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Cutehector:
Wisdom is everything in life!

yesooo . U no say na una be d chairman for dis forum abeg tell dem nah to position dis fine thread for fp. I don hala baba seun and mynd44. Dem no answer my call.

abumeinben:
True bruv, CaaseStudy

But every plan should be backed up with another pkan

good morning bro. Pls expantiate more on your comment

jostking:
Hmm exactly what I did last year, quit my job for freelance writing; it was suicidal. My client cancelled the contract, before then transformer blew up and power was out for 2months, when they brought the light it was high voltage; destroyed my laptop. I suffered men. Thank God I was able to bounce back. The freelance world is unpredictable. I learnt the biggest lesson of my life in three month of depression.

thank God you sailed through. Most great and positive lessons of life are learnt during the times of adversity. Ride on, the sky is your starting point.

Cc obinoscopy mynd44 lalasticlala Seun front page please. would love to share this with a wider audience and get their thoughts too. Tnks

hardbody:
I am sooooooooo not quiting my regular employment until I have made piles of money and huge investments in estates and cash reserves. This job is paying my bill's and providing for tons of others. This job fuels my car's, got me a 13. 5KVA gen, provides 200 litres of diesel to run it monthly, gives me access to Ikoyi Club.... endless opportunities. I will only leave when practice can provide a back up while my investments continue to multiply and take care of this life style I have grown to have.

I don't plan to be a hero in suffering.

lol. You have mapped out your path. Kudos to you. Some people will just be their best in a paid job. Many however are destined to greatness via the SE route but due to fear and uncertainity stick to their average life on a paid job. Dont misrepresent me but most of the benefits which tie us down while working for others are minute to what we can achieve going self employed. The dangotes, gates and zuckerbergs of this world are living proofs to this fact. Lastly that company one is toiling away his future under is owed and run by some persons and those persons are definitely self employed, why not aim to be like them

Sholaystar4me:
I am trying to reply a post that said you shouldn't try quitting your job if u haven't saved enough n don't have a solid plan....

Giggles.....

The truth is that if u continue d job simply because u feel u haven't saved enough, you will just be there till the owner says its time to leave his coy, because you can never save enough.

If you feel u are not happy/satisfy with a job, the best thing is to bounce. Its a tough decision tho, but its a smart move at a long run.

Nice one OP for sharing this post. God blessings on u always

bless you too

taurus21:
I feel good about this article, I quit my job late last year and I didn't even require anyone's approval before I went ahead. The truth is that I realized my worth and I wasn't really happy with my work and so I quit.

It is true that you'll never ever have it completely figured out. But you'll have to just go with the flow. Don't overthink things. A lot of things are beyond your control and as long as you're optimistic and hopeful about the future .That's all you'd ever need.

10000000 likes for this bro. Another major issue is how we handle the "the future fear failure factor". many want to go the self employed route but fear about the future outcomes of crashing totally. I do not reccommend ignoring one fears but it must never deter him or her to pursue his aspirations. One must embrace this fears but also use it as a source of inspiration to aim for better and positive results while self employed. Example is a student who fears to fail, what does he do, study harder and better and success follows. The fact that this wise student is afraid to fail his exams will not make him quit trying to pass and maybe dropout of school or accept the fate of just failing and remaining at the level he is.
Like you rightly pointed out, one must not wait to figure it all out before making a move cause the indices and factors required for a smooth sail at that moment of decision 80% of times are never complete. There must exist this one or two limiting factors which when overly dwelt on will lead to a total halt to any plans to go self employed. I for one had no concrete plans and resources at all when i quit my banking job, all i knew was i had something else my passions craved for and i just pursued it totally. Today its success all the way. Self believe and action-faith also play vital roles if you ever wish to tow this path. Forget about hope..

LaurelP:
Who does that in a country like ours?
You'll so hate yourself after.

i did it and many others have too. Guess what? Many have succeeded immensely being self employed.

obiaguna:
Wow finally something I can relate with. I feel the same way you did or probably worse. Heck! I feel worse coming here everyday. This is really inspiring and I'm happy it turned out nicely for you. You didn't drop your Twitter handle or anything. How can I reach you?

Well i didnt write this piece. Sourced it from one career counselling site "the muse". However i had to share it here on nairaland cause i can relate 100% to the the writers sentiments as i have been in such situation where i just woke up one morning with the stark realization that my lucrative but uninspiring bank job was no more what i wanted and without looking back i resigned that same week. Yes i had no prior plans, neither did i have stash of cash in my bank accounts but deep within i knew there was something else i could do that reflects the real me.
Fastforward to this day, i have never regretted that dangerous and decisive decision and path i choosed to thread. Its being success all the way in my choosen business venture. It wasnt easy at the onset though and the road was a bit rough and tough but eventaully where there is a will there must be a way.

