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Akuruoulo:
BRO SOMETHING IS WRONG SOMEWHERE.
EVERYONE DOESN'T BEHAVE BOR REACT IN THE SAME WAY.
THE WAY SHE NARRATED THE STORY SHOWS SHE LOOKS HER HUSBAND LIKE A MAID

No forget say nah 3rd party dey type this matter o, creative license may have been taken by the Op.

effort1:
What of those who raised their voices to abuse and tongue lash men? Is that justifiable in your camp?

Communication is a two-way street, you can't justify abuse or violence in any way, mode or manner.

I see the first 11 are out in full force...defending stupidity.

There's no need to submit your IMEI to the government nah violation of your privacy.

effort1:
So, are you saying there is justification for verbal abuse?

None of that physical, verbal or otherwise. Once you raise your hand instead of communicating, you no get any case whatsoever.

effort1:
Maybe his low self esteem was caused by consistent verbal abuse.

When men hit women over verbal abuse, the physical hitting is just an action in response to a reaction.

Unfortunately, people are so myopic that they focus only on the reaction without giving a thought to the action that prompted it.

If you don't want physical abuse, don't give verbal abuse.

There's no justification for physical assault, my hand don dey cramp from typing this matter repeatedly no matter what.

Seun, nah the second time I dey ask you if nah your SIWES students dey run matter for una HQ today.

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effort1:
The so-called dressing down can cause more bruise than physical attack.

Verbal abuse can cause a permanent damage to the confidence of the victim.

It damages self-esteem and can lead to life-long mental health problems.

There is a support system for physical abuse, but there is none for verbal abuse. So, the victim is left to cope on his own. He can even end up committing suicide.

Verbal abuse is psychological. It's pain goes deeper than one can imagine.

If you don't want physical abuse, don't give people verbal abuse

The bros already carry baggage of low self-esteem, even good morning fit cause slap.

Our headaches Japan, USA, Sweden, Germany, Korea and Canada...for female football.

RPG2020:
Wait bros make i call your girlfriend first make she confirmed the kind man wey you be

Nor come dey form ice cream guy for nairaland

Omo my partner believe me die, no need to come dey join words with NL people.

effort1:
But your conscience agrees with verbal abuse and assulr against a man by a woman?

One thing about your absurd conscience is that it is biased, unfair, unjust and wicked.

There's no room for any form of assault physical, verbal or otherwise from any of the parties. Any man that finds it difficult to control the urge to physically lash out should not get married. The fact that you'd want to equate a 'dressing down' to a slap is worrisome; at the end of the day he can have a conversation with his wife on private and clear the air.

MOVIC6:
As the guy no even feel so bad how the woman is trying rather he dimmed it fit to disgrace your lawful wedded wife jus because she asked for help, chai aru mere ndi africa, without asking, I will ask her to take it easy and so the dishes, if e bad too much, I bring my person from village to help and not slapping

My guy, e get so many ways to defuse the situation with talk wen no go even raise eyebrows. The answers here fit make person shudder.

Kudos to her; e remain Seun Egbegbe to come out from prison come start eem own.

All about job creation, nah how security go dey assured.

Good move,now nah to find out if nah better gas dem sell give consumers

You see this unemployment boat, plenty people full some get very good results and others nah handshake dem carry comot. To make head way, you need to network especially for country like Naija and you need to learn handwork join am

effort1:
But there is justification for a woman using her tongue to abuse and belittle the man, right?

It is what you give to the world that the world gives back to you.

If you give abuse, you will get abuse back in full measure

I can't not in good conscience allow the justification for violence or assault on a woman because an individual's ego was bruised. That's part of being a man, the ability to not let petty words get to you.

effort1:
The weapon of a woman is her tongue. If she uses it unguardedly against the man, then it is justified if the man uses his weapon, (his fist) against the woman.

They have only used their weapons against each other.

And if women want equality, all these rubbish about weak men must stop. If you want equality, then you will get everything that goes with it, including blows for annoying the man. If his fellow man does that to him, he'll fight him in the same manner.

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You need the sort of help that I can not provide you sir

effort1:
The weapon of a woman is her tongue. If she uses it unguardedly against the man, then it is justified if the man uses his weapon, (his fist) against the woman.

They have only used their weapons against each other.

And if women want equality, all these rubbish about weak men must stop. If you want equality, then you will get everything that goes with it, including blows for annoying the man. If his fellow man does that to him, he'll fight him in the same manner.

There can be no justification for that.

effort1:
And Only strong women abuse men, right?

If you abuse a man and he beats you up, he has just paid you back in your own coins... that's all

I don't think we both agree on what constitutes abuse in this situation.

https://www.nairaland.com/6564069/husband-slapped-me-asking-him/12#101924450

effort1:
You forgot that she wouldn't have a job today if the man didn't open the restaurant for her.

I guess you are one of those no-good feminists that think with their anus

Hahahahaha anus ke; only weak men beat women QED and you sound just like one.

Emotionss:
Knowing how our women behave I am 150% certain she told he husband to wash the plates with full Authority and to prove to the customers that she is the madam in charge.

A jobless man is an angry man and the last thing he Needs is his wife reminding him how useless he is at the moment.

This is a known phenomenon, and it's a good way for the man to learn self-control because outside his home there are okada men, food sellers, conductors, agberos, policemen, supervisors at work who would do worse than his wife is doing but for the love of God, there is no excuse under the face of the sun that warrants beating one's wife.

Okay, it's his prerogative

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GIdiata:
I hope you will also condemn it when a woman physically assault a man?

or it's woman's world and men as emotionless and slaves?

If a woman assaults a man, nah the same yardstick we dey take measure am, anything wen dem no fit address as man and wife mean say dem no suppose dey together in the first place.

It is now a pandemic...a pandemic of crime.

Maybe nah testing dem am give just like Mai Suya dey do...e no even get patience make dem bring the rest of the food.

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ottohan:
Bros, English will not save you...

From communicating with someone whose ideas of life are super skewed or from helping out my wife in her business endeavour instead of taking offence (Taking into consideration that stay-at-home husbands are the most sensitive snowflakes alive)

MOVIC6:
God bless you. The first page comments shows how broken homes will look in the nex 10years, most of these fools typing shits are my mates, I don’t doubt it cos I know the shits the do.
I’m jus worried for this ignorant generation.

Omo, I weak despite the clowning I don't tolerate nor do I condone such behaviour; whoever claim to be my friend/relative wen spew such shít nah permanent disowning. I just dread the future with these kind fellows.

Mumu trend

Abeg make una tell us something new, the bandits attacking Nigerians in those localities nah ghost dem be? Have we cleared their doubts?

Princedapace:
Im sure she spoke to him rudely. If u read carefully, u will notice that the woman is already seeing the man as a lazy man. There is something about women, they forget all the good things u have done for them too fast.

He wasn't lazy when he saved up and open a shop for her. Abi u think it is easy to work, feed family, meet a woman's needs and still have capital to open a business for someone. He wasn't lazy. So, since the woman is seeing him as being lazy and unproductive, she must have spoken to him a rude way. U don't tell ur husband to wash plates in front of ur customers. Come on. He will always feel that u are doing that becus he lost his source of income.

She could have whispered to him and make a for such activity outside the sight of the customers. She could have gotten a sales girl/boy

There are a thousand and one ways to communicate displeasure sir, physical or psychological assault is not one of them.