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her choice . . . whatever makes her happy.
Besides . . .marriage is not a child's play o!

same thing I call him now.

sources please. . . . that is just too darn long!

Depends on what led to the break-up.
Alot of exes really need to remain in the past unless . . .we kind of remained friends and it was a mutual break-up.

@poster,

am sure u know that, that baby definately ain't urs.

@poster. . . . hope you find what you're looking for.

infobaba:
Two answers ~ one riddle

I tire o.

The site is getting dry . . .u post something and they want to eat u raw.
Them too know too much. . .

dadisGAL:
Sis you were asked for a joke not to MAKE A JOKE OUT OF URSELF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

obviously u ain't got any brain and the little brain matter that you have left, i will advise that you donate it to Nigeria Science center . . .they will have very good use for it.

Idiot!!!! . . .Too much "I too knows" on this freaking site.

No section for riddles and if u don't know . . .Learn this today and stick it on your head . . Riddles and Jokes go together.
Dang people . . . if u have nuthing to say. . . ride on or skip to the next joke . . don't be so quick to make ursef known by trying to put others down. 

proo212:
Perhaps if you change the title of the thread, I wouldn't come in thinking here we go again,

perphaps you shouldn't be so quick to conclusion . . .the topic could very well mean anything.

Debo . . , if I start now . . .all this "ITKs" will come now and call it male bashing and Seun will ban me again.

me and you . . .our talk is another day.

cold:
Wats guan ina di place?Another male bashing thread eh?Only had to look at the topic,didn't bother to read the posts. Pleeeeaaazzzzz ladies get a grip.

next time  . . .don't open your mouth without reading the posts and just conclude that this is about male bashing only.
being judgemental and riding to conclusion will lead u no where. pele . . .Mr (Chief) I too know!

Its a general topic,
- African mentality
- Men in general
- Women
- relationships and marriages.

DEBO . . . .scram abeg . . .as if you mean know what you want.
don't even get me started with u today o.

Like someone said:

Men always say that we chics don't know what we want,and have u noticed that they want a sex tigress,
- a good cook,
- a homemaker,
- a woman that can hold her own financially,
- a well dressed woman,
- an intelligent woman,
- a good mother (not only 4 d kids o,including him)
- a beautiful accessory that every other man would turn green when dey see,
- a sister to talk to,
- a woman who takes very good care of them when they r ill,
- a woman who would cook for him n his buddies when there is a football match,
- a woman that,
the list is endless and u ave to posses super human powers to ave all these.
now who do u think doesn't know what they want

maybe we shld draw up our endless list as well,
will they even ave up to 5 of dese qualities?

no matter how 'wife material' u r
no matter how many times or places u ave sex in a day,
no matter how flexible ur bones r for karmasutra,
no matter how u kiss his siblings behinds 2 buy their vote,
no matter how much time u spend on BBC FOOD checking out new recipes 4 his meals,
no matter how low u stoop to appear submissive and respectful,
no matter how much efforts u put in ur looks,
wen a man wants to walk he will run so fast it'll make u dizzy and also blow watever scared him out of proportion in a way dat any1 who cares to listen will believe him.

pickins!

Boys between the ages of 19-35 are still boys and not men yet (most not all). This is only based on my personal experience.

people oh . . . the girl is only talking from her personal experiences and not from any proven fact and statistics.

tope2000:


So what u are trying to sy is that i have be with someone that is old enough to be my uncle before i find romance
Now that i don't believe.

LMAO . . . I think she was talking about her experiences . . .don't have to apply to everyone . . .never the same cases.

sistawoman:
I am sure the presentage is higher than that but not by much.  If you really want a good guy you have to look to older more mature men.

Boys between the ages of 19-35 are still boys and not men yet (most not all).  This is only based on my personal experience.

That being said it presents a real problem for young sistas now coming up. I am not sure if it goes back to how the moms and dads are raising the young boys and not showing them how to respect women or if this is just some innate, in bread thing that is in them.

I don't wish to be young again and trying to find love.  

U are darn right about that. All what these guys wants to do is just shag away . . . they know nuthin about romance and a woman's worth. Imagine dating a guy for a year and half and he wakes up one day to tell u that he's no longer interested and he now wants to focus on his career and his immediate family . . . I mean, this guy is 29yrs old . . after y'all been dating for one and half years, meeting his family and he met urs, and you thinking he is the one, building and sharing future dreams with him and he suddenly remembered he has a career?? . . .how selfish and self centered.