This is not for the faint hearted, you must be strong, focused and determined in whatever path you choose to navigate through. Expect harsh and soul scorching criticisms from family, friends colleagues and acquaintances who will never understand you and the action you took.

Finally not all of us will work a paid job to survive, some of us are best cut out for self employment if only we discover our true selfs

ambassadorgozie:
Tanx for sharing

you welcome

I sat fidgeting in an uncomfortable chair that was placed adjacent to my boss’ expansive desk, feeling the sweat already start to tickle my forehead. I kept picking at a piece of torn upholstery toward the bottom of the seat, despite my best attempts to look cool, calm, and collected. But, no matter how many articles I crank out about successfully putting in your two weeks notice, I’ll admit it’s pretty tough to look confident and composed when you’re quitting your job.

That’s exactly what I was doing. I was seated across from a man who had been my manager for years—starting when I was just a college intern to when the company took me on full-time—and explaining to him that I was hitting the road.

“So, I guess you could consider this my two weeks’ notice,” I said to him while doing my best to avoid any direct eye contact. “Oh, here, I put it in writing too, in case you need that or, like, something,” I added while practically throwing him an unsealed envelope and simultaneously trying to edge my way out of the room.

“Well, this is a surprise,” he said, with a forced smile on his face. “Where are you going? Did you receive a better offer elsewhere?”

I swallowed nervously, took a deep breath, and attempted to keep my voice from trembling. “No, not exactly,” I replied, trying to stifle the nauseous feeling that was slowly rising from my stomach to my throat.

“So, why are you leaving?” he pressed, “Where are you going?”

“I want to be a freelance writer. I’m going to do that full-time,” I quickly responded.

His face said it all. Like so many others, he was confused as to why I would leave the comfort and security of a traditional, full-time job (and, hello, health benefits!) for a life of uncertainty as a freelancer.

I wanted to explain to him that this was something I just had to do. I’d been thinking about it for ages, and I could no longer tolerate it being only that—a thought. I needed to take action and give it a try.

But, in reality, I didn’t say any of that. Instead, I kept my mouth shut. Why? Well, the truth of the matter was I didn’t really have a plan that I could share with him. Sure, I had one big client that I was hoping would carry me until I could get things off the ground (that client actually ended up dropping me only a few months later, but that’s a story for another time). But beyond that, I didn’t have any other potential opportunities lined up. I lived in a small town with very few connections to the type of work I wanted to be doing. I really had no idea how I was going to go about running my own freelance business. Oh, and I had absolutely zero clue how I was going to pay those pesky things called bills.

As someone who loves security and predictability, to this day I have no idea what came over me. But, regardless of the fact that I didn’t really know what was coming next, I quit my job anyway.

Looking back, jumping ship from my full-time position with no firm back-up plan in place probably wasn’t the smartest thing. And, I’m definitely not trying to encourage you to march into your own boss’ office tomorrow and use that exact same tactic—unless you’re prepared for a lot of shameless crying into an open carton of those delicious (and somewhat addicting) frosted animal crackers.

However, I do think taking that terrifying leap of faith was one of the most enlightening career experiences I’ve had so far. Call it stupid, impulsive, or brave—at the very least, it was educational. Here are a few of the (many, many, many) things I learned.



1. You Don’t Need the Approval of Others

When I would tell people about my plan to sprint away from my cubicle in favor of the freelance life, I so desperately wanted them to reassure me with statements like, “Oh wow, you’re so brave!” “Good for you!” or even a friendly and dad-like, “Go get ’em, tiger!”

Unfortunately, that’s not really what I got. Instead, I was faced with a lot of, “Wait, you’re doing what?” types of comments.

In the end, it really didn’t matter. I was the only one who needed to feel good about my decision. And I did—at least in between the animal cracker crying sessions mentioned earlier. Yes, we all naturally crave approval and reassurance from others every now and then. But, trust me, you don’t need it—at least not as much as you think you do.



2. Scary Is Exciting

There’s a reason that people fork over wads of cash in order to see a horror film about possessed grandparents or to walk through a haunted house where someone is guaranteed to leap out with a chainsaw. There’s a big part of being terrified that makes you want to run and cry—but the other piece is actually somewhat thrilling.

In the first few days (ahem, alright, months) after leaving my full-time gig, I’d sit down at my computer and feel totally overwhelmed. Every day was a battle to try to scrounge up work and at least take one step in the right direction. But, at the same time, I felt absolutely exhilarated. I had no idea what was coming next, and that actually made me feel surprisingly motivated and optimistic. It was one of the most distressing, nauseating, and anxiety-inducing times in my life—but it was also the most exciting.



