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humblestanley: my dear i must confess,this is a very serious topic and it needs to be treated with urgency.firstly there are women with very fragile heart(emotional weak) and it always leads them to indecision,and the outcome is always catastrophical.now bear it in mind that she is in a state of indecision,but as time goes on she will come to a conclusive state.but be very serious to employ your number 6,if not she will be sleeping with both of you.if she is not already doing that.

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okemmadu: @bright87; what r ur plans for getting married? do u see a wife in her?

Well she has categorically asked me what will happen if she wait for me and I get back, but I have told her that I can't promise her marriage, but i know i truly love her enough to settle down with her if she is true with me... She was even the one suggesting about the future with me, but have told her categorically not to wait for me because i am not sure she could. I truly dont know why most ppl seems to think of me as being bad, if I never liked her truly I won't even bring this topic to be debated here. She has assured me several time on how much she does love and when I tell her that I doubt her she gets so crazily angry... I won't dump her if am sure about her. she seem responsible and has a great career, but as you know u can't stick your neck by trusting others. U get me ? Mixed feelings gets me confused !

f diva: Op sorry for insulting you earlier.

Never mind am not angry. Thanx for d apology.. I wud stick with her if am certain she does love me, get it ? but knowing that it could all be games makes we wanna dump her before i hurt myself, i cud as well just have fun with her, but I wud rather leave her than continue being intimate with her... This is just it.

Remzolution: Op, 4rm wat I can read...I fink u r jst confusd. No bad blood tho!

I admit am confused truly..

dafnna: my guy, i've been where you are.
the only girl av dated, left me after 5yrs of relationship and started following another guy.
the two of us were desperate not to only have her but also marry her because of her excellent character.
she left me because i was spending less time with her and was quite stingy towards her.Nevertheless, she used to miss me because i was godly and gentle and all her friends and family loved me with passion.
the other guy was very caring but had his own imperfections.
with time , she came to her senses and returned to me. i accepted her back because of her character and i believed my behaviour caused her to go. Very good girl, she kept her virginity till wedding. Today, i am her husband and i have learnt from my mistakes. There's no amount of money i cant give her.
OP, it's very likely that girl will return to her former boyfriend who has never offended her in any way. whether he will accept her back or not OR just use her and dump her is another question.
OP,that unfaithful girl does not deserve you. You also need to repent and accept Jesus into your life. stop sleeping with her. The Lord is not happy with you.Repent and He will forgive you. I speak as a child of God, God will provide your wife for you if you retrace your steps today and become born-again. I was helped by God to find a good wife. I live outside Nigeria far from my wife; but i trust her more than i trust myself. i am proud of her. i am not proud of the character of the girl you mentioned. let her go.

Thank you so much bro I really appreciate all that u've said. God Bless U. "Truth will always set us free but not without first hurting us !"

Gabriel_sylar: Dos broight87 is a talkative...every comment u must scrutinize and reply...dats why d lady is sitting on d fence...ure even asking how to make her forget her ex that's how another guy will make her forget u when u talk too much...women wants a man to be a man not a chatterbox....

Noted ! Thank you... Well she was actually the one that was asking me to help her forget her ex-- Thats y am confused

laylow001: Old boy make you no worry yourself.You will forget her after you leave Naija,and she will go back to her ex.So my advice to you is keep doing your thing with her until you travel,and dont´keep only one girl,knack more girls so you wont be attached..

Exactly ! I have already told her this, I even told her not to wait for me because she will surely go back to her ex-- once I leave and this always anger her, but no matter what, she is still concerned about me. Though I am out of the country for sometime now but I know watzup with some gals ! Why things are kinda difficult is that we grew our love from being very good friends.. Get it ? not the lover per see but just the LIKENESS involved ! We are so free that we can talk about anything. I have actually made up my mind to let her be.. but I just want a proper way to do it without hurting her or myself..

Danykooko: Even after being called a fool and other blah blah,your response to this post shows u are a humble person and perhaps has a degree of "maturity". I admire this a lot.

