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sinaj:
They think am a snub

Story of my life.

Am a sucker for giving myself a special treat during special occasions...Birthdays,Valentine,and yes christmas. This life is once Joor and nobody can love and cherish you more than you.


This Xmas, am getting myself a blackup Powder as a present..the ladies would understand what I mean. I need that flawless look. I have always wanted it but it's a bit on the high side.but this time Mehn...amma get one

So let's hear yours....what are you getting yourself this xmas.


Let's share just for the fun of it

Hello everyone.......

Some guys find it difficult to approach a lady,or they find it difficult to understand what exactly a lady feels for them.

I have learnt not to be afraid to ask questions.

If you feel ,he is showing you every sign that he is interested but he has not said anything .Please ask him
"What exactly do you want".

Don't be surprised some just want sex,yes ,while some want a relationship.Give them room to air their mind.Still use your brain though.

Sorry for your loss Miss Blanche,I can only imagine how you feel.But please take solace in the fact that he has gone to a place where there is no hustle,worries and all the headaches that comes in life.May he rest in peace.Amen

Maya darling.....am happy for you.loneliness is a bad thing and can make one do crazy things.I hope you guys would be happy together forever

chikeorji123: Carmellion oh! before l forget Happy New Year my sister...

Happy New year too Bro

I have a new addresss

missblanche: Hi everyone,happy new year to you all,i pray and hope this brings you happiness,peace,divine favour and wealth..with a huge transformation..God bless you all
@carmelion you are the best..much love.

Happy new year Miss blanche.

carmelion: Pls I can't log in using the old link.please is there a new one.Seems the site is down or something.


Is any one experiencing this?please help

Rectified

Its more frustrating when you don't have money as well.

Merry christmas to all the single ladies here.its a joyful season


By the way,I heard that plenty guys came back home from Malaysia,Is it true?...haahahahaha.

He might see you this season you know.Have fun(sensibly of course)

Pls I can't log in using the old link.please is there a new one.Seems the site is down or something.


Is any one experiencing this?please help

What is happpening here?Half of the viewers are here because of Arsenal.

They better represent.

chaircover: YPP, yes its good to keep your figure, especially if your hubby likes lepa girls and he married you as a lepa.

Some men also like voluptuous ladies

Lets not just look at physical appearance but also what is up there in the brain also. The man goes to work and interact with professional and intelligent women everyday. He lunches with them everyday, he comes back home but all some women can talk about is airhead topics such as the colour of kim kardashians lipstick

You dont have to be educated to be intelligent. Your husband is climbing up the career ladder but if you are still at home watching jerry springer all day and he is ashamed to take you to the office Christmas Party, then something is wrong and you need to step up your game.

Even as a stay-at-home mum you can increase your knowledge and make good use of that time to better yourself. Pick a cookery program and follow it and cook a different meal it for your husband . . .keep on surprising him. It doesn't have to be nollywood & africa magic all the time . .there are quizzes, documentaries and all sorts you can watch on tv or youtube to increase your knowledge.

The question one has to ask is can I make a very good first lady if my husband became president today?

God bless you for this.I learnt it from my aunt.I guess hat is what is happening to Nigeria's first family.


Goodluck Jonathan was a lecturer in the University while Patience owned a restaurant in the school .From being a customer,Jonathan became her husband.

Now he is no longer a lecturer but the President of a great nation.Patience is finding it hard to step up.Her poise,carriage,e.t.c is so not it.God help her sha.


When your husband steps up,step up too.
A family member of mine,her husband is in a very high position in this country.She had to up her game and got a Phd.

That title:Dr(Mrs) earns syou respect and makes you appear polished.

Steping up your game includes your dressing,your culinary skills(go to a cooking school and learn).Due to meetings and conferences,your husband will now be used to gravy and chili sauce instead of the native stew you people used to eat

Due to frequent travels,he has slept in so many hotel both within and outside the country.Change your room to look as neat as those rooms in Transcorp hilton and intercontinental hotel(they are big hotels so I guess they should be wow)

That way he won't feel as if he is missing anything.he won't feel moody when he comes home.

chaircover: I recently heard that some sisters were discussing my husband in church and were saying that they wished they were married to him. I said to myself "in your dreams" . . . .. Now if you see the way I sit beside him gba gba gba in church . . .

Maam,you need to put password on him upper case and lower case letters in foreign language

Baby mama: I have the same question
I didn't understand that statement too

What I mean is that when men get infected down there as per STDs,they notice it quickly(less than a week/month) and sought themselves out.Peharps its because their organ is external.


In order to hide their dirty act,they won't tell madam and still go ahead to make love as a family man.

Now a womans body takes time(months and years) before it starts showing symptoms (perharps because ours is internal) .Most times at a far stage of the disease.Some women are innocent victims of HIV/AIDS.No thanks to their husbands.

