Plot twist:

she's the one cheating. Her shit tests are to make the equation complete so that she won't feel guilty about her infidelity when caught. Or to mellow the unrest of her pricking conscience.

Trust is a key factor in a relationship. When the parties start doubting themselves, the relationship is heading to Abaddon.

Her fears are reasonable, in that many men aren't faithful to their marriage vows. A promiscuous married man is a menace to his family. The better, polygamy rather than playing hide and seek with the skirts and wrappers outside.

Your wife might trust you. But news from outside tends to push her to verify your faithfulness.

Counterintuitive, a woman who subjects you to such rigorous, intimidating, and infuriating tests is a woman who sees you as her equal or below her.
If not, she'll fear losing you rather than making you jump hurdles and run through tunnels.

She knows you too well. She has sensed a weakness in your armor and exploring it to her advantage. The continuous tests to the extent of hiring a potential hoe is all you need to know. A woman who fears or respects you wouldn't tour that length. Not after you've proved your fidelity with clean results.

In common parlance, we say "She don see you finish".

She will never try this with any of her celebrity male crush or a man she admires secretly. Because under 2 seconds they've thrown her out of the window.

A woman always misbehaves when she knows that she's the only one in the scene. This is different from her being jealous and trying to guard her territory - her husband.

You need to reverse this game by calling her bluffs.

No need for shouting and raising your shoulders to claim macho at home.

Wake her up at night and tell her if she ever repeats such nonsense in whatever form you'll throw her out. Let her know that she isn't the only woman on earth.

Learn to dress more nicely now. Wear fitted clothes and perfume. It's time to pepper your wife. Make her feel jealous. You're sending a message. If she's a woman that has sense and self-awareness she will start to comport. Else, you know what to do from there.

Perhaps the plot twist is true. But if you feel she's cheating on you and projecting it to you, go under secret surveillance till you catch her red-handed. I will help you to throw her out.

Go reclaim your masculinity now.

Thanks.

Have a stainless pride.

Martinez39s:
Thanks a lot. I am exploring some options. In addition to that, my cousin just promised to link me with two sure plugs.

Finally, I am curious, which brand of laptop do you think I should go for? HP or Dell?

I have never used Dell. I got Hp.

However, the Dell Latitude E4770 ( hope I got the numbers right) my little colleague got on Saturday is beautiful and has the features you talked about and more.

When choosing gadgets, I go for the one that has many technicians who can repair them and readily available parts. HP wins on that end. + able to do what I intend for it.

With your budget, you can access any of the brands and models you desire before making a final buy.

Thanks.

Topman7:


Forget that blogging stuff and go set up a YouTube channel.

One guy just takes his camera around showing fine houses and mansions and he has blown big time with over a million subscribers. That’s major income.

Just choose your favourite niche and start a YT channel. You can even be sampling Naija food in Buka and be uploading videos on that.

Or you can focus on club scene, or showing new projects and infrastructure, or traditional festivals, etc. Your target audience should be diaspora guys in US, UK etc.

Imagine being in their shoes. What videos would YOU love to see about Naija?

Brainstorm on that, and then supply it.

Be committed. Upload consistently. You will clean up.

The algorithm is a bigger challenge on social media. But once it clicks, boom.

Did your friend have to pay for some boosting and likes?

Because growing on YouTube is easier said than what's beneath the carpet.

Thanks for the contribution.

Look for a friend or neighbor that sells or knows someone that sells. It helps ensure that you're getting something good.

Many in Computer Village or anywhere else will run you street-smart if they sense you are a novice buyer.

I can share a plug with you. But first, confirm the above.

Thanks.

iLegendd:
If you tell me the psychology behind this question I asked this single lady below, I owe you 10k card. Check the image below to see what I asked her.

From her caption, she doesn't have a partner based on any of these reasons:

1. Heartbreaks.
2. Fear of heartbreak.
3. Religious reasons.
4. Health reasons.

The psychology behind that question: you come as a person who understands that fear. And you came painting it on her face.

You're simply telling her that, "Hey, I know your burden. I understand your fears. I will be the right person for you".

Rather than coming as a lover directly, you're coming as a guardian angel. Sorry, a demon with an angel's cloak. You've postponed your feasting to the future.

You want to make her first feel relaxed before launching your soft fleshy pointed elongated missile.

Other men will tend to present themselves as good partners and preach about how they'll take care of her and their family lineage. But her fears will weed them out because they don't understand her real fears and concerns.

It's you who understands that fear. It is you who want to make her overcome that fear. It is you she'll desire if you apply small pressure.

