obiekunie01:
Any nation that supports gays, trans, gendar-x, is bound to die!

see how they turned a once great nation called america to a butt of the earth.

from pride of nations to a joke of nations! a laughing stock among nations!

9 OF THE TOP 10 PERFORMING, PEACEFUL, AND WEALTHIEST COUNTRIES IN THE WORLD FULLY SUPPORT HOMOSEXUALITY. IRONIC THAT AT LEAST 90 OF THE BOTTOM 100 WORST PERFORMING COUNTRIES, INCLUDING NIGERIA, ARE AGAINST IT.

JmyNigaa:
A friend of mine needs advice.
It involves him and a girl who’s coming from a relationship with an ex that‘s violent(hits her and all).
My friend sees this as a red flag and wants to cut ties with the girl who is obviously into him and subtly pushing for a relationship.

Dating her ex who was big on The whole “women are the weaker vessels” conditioned her in some ways as He made her seek permission at all times before she speak or even ask questions. Punches and slaps built the character into her and she’s continuing with it till this day. There’s probably other things too.


So, What advice do you give on this matter?

Rtk5:
I swear with my life that I didn't do anything to this lady, but she sent me this text just because i didn't call her for almost 4days now due to my busy schedule. The last time we saw was on sunday, i took her out on a date and dropped her at home after wards, since I dropped her off that sunday, we didn't talk again. Though I don't really Love her ooo, just whiling away time with her. But I have never for a day showed her that I don't love her, I've been so nice and loving to her.

ubunja:
you're just a troll. you literally created this account 2 days ago to be a nuisance. smh. guys ignore this loser.

kingsolomonjnr01:
None my business!!... After all i never like the dude.

MrEar:
Ubunja, I am not riding you or anyone's dick.

Please, stop making this young men think their masculinity is solely dependent on their ability to pick up and drill a woman or lay the pipe, as you put it . There's so much more to life than pussy.

heartofcity12:


She still had to ridicule him by saying he waited at the friendzone for 25 years. Simps like this are the reason why these females think they can eat their cakes and still have it.

kkins25:

Well your patriarchal colleagues in the west are been dealt with aren't they. It's only a matter of time sir. Hehe..

I FAIL TO SEE THE SENSE IN THIS UNLESS YOU'RE MEANING THE PATRIARCHY IS BAD, WHICH MEANS YOU'RE TALKING NONSENSE.

kick the dirt how much u like bro, at the end of the day, you would plant your" seeds "in it... There are many wife beaters hiding under this ideology as I've recently come to realize.

WHAT IDEOLOGY?
NOBODY'S REPLYING YOU ON THIS THREAD BECAUSE I SWEAR THEY THINK YOU'RE RETĄRDED. BUT I KNOW YOU BETTER THAN THAT, "BRO", INSTEAD OF READ ONLY MY POSTS AND RIDE ALONG IN CONFUSION GO THROUGH THE THREAD AND PROBABLY LEARN THAT THE WIFE BEATING YOU TALK ABOUT AND IN FACT ANY FORMS OF VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN IS GROSSLY DISCOURAGED AND CRITICISED BY 100% EVERYBODY HERE.

Funny enough, it's mostly on the religious side. I see them under shola's nd Dickson's , nd the so called "alphamale " twitter gang.
whiles you go on with ur ideology,

WHAT IDEOLOGY, AGAIN, ARE YOU REFERRING TO?

do well not to spread hate.
YOU CLEARLY DO NOT KNOW WHAT YOU SPEAK OF.

less you make the world unbearable for the daughters that would come from you.

IF ENCOURAGING MEN TO WORK HARD AND HAVE STANDARDS AND EVENTUALLY FOCUS ON STANDARD WOMEN IS SO BAD FROM YOUR POINT OF VIEW I MAY HAVE MISJUDGED YOUR INTELLIGENCE ALL THESE YEARS, I'M AFRAID.

