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DeeMain:
This is an example of your beautiful nonsense, the warped logic you displayed ubiquitously all over this thread. You call this a disclaimer??

My friend, once a woman says NO, it does not mattter what has happened prior or if she was half naked or led you on or kissed you first or was responding initially, STOP!!! The property you are trying to access is hers. She has a right to tell you to stop whenever she deems fit. You are NOT an ANIMAL. You are a man, with a body that has been given a brain to control the body. Know who you are. Use the damn brain well! Not knowing that you can control your behaviour or your body or your response, no matter the cause, is a terrible type of ignorance.

I'll leave you with this quote:

In other animals, ignorance of themselves is nature, in man it's a vice - Boethius

Getting emotional and consoling the ladies won't take the problem away. That's stùpid. There are triggers for rape among lovers / friends. Address those rather than screaming murder. If you refuse to see the sense in preventing but prefer damage control then I have no further words for you as I have addressed these issues already.

BabyDaddy20:
Excluding minors.
99% of rape victims are at fault.
I'm not in support of rape tho.

You want them to pounce on you abi?

sonofananimal:
AGREE WITH YOU

Thank you very much.

Ilaje44:
You don't need to tell people to go and read what you wrote, because reading it a million times won't change the fact that you have been trying to blame the victims of rape for their predicament, saying they invited that upon themselves for dressing scantily or for seducing the rapïst. When someone says NO you should stop.

Oga. I would blame them over and over again within the context I discussed. Let me state it clearly that I was talking about a situation where a lady gets raped by her friend or lover. Not paedophiles. Not psychos who rape old women.

I believe that is the context within which the topic was created. Address the root and don't wait for the damage to be done. The OP suggested a drastic measure which would be to shun visits altogether. I have rather attacked the triggers which ladies knowingly deploy when they go visiting.

Why do these ladies dress so scantily and alluringly? Simple. To look "attractive", "sexually appealing", etc. Why then would they go ahead to engage in forèplay? Ultimately, why should they be absolved of all blame when their dressing and actions begin to fructify?

They must share in the blame because measures could have been taken earlier to avoid rape.

Antoinne:
Stop this puerile display of wits. pre-intimacy or no pre-intimacy, if she says no, stop that play and let her walk. She could say no and not mean it. It don't matter one bit. As long as she says no, it's no longer your show. Give these girls a break!

Guy, your approach does not protect them. Mine does. So whose wits are puerile now? Which is better; prevention or damage control?

Ilaje44:
What an arrant nonsense: If she says no, you should stop. A girl dressing scantily is not an excuse to rape her. A lot of you blaming the girl for being seductive with her dresses should thank your luck that Nigeria is a lawless society. I can see a lot of you in prison. If any one of you would force your way on my daughter even though she asked you to stop, but you went ahead because according to you she brought a condom along, I will personally make sure you will not live long to do that to someone's daughters if justice didn't take it due course. Anyway, if she asks you to stop, you have to stop.

By the way Seun or whoever care to listen, your word censorship is ridiculous. Using molestation instead of the legally correct term despoil. is tantamount to trivializing the offence.

Don't be so emotional that you end up looking foolìsh. You cannot jump to the middle of a long discussion and make inferences. Would you gladly watch your 17 year old daughter go to her boyfriend's house dressed like a stripper? Why would you stop her? Why would you order her to put on decent clothes? What is the need for propriety? Why can you not trust in the goodwill of her boyfriend?

You are not protecting any girl by waiting for the damage to be done. Whatever can trigger the act should be addressed first and foremost. That is all I am saying. No one is happy that ladies get raped by those they love.

DeeMain:
You just have head knowledge without wisdom and Emotional Intelligence. Blatantly displaying your ignorance publicly and without compunction is the hallmark of a fool.

There is something called boundary and territory. A woman's (or man's) body belongs to her completely, moreso her privates. She is the owner. Landlady. The moment she says NO, stop!

Lack of self-control or restraint is a punishable weakness.

Many in developed countries are languishing in jail because of the warped intelligence you are unashamedly exhibiting here. Many have died or have been harmed for raping a girl as relatives come for revenge.

Rape is mental and psychological trauma. Rape is evil. Many girls are maimed for life. Many re-experience the torture forever.

Your entire argument on this thread is what we call Beautiful Nonsense. Pray for sense pls.

Let me state it clearly for the benefit of those who (like you) cannot make inferences from a few paragraphs; I don't support rape.

If you actually believe this emotional outburst of yours is logical then I have no business with you. Now go back and read my initial comments with my disclaimer in mind.

What is this?

sweetgala:
What kind of nonsense have you typed. That is the same as saying a man who has a gun in his hand has the right to kill people because he has been handed a deadly weapon and therefore is not absolutely responsible for his actions.

While a lady might be happy to kiss a guy she might be opposed to sexual intercourse. What kind of foolish FOB argument did you just put up.

I don't have time for trolls who can't read and comprehend.

Nice story.

Just shows that there are some situations that are very difficult to forgive and let go of.

Chinedu don suffer o. He is only good for suya and shawarma.

misspicy:
This is part of wat I have been trying to explain to mr Br ugo And Mr Word bank...

