madridsta007:

Hmmmm.... Interesting.

Difficult in practice though.

Very difficult I tell you.

alutacontinua: Long distance relationships are complicated, seriously! My friend is going through a phase now. I really feel for her because she's been so good and all of that, her life is almost as boring as mine, yet, the guy doesn't even trust her one cent. He reads meaning into all of her actions and words. It just pains me that he's throwing away something good because of his silly insecurities. The lady lives just across my room and I can almost account for the 24 hours of her day. I really don't know what has transpired between them in the past but I just wish I could jam sense into the guy's head because trusting her is just no issue at all. I can vouch for the lady, at least, from what i've noticed in the past 8 months. Anyways, she told me yesterday that she's quitting the relationship, still trying to talk to her sha it's like the guy's insecurities have ruined their beautiful relationship. [s]Maybe it wouldn't really pain me if the poor lady has even been living her life the way she likes since she came here, at least, she would not lose both ways![/s].

Alutadoll,your friend and her boyfriend might just be passing through a phase. Some distant relationship pass through this bumpy stage,where they quarrel,break up,delete each others contact,someone cries to bed,bla bla bla bla.

And then later,their head calms down and they make up again. When they make up,they bond stronger,and better.
Lutadoll,tell your friend to take a break from that relationship. If they truly love/ want each other ,they will find their way back. If not,they will move on.

A relationship that always makes you sad is not healthy. Erm......daz all.

uj_sizzle: Hello. Been avoiding this thread like a plague but it's way past time I gave you credit Cammie(can i call you that?) for coming up with something this fantastic.
So there, good job, great thing you've got going here and I hope i can be of help to other singles .

Name's Uj_sizzle or just Uju by the way.

Thanks uju,nice meeting you.
Your opinions and advice are highly expected.Somebody,somewhere including me might need it.

Welcome.sizzle-doll is more like it

passionate88: page....... Make una help me wit that page number again make me direct her there. Biko

Page 73,every new poster should pay homage there
https://www.nairaland.com/1182427/thread-single-ladies/73

Bisjosh:



You are an epitome of wisdom. Please can I have your pin or number?

I love to associate myself with frnds like u. Just send me a PM(am no Lesbo!)

Epitome of wisdom?Am flattered

Even if you are a lesbo,I can assure you,you won't even enjoy me.I hear they like plumpy girls.

A PM would do hun.By the way,there is a possibility you know me sef.So am hiding.These usernames sha.

cmega123: I think the lifeline of a long distance relationship is communication and trust. If both are gone, the whole relationship crumbles. I'm presently in a long distance relationship. Saw her last in October 2012, but we have been communicating daily since then.

Its not easy bro,I wish you guys the best!

missblanche: i sooo need to get another black
erry,i am not enjoying this buttonless phone i'm using....makes typing a bore for me..

Walahi,I hate touch screen,avi na screen touch,but just like chuks said.

Let's write to seun,he might be of help.lol,don't mind me.Good to see you again

Being in a long distance relationship is one of the most difficult things. Especially for the lady because ,society tends to believes she is wasting her time.(Sadly,women have limited time)

But just like Cmega123 mentioned,communication is the key.
Gifts,and keepsakes too helps.

This also applies to people who are in long term relationships. I mean couples who started dating as early as teenagers/undergraduates.

Its kinda hard for the lady,as she has to wait for the guy to stabilise financially before they take it to the next level. The society just makes you feel stupid,when you tell them you are waiting for someone. Makes you doubt your love,makes you lose hope. And then you have other suitors coming your way.

Its not easy I tell you ,its not.


I know a couple who has been dating for the past 6years.they stay in the same town any ways but the lady is 26,while the guy is 28,and is still working his way towards financial stability .Now you know what that means.

At a point the lady said she does not want to continue in the relationship so they broke up. She confided in me that,she was facing a lot of pressure at home to get married ,so she does not understand what she is doing with this guy. How long does she have to wait?what if this guy leaves her for some one else.?

Well I advised her to go and tell this guy,exactly what she told me. But you know,being a woman,she was feeling the guy would take her to be desperate. I encouraged her, so she did.

The guy on his own is a very disciplined person in the sense that,when he says something is white,then you don't need to cross check it,to ascertain if it is truly white,it is white!

So he sat her down and told him of his plans,and how he is working towards them. He asked her to please give him small time,and pray with him that everything falls into place.

He did not propose to her but he bought two similar wrist bands and gave her one to wear,while he wears the other.
He said that band should always remind her of their journey together,and that he will never leave her. Except death takes him away,or she decides to leave.

You need to see them,gooosh,you will think they just met.6yrs no be beans. And to God be the glory,the guy is gradually getting there,he is very focused and am very positive they will get there.God help them.

