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Norajones: Bera cos dose ipads r filled wif porn movies/pictures,,n vulgarity...a welcome development though it doesn't stop anything sha

Nora I tink it all depends on d individual... iPads and oda devices can b used 4 anything which includes wat u had written but it can also b used as a means 2 have access 2 ur bible...like dey say,different strokes 4 different folks..4 me,it gives u quick access 2 d chapter or part of d bible u r lukin 4...intact it makes bible study very easy wit less stress...so 4 me its really gud...as 4 dose who insert a indecent files,Dats deir own problem but dat sud not discredit d flexibility of dose devices!

Kay17: The scenario you ask for is unrealistic in this modern age. A marriage is between two who gave equal consent, it would be untenable and unrealistic to convert such a relationship into a bootcamp. Women today are more empowered than women in the past, they have their high powered careers, huge egos and big brains. That's a fact, accept it.

Such women see themselves on equal footing with the men, they are in the marriage for love not as househelps or such traditional housewife role. Also if the controlling men turn out to be myopic brawns, the woman will naturally attempt a coup. So that's the stark reality.

ok @kay17,i guess u have 2 marry(or find) such man dat suits ur taste and i will say GOOD LUCK 2 u on that search ......one thing u must understand is dat no matter how rich or wealthy both partners(husband and wife) are,some one has 2 be in charge and take some important decisions 4 d well being of the family inspite of the invaluable input from the other partner which in dis case is the WIFE...u can not have TWO captains in one ship,neither can u have TWO car steering in a car......there is no institution that can habour TWO leaders...there has 2 b ONE and only ONE person....that 4 me is the stark reality ...dats y u must marry a loving and responsible man whom u can love and respect...one whom u believe CAN LEAD u and ur children well..not someone who WILL treat u badly...but if wat i have said makes absolutely no sense 2 u den i guess we have differing opinions on dis topic....i rest my case ...once again gudluck in ur search

Kay17: The keyword ought to be manage not control. Marriage and family is beyond militaristic control, it is actually a reason it fails but its with leadership a family is bond together. There should be love and charm and that is not gained through control

And you are a man, you can't say what a woman desires because you speak as a man.

Control in terms of taking charge..thats being responsible 4 ur family...thats what leaders are made of and in this case a real man so to speak...but like u rightly said such leadership such be devoid of militaristic control...i hope u read @joomiegirl comment on submission...?

joomiegirl: *scratching head... My dear, with all humility I would say I am not an expert in the matter, but I do read a lot, and I watch couples-old and young; and come to my own conclusions...I make up my mind what I want to adopt and what I don't.

But basically the ting nor be rocket science like that.
1. Submission is firstly RESPECT.

RESPECT. RESPECT. RESPECT.
Its like air to a man. You don't belittle or talk down at him. A lot of women are guilty of this..I've seen some do it in public sef. I cringe.

We need to respect the man as the leader. Like it or not, that's what he is.
He gives you a simple instruction but you hiss and na d tin wey dey your mind you do...not good.

And every good leader KNOWS he cannot achieve much without the help and support of his followers.

He may be about to make a really bad decision, but there are ways to go about trying to convince him that would make him listen to you.
Yorubas have this saying "pele ni ako, o ni abo".
Literal Translation: "sorry" get male and female format.
That is to say: E get as u go tell person "sorry" wey Im mind go come down, and e get as you go say "sorry" wey the person go just vex all the more.

Meaning that mode of presentation is key!

BOTTOM-LINE:
Submission is allowing him to be the leader...of course you're his helper and you certainly have an input in the decision-making process, BUT don't make life difficult for him abeg. He has enough battles outside without coming home to an atmosphere of war, constant nagging, disagreement and insubordination.

And truly, real men don't employ the "my way or take the highway" approach.
They would seek your counsel and ideas especially if you have shown yourself to be trustworthy, wise and reasonable, but ULTIMATELY he expects you to support him if he makes the final decision.
Truth is, there are areas in your affairs that he would also leave totally to your decisions and discretions.

