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sexkillz: [color=#000030]How about they open up and say what they really mean/want instead of making life difficult? [/color]

Totally agree with you.

I find it amusing when some ladies deny most of these;
1. If I didn't call you, I'm just
waiting for you to call me
2. When I'm mad and I walk
away from you, follow me,
please?
3. When I push and hit you, grab
me and don't let me go
4. When I ignore you, give me
your attention
5. When I say I hate you, say I
love you to me
6 .When I say it's too cold, hug
me tight
7. When I tickle you, tickle me
back
8. When I stare at you, I want a
kiss
9. When I started to cry, tell me I
can cry on your shoulders
10. When I give up on us, tell me
that you will fight for us..
Ladies do u agree??
If you have more please feel free to add...
Don't spoil the fun

Ayomax: plzzzz

Dude grow up and get a life...
Anyway I don't blame u...
Another victim of the strike!

Lmao

Sometimes you wonder how stuff like this make front page...
How does their visit change anything...?
Smh...!

People tend to think that long distance relationships are one of the hardest possible ways of loving someone. If you are willing to work it out, here’s how to give it every chance to survive and thrive. Please do feel free to add yours. Enjoy.
Ask the important questions at onset to make sure you are both clear on the parameters of the relationship; Setting parameters such as naming your relationship (dating, seeing each other, boyfriend-girlfriend, engaged) as well as defining exclusive (limited to one person). These can be difficult and awkward questions to ask, but will save you great headache and misunderstanding along the line. Stating your end goal or ideas will allow each person to maintain what they need.
Do things together; as a long distance couple it is important to do other things together besides the usual phone call. In a long distance relationship, interaction over the phone can become dull in the long run. Coming up with other forms of interaction are important. Just think… people in short distance relationships do not spend the majority of their time talking, but rather doing things with each other, try to replicate this by finding things to do together such as watching a TV show , movie or even discuss on a particular topic on nairaland simultaneously.
Consider using skype video chat calls every day or as often as possible, text messaging, phone calls and emails everyday; it is important to maintain contact and to be in each other’s daily life as much as possible.
Communicate in some way every day, more than ones if possible; since u wont be seeing each other, it is important to maintain emotional connection; This don’t always have to be long, in-depth conversation. Tell each other about your little triumphs and tragedies. Ask for advice. Use instant messengers such as bbm, whatsapp or webcams for that visual connection. And also remember long distance phone call can put a strain on your budgets. Do not take communication for granted.
Take advantage of the benefits a long distance relationship offers; more time with friends/ families, no arguments over little things, the pleasure of seeing sweat heart again after a long absence, time to weigh your options (rather than snapping at your partner impulsively) before you respond to a message he/she wrote that seemed so rude the first time you read it, etc.
Pursue common interest, even if it means pursuing them apart; if there is a movie or a soap you’re both interested in seeing, watch individually and call each other afterward and talk about it. Read a certain book at the same time, star gave while you are on phone… lol, find creative ways to bond.
Avoid the temptation to be controlling; important please, people have free will and no one can or should control another person; As long as you are both interested in being in a relationship, you will stick with it and distance will not a make a difference. As soon as one of you decides the other is not a good match- or someone else is a better match-your relationship ends, whether you live 3000 miles apart, two streets over, or share the same bed with your partner’s picture. You are going to have to trust each other completely if this relationship is going to work. Remember just because you’re apart doesn’t mean you should act or feel like you’re single or let others view you as such as half the commitment of being loyal is making it clear to the rest of the world that you’re in a relationship. Flirting with someone else should never cross your mind.
Try challenging each other; this is not the same as being controlling; You may find that you can do things for each other that you couldn’t quite find the motivation to do on your own. Perhaps you can motivate yourselves to get some exercise or to cook better or more often. It will give you both something to strive for and talk about until then.
Talk about your future together; assuming that ultimately you want to live together, discussing on how you are going to get to that point will help you prove to each other that the relationship is getting somewhere and that your efforts and aspirations are not in vain.
Avoid jealousy and be trusting; one of the easiest ways to destroy a perfectly healthy relationship is to poison it with jealousy and drama. It is always helps if you go into a relationship with idea of everyone is innocent and worthy of trust until proven otherwise. Don’t fall into the trap of interrogating your partner every time he/she goes out on a drink with people you haven’t met or he or she did not get back to you right away when you called and left a message. However just as important make sure you being up front with your partner and not leaving them room to ask questions. You should both maintain your social activity and be happy with yourself.
Give them a personal object of yours so in time of need, when they miss you, they are able to hold on something that once belonged to you; this will provide comfort, happiness, and the thought of being with you.
Because time together is rear, when you do see each other, take as much advantage as possible of your ability to get intimate with each other; you don’t have that privilege during those times when you can’t be with each other physically. You’ve got to keep those feelings of excitement and attraction alive they will wane in time.
I dedicate this to my one and only Princess Damola.