Erm.....what was I saying again sef?.Ok,when two hearts are together,there is always a way to make things work!

missblanche: Hiii,,i missed everyone here, ...i've not been to visit cus my bb was stolen.
. Bleep

Missed you too baby.Sorry about your lost.

Its well(that's the latest mantra now, ask Madridsta007)Welcome back!

cmega123:
You idea of mild make-up carmiedoll could be a God-fearing man's idea of loud make up. These days, girls make their faces colouring books, which end up scaring the serious guys away.
You said trousers and sexy gowns. That also is relative. Your idea of a sexy gown can be a guy's idea of a stripper gown. So, it is relative.

I know you are a new poster ,you were not here when we talked about dressing,so let me make it easier for you.click on both links

.https://www.nairaland.com/1182427/thread-single-ladies/16
https://www.nairaland.com/1182427/thread-single-ladies/24

it will take you to page I6 and 24 of this thread.For your viewing pleasure of how a woman should dress to look decent and sweet at the same time. You must agree with me that it is not indecent.As for my make up,am very experienced in that,so i know when itis too much and which, is suitable for each occasion.

Smartie gurl: awwww! Thanks a lot honeypie.......ayam blushing.......did you jst say Og is the new moderator?

You welcome hun.Yes Madam sexkills is our new moderator.check the romance section front page.I believe she will do the ladies good

dmcdad: Dear future wife... I might not be the richest and certainly not the poorest but I guarantee you that in every day that dawns on you, you would kneel and give the almighty the glory and praise for finding you worthy of having a package like me.. I beat my breast and say this; I would NEVER cheat on you. The day I dare it, something terrible should happen to me. Moreso, I would be the last person on this earth to lay hands on you. Just be rest assured.

Also, i have kept myself for you and would give you the best of treatments. Infact, I have decided to teach people how to treat their wives and run their family.

I also wanna guarantee you of one thing, that you would have no sorrow. Yes, there would be ups and downs along the line, but worry not because you have the most understanding of husbands and also a God that would never leave you in our time of distress.

I have so much to say to you, but I'd better not say everything I have in stock for you. I think as time passes things will unravel and you will be marvelled.

Amaze-balls

@nne,thanks and welcome to the thread.

@rubi96.I really don't know what to say to you doll.Its so sad to know that you just wasted 2yrs whith someone who all this while had some reservations about you.

I know you are hurt.I know it would seem like a dream now,untill later on,it dawns on you that you are back to square 1.With the clock ticking right?

Please be strong.If you feel like crying ,please don't try to hold it back.Let it all out.it makes you feel better.

Give your self time to brace up again.You will meet some one else.I wish you luck baby.

*Sad,SMH*

passionate88: my brother leave them o, many girls confuse. Na them go say them want God fearing man but them no go like to date or marry born again Christian's, if them want no sex untill after marriage why dm dey fear to marry the born again ppl dm?. I don dey ask them this question but them no fit answer am.

Well I will answer you but io can only speak for myself alone.

Yes!I want a God fearing man but I really don't know your definition of a born again. All I want is a man who will bring me close to God.

But if that includes him banning me from the following

1.Using my makeup(am a very big fan)
2.Wearing my trousers and decent but sexy gowns
3.Fixing my nails and my hair. Extensions
4.Watching some of my shows on TV
5.Dragging me to some white garment church for deliverance all because he considers it as 'Sin'
Then he can as well try the next compound,am not available.

I try every day to please God by fighting temptation,but when it comes to looking good with myself and for myself,I don't JOKE with it.That is one thing that boosts my selfconfidence.

Hello everyone,happy Sunday

Its my first time on this thread.Just came in to wish a happy birthday to my friend,Smartie gurl

And to say Congrats to our new moderator Ogugua88.Welcome Sisi

I wish you more years Smartie.

passionate88: na wa o. Nw una go remember "African man" when e reach una turn na 21st century we go hear.

Lol

@Madridsta,I understand what you mean but I believe there is always a way around these things.

You can only give them what you have.If you don't have,you will not hang yourself.

Who was paying their schoolfees before you came to marry their sister?And if you did not marry her,trust me there will always be a way.They will survive.

I think this whole problem starts from the way you present your self to your inlaws during introductory part of the marriage.

If you start off flamboyantly,all of them will heave a sigh of relief that the long awaited messiah has come.

But if you package yourself very well and present yourself as a normal guy,do things moderately,everybody will mind their lane.


So my dear,don't let that scare you away from the next nice lady you will meet.Good women are scarce

Bwahahahahahaha,patience and george bush nailed it mehnnn.

www.chikencrossroad....daz all.hahaha.

But wait o,rubi96,how did he even say it?Via phone call?abi na text?