WE USUALLY DO NOT REPLY CARELESS TAKES ON THIS THREAD TO AVOID DERAILMENT BUT I HAVE A "PERSONAL" RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU AND I RESPECT IT. BUT IT'S CLEAR YOU'RE CONFUSED ABOUT NOT EVEN MY POSTS BUT WITH A LOT OF THINGS SEEING YOUR UNDERLYING DISCOMFORT WITH THE "ALPHA MALE GANG ON TWITTER". KINDLY DESIST FROM TRYING TO CHAT ME, KKINS, I'M NOT INTERESTED IN ANY DEBATES WITH A "REAL MAN" LIKE YOU.

I HOPE THE FOLLOWING MAKES SENSE TO YOU: https://www.nairaland.com/6048178/reality-every-guy-need-know/1463#113606038

kkins25:

Interesting, being an atheist doesn't strip you of old age religious traditions does it.hehe.

While we are at it, let's stone women for adultery too, since it seems whatever repercussions sex has, women are the only gender that bear it..

MY POSITIONS ON THE REDPILL IS ALMOST 100% BASED ON PATRIARCHY AND PRACTICALITY, AND NOT FROM RELIGION.

ALSO I DON'T KNOW WHERE YOUR SECOND PARAGRAPH IS COMING FROM ESPECIALLY BECAUSE "I SHOULD BE KNOWN" FOR MY DISCONNECT WITH PROMISCUITY IN MEN. INSTEAD OF TEACHING YOUNG BOYS "GAME" AND SEXUAL DYNAMICS I MOSTLY WRITE ABOUT WORKING HARD, COORDINATING IN ROMANCE, AND HAVING STANDARDS ABOVE ALL THINGS. THIS HAS BEEN ME OVER THE YEARS AND I'VE NEVER DIGRESSED FOR A SECOND. EVERYONE HERE IS INCLINED TOWARDS DIFFERENT ASPECTS OF TRP AND ARE MOTIVATED BY DIFFERENT THINGS, SO PERHAPS YOU MAY WANT TO CHAT ABOUT YOUR SECOND PARAGRAPH WITH THE NEXT PERSON TO SCHOOL YOU PROPERLY ON WHY THE REPERCUSSIONS FOR SEX OR RECKLESS LIVING WILL "NEVER" BE THE SAME FOR MEN AND WOMEN? .

sajmark:

Noted bro, I just saw your comment as a means to pass an information which is

"in some cases one man (body count) is all it takes to mess a woman up".

Nothing else.

WE CAN ALL AGREE THAT SHE'S GONE ALREADY.

sajmark:

About 0-5 body count being okay

heartofcity12:
Thanks to social media, they keep exposing themselves all day..

I ALWAYS TELL THE MEN THAT CARE TO LISTEN THIS ONE THING EVEN THOUGH I'M NOT NECESSARILY THE USUAL "VIRGIN OR NOTHING" PROMOTER. THE FACT REMAINS THAT: THE HIGHER THE NUMBER OF MEN SHE'S BEEN WITH, THE LESSER HER CHANCES OF FALLING IN LOVE OR MAKING SACRIFICES, OR RECOGNISING THE VALUES/SACRIFICES OF A MAN.

WHETHER SHE'S 20 OR 28, IF SHE'S HAD 0 TO 5 MEN IN HER LIFE (AND VAGINA) PRIOR TO MEETING YOU, MY OPINION IS THAT SHE'S EASILY INFLUENCEABLE AND TEACHABLE, BECAUSE IT'S EASIER FOR HER TO "FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU" AND BOND WITH YOU. SHE WOULD EASILY MAKE SACRIFICES FOR YOU, AND HONOUR YOU BECAUSE IT WON'T TAKE TOO MUCH TO IMPRESS HER.

YOU CAN'T COMPARE THAT ONE WITH ANOTHER WOMAN IN THE SAME AGE BRACKET THAT HAS BEEN WITH OVER 100 MEN IN HER LIFETIME. SUBMISSION BECOMES EXTREMELY DIFFICULT. UNDERSTANDING YOU IS IMPOSSIBLE BECAUSE SHE CANNOT "LOVE" YOU (LIKE A PURE-HEARTED WOMAN CAN). THIS ONE MUST OF BE USED TO TOO MANY HEART BREAKS, HARD LIFE OF SMOKING AND DRUGS, VARIETY OF PENĮSES, DIFFERENT FETISHES AND CALIBRE OF SIMPS AND ALMOST ANY KIND OF LIFESTYLE YOU MAY DETEST. AND TRULY, YOU CANNOT MEASURE UP.

