Sebastine1994:
madam you are a fool


when I was job hunting, every body was my enemy, I never smiled, everybody was a suspect.

put your self in his shoes.

societal expectations and other pressure, plus all the subtle body language insult you are giving him.

it means you are busy while he is lazy.

BruncleZuma:


Baba that nah financial support; you've also got psychological and physical support, which you've not provided.

But seriously, assaulting your wife or any woman over something you can talk over nah beta male behaviour.

Akuruoulo:



BRO SOMETHING IS WRONG SOMEWHERE.
EVERYONE DOESN'T BEHAVE BOR REACT IN THE SAME WAY.
THE WAY SHE NARRATED THE STORY SHOWS SHE LOOKS HER HUSBAND LIKE A MAID

Galaxydon1:
I don't see anything wrong if the Man watches plate. It's lack of understanding, so if it was the Man that runs The business won't he dish out plates for his customers. Since it's a family business i don't see anything wrong with it.

richmond500:
I didn't read this ur nonsense.
This isn't about pride, its more of respect.

When things were going well with the man, he didn't turn her into a full house wife, he opened a business for her and does his manly duties diligently but due to probably her bad attitude, most of her staffs left and things went bad for the man and all she could do is to try turn him into one of her maids abi?
When she said it first, he gave her a bad look, that was suppose to send a message that he wasn't happy, but because she prides herself as the bread winner and the king of the house, she has to tell him again to wash plates in public, the man has to show her that despite his predicament, he is the the king of the home and won't stoop so low in washing plates in a restaurant.
Everyone must have an ego, here the woman has massaged her ego beyong country and is trying to destroy the mans ego

CalmElder:
It would have been better if you guys discussed about him helping out at the restaurant at home, intead of you taking him by surprise, in front of other people.
I once worked for a baker whose husband wasn't working, the kind of errands she used to send the man in front of everyone ehn, he will first look at people's eyes, in discomfort before shamefully carrying it out. The guy will become unnecessarily angry at his wife's workers at the slightest mistake, just to show that he's in charge.
Being broke around women, even your sisters, can be depressing.

BruncleZuma:


Did you even bother to read Homers Iliad; your basic Hollywood driven knowledge of history is troubling. And the kinds of fatalistic attributes to real men shows me how unlikely it is that you've seen an actual "real man" before.

AFONAMARO:


Neither did I read your foolishness.

So, you expect her to cook, sell, do the dishes, feed you, pay rent, fees and come home to spread legs for you to mount? Awon Mountain Everest!

Look at the way you are spewing saliva allover the thread, gloating that a man slapped his wife that's hustling to feed him.

Turk in your stinking ego. It's repugnant

EaglesEyes1:
If you have that much customers where u can't be washing, u can at least afford a young boy or girl who can wash plates and serve for you. I have seen women who sell by the roadside with less customers, they all have a young girl helping them. Somepeople just hate to see someone doing nothing, they see them as lazy.
Because you are now the breadwinner, your husband now must work for you to have a right to get his daily meal from you. A wise wife knows how to make her husband do things for her without hurting his ego.
Woman stop asking if your actions are right or wrong, go to that friend's house and beg your husband so at least it will prove that you didn't mean any disrespect. Be a wise woman, foolish people will tell you that since your husband can't provide he is useless and you dont need him, if u like follow those foolish advices and not beg your husband, your choice. A wise wife hide the shame of her husband and prays positively for him. Be guilded.

BonPatrick:
A mother of two who pleaded anonymity has taken to social media to ask members of the public whether it was wrong to ask her husband to do the dishes.
According to her, her husband lost his business to scam and she has been the one catering for the family with the little she earns from her restaurant business.
She said: “Truly, My husband was the one who opened the restaurant for me, I cook very well and I still do my cooking by myself as I only direct my staffs on what to do.My husband lost his business to scam and since then it’s been me carrying the responsibilities, most of my staffs left because I could not pay them and at some point, all of them left and I had to do everything by myself.

“My husband is doing nothing yet, he just sits at home and maybe go pick the kids from school and all, so yesterday I had lots of customers in the shop, I was doing everything by myself, so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public, and walked out.

“I ignored the embarrassment and even most of my customers left, when I got home I noticed that he moved his things, I called his phone and he said he is in his friends place till he gets a job he will come home, that I should take care of the kids.

“He cut the call I tried to call and the next he blocked me.

“What did I do wrong, who is supposed to be upset? I just need to clear my conscience.”

Margy:
The man is stupid!

I have seen husband and wife running a business together..and guess what ..it's booming.