3. You Never Know Until You Try

I hate to sound like a cheesy, cliché high school commencement speech. But, this sentiment really does ring true. You have no idea what you’re capable of until you push yourself to try it.

I’ll be honest—it’s not that I strongly disliked my full-time job. However, it didn’t set my heart on fire either. A big chunk of my duties were administrative. And, while I did perfect the art of mail merging like a total boss, I didn’t really feel all that challenged or fulfilled by my work.

However, as a self-described creature of habit, I think that I likely could’ve dealt with that mundaneness for the rest of my life. There was a big part of me that figured I was suited for that sort of life and career. It was safe and predictable. I was content.

Fast forward to now, and I’ve accomplished things that I never even thought were a possibility for me. I’ve been published places that I assumed were mere pipe dreams. I’ve worked with people who are essentially celebrities in my eyes. Just think—none of it would’ve happened if I had stayed with the “safe” route.



4. Your Career Really Doesn’t Define You

We all have the tendency to use our careers to define ourselves. But, it’s important to remember that your job isn’t who you are—it’s what you do. As Muse Managing Editor Jenni Maier explained in her article about being laid off, your position definitely adds to your life, but it doesn’t make up the entirety of it.

When I left my job, I felt the need to justify my decision and clarify every last detail until people were literally snoring in front of me. There was this immense need to explain my employment situation in order to give myself a purpose and identity.

Turns out, that’s really not the case—all of that pressure to define myself using my career was totally self-imposed. In fact, most people honestly didn’t care if I was a dog walker or the Dalai Lama. Although, above anything else, they were most likely just wondering why I gave them a play-by-play career breakdown when all they asked was, “Paper or plastic?”



Jumping ship from my full-time job was undoubtedly one of the scariest career decisions I’ve made in my life thus far. But, even though it had my knees shaking and my palms sweating, I’m glad I did it. It’s worked out well so far, and I’ve managed to learn a lot along the way.

So, if you’re contemplating taking your own leap of faith anytime soon, I hope these lessons encourage you and help you see the light at the end of the tunnel. And, in those moments when all you feel is sheer panic? Well, reach out to me on Twitter. I’ll come running—frosted animal crackers in tow.
Source : themuse.com
Cc obinoscopy mynd44 lalasticlala Seun

Tufiakwa... I have never seen a more inconsistent and two sided fellow like Mr OP. In the space of 3years this guy has being going back and forth. Today he is for buhariand cpc tomorrow jonathan and pdp, next ..... Mtchew speaks volumes about his character. Reminds me of datolee, i missd that guy walahi

Another Propaganda from APC

Another propaganda well garnished, dished and served. Patiently waiting for a rebutal from the CJN. The cycle we are fast getting used to since May last year.

being a die hard ybnl fan i dont want to believe all this stories being reported but if my man could

Interrupt Adekunle Gold's award acceptance speech,
Use Vulgar words on stage in the presence of all and sundry,
bang the Mic hard on the ground,
fling his cap furiously,
flaunt the F sign boldy with his fingers while walking away,
while bashing the disposable cup he was holding on the ground

THEN I CAN BELIEVE ALL THE ACCUSATIONS LEVELED AGAINST HIM AT THE MOMENT; the green room incident, the fan beating aevrything.

He really was immature.

kelvyn7:
How is he a muslim?

the name Jamil sounds muslim i guess

maestroz:
broz, if you no buy into CHANGE, you no go see money reach where you dey go o.

lol i hear u

fakeprophet:
sorry,
the constitution was sleeping then, the new emperor has waken it up

Adayi1:
what does the govt in power then do... This is the change we are talking about, no nonesence....

the same buhari who committed treasanable offences in the past and was overlooked is now hard on others even when given reprieve by courts of competent jurisdiction. That tells you the kind of despotic change he represents. I dont buy into such change my dear

Happy new year Nigerians

theV0ice:
I like your analysis and I agree with it.

However it proves something I'm very pleased with. The media chat wasn't scripted and the Daura Malam spoke from his heart. With Buhari, what you see is what you get. There was no window dressing. Its been a long time we could say that about any of our leaders.

i agree with you totally. Buhari hides not his feelings and isnt the pretending type but somethings are best left unsaid sometimes. As a president of a multi ethnic and faceted nation like. Nigeria, he must be calm,calculative,careful and diplomatic in his utterances and demeanor.

