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@OP,
I understand your point and I don't disagree much.You should know that information is as important as the value people place on it. Nigerians love to make money and the reason is not because of greed alone but for the nature of our economy and the insecurity we feel towards our future. So you see, these marketers know that they can make more money selling information on how to make money. Those niches you mentioned might not have sufficient traffic to interest them. Whatever the case, i think they have the right to sell whatever information they feel like selling and the buyers have the right to buy or refuse to.

youngest85:
And the 'rich girls' are nt reading this, right?

No dear, the post is in protected mode for the rich. If you are one, you must have hacked into the thread. Since you are here already, Mr Louis Val will like to have your feed back so he can help rich pals like you find true love. What do you think?

So you want to date a rich Nigerian girl?

They don’t come easy
Rich girls don’t come easy. They are difficult to find, trace or meet; it is even trickier to hook them on the same emotional frequency with you, especially when you are not surfing on their kind of wave.

Rich girls can be very interesting and different
It can be exciting to date a rich girl especially if you don’t have a blue blood like her. Rich girls do a lot of things quite differently from common girls; it is even more complicated when she is a daughter of an influential politician or public figure.

Rich girls don’t always fall for rich or fine boys
As against what many Nigerian dudes think, most rich girls don’t fall for good looks and big wallets. For them, a nice, intelligent, soft-spoken and simple guy could be all that is required to earn their interest. When you are used to being around boastful, too powerful and over-confident men, you start considering a ride with folks on the other side of the divide

They want to always have what they want, even if money can’t buy it
Let me point out very clearly here that one of the ancient secrets of dating people above you on the social strata is to find out what else they are looking for and promise to give them that. Rich girls grow up to have almost everything they want, it becomes very scary when they can’t have what they so much desire; you can get lucky if you can give that to them

Rich girls can be mad about attention
One attribute that most rich girls have in common is an insatiable desire for attention. This especially the case when you meet those that are starved of parental love and care due to the ‘too busy’ lifestyles of their folks. It will pay you well to shower any rich girl you come across with enough attention and sincere love. This can place you high on their list and save you from being considered as just another guy. While dating her, you should demonstrate how much you are willing to twist your schedule to be with them

Girls can always tell when you don’t mean what you are saying
It is like they have a danger-clock that ticks ‘noisy’ when you come over them with something very sensitive and yet speak from your throat. You can only fake certain things to an extent but when you mean to move a girl, do your best to make sure you mean what you have in mind. It is even advisable not to say things you don’t mean when you are with a lady.

They love people who can make life less boring
Also certain studies have shown that rich young people often lead very boring lives. They are usually fed up with the fixed routine of their lives. The situation is even worst with the aristocrats and politicians who always have the eyes of the public and media to contend with....One of the tips you need to take very serious when you have an opportunity with a rich Nigerian girl is to focus all your creativity and passion on creating special and very memorable moments whenever you are with her; especially those that wont cost you too much. Show her something extraordinary which she will miss if both of you can’t be together

Rich girls can become a major nuisance
It is also important that you learn to be patient while dating a rich girl – especially the spoilt ones who strongly believes that their money can get them anything whenever they want – including another man just like you. So when you meet these types, you follow them patiently.

...the list continuous
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Hello All,
Its been sold

The boredom in a relationship is more of a thing oof mutuality of interest than physical appearance. I think its a bit myopic to declare that pretty women are a bore. If you both have topics that you love and are happy to talk to yourself boredom will not suffice.

For me its Ethiopia. Those women are just too beautiful. Tender and well tanned skin. Nice height, well endowed with big bright eyes. I remember thinking "what an imbalance is distribution of beauty". Brazilians, Iranians na joke

You got chatting with a lady. All goes well. So much fun and laughter. You are happy because she smiles at your joke. You start believing you are funny. She seems very interested in you. First is your real name, then where you live and then the big question "what you do for a living?". You are honest. She seems interested and sincerely so.The tory continue like that for days and one day you check in and be like "whats up" and she is like " i am not having a good day, or i am sad...or dont worry lets just chat maybe i will get better". Ok.