SOMETIMES, ITS TRUE THAT THEY JUST WANT TO FLEX MUSCLE ...it may be annoying...but just say "yessir"... humour him and move on..you won't die! At the end of the day, we know who REALLY runs the show... . The power of a woman is influence..incredible if she is wise to know how to use it. A wise woman stoops to conquer...May God grant us that wisdom.

SUBMISSION AND THE TONGUE
If you feel he is not doing well maybe financially, the medicine for that is encouragement, NOT an acid tongue..
Let's not lie, some women dey get terrible, terrible bad mouth ...many a wife has turned a perfectly reasonable man to something else.
A submissive tongue is one that encourages, not one which tears down..

NAGGING: another act of unsubmission...you are trying to harrass him to do your will be that. You want to get your way by all means..usually its counterproductive.

You want something, but you nearly nag him to death...he naturally just balks and you will hit a brick wall. For example, you need him to be more helpful with domestic stuff, and na nagging u start... naija men?...they will just log out.

RECOGNITION OF THE ALMIGHTY MALE EGO. (TSK TSK!!)
We usually roll our eyes at the male ego thing (I do too!!), but Nne, that thing is there and apparently its not going anywhere! .
We just have to learn how to manage it ni.
Even my 4yr old nephew sometimes dey try to prove say he be boy, to his older sister. It tickles me no end

Another thing that is key in submission: APPRECIATION. APPRECIATION. APPRECIATION.
You are preggers and he manage cook indomie for you, wetin u do na to grumble about how e burn am.

Appreciate him verbally for the little things he does..he will go out of his way to do far more. EVERYBODY--(men and women) loves people who are appreciative.

A friend went to sell Ankara fabric to a man, say make e buy for him wife, he just hissed and said, "there's no point, she nor dey appreciate anything jare". He say "ah fit buy am now, she go complain about the colour or pattern. Abegi!"
And I bet that woman would probably be complaining that the guy doesn't buy her anything, not knowing say from history, na she shoot herself in the foot.
Tell me; who lose?

If you are the type who appreciates him, you give him respect, when u want something e fit nor pass to just rub his back and rub his stomach and start all those "olowo-ori mi" psyching ..he may answer with a grumpy "Ehen. what do you want now?"...but trust me at the end of the day they stress themsleves to make you happy. Because you make his life easy and beautiful!

WHAT SUBMISSION IS NOT:
Submission isn't acceptance of physical abuse and battery...capital NO. Na "till death do us part" not "till he kills you."
I would ask any woman unfortunate to be experiencing that, to separate herself from the bros. Separate yourself..till he gets help or something.

Submission does not mean you would lose yourself, your identity, your career or whatever.
It does NOT mean the man shouldn't respect you, either. We are not footmats, real men know that.

Men should not use the submission card as an excuse to abuse the woman emotionally, too.

Which is why I would say we shine our eyes well and not get hitched to an insecure caveman who would lock you up and throw away the key.
There are men like that too, unfortunately.
Be sure he supports your dreams, the things that are truly important to you.

Because sincerely; as he carry his head and his destiny come, na so you carry yours come too.
Imagine if the husbands of the likes of the late Dora Akunyili (God rest her soul) hadn't been supportive.

BUT and capital BUT: as he supports you in your dreams, career and all that, even if you are the oga-patapata-bosslady at work; when you rish ya house every evening, you go carry that title hang for your doormouth before you enter the house. You pick it up again on your way to work the following morning.

Hope that helped...that's my own sha .
I leave the rest to the more experienced and happily married folks.
cheers dear.