Thank you very much.. No one is perfect and as we all know we find ourselves in certain tough situations sometimes. It's really frustrating sometimes living outside naija coz when u come back to get a TRUE GAL can be a problem and I actually don't like hook up.. This is how I got myself into this, I sometimes do tell her that I wish I never got into all these coz I truly hate being emotionally unstable. But however it's I know am good and i need nobody to tell me that, and I know I will always meet a nice woman, just that I am kind of attractive person, meeting women has never been my problem but I just dont like to be with a gal that i dont feel anything for. I am so considerate that I have told her to go back to him if that helps her to be happy but she gets angry anything i say such things. Giving me mixed feelings... I mever rushed her into a relationship and i was very patient with her, all she was saying is that she likes me, but until few month she professed her love for me... Things seems real and the same time unreal... I am very secure but I am just afraid I might hurt her if i let her be unknowingly that she truly love me, she is not demanding even when she knows I can take care of her.. so i am just so confused thats why i brought this issue here.

So many ppl are just angry.. I think these are the insecure guyz in the house... For all I care even if she ends up going back to her ex- I can take it, it's truly no lose to me.. I have even suggested that to her if that makes her happy or should I help her ex- do his work ? It's all mixed feelings, If she gets me angry and i refuse to answer her call she gets so moody and never stop calling and sending sms, she stays up late at night calling me.. What does she wants then ? why is everyone blaming me for being honest...

f diva: You must be a fool. You knew that you won't have a serious thing to do with her, yet u went ahead to snatch her from her guy. Well I blame her to be such a weak girl, it means she never truly love her "ex" cos if she did she would never abandon him for a jackass like you.

Check my pics and you will know I am a cool dude not really as it seems, I don't run after gals, but what I like I try to get and I also never forced her or used money or material things to entice her, i even had to disguise myself when wooing her and even had to hide so many things about me that would have enticed her, but i did let her know from the onset that I dont reside in naija... If her feelings for me is true then I won't dump her but u know naija gals cant be trusted am just trying to be on a safer side thats all. I am not greedy even before we had sex have told her to go back to him if her soul desires and even when her BF saw my messages and scolded her she would have stop dating me, but she pressed on. so why blame me for everything ?

Goldie20: Lol there's lot of girls I know in their 20s that are single lol! But yeah maybe just maybe she starting to realize she phucked up and that she left something good, u know like they say u dont know what u have until u lose it! Not everything is shinning is Gold! OBut good luck on ur quest in trying find an answer to ur question!

Give me control na.... if you know any pretty gal and intelligent gal i can hook up with.. I am truly a nice person but most ppl just judge me wrongly....

Haba these guyz/gals wanna kill me oooo.... Have I done wrong for saying the truth ? I have personally told her to go back to him if that is what will make her happy but then she gets angry at me and starts behaving funny. What else should I do.

Goldie20: Smh some of these girls these days , well Op all I can tell you is that karma is a biitch! Wait till u got a gf and watch someone take her away frm you then maybe u will understand what u did wasnt right tho! I mean if u know u didn't have good intentions for her, why chase her, why sell her dreams which u know u did ! lol about the topic yeah it possible to be in love with 2 people! One is genuine love and one is just lust mixed with some love!

Well I initially had genuine interest in her, but am reverting on that so that I wont get hurt emotionally if she's just trying to be smart. She keeps re-assuring me that she does love me truly and i shouldn't break her heart. All these are just mixed feelings... and her opening up to me that she doesn't double date, just that she still has some little love for her ex- because the guy didnt offend her. U get it ? I think she could simply tell me this because we are so free with each other that we talk anything. But again I didn't snatch anybody's GF, I won't go for her if i wasn't sure she felt something for me. Get it ? Besides there is no Gal in her twenties without a BF... So does it mean that because am not based in 9ja i can't get a 9ja babe

kingmaker2: Do not deceive yourself. Have it in mind that sooner or later you will be equally treated like her ex boy friend. The cain that was used to beat the first wife is being kept safely in the ceilling for the junior wife. If she truely loves her ex, she would not come for you no matter the pressure. If she also loves you, she will not have any feelings again for her ex bf. She is not stable. If it is a true life confession, you are advised to forget her and look for your true lover. If not be prepared to have as a wife somebody who will be sleeping with other men. Then you will not be able to know your true children. Hmmmm