Being a nice guy, you keep persisting. I want to know. Please let me know what is bothering you (you don enter kasala be that). You really want to know, like seriously? You don eat the hook plus sinker be dat. O boy! Of course you keep chatting all the same and then they hit you with it. "I got this textbook, handout, academic tour....blah blah blah... i need to buy. Sincerely, you don't have money and you are concerned...na there the scam start. O boy. As a sharp guy, you are like why not tell your parents about it...i mean i wish i cud help. She is like "they already gave me the money but i spent it on something". Ok then you sympathized with her as par good guy.

"So what do we do about it?" You asked, wishing you knew what to do and she is like "just forget about it, let me just spend some time alone" Na there the chat end. Next time if you view your messages log, you go see account has been deleted. One even asked me after 5 days of meeting, "what did you say you do for a living?" I had told her i was into business consulting but after the textbook issue, i had to tell her i help small and medium businesses look for grant and set up their businesses. The two they different but u no go understand.

Has anybody, whether guys or gal, had a similar experience? Please share.

Being crazily in love with someone is crazy but it is rewarding. Ok you saw this person and you thought, “I wish you were mine and mine only”. Then you realised that no matter how much you long for them, they are just not into you. O boy! You don enter wahala be dat. The next few days after that, nothing seems to matter... you are crazy about getting on a date with them. You dream of an opportunity to be with them and pray for the right words to describe how much they mean to you.

I have been there. I once came close to running mad for a woman. She drove everything in me insane. If it was necessary, am sure I would have been able to dance naked on the street for her. Was she beautiful? Not as you would think. She was plain but she was perfect for me. After weeks of horning my conversation skills, I went after her. The first task was to know where to meet her. I had bumped into her on a show. I think I paid about $75 for that show. It was somewhere in Abuja and I had spent that much because my favourite entertainer was to show up.
The moment I laid my eyes on her by the ticketing stand, I knew I had got another show running. I traced her to her seat and had to exchange ticket with another sharp dude who knew a brother in need. I spent the 3 hours of the show, taking in every part of her and apparently ignoring my entertainer when he came on stage. I never knew I had detective skills but by the time the show was over, I could tell the way she packed her hair, her facial expression when she laughed, felt uneasy, took interest in a story, or got distracted. It was a rewarding experience as I am sure I made quite a good use of my brain trying to figure out hundreds of ways to get her to notice me. Anyways, I had to stalk her to her home, took note of the address, and decided to try a safer stalking the next day. Man! How much of our faculties we use when we are crazily in love?
Well as I was saying, getting to meet her was a hurdle I invested so much of wits to manoeuvre. I bribed a friend to her guard, appeased a friend of hers, and bought her brother some unnecessarily expensive whisky at Cubana. Eventually, the day came and I was tongue-tied. The object of my love (infatuation) was just before me and I couldn’t find the right set of words. I stuttered, and couldn’t get my eyes to look at her. I was so powerless before her. It was getting stupid.

Thinking about it now, I know I wasn’t shy. I just had so much reverence for her that I couldn’t risk saying the wrong thing. She was looking over me. I could tell she found me interesting but it was in a way that says, “What could this guy possible have to say to me for going so far to meet me?” One of those freaks of nature played out and I remained grateful for it. Her handkerchief fell from her laps and as she bent down to pick it, she nodded the edge of the table. The result was an embarrassing scene of crashing cutleries and cups.
The event took her a little unaware and I could tell that it was her time to be uneasy. I rushed over to help her pick up the hand towel. Thereafter, I held her by her shoulders and inquired if she was all right. I took control of the situation and asked the waiters to come clean up. Once I felt a surge of confidence and I went straight to the point. Before long we were laughing. I told her how I met her and the crazy things I did to meet her. I told her about the guard. I told her of my offering to buy a drink for her brother at Cubana without knowing the cost, and almost getting kicked out of the lounge. She was laughing.

