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dayokanu: Reduce libido ke?

Have you met my cousin Nackson Dauda, I can introduce you guys

Abeg o.Nackson dauda?what a name!?lol

Efemena_xy: Lol!

Una go kill person on this thread!

Bwahahahahahahaha.....don't mind me,its under control.

dayokanu: I prefer personal experiences, How was it when you used it

I don't need it bro....am looking for the one that reduces libido

But I have seen a colleague of mine testify to it.

dayokanu: You know many ppl think going to a sex therapist is like you are already in the adult industry.

As per the oyel, This is getting interesting... Is it Olive Oyel crude or annointing

Gotchya!


Its called Zestra arousal oil for women.You can read more about it on
www.zestra.com

I got to know about it some years ago from a health and lifestyle magazine.
Heard its fire on its own.

@dayokanu....I understand everybit of view about sexual compatibility.But alos know that change is a constant thing in life.

That one that you choose because she likes it exactly the way you like might just become the opposite after some years.


I have seen threads of men complaining avout the libido of their wife,especailly after childbirth.What will you now do in such scenario?

dayokanu: I was one of her major advocate because I know very few women would do that for you.

They havent seen a sex therapist but in July they saw a marriage counsellor. they have taken 6 getaways in this yr alone from Florida to Niagara falls still na once in 2 months oo

While some ppl sit down in their one bedroom face me I face you without light or fan getting it like 8 times a week

Another one




On this family section alone I have quoted 3 posts in recent times, and given how African women dont like to even mention sex That shows many whom seem to be normal are actually suffering below

They don't need a marriage counsellor.I think they need. A sex therapist or an expert.

The sex therapist to work on the lady's psyche and the expert to guide them through.

Men do take some aid to boost their sex drive.Women have theirs too.I heard their one oil like that(I have forgotten the name,if I remember I will let you know).its for women.All she needs to do is to apply it down there.

She will rape her husband that day,he will not even have strength for other women,that is if he does not faint

*let me see if I can get the name of that oil*

Efemena_xy: he bolded part of your post - men's sex.u@l activities decline with age, while it increases for women. Men peak in their twenties and gradually decline while women peak in their 40's.

Really?I thought it was the opposite

It'salie:
wooooooooow!! Lyk big Wooow!!!!.

I took my time to read from page 1 to page 175, though it took me almost two wks but i didnt mind cos it was worth every second of my time.

Carmydoll, you are a darling, THUMBS UP TO YOU.

you might not know it but u hv really touched so many lives (especially mine) and prevented me from makin more mistakes, but at d same time understanding dat life is a risk only dat one should thread with caution and use ones head.

TUALE Carmydoll, infact i love u, (am not a lez though)

To others dat v made meaning contributions-- dailynews, maya, missblanche, nbright, aluta, 2sexy, passionate etc etc, 10 gbosas for una. 3 extra for passionate dat made it dis far.

am single and lonely though, i tot i was d only one passing tru d stage,and i was beginning to think am abnormal until i came across dis thrend. tanx Carmydoll, i hv learnt a lot!

You are welcome darling...love you too.

yellowpawpaw: Ikwokirikwo
What is ikwokirikwo?
Baby mama explain pls.
I'm not igbo

It means jigijigi

*runs away*

Phema: Too cheap?

Naa...just too serious

N1.5 mil?

Hmm....this is serious

Baby mama: In the earlier years of marriage,whenever we were so mad at each other we slept separately
That is a recipe for disaster
But we made a conscious effort never to do that again
Even when we can't stand one another,we remain on that same bed,bathe in the same bathroom,dress in the same closet.
Now how long can you be mad at someone while watching them bathe and dress up or lay in bed beside you especially someone you have great SE.xual chemistry with?
Not too long
It works,believe me


There is no man that cannot be disarmed by SE.x
Anybody can quote me on that
No man,that man is not born
There is no action I have taken to wrong my husband that cannot be wiped away in an instant by a good ikwokirikwo.
It is not juju o
Not juju at all at all

This must be formular 1,I mean the main formular.I read this somewhere else too.somebody like me that likes sulking

Hmmm....God help us

Baby mama: dealing with childlessness

Sadly not all couples are blessed with children when they want them.Some may have to wait years and sometimes it could cause a lot of tension.
Women somehow at the back of their minds feel their positions in marriage are more secure when they have children, especially a male child in our African culture.

Sadly also many of our men succumb to the pressure most of the time to look elsewhere for an "heir".Even those that started off sticking by their wives,down the road cave in to soceital pressure from family (Usually) to have children to carry on the family name and I have friends and relatives that have been those wives and I have shared in their pain.

Having seen this sort of thing one too often,I'll advise any married woman who wants to conceive and hasn't to consider adoptions after some years.
IMHO it is not faithlessness.Thare are women who have adopted and then went on to have their own children.Some attribute it to a decrease in the stress level after having an adoped child making it easier to conceive.
If I were in that situation,that's what I would I would do.
Adopted children are just as precious as one's biological children.