UNFORTUNATELY FOR SOME MEN WHO STILL WANT TO BELIEVE IN THE "ANGELICAL EXISTENCE" OF WOMEN, A MAJOR PART OF THE FEMALE POPULATION ARE IN THE SECOND CATEGORY.
THESE DAYS MAJORITY OF WOMEN FROM AGE 16 UPWARDS ARE INTO THE SEX-PEDDLING BUSINESS. IN A MONTH THEY CRUSH THE 5-COUNT MARK I SET ABOVE EASILY LIKE IT'S NOTHING. SOME OF THEM REACH THAT RECORD EVERY WEEK. THEY DEDICATE THEIR LIVES TO NOTHING BUT ATTENDING EVERY PARTY IN TOWN FOR FREE FOOD AND ALCOHOL, SLEEPING AT EVERY STRUCTURE THAT LOOKS LIKE A HOTEL, AND SELLING SEX FOR CASH. THEY DO THIS YEAR IN YEAR OUT FROM WHEN THEY ARE 15YO TO THEIR THIRTIES. IT EASILY EXPLAINS WHY MANY MEN LOOKING FOR COMMITMENT FIND IT HARD TO ENJOY A RELATIONSHIP (AND EVEN MARRIAGE) OR BE HAPPY NOWADAYS BECAUSE ALL THERE IS ARE WILD ANIMALS THAT CAN'T BE TAMED. THEY CANNOT GO A NIGHT WITHOUT PARTYING WITH DIFFERENT MONEY-SPENDERS IN EXCHANGE FOR SEX, AND HOLDING AN HONEST AND COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP FOR MORE THAN 2 DAYS IS WORSE THAN SLAVERY.

THEREFORE, IF YOU MUST SETTLE, TAKE CONSOLATION IN THE KNOWLEDGE THAT A VERY SMALL NUMBER OF THEM ARE STILL "DECENT" TO AN EXTENT, AND THOSE ARE THE ONES THAT A QUALITY MAN LIKE YOU DESERVE. YOU CANNOT GO THROUGH THIS LIFE OF SUFFERING, BUILDING AND ACHIEVING, TO BECOME A REPUTABLE, SUCCESSFUL, AND RESPONSIBLE MEMBER OF SOCIETY, ONLY FOR YOU TO TAKE UP A DISHONOURABLE WOMAN WHO SHOULD BELONG IN THE GUTTERS, AND CONTINUE MAKING SACRIFICES FOR HER WHEN SHE'LL NEVER RECOGNISE YOUR EFFORTS OR ACCORD YOU THE HONOUR YOU DESERVE BECAUSE HONOUR AND LOYALTY IS TOTALLY ALIEN TO HER. BASIC THINGS LIKE RESPECT AND HUMILITY IS CONSIDERED A VERY BIG DEAL TO THIS WOMAN. YOU'LL NEVER WIN.

REMEMBER THAT WE MUST ALWAYS LEAVE DAMAGED GOOD-FOR-NO-USE WORTHLESS WOMEN FOR MEN LIKE WAHEEB AND TOBIAS WHO REJECT THE REDPILL. SHOULD BE THEM SETTLING FOR SUCH WOMEN, AND NOT YOU AND I.

heartofcity12:



This has always been Kelvin Samuels’s advice but instead they hated on him, some are still hating on him after his demise.. Modern women just need to learn the hard way, some are already learning, some are about to. Time will tell.

Martinez39s:
I remember that we discussed your issue offline. Good to see that you are now making the right move.

True. No lies told.