@ sistawoman, Ain't you lucky?

oranges:
Busta, Busta, there is no banana on coconut tree

hehehehehheh . . . that was a fast one!
u're right

Be a Man . . .grow up and Move on!

life goes on!

rampant:
its not all about what people say its all about what u want

u get married when u want it,when you're very well settled for it

but @30 i should be through wt my kids

tope2000:
by the age 30, i want 2 have finished my 2 kids 2

U guys don't seem to get the issue or the case.
Don't we all wanna get married and have kids before the age of 30?
having kids before the age of 30 is not the big deal . . .u can go on the street and get a man to knock u up or get married to any guy for the case of having before the age of 30.

This is the issue of settling down with the right man . . .where are they? they are all dead and have disappeared.
it is about finding the right man that will stick by you till the end . . love and cherish you to the end.

Guys this these will only shag the living daylight out of you . . .and once u tell them u are preggers, they will scram or tell u to take it out.

imafidon81:
why girls below 25 are not allow to register

you are still asking?

tope2000:
nowadays all u guys want is sex
romance is like looooooooong tin to u guys now

lol . . .so true
u blame them? those whitey girls give it to them on a platter of gold now.

@ Gamine,
your married at the age of 19?
whoaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa . . . . so, so, so Young!

huh? ? ?

I guess people do find love in different places.
neve dated one . . .don't even know any.

sistawoman:
The right guy will come when God sees that is it time for him to come. When the time is right, when your heart is open and ready, on his time table and not ours.

Guys ask the same questions as they are hurt as often as we are but they just don't talk about it.

My point exactly!!!!

But why is it a different in Nigeria and Africa as a whole . . why subject women to marry at and before certain ages?

why the mentality that if you're not married with Kids by the time you are 30 . . .you are cursed?

and where can one find the right guy?

how many guys do we have to go through before u find that perfect someone, how many guys does one have to date and think he's the one and he is here to stay?

The topic is not just about Nigerian Men. . . its a general discussion.

if you ask me, I think Romance. . . .been dead long time and then again, alot this marriage pressure seems to have to do with "Naija Mentality".

It seems to be the order of today and just soooooo overated.

The Banana Test


There is a very, very tall coconut tree and there are 4 animals,
a Lion,
a Chimpanzee,
a Giraffe,
and a Squirrel

who pass by.

They decide to compete to see who is the fastest to get a banana off the tree.

Who do you guess will win?

Your answer will reflect your personality.

So think carefully . . , Try and answer within 30 seconds

Got your answer?






I'll be back with the answers.

This is actually a write up from a friend of mine and I just wanted to share it with you people and find out your input on this write up!

[b]Please someone explain to me what exactly it is about hitting your mid twenties that brings on the"marriage inquisition"??


Its like a neon sign lights up on your head and every one you meet (hmmm, married or not) take it upon themselves to interrogate u on your single status,

It usually starts with, "eh, so whose the guy/bobo/chairman?" and of because, if your like me to avoid unneccesary qtns u say, "he dey." or u make up some random gist like he travelled or smthing, but u just know that wont stop them because the next qtn is most predictably, "so, when are we hearing wedding bells, getting ivs "

because u just know they have vested interests in your getting married(?) or if your "foolish" enough to say "am single" then come d fireworks, "at your age? "(50?) "your not getting any younger" (50? did i mention how thotful and sensitive that is by the way?) and of because, my personal favourite, "u need to be in a man's house before your 30" and "every woman should be married before 30" and they can't possibly understand your drive or wanting to build your career.

They are those with the sweetest intention who just want the happiness for u that they have themselves.

Am guessing this memo wasnt circulated to the men as well, because the typical "suitors" we meet are

(a)young and just looking for u know nah,
(b)married and definitely looking for, 
(c)self proclaimed commitment phobic bachelors who lead on unsuspecting girls to believe they will be the one to land the BIG FISH, 
(d) the ones who see u as a big $ sign
(e)young, doing very well and has absolutely no idea what he wants,
(f)the good looking brother who knows hes fine and wont let u or every other girl in a ten mile radius forget it
(g)the nice guys with no ambition whatsoever
(i)and of because we wont forget d wife/girlfriend beaters and control freaks

I mean, am i so naive to want to wait for the love of my life?, LMAO

but really, is romance officially dead?[/b]

u gave her too to much free power.
caution and tell her to learn to respect ur privacy.

besides . . .they born of una together?

u go roast no be small . . . na today?

what is wrong with u pple and all these immature questions y'all always ask?

its ok for the guy to ask but if the girl ask for sex. . . u be ashawo be dat?

grow up people!

if she thinks that he will think that she is cheap then ur guy needs to leave her alone . . .na by force?

That is a whole lot of Naija Mentailty.
All this girls will keep fronting until they lose wat was meant to be theirs!