So if I discover my husband is cheating on me,first action is to run straight to hospital for a comprehensive test after which I will carry my bag and go quietly.No noise,its over.My health first

I hope am a littlebit clear?

My take...

Baby mama: The chord of marriage is broken
I cannot be with a man I can't trust
If a man is careless enough to expose me to diseases and ridicule by sleeping around with other women,he has put his selfish ways over my health and my well being.
It is over.

A man and a womans body are not the same.Ours is very delicate.

swtcharissa: U sure say no b d same husband we dey marry?

Bwahahahahahah.....you got me laughing Men and ego ....but some know how to say sorry sha.

My dear one person cannot be totally bad,likewise,one person cannot be 100% flawless.

I believe there are good things they do ,which can make up for their bad attitude .Also air your mind to your partner.I believe in dialogue.

Easier said than done sha but let's try first.No marriage is perfect.Kpele

The worst thing that can happen to a single advanced lady is no husband,no money.

So can we concentrate on making money while waiting?

#just saying

Lord I thank you o for this delay/preparation for marital life.

My eyes are really opening to a lot of things.So many mistakes I would have made if I had married earlier,clothed with naivity.

I can't say I have known it all but but am much wiser now

Thanks babymama,cc and efemena.ther guys too.

Sarah a: "Marry for compatibility and not love,love withers" hahaha wetin you talk? I want to marry for love oh.

My dear,the thing tire me.

I heard the love vanishes when they start paying school fees.lol

This marriage thing sef.I tire.

Where is greatgod2012?.May god help us all

Well

No matter what,I think the man should have just showed signs that he was not in agood mood(if that was the case),rather than talking to the wife like a kid.

So please married peeps what do you guys thinks about this statement?

"Marry for compatibility and not love,love withers".

chaircover: Okay lets move on . . .

Baby mama no vex o! but since youve abandoned the ship in favour of kpekus somewhere & thus leaving test driving for and against debaters. I have to come in as an untrained referee to move things forward

When things seem so monotonous

Okay so the butterflys in your stomach have stopped fluttering and that hot passionate love has cooled down to a cooler and much deeper comanionate love; what do you do to keep the fire burning?

Kids have come along and most of your day is the same routine; look after the kids, work, run the family, pay bills, bed, wake up, sleep . . and it suddenly becomes monotonous and becoming boring . . .

This is the point that many people have affairs, and many oyinbos divorce and say that they fell out of love with each other.

How to get over this? . . . Accept that this is a phase and it will pass. We all at some point in our lives get bored of something. Even people in the best jobs have down days .. so you are not alone. When you hear about ups and downs in marriage, this is one of the downs

it doesnt mean that there is something wring with your relationship. It only means that its time for rearrangement and a call to put some more coals in the fire. basically you both have to keep working at the marriage to keep it alive. You cant just sit back and coast or you run out of ooooomph.

When I feel that things are getting monotonous I try and make some changes, no matter how little . . .sometimes all it needs is a small shift. Sometimes I do things for myself such as going on a shopping spree and changing my wardrobe, sometimes I change the furniture round, go on a weekend break or go out with friends, Sometimes we go to a party that we wouldn't normally have gone to. . . . anything just to reboot. Sometimes one of you has to do the changing to encourage and pull the other one up and sometimes you both have to make the changes at the same time.

Aunty CC,this your write up jsut reminded of one article I read from a newspaper column(I love litreature).

A lady wanted to do something different to spice up her marriage as it was getting monotonous.So she decided to have a candlelit dinner just for she and hubby.

So later in the evening,she made sure she prepared the food on time,fed the kids and sent them to bed.

Then she turned off the lights,lit her candle and then set up the dinning with her husbands favourite

She also made herself look very sensual.T he husband came back and guess what?

He thought it was PHCN doing their work but then the wife expalined that she purposely turned the lights off.

He started fuming with anger,and shouted at her

"Why do you like behaving like a child?And adult palying with candle?So what will you do if a child plays with a candle in front of you?Do you want to burn my house?

Bla bla bla...he ended up spoiling the whole mood.The wife went to bed in tears.


Some men are not just it at alllll

No aiota of romance at all.mtcheeew

PocketEconomist: Since the matter never die down, let me add my thoughts... That man married to a woman with low sex drive, couldn't he, because of his love for her look for a practical solution to this problem? Couldn't he at least have a heart to heart discussion with her. Or if that doesn't work, can't he seek advice from a counsellor who would advice him on what to do? Love for her is meamt to move him to find a solution, instead of taking the easy way out. Any way, i was not there, and i don't know the man, so i don't know all the details, i'm just assuming and suggesting. He should find a solution with his wife if he truly loves her.

Simple!.........this should end this discussion


@babymama...NEXT!!!!!!!!!!!!