IF IT WASN'T FOR MY NEARNESS TO THESE PILLS I MAY HAVE BEEN A MURDER VICTIM I SWEAR. WASN'T SURE IF IT WAS DEMONIC POSSESSION OR A MENTAL ILLNESS. LIL BABY HAD ME INSTALLING RECORDING DEVICES ALL AROUND MY HOUSE FOR OVER 8 MONTHS LMAO. CASE FINALLY GOT TO THE LAW AND A RESTRAINING ORDER WAS ISSUED AFTER SHE NEARLY SET MY 7-BEDROOM BUNGALOW ON FIRE. I HAVE KNIVE INJURIES SUSTAINED FOR EACH TIME SHE BROKE INTO THE HOUSE TRYING TO MURDER ME. "IF I CAN'T HAVE YOU THEN TWO OF US DIES".
THE LAST TIME SHE CAME, IT WAS ON A SUNDAY MORNING 6 AM. MY 16-YO HAD JUST LEFT FOR CHURCH AND I WAS STILL SLEEPING DIDN'T KNOW THE CLOWN WAS LURKING. SHE CAME STRAIGHT TO MY BEDROOM WHILE I WAS TRYNNA WAKE AND LOCKED THE DOOR AFTER LOCKING ALL DOORS FROM THE GATE TO THE MAIN DOORS. BEFORE I COULD SAY "JACK" SHE'S FLUSHED ALL THE KEYS IN MY TOILET. WAS FAMILIAR WITH THE HOUSE SO THE KITCHEN WAS ALREADY LIT WITH FIRE FROM THE GAS CYLINDER. THE MOST HORRIFIC DAY OF MY LIFE. I'LL STOP HERE.

Martinez39s:
Don't mind him. Some clowns talk as if others don't remember past events and their track record. They act like the passage of time and their withdrawal and later resurfacing will sweep things under the carpet.

DIDN'T KNOW HOW TO REPLY TO HIS BASELESS ACCUSATIONS DIRECTED TO I AND YOU IN PARTICULAR. LIKE THERE WAS SOME PERSONAL GRUDGE. YOU JUST TABLED MY MIND IN YOUR ESSAYS. BUT I'M SURPRISED HOW YOU KEPT RECORDS AND COUNTERED WITH FACTS. I DIDN'T EVEN REMEMBER THE FELLOW.

BY THE WAY, STILL TALKING ABOUT PERSONAL STUFF, I JUST FINISHED WRITING ABOUT MY ORDEAL WITH A MANIPULATIVE AND PHYSICALLY /EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE WOMAN. REMEMBER WE TALKED 1% LAST YEAR PRIVATELY ON A RELATED TOPIC? I'VE SUMMARISED TO JUST 10% OF THE FULL STORY BUT COMPARED WITH THE LAST GIST AND THIS ONE IS ALMOST 10X LONGER SO I WON'T POST.

ONE THING I'LL SAY IS THAT TRP IS THE UNIVERSAL SAVIOR OF MOST MEN AND NO MAN DESERVES IT HIDDEN FROM HIM.

Martinez39s:
You are a silly liar.

Agp19:

I think this should be the hallmark of this thread now. People should share daily experience and situation that get them confuse in there day to day experience with woman. We are humans, we cannot know it all. We are bound to make mistakes. I for once, on several occasions would have love to share my experiences and ask questions. But with the way the thread is fashion lately, this has made me reframe from doing such to avoid orishishi talk.

I hope the dynamism of the thread change thou. To accommodate and enable guys to share there daily experience and seek solutions that will go a long way to educate other peeps if face with the same situation.

Polynek:

The only experience you will see here is the positive one's or the one in progress, nobody can post his mistake here bcox He knows dat He will regret bringing such issue, even as am typing Dix words here, some will still call me names without criticizing constructively.

JUST ONCE, I LET DOWN MY GUARD, THAT ONCE CHANGED MY LIFE. I'LL GO FIRST. REALLY LENGTHY AND CAPSLOCKED!!!