We ended up agreeing that we would be friends but the problem was that I never opened that bracket. We were friends, in fact two months later she introduced me to her teenage crush-turned-lover. This person treated her very sadly. He was always bullying her but she was in love with him. I was dying to squeeze his neck. I dreamed of a day when she would call and tell me her lover’s ship had been pulled into the Bermuda Triangle.

Well last night, I got a call from her. She was crying. She said she had been foolish and blind. That she never grew over her crush and she was crazy to think he actually loved her. She was crazy, oh yeah! That is what love does to you. It makes you crazy.

adconline: And most importantly, bring a blank cheque to assure him that you will be a team player and payer as well!

Lol

passionate88: them no go fit o, most Naija gals no dey like team work btwn dm and their guys or husband's. Dm want only one party to dey do everything for them

Naija gals don they even play single role, talk less of team work.

Scarpon: this will not work for some sharp igbo guys I know

If he is that sharp, why is he taken too long to get married? and this story nobody about Sharp Gal Vs Sharp Guy...it is about two people who know what they want and knows it is important to go for it

Legalplayerz: Story.

Share your own...we are all in nairaland to tell stories or read stories

bukatyne: For you to think that all men hang out with their girlfriends because they want to marry them is wrong. Most of them are probably looking for a warm bed and plate till they see who they want to 'marwi'. A woman can't make the decision for a man because the man is to lead his home.

I dont think that most men hang out with their girls just to marry...but when you are with a man for upto say 6 years...you don't call that hang out again...if it were just to have a warm bed, the warm bed would have been worn by then. I am not saying that if a man hangs out with you, he wants to get married; i am saying if he spends so much year with you without popping the question, you just might need to help him do that. If you guys have stayed that long, you mean something to yourself...you have probably become a part of yourself...marriage is the next sane thing...but why is it not forthcoming? Think about it deeply. He has been with you for years, you have good times togethr, he is old enough to marry you but he hasnt proposed?!

bukatyne: And you have not considered the fact that he's not into you hence the delay?

That's something but very much unlikely - or so i think. Look at it this way, if he is not into the lady why will he be spending years hanging around her for? For me, i think he is being indecisive especially because he is not sure marriage is what he wants at the time being or he probably thinks he is not capable of heading a home yet. Whatever the case, the lady needs to encourage him to make decisions like that.

jntyjnty007: Don't push the boat. If he wants then he will in his own time. I proposed to my husband, and he came back the next day and said yes. If marriage is what you truly both want, its simple, it will happen, and commitment is something that can be hard work, it is by choice.

I see you point, truly ladies need to stop doing that. Whatever i have recommended in this article is better done naturally...if he finds out you are trying to get him to marry you, it might be difficult to get him to make a decision

Cool stuff... some insightful information..Thanks

Do you want to know what to do about your man who is taking too long to propose marriage? Have you been dating for so long you even wonder sometimes whether the experience will be different from actually getting married? You look up to every special day hoping he will pop the question and place that diamond-studded ring around your finger, but special days just pass by and you are still very much single. Well here is some good news for you: in a few minutes I will not promise that you will be able to get him to propose, but I can assure you that you will know exactly what to do to make him consider proposing to you a top priority.


1. Make marriage his next big goal

Men are driven by the desire to achieve something - anything - that feels right. Most matured single men remain single because there are goals they are yet to achieve that seems far more important than marriage. It could be wealth, self-realisation, fame, education, status, good looks, loads of girlfriends, etc. As long as that goal remains the top priority, they will remain distracted and find it very hard to consider 'settling down'. So your job here is to gradually make marriage his goal. Take him to visit your happily married mutual friends, invite him for couples' programme at your place of worship, visit amusement parks where you have a lot of parents and children catching fun, invite him to as much wedding as you can - just do anything to give him a picture of what both of you are missing staying single.


