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Agimor:
Mobdro. I have searched for it thoroughly on playstore but there seems to be a proliferation of the fake ones than the original one.

Solowande:
Oba Ato Kpee

Isee

basingstoke:
Hello lets connect, send me a mail. or drop your number

shikshark:
tit for fvking tat......abeg start with stanbic ibtc, their loan repayment is about to kill my friend

seunny4lif:

Pay 18K and collect your P after Jesus returns for the second time
So, you can use it to enter He

Thewrath:
Simple.
It's a gift if it's from a northerner.
It's a bribe if it's from a southerner.
You can thank me later at the galleria in abuja .

Saintsquare:
op might be pulling our legs tho

allansie:
Stil rocking my 3 in 1 boxers of 1200k

AngelicBeing:
Really, like l said to you in my previous post, dont bother talking nor asking the guy anything, you have been given tons of advises by different people on this thread, sieve through it and take the once that are practicable to your situation

AngelicBeing:
what is the updates, has she opened up to you

freeborn76:
Ruth Benamisia Opia, Cyril Stober, Sene Allwell Brown, Eugenia Abu, Hauwa Baba Ahmed, John Momoh, Tokunboh Ajayi, Frank Olize...these great names and more made us look forward to 9 p.m. everyday...NTA News at 9 was a family tradition those days. Today, jokers are everywhere on TV...congratulations Mohammed.

AngelicBeing:
She is not telling you the whole truth, why cant she tell the guy to stop sending her such messages because it is doing much harm to her matrimony, abegi , except she is lying and enjoying the flirty messages, you and l dont know what they discuss with each other on phone when you are not there, marriage is sacred l think and should be held so, flirting with another man or woman once married breaks the sanctity of the institution, it seems your wife is the husband in your house while you are the wife, l may be wrong, but you have to do all you can to keep your home or else another guy in the name of family friend/ church member might be feasting on your wife

xynerise:
Like seriously?

So if he is cheating he should tell you 'Yes sir,I am fvcking your wife'? guy, wish you know what i am going tru emotionally

siloXIX:
haha.... passed through this same situation. your wife no longer loves you bro.

but lemme ask, is she a mother to your child yet?

hedonistic:
Oh boy I pity you small.

You're not in control, and once a husband loses control, then it is inevitable that the wife IS cheating or SHALL cheat at some point.

The day my woman opens her smelly mouth to form angry and retort that I should do whatever I like when I express my reservations about her conduct, then I would end the marriage. She kuku know say I be drastic man and my brain dey touch.

Men need to wake up. Too much softy softy puts you in a mess. Then again, if you began on that note with her from the beginning, then it is difficult to change the dynamic now.

People like us know better. You must use the Abacha or Idi Amin Iron hand - firm and uncompromising - on certain key issues when it comes to naija women, otherwise dem go ride you like fool. Of course you can be soft on many other issues, but for this kind loyalty/fidelity matter, there is no room for negotiation or 'understanding'. She either does things my way, or I conclude that she is cheating or will cheat, and I would treat her accordingly.

HARDDON:
Yea, maybe he has cheated aforetimes. Maybe he aint satisfying her in bed, maybe he aint providing for d fam, maybe he doesnt have her time , maybe she was forced into d marriage, maybe she married him cos of money but still stuck on old heat( she neva really luvd him) , maybe the marriage lost its spark! Maybe she started taking counsel from randy single/married female friends


These n many more cud lead to this

Berbierklaus:
Have you cheated on your wife before sir

Biafrarep:
This just confirmed my fears all along bro. Your wife has lost all respect for you and this makes it the more dangerous because she can even decide to cheat on you without minding the consequence. At this moment she sees you as a wussbag who she can trample on. She has lost attraction in you and is probably considering life without you. She maybe trying to push you to the wall so you can send her packing and she will be guilt free for not being the one that dumped you. You have to act fast(though its a bit late already). Dont give her the excuse she needs by beating her, rather be tactful, pretend like you dont care about her attitude, but once you have a strong evidence, then you confront not just her but your inlaws as well. It sucks to be you right now.

proffemi:
"The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves, that we are underlings."

