bright87:
Sure bro the nacking thinz is not the problem em don already dey occur, as a bad shooter, ain't got time to waste... But truly i won't deny the fact that I feel something sincere for her despite all these...

bright87:

Check my pics and you will know I am a cool dude not really as it seems, I don't run after gals, but what I like I try to get and I also never forced her or used money or material things to entice her, i even had to disguise myself when wooing her and even had to hide so many things about me that would have enticed her, but i did let her know from the onset that I dont reside in naija... If her feelings for me is true then I won't dump her but u know naija gals cant be trusted am just trying to be on a safer side thats all. I am not greedy even before we had sex have told her to go back to him if her soul desires and even when her BF saw my messages and scolded her she would have stop dating me, but she pressed on. so why blame me for everything ?

bright87:

Okay well this is how it's. Her ex- actually saw my messages on her phone and he scolded her while we were dating and they had issues, we do talk a lot and we can both share anything with each other, she had to admit that she feels guilty that the guy didn't do anything wrong to her and now he's begging her to come back, she said she still feel little love for him. This was a message she sent to me last night "Mart Ehis, just know that Alan Esogie lovs u 4 real & she needs u to 2 help her forget about her ex-. Wish u a lovely nit rest, wish was wit you, Lov U & Bye" Not really like am forcing myself into her or pampering her, she feels insecure with me probably coz I act like a bad boy I don't know. But anytime i scold her, she keeps on begging for forgiveness telling me not to break her heart and even when i dont pick her calls she keeps calling all through the night and messaging until late at night, it's not really like I give her money or material things, so there is just this mixed feelings about everything. hope this helps me. I truly dont wish to commit to her even though I feel something for her this is because I am not based in 9ja and it's off to use which I have told her even when she insist she wanna wait for me I have told her NO....

bright87: Guy, take it she is emotionally weak!, u will soon find out she has another guy around the corner and you will become the latest EX. *Spits**

Kindly enlighten me more on what you mean by "me dwelling on long thing" and "her being emotionally weak" Bro I have to be sincere with you, i know she has strong feelings for me because we didnt start dating coz she had problems with her ex-, they were okay together while i snatched her, but truth be told I just wish I never got emotionally attached to her, because i am actually not based in naija and it's of truly no use keeping such relationship.. coz i would be leaving in few months time. Even though she insist that she would wait for me, but i have told her that she can't wait and I see her as someone who cant wait so she shouldn't think of waiting and this always angers her. I truly needed a sincere advise on how to detach myself from her emotionally without her knowing and still do things with her normally... coz i don't wanna feel too bad when the time comes for me to leave naija. Thanks.. just advise not thrashing me, coz i am not a learner, just that we find ourselves in certain situation we never planned for. Cheers !

bright87:
f diva: You must be a fool. You knew that you won't have a serious thing to do with her, yet u went ahead to snatch her from her guy. Well I blame her to be such a weak girl, it means she never truly love her "ex" cos if she did she would never abandon him for a jackass like you



Check my pics and you will know I am a cool dude not really as it seems, I don't run after gals, but what I like I try to get and I also never forced her or used money or material things to entice her, i even had to disguise myself when wooing her and even had to hide so many things about me that would have enticed her, but i did let her know from the onset that I dont reside in naija... If her feelings for me is true then I won't dump her but u know naija gals cant be trusted am just trying to be on a safer side thats all. I am not greedy even before we had sex have told her to go back to him if her soul desires and even when her BF saw my messages and scolded her she would have stop dating me, but she pressed on. so why blame me for everything ?

Danykooko:
Even after being called a fool and other blah blah,your response to this post shows u are a humble person and perhaps has a degree of "maturity". I admire this a lot.

laylow001: Old boy make you no worry yourself.You will forget her after you leave Naija,and she will go back to her ex.So my advice to you is keep doing your thing with her until you travel,and dont´keep only one girl,knack more girls so you wont be attached..

Gabriel_sylar: Dos broight87 is a talkative...every comment u must scrutinize and reply...dats why d lady is sitting on d fence...ure even asking how to make her forget her ex that's how another guy will make her forget u when u talk too much...women wants a man to be a man not a chatterbox....

bright87: So many ppl are just angry.. I think these are the insecure guyz in the house... For all I care even if she ends up going back to her ex- I can take it, it's truly no lose to me.. I have even suggested that to her if that makes her happy or should I help her ex- do his work ? It's all mixed feelings, If she gets me angry and i refuse to answer her call she gets so moody and never stop calling and sending sms, she stays up late at night calling me.. What does she wants then ? why is everyone blaming me for being honest...

bright87:

Exactly ! I have already told her this, I even told her not to wait for me because she will surely go back to her ex-- once I leave and this always anger her, but no matter what, she is still concerned about me. Though I am out of the country for sometime now but I know watzup with some gals ! Why things are kinda difficult is that we grew our love from being very good friends.. Get it ? not the lover per see but just the LIKENESS involved ! We are so free that we can talk about anything. I have actually made up my mind to let her be.. but I just want a proper way to do it without hurting her or myself..

bright87: `

Tnx for your answer, women cant be trusted doesn't mean i should conclude. i am truly a no nonsense person so dont think she is using me, and besides it was not that easy wooing her.. it took about 3 months to cross d bridge just that i was good with my game plan on getting her to my side.. because it's very rare to get a girl without BF these days you just have to learn the art dislodgement...

bright87:

Guy am not a desperado am very busy so, i don't give my whole life chasing a woman, understand ? so it will definately take a bit long I mean before the first knacking... Trust me the knacking is still on and the knacking will continue, but the truth is that i find myself attached to her emotionally which i truly never bargained for. This is just the KOKO !

dafnna: my guy, i've been where you are.
the only girl av dated, left me after 5yrs of relationship and started following another guy.
the two of us were desperate not to only have her but also marry her because of her excellent character.
she left me because i was spending less time with her and was quite stingy towards her.Nevertheless, she used to miss me because i was godly and gentle and all her friends and family loved me with passion.
the other guy was very caring but had his own imperfections.
with time , she came to her senses and returned to me. i accepted her back because of her character and i believed my behaviour caused her to go. Very good girl, she kept her virginity till wedding. Today, i am her husband and i have learnt from my mistakes. There's no amount of money i cant give her.
OP, it's very likely that girl will return to her former boyfriend who has never offended her in any way. whether he will accept her back or not OR just use her and dump her is another question.
OP,that unfaithful girl does not deserve you. You also need to repent and accept Jesus into your life. stop sleeping with her. The Lord is not happy with you.Repent and He will forgive you. I speak as a child of God, God will provide your wife for you if you retrace your steps today and become born-again. I was helped by God to find a good wife. I live outside Nigeria far from my wife; but i trust her more than i trust myself. i am proud of her. i am not proud of the character of the girl you mentioned. let her go.

bright87:

Dont confuse urself.. I never forced her, i was just being nice and friendly to her and she loved my company that was how she fell for me, but the truth is that I didn't think my feelings for her is gonna be too much into me.. Even though I love her but I have to face the truth bro.. The truth is that no matter how much she loves me there is every tendency she will return to her ex- when am out of the country which you and I know so why give in ur heart into such relationship. Afterall she told me she has never knacked her BF, but we have both be knacking for some time. u get me now.. I do love her but with the situation of things I have concluded to detach myself from her emotionally... She tells me she wanna wait for me, but have told her NO and I dont believe so no wasting time... but I know she feels something really strong for me (maybe not love according to u guys)

Remzolution: Op, 4rm wat I can read...I fink u r jst confusd. No bad blood tho!