She wants to feel secure before submitting to a man.
And it's that security you are bringing. Only that she'll be locked behind a blessed penis.

Thanks.

Everything in this life involves work.

The problem is that we're blinded by aesthetics, stories, and testimonies and think success is like sleeping at night and waking up to dawn with loads of goodies at the doorstep.

There are many means of survival aside engaging in the maneuvering and tactics of fraudulent activities.

Fraudsters aren't in their numbers compared to seas of genuine hustlers. You don't see it because you're veiled by the garment of aesthetics, makeup, and easy quick fixes.

Illegal activities involve tough work.
Legal activities involve tough work.

It depends on the amount of energy you'll put into any of them and the number of sleepless nights you'll have to stay awake to get what you desire.

If you've been doing something that hasn't been fetching you money, you either improve the operation, re-strategize or try something better.

The possibility of having a good nation like the Western world in Nigeria and Africa is at least more than a century and more from now.

So better get used to the system and find ways to leverage and set yourself free from this unfortunate state of affairs.

Legal or illegal, be deliberate about it and you'll succeed.

The downside of going the illegal route is the consequences of physical maltreatment and losses you may experience when your luck is exhausted. But it is still a matter of knowing your game well, which will make you like a slippery eel that can't be caught with wet palms.

No too much whining.
No too much overthinking.
No too much complaints.

Nobody is in a race to abandon theirs to come help you.

Just put on your vest and toolkit. Start working.

Thanks.

A tribe called Judah is a movie that features the lengths humans will go to meet their needs and protect the ones they love.

Not only that, the movie features one of the toughest debates running through generations and centuries: spousal vs motherly love—which is greater?

By the way, Testimony is the kind of woman every young man must push to experience in their lifetime, either as a girlfriend or a wife.
Jedidiah Judah is the zenith of human development—the balanced man.

Funke Akindele in her movie, featuring as Jedidiah Judah, buttresses the fact that women are loyal to their feelings and will stretch forth to fulfill their desires in matters of love and romance, as clearly expressed in her late teenage years.

Despite her father being a pastor, she lusts after the forbidden fruit, which leads to her getting pregnant at a young age, further leading to her procreating five children who represent three philosophical dimensions of humans. Of course, the mistakes of her early years are the foundational problem she continued to wrestle with even in her middle age.

Emeka Judah and Adamu Judah are representations of good men: men of competence and honor; men who value and rank character and reputation above all things; men who will rather move slowly to their destination than run at a high speed that will be detrimental to other commuters.

They are the first and second sons of Jedidiah Judah, respectively. However, as with all men, temptation amid a greater problem is the true test of integrity. Both men fell on the last day, however, in the pursuit of a course that transcended their bellies and pockets.

Pere Judah, the third son and Shina Judah, the fourth son of Jedidiah Judah, are representations of bad men. They are sociopathic sons who will sail seas, run through valleys, and climb high mountains to satisfy their desires.

Of course, in their pursuit of their gains, they don’t mind sacrificing as many individuals who stand as barriers. They are men rooted in themselves. A complete antithesis of their eldest brothers. Ditto for C and K furniture manager, Collette.
However, Collette wasn’t as melodramatic as Shina but as sleek as Pere, both always waiting for their victims to lie low or appear weak before striking.

The average man is timid, less obsessive, and just wants to mind his business by maintaining his little lane. This is a lukewarm character. It’s void of great ambitions, rooted in mediocrity, which veneers itself in the cloak of “Just be yourself”. Ejiro Judah, the fifth and last son of Jedidiah Judah, is a representation of such men.

Ejiro’s love affair with his girlfriend, Testimony, was a contributing factor in why he pushed to the heights of his creative ability and flare for danger. Though a fearful man, Testimony never made him feel relaxed.

She helps him in his career as an artist by selling his art with him and also engaging in a pitiful adventure in search of money. Both loved each other sincerely. Testimony is evidence that women who genuinely desire their men will ride with them in sunshine and rainfall.

Jedidiah Judah will do anything for her boys in whatever way she can. A kind of mother who won't offer her bad sons as scapegoats for public scrutiny but will discipline them indoors.

However, her arms of discipline were weak due to the absence of a father figure and an older wise person in the family. She tried her best, but it was never enough. Her past mistakes became her daily nightmares.

Despite her mistakes, she was ready to make amendments. She never allowed herself to get completely lost in her predicaments; she caught humor, jokes, songs, and dances. Hence, her alias—Blacks don’t crack.

She is a representation of Black Africans who still find moments of joy and hope despite their difficulties, failings, and poverty. She even went beyond her poverty to offer hope and give joy to other poor women by providing them with little funds for their specific purposes.