teelord1: Captain
Too much of gimms n gamms I dnt rilly understand 8 n 9, n wat abt if u never meet d gul u r jst still on chatting parol tins wat r protocols 2 observe n take in place 4 dis particular situation pls. #learner-incorporated

No.8 is self explanatory...u just can't ask her out in a date the very first day you met her even of its via chatting.
No.9 means two things; first don't make your phone conversation one sided, secondly "next step" don't move things to the next level on phone...its a no-no!

Boll2010: u don come here again! U be winsh.........ok mak I ask u question u fit help me open thread for hell fire members

No mind d guy...
He's such a learner

uniqueval: [color=#FF00BF]
My apologies Captain!
*Permission to relax*
I'm not hating. I'm just an advocate of being your true self. If u b polite man and wan dey consensual, ask for her consent b4 you kiss her. Some gals wld find it cute, some won't! As for questions and actions you may regard ѕтυρι∂ in the likes of points 4-9, they will never be known to be ѕтυρι∂ until it yields ѕтυρι∂ results. Let pple discover what works for them... No rules!
My apologies once again.
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i guess you right...as they say...experience is the best teacher.
but the truth remains sha...if you into stuffs like this u will understand me wella.
its good to learn from others mistake,

remember gurls like c.ocky+funny+nice all put together in a guy!!!

uniqueval: [color=#FF00BF]

Don't do this!
Don't do that!
Never ask this!
Never ask that!

Jeeez!! So many rules!!! https://www.freesmileys.org/smileys/smiley-forum/wtf.gif?!
Whatever happened to spontaneity?
Since when did It become a crime to have superficial knowledge about things?
If you are ѕтυρι∂ enough to make a ѕтυρι∂ move that consequently resulted to a ѕтυρι∂ outcome, the ѕтυρι∂ person would learn from his ѕтυρι∂ity never to repeat such a ѕтυρι∂ act. That is first class learning! To hell with rules! Esply in relationships. This is not mathematics with an applicable 'almighty relationship formular'... If I'm to adopt mathematics, I'd refer to people and relationships as entities in a stochastic system. It is non-deterministic!
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my friend why are you so angry?
so much hate...
damn!!!

maxwello.yg:
If you plan to make her your girlfriend then don't ask her. Because if you do and she honestly admits she's in a relationship then that's a "-1" for you because you can't go no further in wooing her. Just play along like she has got no boyfriend. If you are fortunate enough and she likes you better than her boyfriend then that's your call.

