy and everyone will pay for it.

God bless Raymond Dokpeai and the lady for speaking out. God bless every other "teuth-sayer" who are not selling their consciences for money.

byinks:
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Hahaha, so you Sabi cancel person comment?

jaxxy:
They gave out. Just not everybody and not even sufficient. Basically a total lockdown isn't sustainable and can't work

Okay I see am for front page.
One bag of rice for the whole community.
Yeah I saw it

Trayceey:
How come I didn't see the poll?

This your comment make me laugh well well.

Imagine Nairaland pushed a thread to front page that the Lagos government did an online poll.
They didn't tell us that the poll was still on and that we need to vote now neither did they put the voting link.
It was while I was casually strolling through politics section that I saw a different moniker urging is to vote and he shared the link.
I was like, "you mean voting is actually taking place?" Because in the front page thread , they reported it like one of those news like everyother news