I don't want to comment on the issue of your wife and her friend, but scanning through this thread, it is obvious (IMO) that you need to look inwards first. You sound weak-willed, and basically invite your woman to ride rough-shod over you. I'd be less concerned about confronting your wife's friend (childish idea, that...) and address the issue at the source: RESPECT. Love feeds on respect. You wife does not seem to respect you, and I'm going to blame you for that. You need to work on earning her respect. Any other thing you do (surveillance, confrontation...whatever) will either hasten the demise of your marriage, or push your BP up a few points. As you yourself observed, she's apparently past caring at this stage.

Good luck dude.

segzie2012:
Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating? by brasilia: 9:10am
GANDALF1:


You think she doesnt give a damn about what anybody says right? Drop a well typed divorce agreement on her without prior warning, by 12am and beg her to sign it. Your statement will be invalidated

Bros, take hold of your home. You are the man and nothing can change that.

I prefer to use the "pistol on the table" approach. I have the gun, you know i have the gun, you can see the gun is on the table loaded and ready to fire, but i will never shoot you except you force me to.

Cheers
brilliant ! you Nigerians are brilliant, I miss home, every suggestion has a grain of ingenuity. I am really humbled that you all find the time to read and respond to me.



@brasilia: I hope your wife his a Nigerian who has family lineage who do not encourage broken homes (who can talk some sense into her head) orelse... it might not werk!

GANDALF1:
You think she doesnt give a damn about what anybody says right? Drop a well typed divorce agreement on her without prior warning, by 12am and beg her to sign it. Your statement will be invalidated

Bros, take hold of your home. You are the man and nothing can change that.

I prefer to use the "pistol on the table" approach. I have the gun, you know i have the gun, you can see the gun is on the table loaded and ready to fire, but i will never shoot you except you force me to.

Cheers

Psoul:
Send msg to me through my mailbox

jomonic:
Brother you will learn from experience. Nobody can really advice you because human circumstances are not always the same. The only advise I will give is this. Do not ever get violent even if you are pushed to do so. You might out of frustration be tempted to become violent depending on your personality. Take a walk instead and let her be. You will not regret it, trust me.

checkengine:
With this reaction and attitude from a supposed wife bro, start counting your losses.

majorbravo:
CHEATERS, good idea, but then what happens afterwards, it wont stop her from cheating with some new guy in the future. OP needs to step up his game and then make her realize without being insecure, that he is comfortable with who he is, she should be the one ashamed to cheat. On the other hand, I think OP is much older than her, imagine training a lady through school, she probably feels like she was bought and doesn't have any chemistry with him at all.

That's why I aint gonna marry no village girl or raising no body from rags to riches that don't deserve me or cant see what I have done to earn their love, done it in the past (relationship not marriage) and it always ends like the OP's case. If you buy a piece of cloth no one wants, adorn it with diamond accessories and hang it out on your porch, do not expect thieves to not come around to try steal it. If you buy a worthless woman's love with your money, when you upgrade her, you are actually placing her up for auction and the highest bidder would always take her away. Love earned can never be broken.

jomonic:
Please do not bother yourself to speak to that guy. It is not worth it. Besides doing so makes you look very weak and might fuel an affair if there was only a potential. Talk to your wife and let her know you are not comfortable with the closeness. A woman who still loves her husband will listen. If she really cares she will listen to you. Otherwise brother you are in for a deep wahala.

majorbravo:
Have you thought of the fact that Op may have married her to get a green card? In such a marriage who do you think is most likely to wear the pants? He may be living in her house. There is even a tendency she has threatened to throw him out for daring to speak back when she talks, or perhaps even send him back to the jungles of Africa if he wouldn't live by her own terms. In such case, even the Lion would become a mere cat.

Snowstorm:
Bro...you're wife is flirting and she doesn't care about your own thoughts and feelings...she's angry ke?angry about what?
Thats a no no...
Don't waste your time trying to fix a broken lady.. It's inevitable let her self destruct...
The both of you have trust issues..

Never go through a lady's phone next time If u don't have the balls to take charge of the situation if not u go get heart attack...

Kagawa10:
Just discuss the matter with her and remind her she's a married woman. All those flirting attitude doesn't suit her as a married woman and that she wouldn't like the same thing if she were in your shoe. Unknown to her, she's probably leading on the man who may have an ulterior motive in the first place.