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@simanyaki,longest time.

I concur with what you said. Personally,and I mean it,a Car does not mean rich to me. Where I stay,some guys drive latest model of cars,but they don't have a house. I mean they squat!

So I pity for ladies who go after guys ,just because he has a car.
Something can happen to the Car the next minute and that same car would become a liability. That's when we will know who is rich. When your mechanic hands you the bill,you will know how far.


@ all the dolls in the house ,Its not about cars o!,things change. Can he step up the game in years to come?

The picture below would explain better.

Who knows where the fast forward button is?There is a particular scene I want to watch.

*shy*

^^,thank you.

Folloooooowing!

fpeter: I'M GLAD I FOUND THIS THREAD FOR SINGLES LIKE YOURS TRULY..
I'M GOING THROUGH A PHASE TOO RIGHT NOW BUT THIS WILL HELP ME HEAL.

You are welcome sweet.It's like almost everyone has been through a 'lonely phase'.I was once down too,but trust me AM FINE NOW!

You will be fine too

Themaingate: pls i am not getting something right

is http://uniben-kofa.waeup.org the official website or www.uniben.edu/‎ ?

and i hope http://uniben-kofa.waeup.org is not a scam ?

just curious

thanks for your polite response

No,it's not scam.its their official students portal.Handles everything about admission and exams

Moji12: Hello house,dis Mojidoll saying hi n welldone for d wonderful job displayed in here,it has really help to lift ma spirit.Kudos ladies n to d guys aswell. Winx.

Hi,Mojidoll,welcome to you and all the new posters.

This is to all the guys advertising themselves here,phone numbers,emails and PINs.Someone even uploaded picture.lol

Trust me no sensible lady will call, to start a friendship with you.

Women are not wired that way.We want to be approached,not the other way round.Sorry,but that's our nature.

alutacontinua: Jennydoll, Oldjenny, jennybig, carmiedoll, i think you have to come up with something for old peeps married peeps like Jenny. They cannot also be dolls na, can they? Besides, Jenny, you're highly welcome.

Lol,maybe dollish Mama,or Mama dolla.But I know she might wanna keep her name.

Joyola o!,where are you?.Advice don jabrata.

^^,lutadoll,you might be right,but we can only respect her emotions by working with what she told us.

She said she knows fully well that he is a player

Babe,when you hear the word'player'
You need to Usainbolt sharp sharp!.Those guys are terrible

@ cofoe,you are welcome to the thread dear.

@madridsta,am fine thanks

@ all,this issue at hand might not sound serious,but trust me,this is how adultrey starts cos even married people experience this nonsense.Men and women alike

The better you know how to handle such people the better.

The worst scenario is that of men.I mean when a woman want to floor a man,trust me,na like this e dey start.From those baaaad stares,to brushing her butts or bossoms past you pretending she didn't notice.

Before you know it,you are cheating on your partner with some riffraff.

We should learn to discipline our emotions and hormones.I believe it prevents a lot of had-I-known..

@joydear,if you choose to go with my advice

Note that the first time you get close to him,the heat will increase,make you uncomfortable but when you pass that test you are good to go.

You should also know that it's forward- forward. Don't get close to him,then all of a sudden you stop. If you do that are legend,as in gone. And please catapult that sex thing from your mind pleeeeeease ,am begging you!.

It will only make you weak
If you know you can't handle this,please go with Cofoe and Cmega's advice. Use the ignore button!

@Madridsta,Its alright .If we all agree on one opinion,here would be less interesting and less fun.

I understand what you mean,but if you read my post again you will see where I warned her, this part.

carmelion: Dear joy,what I will advise you to do is risky cos you might want to do it and he will floor you.
.

I only prescribed this for her cos it worked for me,yes I gave the guy full beam,he had to lower his own by force.(Still office things)

And when I said make friends with him,I meant 'friend'-more of an acquaintance. No visitations/staying alone things She has to block,as in obstruct her mind,and know what she her mission is. Else she will be floored.

^^thanks Joy.Welcome to the thread.

The best way to handle your fears and problems is to face them squarely. Running away will only show your weakness thereby,giving it advantage over you.


Dear joy,what I will advise you to do is risky cos you might want to do it and he will floor you.


He is enjoying himself making you uncomfortable,he is seducing your mind. Yes he is that good in the art.
But you don't want him right?

Ok,here we go

From today,don't wait for him to look at you first,and then you remove your eyes,cos you are shy.No,let the tables turn. Start looking at him first. Let him turn and discover that you are staring at him.

Don't wait for him to come to you first,go to him.Get close to him,by making friends with his friends.Before you know it,you are in the circle. Ask him petty questions like "how was your weekend"?,"I didn't see you yesterday,are you alright"?


This would either wake him up from his day-dream or it would make him think that you are admiring him,then he would be forced to open his mouth. If the latter happens,then you can lash him very,very well. That would get him confused.


He will then know his boundaries,as in you are not one his play toys. Trust me,If you are bold enough to do this,thank me later.

Please am yet to se the print or submit button.Anybody here please?

@Op,I bury my face in shame to hear this type of story. So sorry about what you are passing through now. it can destroy one mentally.

As regards your question,am not a lawyer,so I don't really know the process but I think its do able. I have seen people do it.

Please,move away from her fast!,at least for now. Have in mind that you will have to forgive her,at least as a Christian, but for now, you need to heal psychologically,and please don't ever think it was your fault.

You were man enough ,for her to have married you in the first place. A new environment would help you better too.

A marriage as young as 4yrs?mistake indeed!*SMH*

Have you guys seen this thread?