2. Make sure he understands that marrying you will be less bondage than he fears

You can achieve this by trying not to hold on to him too much. Men like to be free. Sometimes, it is the fear of being held and controlled by one woman that scares many men away from marriage. Your man should see you as a woman he can marry and still enjoy sufficient freedom. Don't fall into the temptation of trying to make him a better man by blackmailing him out of doing everything that is bad that he has been doing before you came. Don't cut him off from his bad friends - they have been their always and they have shared his good and bad moments with him. Don't try to keep him away from his family - especially his mom and sisters - they were his first love. Make sure your coming around doesn't come with a drastic twist of his freedom to relate with others or do the things he enjoys doing. Yes you might be doing it for his safety, but most times men prefer you fight for their happiness and not their safety - usually, they know how to protect themselves.


3. Try to build a consistent good nature

One thing that almost every guy is scared of, is getting married to a strange woman. There have been stories about good-girl-gone-bad after marriage. Some men go as far as testing their woman using several tools and methods to find out if they are steady or shaky (women do this too - more than men am sure). So I will advise that while you worry why he is not popping the question, work on building a stable and desirable nature.


4. Make your presence home to him

Men are as free as birds, yet while they hover around the sky they remain conscious of the location of their nest. One thing I can assure is that if you make yourself a home to your man, he will want to spend all his days around you. So you have to aim for attitudes that can make you homely, happy and hopeful. Make him happy every time he comes around you. Inspire him with hope for a brighter future by the peaceful life you live. Make your presence feel like home to him. Assure him by your unconscious actions that your presence will always be a home to him.


5. Keep reminding him that you are proud of him

The problem with some women is that they always want to remind their man of how much he still needs to do to impress them. However, it is important to reduce the scale of what impresses you for your man and to avoid holding unto thoughts of comparisons with more successful guys talk more of voicing such thoughts. Find something good about anything he has or is into, and make sure you let him know you are proud of that. He could be waiting to be able to impress you and your family before he can ask for your hand in marriage! For all I know, that could take years and both of you are not getting any younger. So sometimes, it helps to lower your expectation and be truly proud of the man you have. He must sense that you know he is good enough for you.

This will do for now. Remember practice is what brings result and not knowledge. I hope this article has helped you. Please tell me if it has or say something in the comment box to teach others.

To the success of your engagement! Call me when he proposes (+23407011210560).

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Mynd_44: Why bring this thread back?

Because it's worth it Mynd...hope you dont have a problem with that...

Breeze5000: Thank you so much. One of the best post I have read on NL so far,   I do write for fun and tries to disguise my writing style and hide my true Identity so people that knows me wont know it's my blog because of who I am and what I do in real life. The blog was not set up to make money like some running wild here actually thinks, (though I put ads just like others to make it look serious) if I truly want to make it one of the best blogs online and really make money with it I have the means to Interview whoever, write articles on inside stuff I know and draw crazy traffic but if I do that my friends and others will know it's me and this wont give me the objectivity to write as I should.

But like you truly pointed out, this place is about socializing, so what if I am a poor struggling person trying to make a  living online instead of doing yahoo fraud or picking up a gun to rob, is it the duties of others to discourage me? What If i ended up becoming a robber how are they sure they or their families wont become my victims someday? I see a lot of kids running wild here looking for who to insult and I weep for the present generation of youths in Nigeria if this is all they truly have to offer. There is absolutely nothing wrong with the Old mixing up with the youths, it is very common where I reside and both benefits from each other. Some older folks here might be weary of posting for fear of being insulted by kids that would actually be running errands for them in real life. You don't go about Insulting people just because it's a faceless Forum. How are you sure you are not Insulting your Aunt? Pastor? Doctor? Favorite Actor? or even Uncle or Aunt paying your school fees? But the point these bunch are missing is that through the net they can meet their future partner, land that dream job, Meet someone that can get them that Visa they've been seeking forever, make friends that would be closer that blood relations. But because this is a faceless forum, people forget all this and just believe the number reason they come here is to INSULT others but it shouldn't be so. This is the biggest gathering of Nigerians online, so there are professionals here, teachers, doctors, celebrities,, etc   In another Forum that I belong to,  where people reveal themselves, there is this young guy (20-23) that resides in Naija, he mixes freely with us older folks. He debates us, puts his points across and before you know it people started liking him and he gets assignments from people abroad and gets paid. When I finally met him in person, I brought him to a project we were working on and though he was surrounded by people he could only dream of meeting but he held his own. Through that meet he is making a living for himself doing what he is studying in school. (He is a Final year student in Unilag) So before the guy graduates this year he is already doing his dream job and he got that opportunity because of his attitude online.There are people here that might not even have 5k to buy food and there are so many people here that could help but it's your online personality that would attract you to them. To me this should be one of the best reason why people come online, to meet, socialize and discuss personal problems. I have friends all over the world and some are like blood relations. Nobody knows what tomorrow might bring so lets live today like it's our very last day. There is too much trouble and sorrow in the world so we shouldn't spend our time fighting each other especially when it is not necessary. If what I wrote made sense to even one person, then it's worth writing it. I will post this again as a new thread. @ BRIGHTMIND, once again thanks for taking your time to write that beautiful stuff up there. I do hope to meet or communicate with you someday. Have a nice day