C and K furniture owner added more verification on the fact that “not all that glitters is gold”. Hiding behind furniture making and sales, the company was a pipeline for money laundering. He was not an excellent entrepreneur as many thought.
He was a thief and illegal businessman, albeit silent and sleek like Pere Judah but richer than him because of the differences in their scale of theft. The former is an international thief, while the latter is a local thief.

Ironically, the bigger thief couldn’t swallow a teaspoon of his medicine when he was attacked; he sought justice and fairness but fell into the hole he had dug for his enemies.

Jedidiah Judah isn’t among the saints like her sons, Emeka and Adamu. But she had a kind heart. Though not muscularly built and skilled like a warrior, she had her sons as her bow and arrow to unleash discipline and judgment upon those who would cause pain to the weak.

She is a prototype of a balanced man, exhibiting both kindness and ruthlessness at appropriate times. This makes “A Tribe Called Judah” a good movie to watch.

Here:https://x.com/baba_cave/status/1746877797723681093?s=20

Aside from the rare possibility of a mutation, following Occam's razor, differences in results are due to:

1. Wrong analysis.

2. Rendering different results to different patients. Maybe due to workload carelessness or negligence. No excuse, however.

3. Purposeful fake medical results.

Thanks.

When I say 'I love you" I'm referring to her boobs, not her.

Curvy-shaped boobs, gently folded within the arms of the brassier parted by a hollow body of flesh that is now her chest spikes my libido.

When my eyes pierce through her clothes, what I see is God's graciousness.

They dance for joy and my smile is to take them with the soft flesh of my palms. To unleash them, to free them from that mask called a bra, and breathe fresh air, of life from my nostrils and guts.

At the onset of romance, I make sure my hands secure them and ensure their protection. The nipples respond safely by standing erect.

The militaristic mission of my fingers to where the breasts are being held hostage is where I will go a thousand times and more.

They love the affection of my forefinger and thumb in action. The nipples know this. The areola wants my tongue to circle it. The soft round orange breasts are happy to welcome their king.

My mouth on the left breast sends purified wind into her carefully sculpted and tiny holes and my right palm tells the right breast that she's safe.

Left and right breasts desire my delicate palms and my mouth. They want the touch of love and the kisses of god.

And I never fail to ensure they are satisfied because their mother moans as she squeezes my bedsheets, finding an anchor at the surface of the mattress. Protruding her whole thoracic structure for more action, more kisses, more sucking of her two-daughter breasts.

I can see their worries when I'm about to leave them. But as a man, I got other militaristic missions.

I do promise them I will return as I carefully ensure their protection when sending them back to wear their bra mask.

"Breast is life".

CaveAdullam:


When discussing economic problems, what I have majorly come across is the burden placed on the government.

First time I'm reading a book that shifts the burden to the masses.

Notwithstanding, every analysis is based on a particular angle which leads to the same end: economic prosperity.

The government still has many functions to display. Policies, legislation, and oversight from their angle will go a long way in manifesting growth and development.

The unfortunate aspect of African politics and economy is that there is already an established template for growth and sustainability, yet we are all looking the wrong way and proudly walking on the wrong path.

That's why I always project that light will dawn on Africa maybe 100 - 1000 years from now. But as for the moment, we're still confused as a people, nation, and continent. Which will make progress be accomplished at a snail-paced.

Before that time, it's left for each individual to lift themselves from their shackles. Either through tough work and/or cooperation. Because help is far from the African continent.

Sigh.

IbeOkehie and Ednut1, are also good with their posts. Very realistic + they have the experience inside their bags.

Kudos, man.

Thanks.

This has been my stance over time.

And the author is about to shake my belief.

Cc. Gerrard59

Regex:


What book was that? Ejor

Below.

Gerrard59:


Thanks for the mention.

That book was what made me understand corruption is not necessarily Nigeria's problem but the over-dependence on government entities. The government has no business in the business of business. It should act as a regulatory force, not operating.

My stance on statistics is based on personal beliefs and academic background: in my field (right from undergrad), if you say anything, you must support it with facts. You cannot just say something and go like that. Expect a barrage of questions: how, why, where, what, which, why not, etc. At first, e go be as if the questionnaires hate you, but it helped me organise the way I see things. Nothing like trust me bro or I no fit lie give you or dem tell me say. That behaviour nearly cause problem with me and my departmental mates then. But with time, anyone discussing issues with me was careful at making categorical statements, because I will ask for the source.

Another moniker of mention is IbeOkehie: He made me understand Nigerians don't own land, there is still subsidy on petroleum products, and I like his capitalistic mentality. I thought I was a profound capitalist until I came across his posts.