Again I am not talking marriage with her... get me and I cud afford to let her go, not because i never loved her, this is what I also let her know..

sanspiffy: Man you are still a learner, a girl openly told you she still loves ex and you are talking about your feelings for her my advice yeah start thinking about life without her in it cos nicca in the end i See you banging your head against the wall

Well she is being sincere with me, what if she never said it ? she actually used the word "Little Love" because she thinks he didn't offend her.

honestivo: Pls I would advice u 2 do a favour 2 d girl by leting her no dat d reltnship won't last since u said ur travln soon

She knows already and this is her worries, she always ask me what if she wanna wait for me ? but I have told her I don't think she can because I simply dont believe she has the courage and this always anger her, but that doesn't stop us from getting along well.. But I truly wont deny the fact that i have feelings for her.

didicold: To me the OP is just an ass, first u wooed d girl then u 4ked d girl, now u r asking us to give u a good reason/technique to dump or distance urself from her, am i d only one wu perceives something off about dis scenario, i think op just wants someone to love and fawn over him while he plays d hardcore i dont give a shit guy in shades, for d girl ,all d best to her, her life just got complicated

@op grow a pair and quit whining about *how she loves u too much*

Well am not bragging, i am just kinda confuse, part of me believes she might truly love me due to her actions, but at the same time I am afraid if it's all pretence, I am not feeling insecure here. I have told her even before we 4ked that I love her so much that I wud let her be if she truly isn't into me.. Now I dont wanna get too emotionally attached to her even though i have feelings for her in case it happens that she's just trying to play smart. u know, trust NOBODY.. I can feel her love for me but u never can be sure...

Area-Fada:
Dude you don't sound like a principled person. A girl was in a relationship and told you about it YET you pressed on to take her from that guy, causing an innocent guy heartache. So for a while (possibly 3 months) she was collecting semen from the other guy and come and mix it with yours. Splendid!

But in your opinion you are James Bond who's got game. And you even suspect she doesn't love you sincerely.

After you marry her I hope you won't mind if her boss who's got more game and money is smashing her pun*y mercilessly in the office so you can have the left over at home.

For your information I am not talking marriage with her, so get it.
Is there a Girl in Nigeria that doesn't have a BF ? It's all about survival of the fittest. For your info I have actually been disguising myself when with her as i didn't want her to love me for wat have got for who I am. Never accused me because I never forced her into loving me, she was the first that plead for my pics to take home with her when she cam visiting.. So please no accusations.

alutacontinua: Is dt ur definition of love?
If not, what exactly makes you think she loves you

Thats not my definition of love, but as you know it's all a mixed feelings.. The truth is this, I am not a kid and I won't ever force myself on a Gal who doesn't feel anything for me.. I don't waste time on things like that. Well she is always happy anytime she is around me, she is just too afraid that she might lose me, she never demands anything from me even when she knows i am capable, she talks so much about the future with me.. The truth is that if someone feels something for you, you will definitely know, I am prudent enough to let her be if she doesn't feel anything for me.. I have asked her so many times why she loves me, she said she just didn't see anything in particular and that all she knows is that the feelings just grew with time and she will always beg me not to break her heart and she has made me emotionally attached to her which i truly dont like. I just know she feels something strong for me (maybe not love) but there is just this strong feelings which had grown over the months.

Kirinwa: Op God punish you wella.Infact you wicked goh.You never wanted something serious but yet you went adislodging.Infact I would advise the gal how to forget you but the gal no try sha.What arrant nonsense.Girls of nowadays can't be faithful again?Infact when nemesis catches up with both of you.REMEMBER!