OMG...are people reading dis lovely comment by this unique and pleasant lady?
i tot had seen the best of comments 4rm u but alas u came with some thing beta...
the truth is u cant maltreat or abuse someone you love..its not possible..God bless your mum and dad...and God bless u real Good..te amo

shaybebaby: The correlation between " head" and domestic abuse is ... Absolute power corrupts!
Actually, I do not know about that law, care to enlighten me? I try as much as possible not to follow the news, too depressing.
I have been to a country where democracy is still very much in it's infancy. Less than 20 years and the people are certainly a lot happier, they have more say in matters that affect their daily lives.
The issue I have is the absolute control wielded by the so- called leaders in climes such as the Middle East. The tool used to achieve that? Religion!
Cast away the shackles of prescribed ethics and allow room for free thought and we'd see just how much their system of governance works. If it works thus far, it's because of either indoctrination or fear of the consequences evident from the tenets of their belief. Even I would have to fall in line in such a climate, not because of choice but because of the consequences I know would be dished out. Fear is very much instilled as a tool of control and such is the same happening in our country with regards to this issue. No different.
Dare to think for yourself and buck the trend and we hear platitudes such as " no man will marry you", " you'll be kicked out of your marriage with an attitude like that". Are those things said out of genuine care for a woman's welfare and happiness or is it just another tool, using fear to control?
One interesting trend that i am noticing is that there are quite a lot of interracial marriages about now involving black females and white males. It used to be mainly the opposite. Could it be that our women are daring to look outside their race for people who share their views and would treat them better than our men? And saying " fvck you" to anyone who says only hoes go with white guys( another scare tactic employed to limit our choices)

it depends on the personality and character of the man u r marrying or in a relationship with...absolute power or not
there is this saying that a character of an individual is tested when given power...yes there are
some men who use their position as HEAD to intimidate and abuse their spouse,which 4 me is regretful and unacceptable..but that should not be used as a yardstick to judge all men...not all men are fit to be head of a family..so
its up to you to make the right decision about ur choice of such men..just because something is misused wrongly doesn't mean it sud
be dumped or thrown out!!

mcdokwe: Often times, we do meet people and fall in love with them despite their many shortcomings. Unfortunately, most books and articles we read these days tell us not to try to change people we are in a relationship with. This has however become the undoing of many unhappy relationships and marriages today, as people don't want to be CHANGED.
The fact is that someone can get committed to a terrible flirt, a drunkard, criminal, an abusive man, nagging woman and other shortcomings, but no one would want to have to cope with your vices for life.

I am of the honest belief that we get into people's life to impact them and bring about a positive behaviour in them even though that shouldn't be motivated by the desire to change the person. Such behaviour modification should come about with love and openness between both parties.

If you happen to have an undesirable character your partner is having a hard time coping with, make yourself amenable to change unless you want your partner to be unhappy thereby making yourself unhappy too. (Now that is a horrible decision to make) friendship should be fun and when it is not, it should be two people commonly dealing with a challenge and not people struggling to stay together.

i guess most people are satisfied with d 'this is who i am' bandwagon,forgetting that admission of a fault or a habit is the first path but the second is to make a CHANGE..there lies the problem...most people admit their shortcomings and its negative effects but make no effort whatsoever to change it ....

lawanson44: After reading this i.dio.t's post about how God killed his siblings, i just know the reason why he has lost it. He is suffering from hyperdeceasemeciatonuistosuidementia!

shizzleStar: Its a relief seeing that there are women with functional brains from functional homes, with good sense of objectivity and judgement, and who are rational in reasoning. And you are one of them. You have spoken like a well brought up child who is aware of her environment and appreciates the position of the woman in a home.

You and a hand full of other ladies have chosen not to live in denial of the truth, by accepting the mere fact that the man is the HEAD of the family; and undeniable fact, which can only be contested by some[b] never-to-do-well, deluded, hypocritical and dare-devil women seeking to swindle the minds of innocent younger women in their evil bid to manoeuvre them into making regrettable mistakes in their marital lives and aso to deceive and lure them into thinking that men do not deserve to be respected simply cos some of them suffered from heart breaks and paranoia from their previous relationship(s).[/b]

Most women who share the shallow opinion of the op are f[b]rom dysfunctional or broken homes, devoid of fatherly love and care and whose upbringing must have been terrible, frustrating and miserable and as such their line of reasoning is so warped, erratic and delusional to the consternation of every right thinking human.[/b]

....future senator patrick o... ....

joomiegirl: I don't understand this OP at all.
He clearly thought he would be given a thunderous ovation from the women and I'm happy to see; that didn't happen!

I am female, and I will try to set him straight..hopefully.