Well said Breeze5000,

I didnt' reply sooner than i should because i have been off nairaland for a long time.

How are you doing with your blog? I have not visited since the last time. But i will today. Am glad you were able to wade off the sarcasm which was tagging along your post. I believe anyone who reads through this thread will pick an information that could change his or her life.

Rudeness, mainly due to the faceless nature of forums (like you rightly noted)and the usual band of idle kids who sleep on nairaland makes it very hard to have a good time on the forum. When we relate the fact that the forum is the largest gathering of Nigerians online, it is almost impossible to pretend we are a people who respect one another.

Your post which i quoted above simply resonated the truth about certain connections we all share but are ignorant of. We hear the phrase "Is a small world" and we think is idle talking. In December last year, I finished editing an autobiography for a client. The experience was nerve-wrecking but i kept my cool and delivered my best. One the day of the book launch, i discovered that the client was the degree project supervisor of my immediate younger brother in the university. He invited his students to the launch. Sometime last month, i visited an old school mate i hadn't seen or heard from for years. I was in his family's courthouse, when his dad came in to share a good news and like you would rightly guess, his dad was my client. I have had several similar experience and i am sure most people here have too. Some old folks once decided that it was a bad idea to throw stone into a market since one could hit a loved one. It is like you said there is the possibility of insulting a teacher or aunt... i know people will learn from this thread.

he is asking the young man to probably help him with wrapping something.

Nigerians have a couple of attitudinal issues that are making peaceful co-existence and unity very impossible. We can blame the government and every other institution for our woe but one thing is certain even when we have a perfect government without addressing these issues any hope of peace can as well be signed off as a daydream. Peace and development have eloped most Nigerian states because the government and the people lack political and social will to face issues squarely. There have been so many violent crises in Nigeria. Since the dawn of the fourth republic alone the country has suffered over 345 socio-political crises; the number is outrageous for ethno-religious crises...it’s something near uncountable. Painfully, no matter how bad these events turn out, little is done to prevent a reoccurrence and this is why we should discard all thoughts of peace in the nearest future. Until we brace up to factors and element that are robbing us of peace, we don’t deserve to live in peace.

The peace process in Nigeria can be described as political, inept, superficial and weak. This is better exposed in the lip-serving attitude the government and the people have towards peace. Almost every Nigerian will profess peace as the panacea to development and better life; and even yet, almost every leader will assure you that his leadership will give up its mandate for peace. There has been far more government programmes and policies on peace, than there has been to address corruption. Nigerians talk more of peace and unity than any other black nation but it’s all a façade. Yet we are not as peaceful or peace-loving as we claim. I have seen common people lose their patience with the slightest provocation – even if it was a rumour.