When discussing economic problems, what I have majorly come across is the burden placed on the government.

First time I'm reading a book that shifts the burden to the masses.

Notwithstanding, every analysis is based on a particular angle which leads to the same end: economic prosperity.

The government still has many functions to display. Policies, legislation, and oversight from their angle will go a long way in manifesting growth and development.

The unfortunate aspect of African politics and economy is that there is already an established template for growth and sustainability, yet we are all looking the wrong way and proudly walking on the wrong path.

That's why I always project that light will dawn on Africa maybe 100 - 1000 years from now. But as for the moment, we're still confused as a people, nation, and continent. Which will make progress be accomplished at a snail-paced.

Before that time, it's left for each individual to lift themselves from their shackles. Either through tough work and/or cooperation. Because help is far from the African continent.

Sigh.

IbeOkehie and Ednut1, are also good with their posts. Very realistic + they have the experience inside their bags.

Kudos, man.

Thanks.

She's simply testing your boundaries unconsciously.

It's an evolutionary instinct to check if their man is capable of leading them and the entire family.

Women are emotional. They reason from a place of fear and emotions. That's the essence of those constant checkups. They need to be assured that their man is safe to keep them safe.

That's why as a man, you must be fit enough to rule yourself before trying to lead a family. Because incapable men will lead the family astray, and most times when they allow themselves to be controlled by the dictates of their woman all in the name of love and romance.

This doesn't overrule the fact that a woman doesn't have anything to offer in the marriage and her family. That's where you as a man, and a capable leader fit in as a filter to weigh and understand her point of view - if to accept or discard it.

Women and children alike hastens to be in charge and control. You see them haranguing to be drivers intending to be on the steering wheel. Give them that opportunity and they'll crash against a wall. Because they see things from a myopic and emotional state.

Your wife will respect you more when you don't give in to her whims and caprices. She may resent you outwardly, however, within her, she's receiving signals that you are not a gullible man who can be oscillated at will.
So she will try to win your heart through many trials and failed attempts.

The best you can do is to build up to become a more competent leader who can hold the family and that she can trust. Let her understand what's at stake and why she must build herself to become capable and act accordingly.

Thanks.

Martinez39s:
Your foolishness doesn't surprise me one bit. Your skull must be empty for you to claim that random person were interviewed.

I can bet my balls that he didn't even have enough data to watch half of episode 1 not to talk of the 3 episodes.

The idiot said "random people".

His case is stupidity minced with arrogance.

Unfortunately, he represents the average Nigerian and African population.

Sigh.

Gerrard59:
I will go first;

Cococandy: I have been following her posts for more than ten years now. While I don't agree with all, I respect her views and applaud her consistency.

CaveAdullam: Pretty detailed posts.

Acidosis: He comes across as a mature man. Those days, I wondered if he was the same person as Acidtalk as both have or had (I no too sabi) conservative views. But Acidtalk was more raw. Nevertheless, 'Dosis' posts have been consistent and well-mannered. I do admire them.

Pocohantas: Obviously popular to most Nlders, I find most of her posts to be hilarious, yet honest. She is raw and doesn't care what people say about her. Overall, she is consistent, and most importantly, she is a one-woman-army. At a point, I used to imagine her punching into the air when replying to certain posts and Nlders.

LordAdam1: He comes across as a big man who has seen everything. There was a reply he gave me that changed my perspective towards entrepreneurship, which I hold till date. Na him favorite way to ending each post with "Lord" wey dey burst my head.

Clearly matured people on your list.

The same reason you mentioned me is the same reason I follow you.

Your attraction towards statistics and data is what I find pleasing. Which has led me to be more considerate when picking, assimilating, and distributing discourse.

I'm really enjoying the last book you recommended: Prosperity Paradox.

Thanks.

Nice observation and discourse.

There will always be an alternation between good and bad times. The longevity of any time, whether good or bad is dependent on the force applied by those in the seats and position of power.

There is always gain in chaos but it benefits only a few rapacious and vicious men.

There is also gain in order. But the benefits don't tank up to the extent where one person will have a large chunk. However, the majority will benefit.

The problem is always the desire for more. Hence, contentment is a hoax. It just takes you to gain one, and you'll desire two, then three...till you get lost in the pursuit of many.

The key to ultimate power = force + connection + resources.

Anyone or group of persons that can handle the wheel, be it good or vicious men, will take the lead and steer it to wherever they want.

Sermons can't make demons become saints. To eradicate them and restore peace is to apply force and suppress their existence.