i think this answers your question @ ledaface

1. First of all, a man should never ask a woman if he can kiss her, as she will only say, a man should never "ask" for a kiss.
Asking her for a kiss will only make a man look like a boy, which is what a woman is not interested in, and even if she says "yes", it could mean she is just being polite, while on the inside her attraction meter will read a firm, "No".
2. Secondly, a man should never ask a woman if he can take her out on a date sometime, as she would like to be with a man who is a leader and in control, not someone who asks her permission to hit on her.
A man should confidently ask a woman out, by simply saying, "We should hang out... what's your number?" or tell her about a specific place he wants to take her to.
3. Thirdly, a man should never brag about the car he has or the kind of house he lives in, as it would seem like he is trying hard to impress her.
Women would be far more impressed by a man's material possessions if he does not mention them in conversation.
4. The fourth thing a man should never ask a woman is what she wants to do for the night, as she likes a "man with a plan".
The man needs to have a game plan before he calls her, so as to ensure that she will not be burdened with having to think about what to do.
5. Fifthly, a man should never ask a woman if she likes him, as this is one phrase that turns off a woman completely.
He should just assume that she likes him, and never ask the question, as it would look like he has no confidence.
6. The sixth tip is that a man should never ask a woman why she never answered his message, as one, it would show that he cared she did not reply back, and two, it would give her a guilt trip, which is seen as insecurity by women.
7. The seventh tip is that a man should never ask a woman how men she has slept with, as this shows that he is suffering from insecurity.
8. The eighth tip is that a man should never hint at a future date with a woman he has just met, as she not only wants but needs a guy who is somewhat of a "challenge", and will lose interest if she senses she has won.
9. The ninth tip is that a man should never end a phone conversation with a woman with a "next step", as firstly it would kill any spontaneity by being predictable, and secondly he would kill any chances of her calling him.
10. The tenth tip is that a man should never talk bad about a woman's guy friends especially if he hasn't met them and doesn't know her very well, as this is the fastest way for her to mark him as "insecure"..

As we remember that faithful day and all that took place, let's take a look at these analysis below.

1) New York City has 11 letters
2) Afghanistan has 11 letters.
3) Ramsin Yuseb (The terrorist who threatened to destroy
the Twin Towers in 1993) has 11 letters.
4) George W Bush has 11 letters.

This could be a mere coincidence, but this gets more interesting:

1) New York is the 11th state.
2) The first plane crashing against the Twin Towers was flight number 11.
3) Flight 11 was carrying 92 passengers. 9 + 2 = 11
4) Flight 77 which also hit Twin Towers, was carrying 65 passengers. 6+5=11
5) The tragedy was on September 11, or 9/11 as it is now known. 9+1+1=11
6) The date is equal to the US emergency services telephone number 911. 9+1+1=11.
Sheer coincidence..?!

Read on and make up your own mind:

1) The total number of victims inside all the hi-jacked planes was 254. 2+5+4=11.
2) September 11 is day number 254 of the calendar year. Again 2+5+4=11.
3) The Madrid bombing took place on 3/11/2004. 3+1+1+2+4 =11.
4) The tragedy of Madrid happened 911 days after the Twin Towers incident.
Still unconvinced about all of this..?!

Try this and see how you feel afterwards, it made my hair stand on end:

Open Microsoft Word and do the following:
1. Type in capitals Q33 NY. This is the flight number of the first plane to hit one of the Twin Towers.
2. Highlight the Q33 NY.
3. Change the font size to 48.
4. Change the actual font to WINGDINGS

What do you think now?

True talk

Hello ladies

You should know this. There's another girl out there who would be glad to take your boyfriend off your hands if she could & honestly, why shouldn't she? It seems like you don't even want to be with him anymore. You're acting less like a girlfriend every day. You no longer text him like you used to and when you do, there's no emotion in it like there was before. You don't wanna be all sweet like you used to be with him, holding hands & having long embraces with him. You don't feel like making out like you did when you first met him, now you keep on giving him lame excuses all the time. It even feels different when you touch him because it doesn't have the same passion like it used to. When you meet him you no longer give him those romantic looks. You’re now so secretive and always on a rush. You are totally changed. I mean, if you're bored, why are you still with him? Why waste his time if you are seeing someone else? Why do you still want to keep him around as a fool yet you already moved on? He needs a girl who can be consistent with giving him the attention & affection a guy needs. He expects this from you, not another girl. Will it feel good when another girl replaces you and loves your boyfriend right? If you really love him and you don’t want to lose him then love him without measure, fight his imperfections and weaknesses, love him the way you found him, don’t change him because he won’t be real and pure. If you really feel that your boyfriend is the love of your life, chase him, don’t allow him go when he is hurt yet he possesses your love.

your's sincerely
captain_obvious