Firstly, we find it hard to tolerate one another...we disregard people’s beliefs easily and we don’t respect the ways of life of others. You see it playing out in how easily we make caricature of the culture and religion of others. We are good at calling people from other tribe disrespectful names and describing them with awkward phrases. For instance, the Ibos call Yorubas “Ofe Mmanu”, which means “soup full of oil”; the Hausa’s call the Ibos “Yammiri” coined from the Ibo phrase “N’yem imiri”, which means “Give me water – a phrase that originated during the civil wars when Ibos were believed to beg for water to survive”; and Hausa’s a known with different derogatory names including Aboki-slave boy, Malo-thoughtless, “Mmu Ewu-goat’s kids”. These names have become entrenched in our vocabulary, yet they are the most obvious signs that we don’t respect people from other ethnic or religious group. From the religious angle Muslims call Christians “arhner (not sure of the spelling) – one without faith” and the Christians call the Muslims many names that somehow relates to the phrase “one whose head is always on the ground”.

Another problem we have as a country is that we are too religious. Our search for God and a relationship with Him strives on fanaticism. We have not even made our way right with our creator, but we want to show others how to make their way right with their creator. Every issue relating to religion is taken completely out of context. We pretend so much to love God but we don’t even know him. How can one truly love someone they don’t know? How is it possible to say you love God who is far from your sight and grasp when you are irritated at the neighbour you see every day of your life? We read our scriptures alright, but we interpret the holy message in several unholy ways to suit our unholy and carnal desires, and aspirations. We claim to be the torchbearers but we live each day in darkness – with a heart full of hate, and a mind soaked in pretentious evil.

Also our politics is too dirty and too childish. Politics is designed to help players compete for the interest of the people they represent and not to promote the interest of the player exclusively. What we play as politics is deception – a type that is too strong that the players even deceive themselves. The game in Nigeria is so dirty and it is played with little or no dignity or regard for sportsmanship. Competing teams never mind staking the values they hold so high to score or even the scores. This is why it is very hard to differentiate a religious leader in Nigeria from a politician, and even more difficult to tell what our Holy Scriptures say from what the manifestoes of our political parties says.

Nigerians are also a bunch of insecure groups of people. We are always looking over our shoulders. We are scared of what will happen if someone from the other side takes over power, or is placed above us. Even when they are below us we throw-up at the thought of a take-over. Yet this warped sense of comradeship or brotherhood is discarded as soon as everything falls into position. There are actually very few leaders who used their position of power to effect any meaningful change for the people they supposedly represented. When the chips are down, it becomes an issue of “just for my family and friends”. Even yet, we still clamour to have our person at the herm of affairs if not for anything, to tame our insecurity and endemic inferiority complex.

I will like to stop here for now...

ok...I don’t like being a problem rooster; it can be more fun providing solutions. I will just list what I think should be done to help Nigerians address attitudinal issues that are robbing us of the chance to live in peace
1. We need to start being Nigerians and not Ibos or Muslims. People should not be made to identify their place of origin when they seek jobs or pursue contracts. Also, the national ID card should only contain the Name, state of residence, and a unique social number. Every religious festival should become a serious public holiday and vernacular should be thoroughly discouraged in public places.
2. Let us dissociate every institution that is a twine of religion, culture and politics. Steps to take here is to amend the electoral act to give more power to votes coming from regions or areas of people from different religion, or tribe. Only political parties that don’t have religious or tribal undertone should be registered. Each party must prove its acceptance nationally before it is registered. Any party that is perceived to promote a religious or ethnic group should be abolished.
3. Christian students should be forced to take Islamic subjects like Islamic religious Studies and Arabic while in school and also Muslim students should do same. Inter-ethnic (and maybe religious) marriages should be encouraged – if possible people should be rewarded for such relationships. Laws need to be enacted against verbal insults or speeches against other religions and tribes. Any disrespect or abuse of religion and religious structures should be treated as a crime against the nation.
Now am truly done with the subject.... www.larrymoore..com

Larry Moore for Truly Nigerian Blog

I understand that this article is worthless – at best it will be taken as the topic reads. But who cares, after all – even if it was written by the biblical King Solomon, decision makers in Nigeria will ignored or pretend not to see it. Just as they’ve done with other foolish ideas that has been shared about curbing Boko Haram (BK) a menace, which is gradually turning Nigerians into a neck-high frustrated people.
For a fool, Nigeria can rid herself of Boko Haram by making and taking two major decisions. Before I discuss the foolish tips let us remind ourselves of why this whole mess started in the first place.