I HAD THE PRIVILEGE OF ATTENDING AN ALL-BOYS HIGH SCHOOL. ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT THINGS THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO MY LIFE. THE CONDITIONING WAS ON A DIFFERENT LEVEL. YOU HAVE THE MAJORITY OF US DOING THE SAME KIND OF THINGS AND BEHAVING IN A SIMILAR WAY. SOMEHOW, THE REDPILL TRAITS WAS IN ALL OF US. SEE, WE DISLIKED THE INTERNET AS TEENS, HOW MEN SIMPED FOR GIRLS ON SITES LIKE FACEBOOK AND ESKIMI. WE DIDN'T KNOW IT WAS "SIMPING" ACTUALLY, BUT WE CALLED IT IDIOCY TO BE CHASING WOMEN ON THE INTERNET AND BEGGING FOR ATTENTION FROM "WORTHLESS" WOMEN WE COULD LIVE WITHOUT. WE THOUGHT WE WERE DEMIGODS!! WE WOULDN'T EVEN ASK WOMEN OUT BECAUSE WE WERE STEADILY COMPETING WITH OURSELVES ON WHO LOOKS BETTER OR HAD BETTER GRADES. MY READERS WILL REMEMBER ME STATING SEVERALLY IN THE PAST THAT I DON'T HAVE ANY SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNTS. I DEACTIVATED THE LAST ONE IN 2010 BECAUSE I COULDN'T STAND THE PETTINESS. WE WERE SMALL BOYS THEN, AND WE EVENTUALLY LEARNED TO "HATE" GIRLS AND THE MEN THAT THREW THEMSELVES ON THE FLOOR BEGGING THEM FOR THINGS. WE BELIEVED IN RECIPROCATION OF GESTURES, AND ALSO IN EQUITY AND JUSTICE. PROBABLY WHY I IDENTIFIED AS A FENINIST IN 2011 WHEN I JOINED NL AND WAS PRO-FEMINISM BECAUSE I LIKE THE IDEA THAT PEOPLE SHOULD BE EQUAL, ESPECIALLY FOR THINGS LIKE EQUAL RESPONSIBILITY AND ACCOUNTABILITY.

HEADING TO TERTIARY SCHOOL MANY OF MY MEN MUST HAVE FELL OFF DUE TO NEW ENVIRONMENTS AND SOCIALISATION, BUT MY EGO WOULDN'T LET ME "SIMP". NOT FOR ONCE. I STILL HAVEN'T MESSAGED ANY "F" ON THE INTERNET TO DATE. I NEVER ASKED ANYBODY OUT. IF I REMEMBER CORRECTLY IN 5 YEARS OF COLLEGE I DIDN'T KEEP CONTACT OF UP TO 10 GIRLS, AND MAJORITY OF THESE WERE COURSE MATES AND GIRLFRIENDS. ZERO FEMALE FRIENDS. IF WE WEREN'T CONNECTED BY BUSINESS OR PLEASURE I WASN'T GOING TO SPEND ANYTIME TALKING TO YOU WHEN I COULD SPEND THAT TIME LEARNING BENEFICIAL SKILLS ON YOUTUBE. THIS BEHAVIOUR HELPED ME BECAUSE INSTEAD OF "SOCIALISING" OR CHIT-CHATTING I WAS BUILDING MYSELF ON THE INTERNET, AWAY FROM THE DISTRACTIONS. SAFE TO SAY THAT I'M ON THE LEVEL I AM TODAY BECAUSE OF THE LIFESTYLE I MAINTAINED DURING MY LATE TEENS.

IT WAS IN MY 3RD YEAR THAT I STARTED DATING, AND IT WAS THE WOMEN WHO CHOSE ME. IT WAS EASIER LIKE THIS BECAUSE THE WAY I CARRIED MYSELF, ONLY QUALITY GIRLS APPROACHED ME. THINGS LIKE LEECHES AND SCRAP WOMEN, I ONLY READ ABOUT ON THE INTERNET OR HEARD FROM FRIENDS' EXPERIENCES. MY GIRLS ALWAYS TREATED ME LIKE I WAS SOME PRIZE AND ACTUALLY INVESTED A LOT, BECAUSE I WAS FINE AND KNEW HOW TO DRESS AND TALK, OR JUST MAYBE BECAUSE I WAS CHOSEN. I NEVER SIMPED FOR ONCE. CAME FROM A GOOD FAMILY AND WAS SELF-SUFFICIENT TO AN EXTENT, SO THERE WAS NO WAY IN THE WORLD THAT I WOULD PUT MY PRIDE ASIDE TO DO AS MUCH BEG GIRLS FOR ATTENTION OR AFFECTION, OR SPEND A DIME ON THEM UNLESS WE WERE HAVING A THING. THERE WERE EMOTIONS AND HEARTBREAKS IN ALL THOSE YEARS THOUGH. NO MATTER HOW I PACKAGED MYSELF I STILL FELT WHAT THEY DESCRIBED AS "LOVE", BUT LETTING MYSELF DOWN EMOTIONALLY WAS NEVER IN THE BOOKS.