The ordinary person thinks that preaching morality and humanity to malicious men will make them have a change of heart. That's a big lie!

To overthrow these people is to utilize the same tools they use for their operations, and steer the wheel in the right direction.

But the bigger problem is that they have infiltrated every system and entwined with the systems. Trying to severe them will not be an easy job. They are in a multitude. They mean business, so ambitious and unrelenting in their mission.

But how many people who number themselves to be good and rush to wear the saintly label can stand their ground with these men?

Fear of prison + torture + death has been utilized by these vicious men to scare anyone who will ever imagine challenging them. And they are ready to convert that fear into reality.

To win this war and enjoy a long-lasting peace:

1. Good people must rise in their numbers and must be ready to suffer martyrdom.

2. They must be extremely wealthy. Or have wealthy patrons sponsor them to the end.

3. They too must infiltrate every system and act as a cleanser. Their numbers will wrestle hard with the former occupants as they begin to spread.

4. They must apply force too + have many disciples behind them.

Those who don't misconstrue war as theatre art will win.

The reign of evil and the unrighteous is war.

Thanks.

Go harder.

You've made the best decision man.

I know it pains you because probably, she is your first love and you are entwined in a young beautiful romance. It would have been a lovely memory down the lane if the family approved it. (though you being the younger one come at a disadvantage).

Getting into a relationship with a person that one or both families don't approve of comes with a lot of headaches due to overthinking and rationalizations.
Some do surmount it by going ahead with the relationship whether anybody likes it or not. It isn't worth the stress, however. Anyways, love overcome.

The reality here is that if you are not coming from a strong and wealthy family, getting married will not be easy for you by this age. Considering your age and other goals of yours. Except you have a profitable source of income.

Nothing wrong with getting married early. But you must set your priorities right. Except you just want to foolishly hope your way into a better future, struggling with your pregnant wife to the perceived promised land.

Your girlfriend in question will not want a delay in marriage after their graduation. Especially when well-established suitors are attracted to her like moths to a light bulb. The love needs to be strong for her not to fall by the wayside.

You are hurt. But you just have to move on.

Women date and marry men higher and better than them. You can't blame them. It's simply evolutionary biology.

Think of how to build yourself and become a much better man. With time you'll find a woman better than her. After all, you still got age and vigor by your side.

Thanks.

X

The best way to treat manipulative people is to pretend you don't know their game but stay behind the scenes and counter their games.

You counter their games by mirroring their actions toward them.

Predators fear other predators. Predators only go for the weak. Ditto for manipulative people - they go for the weak and foolish. They fear those who understand their game.

With your stepmother, the best you could've done is what you've done, which is leaving the house for good.

Step-parents can't treat their stepchildren the way they will treat their kids. Stepchildren are a biological threat. I digress.

Your first allies in life - father and mother has failed you. It's then up to you to take yourself of the mess and do something good for yourself. It isn't your fault, but such is life.

Being part of the army is a cool one provided your head miss all the future headshots. Else, you just made a big mistake. But I understand. Except you gonna be an army officer.

Even in the army, you will see and experience manipulations and oppressions of the highest level, one in which your stepmother can't be qualified to compete with. Lol.

I wish you a safe end, dear friend.

Thanks.

The average person lacks self-awareness, knowledge, and wisdom. Because building these virtues and values takes a long time.

A woman earning more than her man in the process of a relationship ought not to be a problem. But the average woman doesn't think beyond the first layer of her head. Hence, many become obnoxious and treat their husbands with disdain and disrespect.

Women want to be with men higher and better than them. Once a woman senses that she's better than you in one or two areas, resentment and disrespect start breeding in her heart.
Because she sees you as a leader, and expects you to operate from a higher dimension. You operating below her scares her evolutionary wiring - that you are a man who can't protect and provide for her kids in dire moments.

These challenges men face with women have led men into the field of innovations and different wonders. The burden of performance is always upon the man. The woman wants that assurance that she is with the right man.

Relationship isn't a competition. It ought to be two people working together to achieve a particular goal.

However, in sexual relationship, men must be ahead of their woman in all ramifications. It breeds respect, ensure the stability of the relationship, and gives the woman an assurance.

Men that have their women ahead must work hard to pass them and maintain first position. It isn't by pulling her down, treating her badly, subtle jealousy, subtle hate, and acting macho.

It is him going back to the strategy board to plan better ways and win his game. After all, it is his duty to lead his family, and by so must remain at the forefront.

It's easier to tell women to maintain submissions, modesty, and humility when they are on top and earning more than their husbands than for said women to deliberately act that same way.