For starters...Boko Haram is not the child of Islamic radicalism as is purported in the conventional media...now, that is a dumb way to look at it – may be you can say that about Al-Qaeda, or the Taliban but definitely not BK. BK has come to stay because it is a dreaming child whose parents have disowned or refused to identify with it. When a stubborn child goes on rampage it is up to the parent to force it back in line. What happens when they are gone? It continuous on its rampage until the society catches up with it. Somebody started something without a backup plan and that same plan has backfired! It’s like we see in Hollywood, a creature is built to serve only to be hunted for so many unanticipated reasons. If the spiritual head of Muslims in Nigeria can dissociate himself with BK, how can you now say it is a Muslim-thing?

Rather, this bad child is the seed of every northern leader who had the opportunity to make things right but didn’t. I say this at the risk of sounding biased – I wish I am a northerner, I would still say so. But what else could I be? I was born in the north, I schooled in the north, and I still work in the north. All my friends and even my girl friend is a northerner! I have stuck with the north because something in me has refused to reject it as a home. When I’m across the Niger, the dry winds still whisper me home. Well back to my foolish point: the parents of Boko Haram are unrepresentative northern leadership. If those who represented the north did their assignments; the area would have been one of the most peaceful and fruitful places in Africa. Northerners are by nature very contented people, but contentment counts only when you have something at the least – if only they had something to be grateful for this country’s unity, a mafia like Boko Haram would at worst die in the thoughts of bad men. You can only use frustrated people to pull the stunts Bokoharamians are pulling.

The level of illiteracy in the north is scary. You can’t walk the full length of a street without meeting one or two persons who cannot read or write. The worst is that the desire for education is either not there or its relevance is not seen. When you hear people saying “western education is a sin” you wonder. The world today spins and strives on western education – I don’t beg to differ! When you want to kick against a kingdom or concept like the west, you don’t start in the north and you definitely don’t start at sunset! The west has through centuries of machining, wisdom, focus, and sacrifice made west of everything – the west is the standard. Nobody can help it – even the west itself cannot help it! Today we read that the English are torn against one of their creatures – Democracy. The essence of the English crown is questioned today by some republicans who think power should actually belong to the people – a concept of their own creation.
Back to the north. Boko Haram’s victim is not Nigerians or Christians; the victim here is a dream. You know like there is the American Dream? Yeah, the Nigerian Dream. For those of us who don’t know what the Nigerian Dream is let me help you: the Nigerian Dream is the desire (often uncontrollable) to belong...to be heard...to be feared or respected...to be seen to run things. Its sounds like every body’s dream right? What Boko Haram is fighting for is to rob all Nigerians off the ability to dream like Nigerians! We didn’t realise how free we were until BK came in – actually BK has helped us remember how free we were. There were times when we didn’t have to walk on the street with our hairs standing on the back of our necks, our police officers didn’t have to dock at any leather bag thrown at them, we only had need for military (robbers) road blocks far outside town, and nobody had to ask you to keep your bags outside before being searched into your place of worship.

One of the reasons why Nigeria has not been able to curtail BK is because Nigerians have refused to see through the cloak of religion, sectarianism, ethnicity and tribalism. All our approaches to addressing the situation has been through a myopic perspective. It was easier to handle the Niger Delta militancy because there were no religious or sectarian undertones to the phenomena. When the government decided to get over with the mess, no foul was decried – though a Muslim was on power, he wasn’t seen to be dealing with the Christians! The worst way to reinforce a social vice is to root it on a strong social value – whether it’s a mere etiquette, or a doctrine. What we had succeeded in doing is to make Boko Haram seem like a religious issue when in fact it is a political issue.