The other reason I would advise on adoption is from some hard experiences some friends and family members have suffered.
Some from hard core born again Christians at the time of marriage.
I have seen women spend 10-15 years with a man praying and believing God for a child and one day he literally wakes up and marries a second wife or keeps a lover for child bearing purposes.
This happened to a dear friend of mine married to a pastor,the only son of his parents
He finally succumbed to pressure
The pain is unimaginable and I feel it wouldn't hurt as much if she had adopted kids of her own.
In that case, her time and energy would be spent spent loving and taking care of her kids rather than mourning the loss of a philandering spouse and spending her energy trying to win him back from the other woman.
This is just my opinion again.
But who knows
I could be wrong.

You couldn't have said it any better

teeo: LOL, Abeg relax let her take it slow and steady. There is a lot more to marriage than sex. Ride on baby mama.

My dear,am taliking about the one. That scares me the most na

I must have a seperate room with big padlock so that any day the reverse is the case,I will go there and hide(joking)

Ok,let's take it one at a time.buti will be glad if we get there.Oya ride on

@baby mama...pls can we quickly rush to the Sex part.I heard men get hornier as they get older,where as in women the reverse is the case.

How do married couples handle this because its not easy being a mum and a wife o.

Following and learning,Thanks

passionate88: Easier said than done. Think about when you started dating newly, if a guy had given you things like this would you have accepted it with happiness?, wouldn't u have discussed abt him with ur friends and laughd over his "brokeness" and hw he should go get money b4 thinkin of dating cos afterall "no b love u go chop".

I would have gone ahead to tell you about my very first love.He gave me the little he had even ashe was yet to get secure a job.But let me save you the story,of why we didn't get married even though he gave me a ring, cos you won't believe me.You always have something negative to say about girls.

Never mind...one day someone will walk into your life and make you see things differently.I just hope it happens soon

I won't write on this again.Perharps somebody else will take it from here.

passionate88: What abt when you love someone and you dan't have something to give?.

It depends on what you consider worth giving.first observe the kind of person she is ,there is always something you can afford.

If she likes music,get her N100 CD plate of that musician

She likes fashion,get her N200 fashion magazine,get her a beautiful scarf or even a N200 earing or N500 3-in-1 bangle.Let something just come from you!

You know one thing about gifts?Its not the price.Its the fact that you were actually thinking about her at that moment.

When you have N400 airtime in your phone,transfer N200 to her line.Such surprise gifts are just mind blowing.

I know you are a student,I just hope you find a good girl,but erase that mind set.Love is not expensive,though it will cost you something.

But out love,you won't feel it.

passionate88: Are there girls who can date a guy without gifts or favours?.

When you love someone,giving them gifts and granting them favours won't be a task neither would it be news.

beau49: Hello everyone....well I dnt knw wat 2 call my situation buh lemme explain....

M in my early twenties n currently doin my youth service,aldoh m single nt dat I mind cus I enjoy being single buh the issue is lots of guyz(some gud n odas nt so gud) have cum 2 ask me out buh I always turn dem dwn nt becus I don't want 2 date buh becus m nt jes feeling dem(i.e I dnt see dem as pple I can date,nt in a bad way doh) n I dnt want 2 go in2 any relationship out of pity or becus m getting old or sumtin....m a believer of being friends b4 goin in2 a relationship buh most guys seems 2 tink odawise.

So also i bliv in d 'no sex b4 marriage tin' buh my fear is dat d guy may nt agree n dis is also anoda issue dat is stoppin me 4rm considering any relationship,which is y I av decide 2 b financially independent b4 going in2 any relationship wat so ever.

My question nw is m I deceivin myself or jes postponing d inevitable(i.e sex)cus almost everywhere u luk,u hardly see a relationship without sex even friends r nt helpin matterz n abt being friends first b4 becuming partners is it possible or I shud jes agree n start one immediately m asked?

#Wud really appreciate ur response....Thankz

Hi beau,
There is nothing wrong with you,don't get worked up.If you are not feeling them,there is nothing anyone can do about it.Feelings come from within,it is not forced.

All I can tell you is you should not write all of them off.In as much you are not promising them anything,give one or two of them a chance.By chance I mean,let them hang around.Sometimes when we get close to people,we discover who they really are.You might like them you know.


Except if your reasons are based on tribe,religion,class,educational background.e.t.c.

In this case,Only you can make that decision.Please keep on being good.There are still men who will date you without sex.Very few,but they still exist.

All the best and keep us posted

Phema: I'm not doing Asoebi. Don't have that strength. Guests will just wear a touch the colors of the day. Makes the wedding much more versatile.

Kai,this babe,you are my type o.I gat no strength for that too.I have never bought Asoebi before.Its usually for free,so I don't know how to sell mine o

Well,when the time comes for me,am sure going to utilise whatever I have then to achieve a colourful wedding.