Unless they can all tell us ways of identifing a rapist,we not going to visit guys in der house again.

Lol. I thought we have put the issue to rest na. No is no, right? Agreed.

jomile:
ooooh please stop am blushing already

do you really want him to stop? Ladies.

Lol. Calm down. I have many friends who are girls. And they are just friends.

misspicy:
Whatever way u try to degrade my replies,dats ur business in short ur cup of akamu,buh I still maintain until I sleep off tonyt dat a woman's NO is no,even if she has started giving u a head,u still have no right to rape her,and rape is still not justified

Good. No is no then. Let it rest.

kandiikane:
You have just confirmed yourself to be a rapist, well done!

Lol. If this is how to make conclusions then your teachers should be ashamed of you.

I will not bother to reassure you or otherwise. Use your head.

DollyParton1:
no shite!!! Dude has no self control?
You must be a rapist

If this is the way you identify rapists then you should go back to school.

kandiikane:
Bullshyt! If your sister or mother even you were ra.pe you won't be typing such bullshyt! If she says no just when you are about to enter, get the phuck up and go have a cold shower!



Whole thread is bullshyt! The only person with the 100percent blame is the person who decides to gain access to someone's privates without permission. Absolutely no blame on the victim, it is their right to change their minds whenever they want.

Reason with your brain then quote me.

misspicy:
Protest?...why bother with cloths? Guy u off point,

Mention me again wen u get my drift.

Lol. I will ignore your feeble attempt at goading me. You were begging the question. I only showed you how "simple" your argument was. Why do you bother with clothes? Why the need for any sense of propriety?

Cause and effect applies in the context which I discussed earlier. Forèplay like the term implies is the precursor to a more intimate experience. Why would you dress like a stripper and initiate or engage in heavy petting and stop halfway then claim you were raped afterwards? Had you not expressed consent already?

My dear you had it coming and you must share in the blame. Note the word "share".

misspicy:
Ur choice,buhvi still maintain that notin jistifies rape,even if a woman like,let her walk naked,she doesnt deserve to be raped

Why don't you walk nakèd in protest then? Why bother with any clothes at all?

misspicy:
Reverse psychology does not work on me man,buh I af not seen wer u debunked any fake rape story in ur comment,u only justified rape,if u forgot or u r too lazy to chck ur comment again,u typed dat,girls dat allow intimate touching and reject sex are to blame if raped,or girls that dress in a revealing manner,dats summary tho...please rape is not to be supported at all,weda fake or not until d rapist is proven innocent

Reverse psychology? Lol. I don't want to ridicule you dear so I'll ignore that part.

If you seduce a man by dressing scantily and engaging in fòreplay, it would be very difficult to convince others that he raped you. You are not a stripper and his house is not a strip club with the attendant rules.

She will pay. That uncontrollable anger of hers would not spare her from my punishment.

misspicy:
If u cnt see sense in my writeup,then I leave it to u to continue raping all d girls u have intimate contact with because u cannot control ursef,just know.dat one day ur cup wilk be full.like dat trending lecturer.

I expected a simplistic remark from you and you didn't disappoint. To seek to debunk fake stories of rape is to support the very act? Your logic is amusing.

Were you not the guy who blew a kiss to the picture of your fellow man on another thread, saying he was cute?

You are not only effeminate but gay as well. Go work on yourself.

misspicy:
See ur life outside,weda the raping happened inside house or outside na still rape...n why will a guy romance a girl wen they af nt defined der relationship,guy no fvcking reason justifies rape,rape is draining,it is hurtful,imagine sumone pulling and pulling ur d1ck coz dey are attracted to you.gosh,how do u guys reason,i tink I will begin to say dat a family member of guys dat justify rape be raped so yu know wat it feels like.

Sex is supposed to be enjoyable not violent

You should work on your comprehension and logic. If you could read and understand you wouldn't attack me so.

classicB:
No is no my brother

No is no? This is unclear.

Anyway, you deliberately quoted me out of context. What do you hope to achieve by that?

classicB:
That isn't an excuse. I can deem it fit to dress scantily, that doesn't give u the right to rape me. Do u think we girls don't get moved with some male features?? Shud we now rape u people cos of that

Really? Did you read what I wrote? Why would you pick one half of my argument and piece it to this hasty conclusion of yours?

Hmmm. This is unnecessary. When you eventually dump her she might get a better guy who would make you regret letting her go.

You said she has good character. Bro that is very rare. Would you rather have a smart chick with terrible character? A smart chick who would call you slow and dull?

You know what? Let her go. No human being deserves to be put down so often in a relationship.

classicB:
Let assume some girls dress scantily to get raped. What about those underage girls?? What about that innocent housemaid that get raped daily by Oga simply.because Madam isn't available, those men that rapes their own daughters nko??

Madam. Discuss within my context. Thanks.

She is asking for it. Hope she won't later say you raped her. Looks like the new thing for naija gals nowadays.

Maybe guys should make a video recording of the kissing and petting before the real deal. Looks like we need evidence in case. Don't let one small girl frame up.