IT IS THIS KIND OF HARE-BRAINED THINKING THAT IS THE ROOT CAUSE OF DYSFUNCTIONALITY IN THE WORLD TODAY!!
Hian!
The man is the head...GET OVER IT!!
Being the head has nothing to do with domestic abuse(that's another kettle of fish altogether)...its simply the way God wired it, for marriage to work as it was originally designed to.

Even with this partnership theory, the woman should realise that there is a senior partner and junior partner.

To wit: He should include her in decision-making, ask for her ideas and views..but ULTIMATELY he takes the decision. She may not like the end decision he's taken, but she's got to be submissive and support him not fight and buck him at every turn...there can be no two captains in one boat.

Even when she knows she's right, a wise and submissive woman would quietly let him do it his way if that's what he wants...trust me, when his fingers get burnt, you may be certain he would not take your counsel so lightly again. That's wisdom. That's submission. That's true followership.

I am a strong independent woman who knows what she wants; and is no-one's fool.
BUT I most certainly do NOT want to be the head of my marriage, when I do get married!
I do not want the responsibility(na yam?), and I most certainly do not want the conflict.
The man is the head AND priest of the house. Which means that I will not follow a man who would leave me alone to tend the family prayer altar...that's HIS job. I'm a helper. Chikena.
Life would be a lot simpler, and society a lot less dysfunctional if everyone stuck to their God-given roles.

Being submissive does not make the woman a footmat, and to the men: knowing your wife should be submissive does not give you the right to treat her as a footmat. The bible asked you to love her, as christ loved you, and asked her to submit. If you love her, and truly show her that love, she even tries to outdo herself in submission, and when she does that, the man loves her even more. Its a lovely circle.

Bottom-line, no woman should marry a man she cannot follow, respect and submit to...what's the point? Its not all about "love wan-tin-tin"
Ladies, If you cannot submit to this person, if you do not TRULY respect him, don't even bother getting into it in the first place...cos all you may end up doing is trying to usurp his authority...and disrupt the order of things.

...waoooooow....slightly speechless but God bless you and grant u a lovely husband ...1trillion likes!!!

ideology: Nawao o, why ask her to move on, when one doesn't know the truth, what went wrong and if it can be fixed.

Lets not give advice based on any previous bad experience

u r absolutely rite..reminds me of a saying..WHEN THE ONLY TOOL YOU POSSESS IS A HAMMER,EVERY PROBLEM BECOMES A NAIL

Prowizy2: No offense!! Is kiwi polish your body lotion?

...OMG..

emmyw: Did you marry your wife because of her breast or love? My dear,don't get bored about anything or you will start hating your wife little by little,love everything,maintain her,do not use artificial thing on her,do not let your wife suspect you. Love it like that.

i tink he is trying to seek solutions to an issue which is:part of his wife's body which interests him ...

but i tot there r sum kind of exercises that can make them firm again...guess she sud hit d gym..

Tallesty1: Inflate them nah, use your mouth to blow air into them or buy hand pump.

wahala

RayMcBlue: Give it a rest, mate. 24 is officially dead... on Fox network at least. Just confirmed it yesterday.

smh

Leetunechi: This thread has be igbonized

6. The return of this guy

This haughty chap from episode 3 (1:00 p.m. - 2:00 p.m) provided 24: Live Another Day with some much-needed comic relief, delivering the season's biggest laugh as he limply heckled Heller with the deathless line, "What are you going to do about today's incident?!" - he MUST return.

Should 24 return? If Jack Bauer comes back, what do you want from his latest adventure? Share your thoughts below.

source:http://www.digitalspy.co.uk/ustv/s9/24/feature/a584354/will-24-return-6-things-that-season-10-must-deliver.html

5. Revive more classic characters

Live Another Day proved that it's possible to bring back figures from Jack's past without totally bewildering first-time viewers, but now that Audrey and Cheng are dead and Heller's no longer fit to serve as President, Day 10 would have to deliver a fresh batch of returnees.

If a character like Cheng can surface, then surely there's room for (another) comeback for fan favourite Tony Almeida? Unfortunately, the notion of President Aaron Pierce is probably a little far-fetched - even for the show that elected Wayne Palmer.