Some wedding items are classic and therefore only the best should be presented,while others can be managed or can be forgone.

These are order of priority.

The couples attire:the couple should make sure they look their BEST on that day.its their day.

The location:Don't send out invitations only for people to come around and regret why they came.Some will spend half of their time trying to locate their venue.Place banners and direction posts

Photography:please get a good photographer.You won't wear that cinderell a again.Your Video coverage should be nothing but the best too
Sourvenirs.This is where I hope I won't disagree with my future husband cos I don't like those type that has the couples photographs on it.And then those carton bags we share here in Nigeria.That's a waste of money.Get something else within the same price.
The cake:Why build a house all in the name of a wedding cake?,its just a cake

Wedding programme/brochure:That thing is another avenue for wasting money.After your wedding day,it becomes a waste because the following Saturday is another person's wedding.Nobody will open a library for wedding brochures.I prefer the one page programme,more like a scroll.just place it on each table.

There is life after wedding biko

Woow ,that,s quiet expensive.Now I know why brides try just few clothes.These bridals bussiness is money o.

Erm...fuschia pink and royal blue,hmmm

Then pepper red.Gorgeous colours I must say. Did you sell your asoebi or you gave it out for them to sew?.

Phema: So, I went wedding dress shopping today. . ......

And why does one have to pay as much as 1k to try on a dress?

Needless to say, I didn't buy anyone. I'm seriously considering risking ordering online. Hoping I don't get burnt.

Wait a minute,am just hearing this for the 1st time?N1,000 per dress? Or what?

alutacontinua: Don't be too sure about the bolded!

I am sure!!

Hi phema,congrats in advance.All ladies like weddings so am pretty sure I will enjoy this thread

What's your colour theme and will you do the second dress thingy?

habib55: Tanx i realy apriciate.2 ansa ur questions.1.Am 23yrs while it i she might b between 22-24yrs. 2.No i have not spoken 2 her in any form abt 4rm d occational hi's and hello's,nd i admire her alot. 3.i hv dated few gals it realy bn a while,d last i had a galfrnd was 2011. 4.yes she work n d mall.tnx

Well.I don't encourage romantic relationships between two people working in the same place except if one of you is planning to leave.

Try getting close to her but are you sure she is not in any relationship as that might be another obstacle.Don't go professing your love for her immidiately.Be friendly with her,show her some signs(that should not include giving her money)though you can buy her lunch once in a while.

Women are quick to understand when a man is interested in them.If she encourages it and feels comfortable around you then you can go ahead and define your relationship.

Very important:Don't rush her or bug her life with phone calls,else you become a pest.Let her set the pace,just tag along.
I wish you luck

habib55: hello evry1,i knw dz might nt b d write thread but i realy need help,ther's dz gal at d mall where i work,she s prety,smart nd fun 2 b wit nd i like her,d problem here s dat i would lyk us 2 b frnd bt i probly dn't have an idea how 2 go abt it.pls i need ur advice.tnx

May I know how old both of you are?and if you have spoken to her before or you are just admiring her from afar?

Have you dated before?Does she work at the mall too?

She sees you as a big fish in the net so she wants to make sure you don't escape.

Hahahahahaha .Were we there, when you guys exchanged numbers ?,hint us when she relocates to lasgidi to keep a close eye on you.

@op,the way you sing this 800k sha.
Where you eyeing maitama and asokoro before?that's for people that has arrived.

With 250-300K,you can get a self cointain in so Efab estate,Peace court Estate in galadimawa ,in kabusa and federal housing lugbe,you can get for 200k.Apo resettlement is affordable too, If you pay now,it will take you till nest Dec instead of May.


I doubt if that house is firm enough cos I did not see any iron/metal rod there.Your foundation is poor,sleep with one eyes open incase.All the same I admire your courage and your managerial skills.This must have earned you some priceless experience too.but move there before rainy season.

Congrats on your new house

Meanwhile,as we discuss some vital issues here

I have come to discover that there so may 'types' of single ladies

1.Those who are single because guys no longer approach them.May be cos of age or their beauty or their social status (so everyone assumes they are married or in a serious relationship or not intersted in men)

2.Those who have so many guys around them,they don't know whom to choose.So they are taking their time to know whom to take serious.

3.Those who have serious guys asking for their hand in marriage but there are so many buts.They see the guy as a wrong guy .So they are waiting for the right guy to come,someone who they are compatible with in key areas of life.A friend of mine is As and is always meeting As guys.Sometimes she breaks down and cry.Very sad

4.The baby mamas:I don't need to say much here,though these days its not really a hindrance.

5.And then those who are still leaking their wounds.Nursing a heart break and not emotionally ready for a relationship.

6.The Busy woman:The bankers and the top shot Auditors can explain better.No time for dates let a lot having quality time with your partner.


One of these group defines you?

Wait,yes wait...He will find you.Desperation will only land you in regret.