I see you have a personal vendetta with
this kanu issue hence you are always quick to defend illegality hiding under the veil of rationality and correctness to ease your anger and loathe for kanu.
Please what can u say in the case of
Radio kudirat,Lawal Kaita,Oba akiolu, junaid mohammed and other northern elements who have voiced more outragoeus and treasonable comments than this kanu you so wish to go
down. Are this persons i mentioned more Nigerian than Kanu. Why is he singled out even when there are video evidences and documented records of the provocative and
divisive comments by this other Nigerians. What were your positions then. Even our current presido was known to have made greater inciting comments leading to the death of hundreds post 2011 elections, why wasnt he charged for treason. Its well with Nigeria

Happy new year all. Wishing you the best 2016 has to offer

I feared for the premuim times journalist during the media chat. Walahi if buhari had his way that guy for dey chill for kuje prisons now. He kept on dishing out questions without fear and my presido couldn't hide his outrage and disdain anymore. His body language turned balistic. Next thing we hear from buhari to isime in a visibly angry tone was "are you a lawyer"

The world is watching .

Hahahahahahhahahahaahaha.

Its has not been longooo just less than a year now when APC held sway as the cursing and yabbing party
of Nigeria(CYPN).

Karma is really a b**ch. What goes around truly comes around. My fellow Nigerians can you imagine.. APC and buhari wants your maximum respects, the days of jonah are over nothing more nothing less. Yab the president at your own peril.

TonyeBarcanista:
Stoning a President or Governor is an offence punishable by death.

Abusing a President as 'dullarrd" or "clueless" is NOT a crime. Calling a President "terrorist" "rapist" could attract lawsuit on slander, which is a civil matter. It is between the President and you, and not between you and the State.

However, making inciteful comments, spreading hate, soliciting for arms against the State and promoting violence is treasonable felony which is high degree crime. This is where Kanu's problem is.

hello mr barcanista i see you have a personal vendetta with this kanu issue hence you are always quick to defend illegality hiding under the veil of rationality and correctness just to ease your anger and loathe for kanu. Please what can u say in the case of, Oba akiolu, junaid mohammed and other northern elements who have voiced more outragoeus and treasonable comments than this kanu you so wish to go down. Are this persons i mentioned more Nigerian than Kanu. Why is he be singled out even when there are video evidences and documented records of the provocative and divisive comments by this other Nigerians. What were your positions on the actions and utterances of these persons.

Davo93:
We share similar opinion. God bless your sincerity.

bless you too. Happy new year in advance

3/10

Coudnt give a straight forward answer all through.
I think he needs to do some sacking cause he wasnt abreast with the happenings in his government and had little grounding on the economy and forex issues. We are used to his inarticulate nature of speaking but little knowledge of his government workings is a no no.

I also think he was too rash and undiplomatic with his replies to the Igbo marginalization issue and the question on kanu was emotionally and poorly answered. He still cuts a dictatorial image and needs to work on that. MHO

Is dat so? First time am seeing an igbo girl bearing maryam though... I know miriam mary maryclaret maryjane but maryam i doubt

baralatie:

Na jobber man,make she no try am at all

abi

Sorry i wasnt meant to post this here but had to as i am
barred from creating topics in the job/vacancies sections
maybe because i registered recently.
My sister got an sms this morning:

" B.S.M LTd shortlists you for a chat/work brief on Mon 28/12/15 by 8am at No 4 Alh. Kareem str,Amaraolu,1st gate bus stop,Agidingbi,Ikeja
HD/CO "

Please does anyone know this establishment?Is it genuine or one of this scams. As for me though am not sure but i have the gut feeling its a scam but my sister would have none of that and is preparing to leave Jos for Lagos for the work brief this evening via night bus. She just created a jobberman account recently and believes thats where the opportunity is coming from.
I am sure some persons here may have an idea about this BSM guys . Abeg make una clarify me before person go lose for lagos and to inform others that may have gotten such text messages

Mods ejoor do the needfull.
Cc myndd44 obinoscopy lalasticlaca

Sorry i wasnt meant to post this here but had to as i am barred from creating topics in the job/vacancies sections maybe because i registered recently.

My sister got an sms this morning:

" B.S.M LTd shortlists you for a chat/work brief on Mon 28/12/15 by 8am at No 4 Alh. Kareem str,Amaraolu,1st gate bus stop,Agidingbi,Ikeja
HD/CO "

Please does anyone know this establishment? Is it genuine or one of this scams. As for me though am not sure but i have the gut feeling its a scam but my sister would have none of that and is preparing to leave Jos for Lagos for the work brief this evening via night bus. She just created a jobberman account recently and believes thats where the opportunity is coming from.

I am sure some persons here may have an idea about this BSM guys . Abeg make una clarify me before person go lose for lagos and to inform others who might have gotten this text messages
Mods ejoor do the needfull.

Cc myndd44 obinoscopy lalasticlaca