Only advice for this women is to help stimulate their husbands in getting to the top. Not by anger, henpecking, nagging, subtle jabs, and negligence. But by love and humility.

It will not be easy. But it is possible. Because a woman wants to see her man at the top and it gives men joy to be at the top.

Thanks.

1. Dating and marriage come with a lot of compromises men and women are unwilling to take.

The woman wants to enjoy the benefits of commitment without positioning herself for such. And also fails to understand that life is not always fair and rosy.

The men on the other hand can't be able to remain firm as a head, a leader, and an anchor when the storm rises.

Women break their vows out of emotional fragility. Men break their vows out of timidity.

2. In an ideal economy, an average man can take care of his wife and children. The reason married men go the extra mile is because they have followers - wives and kids who look up to them for protection and survival.

When conditions are ideal, he will stick to the end. Because that's his duty.

3. Now, it is women that decide if a relationship will hold or not.

Commitment is important to her. However, commitment from the man's end comes at a heavy cost.

Hence, the only time a man can decide on a divorce is when the woman is unwilling to change from her obscene ways. Initiating divorce ruins his investment over the years.

Compared to women, men will plead for the continuation of a relationship when it approaches the rock.

4. Women date/marry established men.

It has nothing to do with socio-cultural factors. It is simply biology. Women marry men better and higher than them.

Because the woman is weak compared to the man. The cost of pregnancy and nurturing of kids is expensive.

5. Building with a man from scratch is a gamble. It's not even a matter of heartbreak. That's the penultimate reason.

The ultimate reason:

She is sacrificing her fertility to build from scratch and if before marriageable age or menopause the said man hasn't been established, it means she lose the gamble.

The woman is consumed with a lot of contemplations:

What if he doesn't make it?
What if he lost his life along the way, and couldn't make it?
How long will it take for him to make it?

These are her major concerns.

Abandonment or heartbreak isn't as brutal as losing her time and fertility. At least with the former, she has a stake provided she's wise.

6. It takes a foresighted woman to wait and build with a man which is possible by weighing his dreams and ambitions and making good calculations that he will succeed despite the odds.

These are the category of women who feel much pain when the man maltreats or abandons them after he gains fame. However, these are not most men.

A man will always stay with that woman who followed and helped him through the long, narrow, and dark tunnel.

7. A woman not building with a man from scratch is a biological default. It takes self-awareness to wrestle with the default settings and stick with a broke man till he becomes established.

Men also need to understand this. It's not her fault.

8. That's why most men want to become established before entering a serious relationship. But they miss the whole point because, at the end of the day, they try to make a relationship work by spending and throwing cash.

9. A relationship is two (or more) people coming together to merge their forces, work together, and achieve a common goal.

The modern relationship these days is all about sex, parties, and alcohol.

Relationships rooted in superficiality. Two fools playing the fools game. No dream. No pursuit. No ambition.

10. People that engage in meaningful relationship, people who are aware of themselves and have strong ambitions aren't caught in this mess compared to their counterparts.

Thanks.

bolabizzle:


Cold Approach? Hmm...🤔

Anyway, the above advice is applicable and proven to work in third world countries only

In other highly developed countries, you MUST be a lucky winner in the genetic department before you can think of cold approach. Yes, believe it or not, It is that bad no thanks to many reasons, one of which is the numerous dating apps that allows a woman select and reject with just a swipe.

That is why today, we here of passport broos, a group predominantly made up of average looking men, leaving their country to seek "love" in third world countries.

Personally, I am of the opinion that cold approach is not for every Tom, Dick and Harry. It is for a choose few. Those with natural DNA embedded traits that are desirable to women.

Do you qualify as such? If no, then avoid cold approach and save yourself from the burden of a low self-esteem and inferiority complex which many men suffer from today, hence the mass simping we see all around us.

Some modern day pick up artists will tell you that those desirable traits can be learned or gotten if you do this and do that , but it all fails miserably. That's the power 💪 of genetic determinism.

Of course, those that lost the genetic lottery could decide to use money, societal status, and material possessions as a cloak and decide to cold approach. It works. If it's all for fun and games, But if it is for something serious, it won't save you from that eerie feeling of despair each time you introduce your girl to your handsome buddy.

You got good points, man. I concur.

1. The cold approach has always been a man sacrificing himself on the boiling altar of a woman's emotional scrutiny.

Once you cold approach a woman, she is already the prize. In her mind, you are here for her body.

2. I don't have much success when it comes to straight cold approaching. However, if there is something like "slow cold approaching": establishing minutes of rapport before requesting her number or a date, that's what I've been successful with.