YEARS AFTER GRADUATING, NEARING 30, I THOUGHT I WAS GETTING MORE MATURED AND PERHAPS IT WAS TIME TO LISTEN TO FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND START PLANNING TOWARDS "SETTLING DOWN". I DECIDED THAT TELEVISION ROMANCE WAS WORTH EMULATING. BY THIS TIME I STARTED TO READ ABOUT TRP ON THE FORUM, BUT I DIDN'T PAY ATTENTION TO DETAILS CUZ I FELT THESE WEREN'T CONCERNING ME. ASIDES THAT IT SOUNDS TOO HARSH ON WOMEN, MAJORITY OF WHAT'S SAID WERE THINGS I ALREADY KNEW (SO I THOUGHT). SO I MET A YOUNGER COLLEAGUE AND AS USUAL WITH MY PAST RELATIONSHIPS, I WAS CHOSEN. OR IT SEEMED LIKE IT. THE "SHIT TESTS" STARTED ALMOST IMMEDIATELY BUT THE DESPERATION FOR LOVE AND "OUR" INTENTION TO SETTLE DOWN MADE ME THROW FRAME AWAY INTO THE DEEPEST OCEANS. MY G. HOW LOW I WENT, I'M SURE MY ANCESTORS WANTED ME TO DIE FASTER AND COME MEET THEM IN THE AFTERLIFE SO THEY CAN GANG-UP AND BEAT ME TO DEATH A SECOND TIME.

I STOPPED BODY BUILDING CUZ SHE DIDN'T LIKE IT AND MY SPARE TIME WAS CHANNELS TO HER. I STOPPED DRESSING AS FIRE AS I USED TO. STRICTLY "FAMILY MAN" THING NOW. CUT OUT ANY FEMALE PRESENCE IN MY LIFE AND STOPPED HANGING OUT WITH THE BOYS. I THREW AWAY A US VISA CHANCE BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT TO BE FAR FROM HER. MIND THAT ALL THOSE TIMES I FOLLOWED THE THREADS OF MARTINEZ39S (AND UBUNJA) BECAUSE WE'VE BEEN CONNECTED ON NL FOR ALMOST A DECADE SO I MUST SEE EVERY POST, BUT I DON'T CONTRIBUTE. I THOUGHT I HAD THIS ONE UNDER CONTROL BECAUSE I WANTED TO DO "WHAT'S RIGHT". I DID NOT ONLY SUCCUMB TO HER PRESSURE FOR MARRIAGE, I STARTED WORKING 2X MORE AS WELL IN ORDER TO HASTEN UP. HASTEN UP TO WHAT EXACTLY? IF YOU ASK ME NOW I SWEAR I DON'T EVEN KNOW.