Dont confuse urself.. I never forced her, i was just being nice and friendly to her and she loved my company that was how she fell for me, but the truth is that I didn't think my feelings for her is gonna be too much into me.. Even though I love her but I have to face the truth bro.. The truth is that no matter how much she loves me there is every tendency she will return to her ex- when am out of the country which you and I know so why give in ur heart into such relationship. Afterall she told me she has never knacked her BF, but we have both be knacking for some time. u get me now.. I do love her but with the situation of things I have concluded to detach myself from her emotionally... She tells me she wanna wait for me, but have told her NO and I dont believe so no wasting time... but I know she feels something really strong for me (maybe not love according to u guys)

justfree.:
bro to be sincere with you, for a girl to tell you she still loves someones even while with you, just forget the game cuz of the other guy steps up his game, u don lose. she is only acting love for you cuz the other guy is out of the scene and you're always monopolizing her time. just my point of view

Okay well this is how it's. Her ex- actually saw my messages on her phone and he scolded her while we were dating and they had issues, we do talk a lot and we can both share anything with each other, she had to admit that she feels guilty that the guy didn't do anything wrong to her and now he's begging her to come back, she said she still feel little love for him. This was a message she sent to me last night "Mart Ehis, just know that Alan Esogie lovs u 4 real & she needs u to 2 help her forget about her ex-. Wish u a lovely nit rest, wish was wit you, Lov U & Bye" Not really like am forcing myself into her or pampering her, she feels insecure with me probably coz I act like a bad boy I don't know. But anytime i scold her, she keeps on begging for forgiveness telling me not to break her heart and even when i dont pick her calls she keeps calling all through the night and messaging until late at night, it's not really like I give her money or material things, so there is just this mixed feelings about everything. hope this helps me. I truly dont wish to commit to her even though I feel something for her this is because I am not based in 9ja and it's off to use which I have told her even when she insist she wanna wait for me I have told her NO....

Kaxmytex: and if u're nt gud wif ur game plan...u're going 2 use hw many years?
U get luck say d gal get mind 2 tell u say im still love her Ex...u no fit do anything 2 make her 4get d guy o...my advice 4 u is dat make u free d babe make im go meet her ex buh b4 den,make sure say u give her d 'bestest' knacking of her life

Guy am not a desperado am very busy so, i don't give my whole life chasing a woman, understand ? so it will definately take a bit long I mean before the first knacking... Trust me the knacking is still on and the knacking will continue, but the truth is that i find myself attached to her emotionally which i truly never bargained for. This is just the KOKO !

richeyy: *HOW WILL YOU REACT?

How I'd react? Grab a cup of coffee & talk with her about it. Gfs will always meet guys, you can't excuse that. Be in control, let her trust you & she'll tell you everything about the guy. At least its an inbox, not a sent msg & the other guy recognizes you as the bf.

Very true dude.. Girls will always meet guys... the problem is that we take too many things at heart, and most people are not friendly enough with their partner that she could share everything with him. I do tell all my GF's (The ones that I truly love) that they should not hesitate to let me know once they find someone better other than cheating on me. No hard feelings, but life must go on and what the right woman comes for you. she won't cheat on you. Don't kill urself coz of any woman my brodas..

SLIDE waxie: i dnt think u got me, i didn't say she was fooling u, i said u were dwelling on a long thing!
She is emotionally weak!