Now let me share my two foolish ways out of the situation

First, the north needs to come out plain and with all its strength to tell Boko Haram that “we appreciate your concerns for our welfare but we don’t need you to be a watchdog”. Spiritual and political figure heads in the region needs to redefine their commitment to Nigeria and let enemies of this country understand their position. Then we can single out, BK as a true public enemy and work across religion, tribe and geopolitics to deal with the menace. One thing that motivates BK is that they still believe they are fighting a just course. I wonder what they will be fighting for when the north certifies that the north is ok with the laws governing them already.

Secondly and probably most importantly is for everybody to ignore Boko Haram, especially the media. We need to report their activities in such a way that they wouldn’t enjoy the glory. BK has gotten this strong because we pay too much attention to their mayhem. It’s time to ignore what they do. The press needs to make conscious effort in refusing to report their activities. Let us stop mentioning their names on our tabloids and dailies. Boko Haram actually feeds on our fears and the more dreaded we make them feel, the more violent they become. The point is to drive enough fear into Nigerians and our government that we are forced to concede to their demands (if they even have any). If we can stop all the banter on Boko Haram and focus on something else; they will soon realise that they are no longer an issue. They can only pass their threat across when they see we get the message – ignoring their activities is one way to show that we don’t realise that they are passing any.

If you notice all the havoc they’ve done was to amplify their voice and remind people that it counts – same with many other terrorists groups. Boko Haram is northern Nigeria’s version of the coastal Italy’s Sicilian mafia. They are a taskforce and they want business in their region (perhaps the country) to be run in their favour. But they only exist because we recognise them.

Well we are done here...

inspirenet:
I have a case of a married couple, i am looking for a good advice for them.

Thanks house.

If i understand you, i think you are not looking for the literary difference between love and emotion.

Love is not just an emotion, if it was, it may be hard to differentiate it from lust. An emotion (as i think you intend demystifying) is different from love based on how both are vented.

I hope this helped you Poster!

You have tens of ways to vent your emotion (greed, lust, selfishness, sex, control, anger, hate and even our dear love etc); but you only have one way to vent your love and that way is to give up yourself and all that you hold dearly for someone or something; maybe for God, or for man; or music, or sport. Another difference is that emotions are 90-95% controlled by the human physiology and senses, but love is controlled by a high sense of commitment to another

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We need to be careful the way we lash out on and criticise others, u could discourage someone from going into what really makes them happy, if you are not comfortable with someone's activities on NL just ignore them,

I keep wondering, we all register in NL for different reasons, while some might see it as a place where u can just gist and go; some other persons might want to promote their ideas and works through it, the basic idea of a forum is to share ideas, it doesnt end at just making comments, or gossiping,

I doesnt pay to be rude - even if nobody is seeing you, respect for people is a sign of love to humanity,

It feels so bad seeing people trying to make caricature of posters who have rights to express theirslfs even under their own post,

I beg make una take am easy, this life is a simple and easy one, share love and respect and same will come back to you---its the law of karma, you attract only what you can give, you will be happier if you can make people happy when then meet you on a thread, its about socializing,

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If all men faced their businesses, n let theri nose alone, d world wud hv been a more peacful place

So guys as we were saying,

Pals, there is dis guy who is always showing off with the amount of girls he has as friends on facebook. He keeps saying they are all falling over themselves on his wall and sometime infers that he waz some charmster.
Now my question is, can having more of the opposite sex as friends on fb make u any more a of charmer?

annawhite:
isnt news anymore
Next!

Yeah Annawhite, dats y is not on CNN - but its sickening and scary, hearing it from d pastor's mouth n not on some group gist, was a shock to me.
Knowing they were dedicated christians n doing it while service wz on made it all d more unbelieveable n embarrasing,

Guys, i just came back from church with a story that has refused to stop amazing me.
Pastor, talked today about a 'brother' n 'sister' caught in d act while sermon wz going on. They were cuddling themselves in the toilet section when an usher bumped into them, the usher said he was 'urged' to report the 'lovers'.
Pastor wz preaching on 'the death of conscience'.