SUBSEQUENTLY I TOOK SECOND PLACE BETWEEN US AND EVENTUALLY DECLINED TO BEING THE STRING HOLDING US DESPITE THAT SHE WANTED OUT MANY TIMES. I'D BEG TO CONTINUE. THIS MEANT MORE INVESTMENTS FROM ME AND ALMOST NOTHING FROM HER. I HAD A JOB OFFER THAT I SNEAKED HER NAME IN TO MAKE HER HAPPY. I STILL MADE MORE THAN HER BUT THE NATURE OF THIS NEW JOB MEANT SHE STARTED TO ROLL WITH HIGHER CALIBRE OF PEOPLE. IT WAS A BIG ORGANISATION, AND I LOST IT ALL AFTER THEN. I CONTINUED TO FUND HER LIFESTYLE. I MEAN, WHY WOULDN'T I FUND MY FIANCEE? THE PRESSURE GOT OFF LIMIT AND IT STARTED TO BE CALLS WITH MANY MEN AND OUTINGS WITH HER "BIG GIRLS". CHEATING NECESSARILY WASN'T CALLED IN AT THIS POINT BUT IT WAS CLEAR SHE WAS IN A HIGHER LEAGUE. ON ONE OF THOSE DAYS I LOOKED MYSELF IN THE MIRROR AND COMPARED WITH THE MAN I WAS YEARS BACK IN COLLEGE. THE DIFFERENCES WERE CLEAR ENOUGH. BUT WE WERE GONNA GET MARRIED, RIGHT? WE'VE LASTED TWO YEARS AND I WAS LOOSING MY MIND. SO I WENT BACK TO MY OG MARTINEZ39S AND ACTUALLY PAID ATTENTION TO ALL THAT HE'S BEEN SAYING OVER THE YEARS. IT DIDN'T TAKE LONG FOR COMMON SENSE TO GET BACK TO ME BECAUSE I REALISED EXACTLY THE POINT I FELL OFF AND ALL THAT I'VE BEEN DOING COMPLETELY WRONGLY OVER THE YEARS. I MOVED BACK TO MY GIRL AND INFORMED HER OF MY REALISATION, AND THAT TO BE HONEST SHE WAS PRIVILEGED TO HAVE A QUALITY PERSON LIKE ME IN HER LIFE. I TOLD HER THAT I'VE SPENT 90% OF THE TIME "BEGGING" TO KEEP US GOING BUT LOOKING AT US FROM A NEUTRAL VIEW SHE WASN'T EVEN QUALIFIED TO WORK FOR ME AS A MAID. JUST READING THROUGH THREADS, LIKE MAGIC, MY EYES OPENED OVERNIGHT AND I DIDN'T STOP CRYING BECAUSE, "WHAT THE HELL WAS I DOING"?. I WAS MAD THAT I BECAME A SHADOW OF MYSELF. NO GOOD THINGS, NO INVESTMENTS, NO SAVINGS BECAUSE I WAS TAKING CARE OF FIANCEE WITH ALL I EARNED. I TOLD HER THAT I KNEW ABOUT HYPERGAMY AND WHAT WAS COMING AND DESPITE THAT SHE WAS ASKING TO CONTINUE AND SWEARING IT'LL ALWAYS BE ME, I KNEW AWALT AND THERE WAS NO WAY THIS WHOLE THING WASN'T A HUGE MESS ALREADY CUZ THERE WAS NO FRAME TO MY IMAGE.

I ENDED UP DOWNGRADING MYSELF TO UPGRADE HER (BECAUSE OF LOVE). SHE EVENTUALLY STARTED FALLING FOR UPGRADED MEN. IT DIDN'T TAKE A WEEK AFTER THAT EPISODE FOR ME TO FIND OUT SHE STARTED SEEING A COLLEAGUE OF HERS. A GUY THAT I KNEW PERSONALLY. HE EARNED LESS THAN I DID BUT WAS SUPER-POLISHED AND LOOKED LIKE HE WAS EVERYTHING A WOMAN WOULD EVER WANT. HE WAS BUILDING HIMSELF. I WAS BUILDING MY WOMAN. SHE WAS FALLING FOR THE MAN THAT WAS BUILDING HIMSELF.