3. Good looks are a genetic lottery. Women + the average human will always be victims of the halo/horn effect.

However, having good grooming will still bolster your esteem if you know game.

4. Regardless, since women have a cascade of men approaching them 24/7 even though the majority are 5 and 6 on the beauty scale, they will hold you to the standard of the previous men they've encountered.

That's, she will prefer a bicycle rider man to a trekking man; a saloon car rider to a bicycle man; a sport car rider to a saloon car; and a jet owner to a sport car rider.

She isn't going to drop her standard even though she has nothing and the standard with which she holds or sees herself isn't present. She thinks she is because of her proximity to the men who brought her to their space.

5. However, cold approaching is paradoxical: it tests your confidence level, shames it, and at the same time, builds it.

Many men do come up with a lot of rationalizations when meeting women. So, to quench those rationalizations, it's advisable to cold approach women.

6. Those not favored by genetics or being of higher status can't just sequester themselves completely from the dating zone. They can still do well to groom themselves and make possible upgrades.

7. The problem is that most guys want baddies as girlfriends when they have goodies waiting for a proposal.

The same reason why women yearn and wait for celebrity males rather than enter a relationship with a guy in the friend zone.

8. In all, men should endeavor to meet many women. I don't care about the method. Go out and meet women. Only in abundance can you have fun and get the woman you desire.

Attend social events. Go to parties you can afford. Go to the library. Go to church. Just go to places you'll meet people.

9. Nature does not leave any man or woman empty. As far as biology is concerned, nature has already made provisions for sex and reproduction.

It now depends on what the man and woman can do.

No excuse.

Thanks.

Hedgefunds:



Happy New year my Oga, sorry I haven't gotting in touch with you. Still on the road due to Xmas wahala...hope you are fine.

Senior man.

Happy New Year.

Anytime I hear about my loved ones and friends traveling by road, I get scared, paranoid, and filled with goosebumps.

Nigeria isn't a real place.

I'm fine.

Please, stay safe.

Thanks.

Ovasize:


Your comment was insightful... It just triggered me to improve on capacity building. Pls I will like you to take me by the hand on this. Pls and God bless

Appreciate your kind words.

We all have a long list of goals we want to achieve within a short life span. You know life is short, but we want to enjoy all there is.

So what should you do?

Assuming you have 1 year to live, alright let's say 2024 is all there is for you.

Which goal will you pursue?
What will you do that by the end of 2024, you'll be glad you did?

Those activities are what matter long term. So starts doing them.

Of course, life is unscripted, unpredictable, and filled with complexities. But we can't complain all day about it. That's nature.

Somethings will creep up along the way, to stop you or distract you. But all you have to do is to look above, the zenith, the place you aim for, and never below.

On this part, have a primary vs a secondary goal.

The primary goal is why you breathe and live. The secondary goal is a prod to the former.

Try not to do too many things at a time. Just 1, or 2. 3 should be enough. You don't want to waste scarce time, energy, and resources.

Quick tip:

Don't think 365 days to achieve your goals.

Think 180 days.

Calibrate your time. Swear to competence and accountability. Be responsible for your duties.

With time, we will all get there.

Thanks.

virginboy1:


I am glad I came across men like you and pansophist...kudos to nairaland and the redpill.

You guys dish content that are philosophically similar and insightful

I do learn alot from you guys...

I hope for more money and wisdom for you duo.
Kudos

Thank you for your kind words, man.

You are awesome.

Just keep adding to your repertoire all things good and beautiful. You'll soon see yourself at the zenith.

Happy New Year.

There are some courses I paid for to get serious with them, but I couldn't go along with them. Because I got other things at hand.

I pursued many things in 2023. Some paid; some were futile. But in the end, I just needed to settle down and pick a few.

Chasing many things at a time gears toward securing abundance and options - if plan A fails, there is plan B...there is plan c... But in the end, you waste a lot of time and energy.

To hold on to one thing amidst this darkness takes temerity and hard morale. You must have a clear vision of the future, a predictive ability top-notch + the ability to maneuver and rotate on one point.

I would have used that money to "flex my life". Lol.

At the end of 2023, I have no regret though. Because I engaged in all of my adventures. (If I hadn't purchased those courses, by now I would have been thinking of missing billionaires' chances).

Follow your guts, and you'll have little to no regrets. It doesn't guarantee success though, but you'll always learn a lesson and be glad you tried.

Living life with a series of regrets is not a good way of living. Test all waters: Drink, fish, sail, swim.

Thanks.

There's a higher rate of rejection when you cold approach women on motion.

To minimize the rejection rate, approach women in stationery positions more.