4. Don't accept Kate Morgan's resignation

Yvonne Strahovski's CIA operative went on quite a journey across Day Nine - transformed from wide-eyed agent to a female Jack-in-training - but once the threat of nuclear war with China was neutralised, she appeared ready to hand in her badge and gun.

But if 24 returns, Strahovski should too. Kate is the show's most promising new female character for years - a potential partner-in-crime for Bauer, with whom she shares a relationship based on respect and trust, rather than any romantic spark.

3. Bring back Belcheck


Of course, first Jack has to escape from the custody of the Russian government, and while Chloe's mighty resourceful, he's otherwise rather short on allies.

Except, of course, there's Belcheck (Branko Tomović), who proved unwavering in his loyalty to Bauer this season. Despite appearing in 9 of 12 episodes, we learnt remarkably little about the Serbian ex-mobster throughout Live Another Day - an encore for the character, filling in a little of his backstory, is called for.

2. Keep Jack out of Los Angeles

Having deposited Jack in the glamorous surroundings of Sarf East London this year, let's hope that the 24 team aren't planning on returning our boy to his home turf any time soon.

A location switch-up always does the show a world of good - whether it be this season's trip to London or Day Seven's outing in Washington - and with Bauer last seen heading to Moscow, there's the potential to see him tear up deepest, darkest Russia in 2015.

1. Stick to the mini-series format

"Shouldn't it be called 12?" asked smart-arses the world over when it was announced that Live Another Day's episode-count would be just half of what 24 fans were used to.

But cutting back on Bauer was the smartest thing Fox and the show's creative team could have done. While classic 24 would lag in pace, tension and quality as it struggled to maintain a single plot across a six-month period, this was the old show without the boring bits.

If 24 returns, sticking to the mini-series format seems like the smartest move - it's not only less of a behemoth logistically but it benefits the show creatively too. Win win.

"Right now, I think it's safe to say there isn't a next instalment."

Jon Cassar - exec producer on 24 - has got to be yanking our chain though, right?

Returning to our screens after a four-year absence, Fox's escapist action thriller has been warmly welcome back by critics, while audience numbers in the US have also been strong for a summer show - with the Live Another Day finale pulling in 6.5m viewers.
An official re-commission now feels like a formality - perhaps with both Cassar and Kiefer Sutherland attending this year's San Diego Comic Con, news of a renewal will break (rather fittingly) on July 24?

When (not if) 24 returns again, here's six things the next season must deliver. (One might be a joke. Possibly.)

enomakos: 24 is the best

the very best...

anitank: If there won't be a season 10, then season 9 was a complete waste of time and resources. Can't believe this is the 24 I used to watch.

i seriously doubt it will end in season 9..too many loose ends...dey just want us to keep guessing and by the time u realise it,season 10 is already a reality.. ..have some faith...dey know what they are doing.....

BabaGnoni: https://s30.postimg.org/4x8j6ajb5/tithing_New.jpg

Argentine President Cristina Fernandez has revealed
that she failed to watch any of the nation's World Cup
matches.
The Albiceleste recorded their best display at the
tournament since 1990, reaching the final, where they
lost 1-0 to Germany on Sunday.
A day later, Fernandez received the squad in the
country's capital of Buenos Aires, giving each of the
disappointed players a consolatory hug.

"As you know I'm no soccer fan," she said. "I didn't
see a single match, not even the one yesterday."
Fernandez added that she rang Argentina coach
Alejandro Sabella after the game to congratulate him
and the team as it felt like they had beaten Germany.
"That's how I felt and how 40 million Argentines felt
too," she said.

Fernandez has since come under fire in Argentina for
not watching any of the nation's World Cup games, with
critics saying she has failed to capture the national
mood.
"It sort of underscores that she lives in a world of her
own more and more," political analyst Felipe Noguera is
quoted as saying by Reuters.
"This has been a very positive month for the country
and for the overall mood. And she's just not part of
it."