THE MOMENT I REALISED THAT, I LET HER KNOW WHAT I FOUND OUT. SHE CAME DOING THE CROCODILE TEARS BUT I WAS LAUGHING ALL THROUGH THE EPISODE BECAUSE I WAS FOLLOWING THESE NAIRALAND THREADS BUMPER TO BUMPER AND EVERYTHING THEY PREDICTED WAS WHAT I WAS EXPERIENCING. IT WAS FUNNY ALL THE DRAMA SHE PUT UP, ALL THE LIES AND PLEADINGS, BEFORE EVENTUALLY OWNING UP. I DIDN'T EVEN PROVIDE MYSELF TO LISTEN ALL HER NONSENSE BECAUSE I WANTED HER TO BE GONE ASAP WITH THE TWO YEARS I HAVE WASTED. INSTEAD OF GETTING ANGRY AND CRYING/FIGHTING ABOUT IT OR DESTROYING THE HOUSE I RENTED AND FURNISHED FOR HER, I WENT BACK TO THE DRAWING BOARD IMMEDIATELY CUZ I NEEDED TO PICK MYSELF UP FROM WHERE I FELL. I WAS STARK POOR BECAUSE OF THIS PERSON. HER BIGGEST EXCUSE WAS THAT I DIDN'T LOOK LIKE I COULD CARTER FOR HER IN THE FUTURE AND I WAS WASTING TIME WITH THE MARRIAGE SHE DESPERATELY WANTED. BUT THEN I WAS DROWNING BECAUSE I SPENT 70% OF ALL I HAD TAKING CARE OF HER??!. SHE SPENT THE NEXT 6 MONTHS TEXTING ME BUT I HARDLY READ THEM OR BOTHERED TO REPLY. IT WAS RELIEVING FOR ME AT LEAST. COUNTED MY LOSSES IMMEDIATELY AND WENT BACK TO MY NATURAL POSITION. IN THE NEXT 6 MONTHS I WENT FROM BEING ON ZEROS TO MOVING MY NET WORTH ALMOST 100X BECAUSE I STOPPED THROWING MY MONEY AWAY, AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, I PAID MORE ATTENTION TO BUSINESSES AND BUILT BACK ALL THE CONNECTIONS I BROKE OR FAILED TO BUILD BECAUSE I WAS BUILDING A RELATIONSHIP.

IT'S BEEN 3 YEARS SINCE THAT TIME. THE ONES THAT HAVE COME AND GONE MET ME REFINED, LEFT AND I WAS EVEN BETTER BECAUSE EVERY STEP OF THE WAY I INVEST IN MYSELF AND PRIORITISE MYSELF AND ALL MY ENDEAVOURS. JUST ONCE I DECIDED TO DROP GUARD, IT ALMOST COST ME MY SANITY. THE LESSONS FROM THAT SINGULAR EXPERIENCE WAS ENOUGH TO JUSTIFY HOW I WAS LIVING PRIOR, AND WILL BE ENOUGH TO LAST THE REST OF MY LIFETIME. IT'S RIDICULOUS HOW MOST MEN GO THROUGH THINGS LIKE THAT NUMEROUS TIMES AND STILL CONTINUE TO LIVE LIKE FØØLS.

I TRIED BEING A "REAL MAN" ONCE. YOU TOO CAN SEE FROM MY ORDEAL, THE AMOUNT OF LOSSES IT BROUGHT ME. SO TAKE THAT I'M SPEAKING FROM MY EXPERIENCE AND THE EXPERIENCES OF MANY OTHER MEN WHENEVER I URGE MEN, ESPECIALLY THE YOUNGER ONES TO PRIORITISE THEMSELVES AND NEVER PLAY THE "REAL MAN" ROLE. IT ONLY PAYS WOMEN AND SUPPLIES YOU AN ENDLESS STREAM OF LOSSES.

Polynek:
Many guys here including you are easy to criticize someone

Trex4:
The hype don enter him head. Redpill content that Cave adullam dey give here for free. 200$ for session Even masters on YouTube don't charge that much.

atobs4real:
sorry Dear. may the almighty God save us from killer husband and killer wife

RuddyFusion:
I meet one that's 28....her main goal is to get into Nollywood that's what matters to her now

Martinez39s:
▪︎ "Only strong men can overlook a woman's past."

▪︎"It takes a strong and brave man to mend a heart he didn't break and raise a child he didn't birth."

Uzomacharles:
Gees in the house, can you imagine??
https://www.nairaland.com/7189483/please-guys-what-young-girl#114022017

Islaady:
How old are you?
I asked because you wants a serious relationship with a 19years old girl A girl that is still very young & naive! A girl that is not emotionally and morally ready for a serious relationship or marriage!