Examples:

That girl buying groceries.
That girl waiting for a bus.
That girl sitting with her phone.

Friends were strangers once upon a time.

On motion, you can compliment, suggest and then, escalate.

Move.

You know we always love hearing the other side of the story from the second person. Anyways...

1. There is a reason you've allowed this girl to stay in your house for six months. There are reasons why you insist on marrying her despite her shortcomings.

Unfortunately, you didn't make mention of her good qualities.

2. Since you've been persistent with her for a long time and expect an all-around change, it's possible her good side overrides her bad side.

3. Women of marriageable age are always happy when they are with men they love + marriage is around the corner.

If this girlfriend or fiancee of yours isn't enthusiastic about starting a family with you + hasn't started acting as a wife despite your seriousness and responsibilities towards her, it signifies that she isn't interested in you + lacks genuine desire for you.

4. A woman should be the one pressuring a man for marriage, not vice-versa.

A woman should be the one pushing you to come see her parents, not vice-versa.

And this only happens when she has a genuine desire for you + wants to spend her remaining years with you.

5. A woman who loves you will reciprocate your good deeds towards her. Especially when both of you cohabit and are nearby.

So if she can't do what's expected of her when with you, with marriage drawing near, I don't see how she can when both of you get married.

6. People help people they love without being asked all the time. Without being demanded or cajoled all the time.

If your fiancee can't do things with her initiative without being asked, then, she isn't someone you can lead in marriage.

7. The relationship started with lies. That's a red flag.

8. Not only that, after you've made your marriage intention, she was still cohabiting with her "bestie" until you confronted her.

That's a red flag.

9. She gets angry and doesn't mind throwing you under the bus.

That's a red flag.

10. She knew your phone was important to you. She couldn't think of ways to help you with it.

What assurance do you have that when shit hits the fan in marriage she will be there to help you?

11. She had her "bestie" as a second option when you first threw her out of the house. She was bold to say she would meet him.

That's a red flag.

She only begged to stay because of her benefits from you.

12. Man you've cohabited with this girl to roughly know her true character and predict how she will act in the future.

13. How does she support you? Is she a student, employee, or entrepreneur?

You didn't mention it.

14. Probably, her good qualities overshadow her bad qualities. If you know you can manage her from that angle, fine. Happy married life.

If you can't, don't wait till January before you fling her out of your life and your house.

Thanks.

Emu4life:


You are on point but your Pen-Ultimate paragraph is a fallacy and we are helping spread/solidify the myth.

What I don't like about people who disagree, that is, people like you, is that you come here and counter without a reasonable rebuttal.

State what you disagree with and why.

Which paragraph? Which myth? Which fallacy?

I don't talk because I feel like talking. I come fully prepared.

Do you know what's called African youths in Waithood?

Au revoir.

Regex:


How do I like this comment a million times?

The issue of religion is the one thing that is actually withholding Africa. Without religion, one would have discovered how horrible we are, but you would see a very horrible person console himself with being good because he goes to church and pays tithe. Religion is making us as a people preventing us from using our common sense. Imagine someone posted a prayer on Facebook; 'Because no one can explain how coconut has water in it no one will ever know your bearing' sort of. Looking at that post I could deduce ignorance and lack of capacity. We have surrendered everything to an imaginary being to a point where we can not think for ourselves. This is very appalling!

Ironically, the Western world that introduced religion to them never depended on the imaginary God or sky daddy to help them fight corrupt kings and monarchs.

These people suffered hell for centuries. But a time came, when they said, "Fvck it!". It wasn't an easy journey for them though. But there was progress every century.

What annoys me about Africa is that there's already an established template for national progress and development. However, corrupt leaders and their minions who have been baptized in the St. Poverty River, always want to take negative advantage of every opportunity.

African leaders and politicians never expected the kind of wealth, affluence, and abundance in government. They were deprived in the colonial era to take complete advantage. Independence was like a Santa Clause gift.

An ingrained poverty mindset + ignorance about religion is a common denominator among Africans. They prefer the short and easy road to success no matter how transient and destructive.

Africans need thorough and proper education before any form of development can take place. Unfortunately, the continent hosts the population with the lowest IQ - 85.

The factors necessary for change aren't present at all. The military and police, civil servants and workers, businessmen, and women benefit one way or the other from the cesspool, they aren't ready. By the way, they don't feel the tension and heat because they have cooling fans and air conditioners.

Change will definitely come. But it will take a long long long time.

There is no holy anger in the land. Fear has gripped us all. We are divided across tribes, religions, celebrities, and political parties. We are not ready a bit. Not this generation or the next three generations.

Africa is in for a long thing.

Sigh.