Fernandez, who cannot run in next year's election,
declined an invitation from Brazilian President Dilma
Rousseff to attend Sunday's final, saying she was
recovering from a sore throat. German Chancellor
Angela Merkel attended the match and sat next to
Rousseff at the Maracana.

m.espn.go.com/soccer/story?storyId=1950528&top&wjb=

colossus2: Lolz...anyway I want a season 10 cos I want a happy ending for Jack.
But the question is "in what year".
Production is not a days job....it takes a lot.
Season 9 was in UK. Now Jack will be taken to Russia, President is on his way to USA.
So what year can this season 10 be produced

don't worry it won't b like d last time....Lol...am hoping 4 a year interval...Lol...just my tots sha

RayMcBlue: There is one thing you learn as you go through life. If a question is met with silence or with a question mark, then things are bleak indeed. I've visited Fox even before the season finale aired - I have them bookmarked on my browser - and what I read wasn't encouraging at all.

-Kiefer Sutherland (Jack Baur) said there is a possibility that this might not be the last 24 series, but a lot depends on another network picking up the show (And we all knew that the likliest candidate, NBC had pulled out)

-The showrunner was even vaguer than Kiefer, he said that they are still reviewing their options.

Typically, a show gets renewed immediately the season finale concludes, but when the head honchos started beating about the bush like those on Fox, then even the most optimistic of fans would realise that there is nothing there.

OK I get u now but let's wait and see.....as far as am concerned(and I just hope am speaking d minds of oda's 24 fans),24 season 9 finale didn't end quite well and once every1 gets d feeling dat dere won't b some sort of happy ending 4 jack,d ratings will instantly drop in large portions..
I don't tink Dats how dey want d 24 franchise 2 end...

Ajibel: Jack will be back. He got a silent clock for himself - that means a lot. LadyBauer(Kate), Chloe and Belcheck could go and rescue him or there could be a similar replay of S6 exchange of Bauer after being satisfyingly tortured beyond recognition. LadyBauer reminds me of Alias buh Kiefer is getting old. Im not that disappointed, it was better than he being killed.

u r absolutely rite my broda...it will b disappointing if dey don't make a 10th,in fact d ratings will instantly drop 2 its lowest...dat silent clock means a whole lot....intact,see u all in season 10...lol

RayMcBlue: You need to understand something, mate. Producing a very expensive show like 24 ain't easy. It requires funds, manpower and lots and lots of it. It took Fox like 4 years plus to finally muster enough courage and funds to finally tie up the loose ends with a 12 episodic season 9. Originally scheduled to be a full 24 episodic season like it's predecessors, the showrunners had to cut it in half for obvious reasons.

So what gave you the idea that Fox would renew the show for another season? Do you know how much another season would cost, especially for a Network that is sort of cash strapped at the moment? Were you aware that Fox hit TV series, Gang related had to be cancelled in spite of high ratings and reviews because of the inability to continue. Guess why? That's right, lack of funds and manpower. So believe me when I tell you that 24 season 10 is the least of their problems right now. They are done with it, Caput.

There was talks with the richer NBC network to pick up the 24 TV series but it fell through as NBC developed some problems of their own and had to curb some of their own TV shows.

24 may return - nothing is guaranteed after all - but be rest assured that it will not be on Fox network, that's for sure.

my broda I understand dat part very well but u r not d one running FOX and we can not just conclude 4 dem...whether dey renew or not is not my business.... I am only telling u wat I saw @ deir website after viewing d season finale....u can check it up urself if in doubt....as 4 d possibility of Anoda season,I am quite optimistic of one(don't 4get deir plan 2 intro Carlos Bernard)...4 now let's watch and see if its a possibility but it will b disappointing if jack is not given a happy ending.....

colossus2: Lmao....but this final episode was crazy just that they didn't give viewers what we expected. They just triggered our emotions instead of filling our hearts with excitement.
What a sad end

such is life...things some times dont work out the way we anticipate...i believe the way it was concluded was a coverted plan by the producers and directors 2 keep us guessing and wanting another season....and believe me,fans will insist on a happy ending 4 jack thereby necessitating a 10th season..my opinion sha