How did you meet your partner?
Hilarious I tell you,kai!NLanders sha

Below is the link


https://www.nairaland.com/560674/how-did-meet-partner

madridsta007: Hmmmmmm

What is hmmmmmm?That's the general gospel truth

alutacontinua: This thread has been too gentle these days.
I wanna throw out a question to dolls...CAN YOU DATE AN UNATTRACTIVE GUY?
We all know that most ladies' fantasies and dreams is the "TDH" thing but assuming there's this guy who cares about you deeply and you're 60% sure he loves you (no mind me, I no dey bliv say person love another person 100% until I see undeniable proof) but the problem is that he's not tall or handsome. Infact, he's not just there, HE'S UGLY! Dolls, would you still agree to date the guy?

Am speaking for my self o.

Who cares about ugliness?Not when the guy loves me, has a Yatch ,very neat,Godfearing and charges my battery(BANK ACCOUNT) full . Walahi,the whole ugliness would vanish.Handsomeness is in the eyes of the beholder you know


Erm.........what was the kweshon again?whether I can date him?.Yes!,I an date him

madridsta007: On behalf of carmedoll, I say thank you

Thanks Chuks

Cutejay: Hmmmmm! interesting been a while i commented just been following from the sidelines
had to comment cuz this long distance issue concerns me.

[b]After my hrtbrk thing-i recently started dating a guy, he is Lagos and i am in Calabar-[/b]so far a day hasnt past without communication and that has helped a great deal in strenghtening our relationship although we see each other from time to time

i'll say communication trust and understanding is the key to a successful long distance relationship-i am enjoying the whole thing cuz i kinda like long distance relationships(it helps strenghtens my self dicipline and also prepares me for the future in case such situation arises when i am married maybe work, business and all that).

keep it coming guys i am learning.@ Carmydoll and all contributors i hail oo

Good to hear that you have gotten your grooove back babyAm happy for you!!!

Keep the communication candle burning.It sure does help.I wish you guys all the best

She is acting like a toad that she is.Mr brownJay said it all

Her make up artiste needs a cane.Is she an enemy?

@0p ,God bless you!

cmega123: you nailed it carmiedoll. Thanks for the advice. Keepsakes are very important like you said earlier.

You are welcome.Its not easy but God will surely help us.

Lastly,you have the time frame. Personally I don't encourage long distance relationships to be stretched. Make it short and save your self some mental stress

Now this exclusively for the ladies. Days are gone when girls used to shy away from asking their man,his plan for 'Us'.If you are beginning to feel the pressure,open your mouth and ask him. Especially these yankee guys that we see once in 10yrs.Tell him that other guys are coming for you,and you are turning them down cos of the love you have for him.

Ask him questions like

"Honey(or whatever name you call him),where are we going?,what exactly am I to you"?

When next are you coming back?am not getting any younger you know?

Weird right?you don't want to sound desperate abi?

I understand but its better than staying there ,looking like Lucozade,


I have discovered that more than 50% of men develop cold feets when it comes to commitment. They need a tiny,little ,gentle push.
Don't stay there ,waiting Indefinitely. Tell him the gospel truth,your time is going!

Above all,involve your creator in the matter.


Happy Sunday,everyone

Erm...........this is gonna be long and might not make sense at the end but that's my personal contribution.



@virginice, In my own opinion,the only thing that would make a distant relationship work is if BOTH parties are truly in love,disciplined and are ready to put their ENERGY into it.

Note the word energy,cos there is this popular saying that

"Falling in love is very easy,but STAYING in love is hard".

Following these steps does not guarantee success as only que sera sera,but let's pray it helps.

1.Out of sight they say is out of mind,so you have to work hard to be in each others mind. Communication is the key,the I.C.T world has really made thede things easier. Talk about Skype,Facebook video calls,voice notes, BBm. Its kinda cost-intensive I tell you, so you guys have to make sure its not one sided.

2.Then you talk about trust. One way to fight this,is knowing each other's daily routines. Plan when is appropriate to call, so that your partner does not end up missing your calls all the time,there by raising suspicions/issues of infidelity.

For instance, a lady who is an undergraduate/a student,has more time to pick her phone ,than her boyfriend who is a Doctor/a teller in the bank/a pilot/a host/MOG/e.t.c.

There are times when you call these people and they can't pick their phones. Its annoying right?but it wasn't deliberate.
And then you have the poor internet connections,where you send a message today,and the person receives it tomorrow. Understand that you were not ignored on purpose. Lol

3.You can also bring in a third party. For instance ,he /she calls your phone and its not available,cos you are charging it somewhere,or you forgot it at home,or whatever. Is there someone else he/she can call?Not picking your phone can get your sweetheart tensed you know?

So how about,bringing him closer to a room mate?,a colleague at work?your best friend?whoever you feel comfortable with. So just for a back up,an alternatives means of reaching you?.....Just saying..

3.Mind and reduce the number of people you share your thoughts with. When you are in a distant relationship,people just make you loose focus by feeding you with doubts.

"Hmmm...are you sure he/she does not have someone there?","How long will you wait for this guy sef,?,"A bird at hand is worth more plenty in the bush,babe,grab these suitors coming for you now,before its too late"."Guy stay there and be feeling faithful, while somebori is helping you arrange your thing"

You might shake it off at first,but trust me,gradually,it will start affecting your relationship. You have to be focused and build a wall around your partner and your relationship. don't let people in.

4.Then you have the gifts. These days we have online stores like Amazon,Ebay,Jumia and the rest. Shop online for each other and have it delivered at their house,school,office. Even guys wants to be pampered once in a while. Don't make it a one sided thing,save for it. One of my colleagues at the office does this for his girl almost every month(she is in Lasgidi).Make I no lie o, am tripping