Kindly enlighten me more on what you mean by "me dwelling on long thing" and "her being emotionally weak" Bro I have to be sincere with you, i know she has strong feelings for me because we didnt start dating coz she had problems with her ex-, they were okay together while i snatched her, but truth be told I just wish I never got emotionally attached to her, because i am actually not based in naija and it's of truly no use keeping such relationship.. coz i would be leaving in few months time. Even though she insist that she would wait for me, but i have told her that she can't wait and I see her as someone who cant wait so she shouldn't think of waiting and this always angers her. I truly needed a sincere advise on how to detach myself from her emotionally without her knowing and still do things with her normally... coz i don't wanna feel too bad when the time comes for me to leave naija. Thanks.. just advise not thrashing me, coz i am not a learner, just that we find ourselves in certain situation we never planned for. Cheers !

segzi cres: who be this guy na? bro nack your own free! you cant marry her............na nacking spree for you and her

Sure bro the nacking thinz is not the problem em don already dey occur, as a bad shooter, ain't got time to waste... But truly i won't deny the fact that I feel something sincere for her despite all these...

The Warriors had better wake up.... We need to trash this issue out..

SLIDE waxie: The faster u guys undstnd dt love doesn't exists, the better for u!
We wrapped so much things with love and delude ourself from d real issue!
Your girlfriend is weak wen it comes to controlling her emotions. Stop looking for wot doesn't exist. U will only found out nothing!


Sorry, i av no advice for u!

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Tnx for your answer, women cant be trusted doesn't mean i should conclude. i am truly a no nonsense person so dont think she is using me, and besides it was not that easy wooing her.. it took about 3 months to cross d bridge just that i was good with my game plan on getting her to my side.. because it's very rare to get a girl without BF these days you just have to learn the art dislodgement...

My GF was in a relationship when I met her and she admitted it to me, but I was able to dislodge her BF, but she admits that she still feels some little love for her ex- and that I should help her forget her ex-, she feels bad because her ex- didn't do her anything wrong as the guy already knows about us, but she admits that she does love me sincerely and I can conform to that by her actions. So now my question is this, does she feel true love for the both of us ? can it be said that she is in love with two persons at the same time ? Please lets debate.. Mature minds only.. Tnx.. Any reasonable advice on how to help her forget her ex- would be appreciated, she wants me to help her forget him ( I don't need advice on SEX please )

luvmijeje: It is conditional becos there was a reason and the reason is becos we are created in his image.

I truly don't think God's love is conditional, if it were to be conditional many of us would be dead by now. He loves us even while we were yet sinners.. I don't think it's conditional..

Well am i safe to say that you can only know the reason why you like someone but not a reason you love them ?
it's true you might be attracted to someone at first due to certain qualities in them, but in the long run you might end up not loving them, while sometimes you might end up loving them.... Quote me if am wrong

uj_sizzle: kool. Thanx. But there is no such thing as 'true love'. It's either love or it isn't.
I do understand however the shortcomings of the English language, which is why I'd prefer someone got the origin Greek words and gave their meanings .

Bro I get what you are trying to say. Normally, Love is suppose to be Love, but because of the way the Love thinz is going especially with we 9ja guyz and babes. Everyone is claiming to love his partner which you and I know. Hence there is bound to be a fake love (love of pretence) and those that truly meant it (True Love). Remember most things in life always has two sides of it the FAKE and the ORIGINAL. People will easily say "I Love U" but how many of them truly do ? ask yourself this question.. Tnx

uj_sizzle: Lol i can't quote all that, so lemme ask a question and we'll work from there.

What is love??

"Love" is just one word that has the most complex definition you can ever think about.. To different persons it means different things.
I think your question should be "What is True Love "

Now know that infatuation is when somebody is highly,greatly,inspired and interested in someone or something that they feel they can grow a great chemistry and bond with or already have.

True Love is when you love someone no matter how they are. It don't matter if your girl has more money than you or if the man does.LOVE should never be about money,sex,race,star signs or religion and you should never get with someone because your friends and family want you to be with the person it must be your choice.You can't let your family,friends and religion get in your way for true love.

True love is when two people know each other imperfections, limitations, shortcomings, and flaws, and in spite of that they accept without hesitation and without hope for a change.

In a relationship or marriage both people should be faithful,loyal,respectful,careful and have affection and passion for one another that is what True Love is. The definition goes on endlessly...