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It’s different when he asking for friendship compare to asking for a relationship. There is no harm in remaining friends with ur ex. They can remain friends . . . strictly friends and nothing more.
But I’ll say don’t ever date your ex, especially if he is married. Nothing but trouble, sin, wahala, karma and just inviting curses upon ur head.

Nahh, I don’t think so. I oppose that they become free with sex.

RAPE is “the unlawful compelling of a woman through physical force or duress to have sexual intercourse”. Someone being forced into doing what they do not wanna do. How and why would the same person decide to start giving it out freely?

Secondly, forced intercourse is actually painful and can bruise the woman both physically and emotionally. Especially in a situation where the woman is a virgin and has neva done it before. Why in turn would such a woman wanna go thru the ordeal again? Especially in a situation where the woman is a virgin and has neva done it before.

I think it is the reverse as pple have intercourse willingly and enjoy this will give it freely than someone that was raped.
At least, this is in ma own opinion.

h-u-h

I think it is true but then again, a lot of naija mentality is put into it.

Over here, guys don’t mind living/moving in the girl’s house (even with her parents), driving their girl’s car and even spending her money. . . “whatever belongs to her, belongs to him and vice versa”.

Then again, I really do think that a lot of naija men are threatened by successful women.

lol

I don't think he likes u . . . or the makeout session wasn't that impressive cos he shld have come back for more.

enways. . . move on and find ursef someone who will call u always, respects and love u!

@ Zheros,

ma girl NaJa HaJa Said it all already.

He should explain to the lady abroad about his current gf. If she still wants to sponsor him fine and if she decided not to go with it anymore then, there will always be anotha means or maybe he just wasn’t meant to go abroad and his good luck is in Nigeria.

Secondly, since they are back in communication, he shld tell both girls wats going on. Let the one abroad know that he has a girlfriend and let the girlfriend know that he has been talking to his ex girlfriend and she intends helping him travel abroad.

Good luck to ur friend.

Better start looking for another job NOW!!!

@topic,

and wats the big deal in washing plates?

opuro:
there is one babe for mai area,na so she de curse every body
na pastor chris come let us know say she be oghanje
now she be born again
@THONIASLIM, I PRAY FOR YOU O

h-u-h

@poster

There is no rush in life. Everything will happen and fall in at the appropriate time.

My advice is that u barely either of this 2 guys. From what you wrote I don’t think u’re committed to either of them yet so, I’ll say keep talking to both of them, keep ur options open and don’t fall for the wrong guy cos u really wanna settle down. As for the first guy whom u spent the new year with. . . . I don’t how guys wanna handle the distance unless he really loves you and don’t might travelling to come and see u every now and then.

Please, be very careful and all the best!

still don't think something is right here.

@poster,
u really gotta be careful and my question remains that why didn't u guys deem it right to go report to the police. to me if someone gets raped. . . especially in a sitaution like ur girlfriend and she got pregnant, it should not be treated lightly.

in her case, it resulted to pregnancy, wat is if she contacted STDs or AIDs . . . would it have been a diff case?

u guys giving him advices, y'all should think had about this situation and what he is getting himself into.

NaJa HaJe:
@Busta

where them no dey? too much money and very few men to trust so they have to prawl to get satisfaction. Life is too short

lol . . beats me!

No food for lazy man!

are there actually sugar mummies on NL?

1. I don’t understand how a thing like that will happen and u guys did not deem it wise to report to the police. Unless she was part of the whole set up.
2. Are u sure this girl is telling u the truth? It is possible that she went and got hersef some other guy, had sex with him and found out that she was pregnant and came crying to u that she was raped. If I was raped, I will first report to the police even b4 coming to u.
3. She better go and abort the pregnancy. I am sorry to say but why have a child that whenever u look at him/her, it only reminds u of the ordeal u went thru to produce such a baby. Are u financially and emotional ready to take care of someone else’s baby? What is the baby is born and has a sickle cell? U waste all ur money to treat the poor child.

anyone got his pic?

Maybe they are just moving at their own pace. U don’t expect everybody to be equal or alike just like all fingers are not equal. Maybe they need some more resources i.e money to produce these videos. It ain’t chicken change u know.

Dang pple, leave them alone and do ur won thang!

Lies Lies Lies Lies Lies Lies

It is a cyberworld, Anybody can pose as anybody.

y'all need to be careful before judging and calling the poor girl names.

Indeed!

ask ursef if u really want to do that.

tngtech:
@ Busta

Am sure you will, jst keep searching if you r looking 4 one.

Lol. . .ok

Why don't I ever find guys like that?

NaJa HaJe:
@ Busta

hope never dies, no?

you're in the wrong section.

lol . . seen

@poster,

all the best!

Leave her alone now and stop spending on her. If she says she has a man then backoff.

Its very possible that she’s only using u!

Seriously, do u pple actually find love on NL?

There is nothing to consider. If did not love u enuff to be messing around few months to ur wedding and even got her pregnant….and I bet that is the one u know, what if there are more?
Leave him fast and find ursef someone else that will respect and treat u better, like everyone said, marriage ain’t just something u jump into cos the rest of ur friends are married, it will happen at the appropriate time with the appropriate person.

sucks cos its a thursday so, i guess i ma just go to work, eat and sleep.
save the rest for the weekend. . . maybe go see a movie and eat out. we'll see.

when i talk now, they will say busta don come again

I'll pass on this one.

@ topic,
I don't get u, She came to you and u said u have forgiven her. . . .for wat?

Was she the one that got hersef raped? She got raped and u are forgiving her?
I feel there is more to the story that u’re telling us.

Does she know the person that raped her or she brought it upon hersef?

I doubt if u will get any response here.
try moving the topic to the education section.

Let them both know how u feel and stop letting ur cousin into ur bizness.

Why don’t u start by making a lot of female friends first…, that really help build ur confident.

Ain’t no girl gonna beat u up for approaching or talking with them. Besides, the answer is always “yes” or “no” and then, life goes on!

@ Topic,
First of all, I think you should make her know that the guy is really in-love with her and would love to make her his wife.

Secondly, if she still doesn’t feel the guy or say she has lost all love for him….then, u can’t force love. You have done your part and just wish both of them well. Also and let them part now so the guy can start looking elsewhere for his wifey and stop spending on someone that loves him not.

Then again, u asked for an advice and I’ll say listen to wat aisha, omo ibo, and almomdjoy has said. Do not make entirely ur business. I mean carry other pple’s wahala while dragging urs on the floor.