Just in front of my yard.. a woman owns a retail shop..the husband stocked it up..the next thing I saw was the husband helping in the sales in the shop..the shop is growing


Abeg how did the woman start her restaurant business ?
U will do worst than the woman. U will even give him knocks if he make mistakes.


The man is simply not into that , and u guys have to talk it over before heading to the shop.

For those narratives u gave ; na say them two own The business or the man owns it and they both run it together. So ur narrative is possible, and all men aren't the same.
Another man helps his wife in the restaurant..she does the cooking and the man takes orders, serves the customers and helps out.where necessary...customers keep flowing san-san into the restaurant..

There's a program called restaurant impossible aired on food network.. I see a lot of husband and wife and children running their restaurants.

All I can say is that this man will die a wretched poor man..proud grasshopper with no shi-shi.. yeyee dey smell

BruncleZuma:
No forget say nah 3rd party dey type this matter o, creative license may have been taken by the Op.

bepositive11:


That's toxic mentality. Slapping someone, humiliating them, shaming them, that's communication to you?

Would he slap a man his size or a man bigger than him? Coward is what he is. People who abuse their power are cowards. He should be protecting his wife not physically abusing her.

obimag:
if he travels to US he might end up washing dishes in the a restaurant. However, it is all about pride and lack of business IQ. Also a lot depends on your approach. There is absolutely nothing wrong for him to wash the dishes and even join you in transforming the business .

BonPatrick:
A mother of two who pleaded anonymity has taken to social media to ask members of the public whether it was wrong to ask her husband to do the dishes.
According to her, her husband lost his business to scam and she has been the one catering for the family with the little she earns from her restaurant business.
She said: “Truly, My husband was the one who opened the restaurant for me, I cook very well and I still do my cooking by myself as I only direct my staffs on what to do.My husband lost his business to scam and since then it’s been me carrying the responsibilities, most of my staffs left because I could not pay them and at some point, all of them left and I had to do everything by myself.

“My husband is doing nothing yet, he just sits at home and maybe go pick the kids from school and all, so yesterday I had lots of customers in the shop, I was doing everything by myself, so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public, and walked out.

“I ignored the embarrassment and even most of my customers left, when I got home I noticed that he moved his things, I called his phone and he said he is in his friends place till he gets a job he will come home, that I should take care of the kids.

“He cut the call I tried to call and the next he blocked me.

“What did I do wrong, who is supposed to be upset? I just need to clear my conscience.”

Hotshisha:




That's not the full story

Once a man losses his source of income women become rude , unappreciative and wicked

Even if you ask Buhari to wash plates with proper manners he would gladly do that but ungrateful Nigerian women are something else


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Godada:




The man in question is at a very vulnerable point in life. I think you pissed him off. The level of understanding between the both of you would have smoothened any rancour here. You hurt his pride

BonPatrick:
A mother of two who pleaded anonymity has taken to social media to ask members of the public whether it was wrong to ask her husband to do the dishes.
According to her, her husband lost his business to scam and she has been the one catering for the family with the little she earns from her restaurant business.
She said: “Truly, My husband was the one who opened the restaurant for me, I cook very well and I still do my cooking by myself as I only direct my staffs on what to do.My husband lost his business to scam and since then it’s been me carrying the responsibilities, most of my staffs left because I could not pay them and at some point, all of them left and I had to do everything by myself.

“My husband is doing nothing yet, he just sits at home and maybe go pick the kids from school and all, so yesterday I had lots of customers in the shop, I was doing everything by myself, so as soon as my husband walked in, I asked him to help me rush to wash a few plates while I serve, and he looked at me in some strange way, I repeated myself and he slapped me in public, and walked out.

“I ignored the embarrassment and even most of my customers left, when I got home I noticed that he moved his things, I called his phone and he said he is in his friends place till he gets a job he will come home, that I should take care of the kids.

“He cut the call I tried to call and the next he blocked me.

“What did I do wrong, who is supposed to be upset? I just need to clear my conscience.”

millionboi:
are you sure there not just similar

rust me I have read this...I got funny memory when it comes to this kinda hood gist..... The same job lose, The same dish washing, same slapping... same storming off to be with friend... I read this here on Naira land... anyways.. there's nothing new under the sun anymore

DaCharis2016:
What's totally bad? Considering the pressure on her she mentioned. I think her asking for her husband's help was justified.

Galaxydon1:
I don't see anything wrong if the Man watches plate. It's lack of understanding, so if it was the Man that runs The business won't he dish out plates for his customers. Since it's a family business i don't see anything wrong with it.

Sebastine1994:
madam you are a fool


when I was job hunting, every body was my enemy, I never smiled, everybody was a suspect.

put your self in his shoes.

societal expectations and other pressure, plus all the subtle body language insult you are giving him.

it means you are busy while he is lazy.