Gossh!,I can imagine.

rubi96: Is it a crime for a girl to be a first child. My boyfriend of 2yrs broke up with me on tuesday because of this. I still can't believe it and i dn't even know what to do. I've been calling but his phone's been switched off. I plan to go to his house tomorrow to see if we could talk.

I doubt if that is his main reason for leaving,but just incase it is,then he has been influenced by some poeple or some things.

He feels he will shoulder the responsibilty of your younger ones when he marries you.#lame

Go and see him sha.He might tell you the main reason.

@ichidodo,6months is not so long,you guys can still get back.

When I mean she has some explanation to do,it is also for your own good. There was a reason why she left in the first place. So the issue has to be brought to book. If she does not say it out for you guys to address it,then it might happen
again. That will not be good.


Whether you can make the first move?Yes you can ,cos I know we women like speaking in parables She might not come out straight to tell you"Baby I want us to come back".We prefer the guys taking the lead.

But if she is interested,she will call you often. When she does that,you can now pick it up with dates(lunch,dinner).

Wooow,she is your first love?.I really want you guys back!

But set your priorities right.

kapela3: I applied and paid online with my Atm card. I completed the online data form but still can't access transcript request form and reference form.

Please Can I use any banks' ATM or there is a specified one?

biolabee: Well done carmi you no dey sleep

Lol,Well no be so.Its just that,once I leave my bed in the morning,I hardly have a quiet time to draft and post my own comments here .Happy weekend

@ Ivynwa.good to see you again.where have you been?Missed you and your posts.

Talking about honesty,I can't lie here.I rather not say it at all.

Babe you see this tradtional wedding/white wedding thing.I have decided not put my mouth in it again.I really don't know if am offending God or not.

But to be on the safe side,I have decide to wait for the right man/ time. I also pray my husband and I should be able to afford doing both of them the same time.Shikena.

@Ichidodo,you have to sit down and ask your self these questions
You may choose to answer it here or otherwise.
How old was she when she left?and how old is she now?Younger ladies tend to act according to what people say than what they want .The truth is that most of them are yet to know what they want sef,

Their life is still developing so they are easily influenced. Perharps she left,just to please someone/some people. But now her eyes have cleared. Please find out what EXACTLY happened .I wish she will be honest with you.

How long has she been away?and you need to find out what kind of life she has been leading while she was away.(Very Important).No matter how dirty it was,you deserve to know. Every bit of it.

Personally,I hate someone trying to play 'sharp' on me. Thinking,I won't find out? Oh no ,I hate it.

Why did she come back?. You need to look her in the eyes and ask her that.
She really has to be remorseful about what she did.

I mean she can't just walk in and out of someone's life any how she likes. No,its not done that way. She should understand that you have some feelings too.

Do you still love her and you are ready to live with the memory of what she did to you ?I mean never to spring it up in the future?Out of anger or whatever.

Or are you just going back to take your own pound of flesh?its tempting you know.

I hope you don't have anyother girlfriend now?Cos going back to this one would mean pushing another person away.

I will personally k*ll you if you try it!

Finally,she has not said she wants you back,please don't assume yet.Don't make it look as if

"Phew!Oh baaaby where have you been?I have been waiting for you?please come into my arms"

No. Make her ask for it. Control yourself for some time and see if she will still tag along. Or if she will give you this

*See -this -guy -o,he -is- not- even- serious. Does -he- not- know- that- am doing -him -a -favour- by -coming back?"kind of attitude.

Other wise she will take you for granted. Am a woman,sometimes we need some rough hands

N.B,she might not open up 100%,but let her do some talking,she owes you an explanation

I wish you luck

simayanki4real:
*hugs*

Thanks,hope you got my mail?

ichidodo: So here i was at work today,sorting out some margins and inventories, then all of a sudden my phone buzzed. Guess whooooo?! My Ex!! For the first time this year she called me trying to know what 's up. For some one that didnt want to have anything to do with me, i guess am still in shock with that call. I must note that we spoke about the mundane scared of broaching the subject but i sense she wants me back and by GOD i DO want her back but am scared of heartbreak. What do i do?

Hmmmm.....the same one you dated for nine years?This is very sensitive.

I will post mine tomorrow.I for one CANNOT have anything emotional /intimate with my Ex,there is a reason why he bacame an ex in the first place.

Though in your case,it is kinda different,cos she was the one that left you.like I said,I will be back much later.perharps tomorrow but you have a lot of question to answer(if you don't mind)

Idowuogbo: Lmfaoo! Carme, Abeg no woundjure me wiv laff o! Chei! U go fear eyebrow na

Babe,guys are really suffering,some ladies sha!

I sincerely hope and pray that none of the single ladies here wears such make up.

I hope?

If I were a guy ,I won't even get close.

This might be one of the reasons why no guy is coming or taking some ladies serious