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PinkNature:
Food, money combo I understand. But health and relationship combo I don't.

Throw some light. 👌

Light gives a sense of direction. Without light your eyes are blind, you can't see anything.

I believe you've missed the light of this thread and have deviated to another direction we don't know here. I hope you're taking us to where we know. Unlike Asake: "e dey carry me go where I nor know".

A relationship combo is when you meet a partner or a spouse that matches your values and ideology, thereby leading to a happily-ever-after relationship because both of you are on the same route and can achieve similar goals.

Fried rice and chicken is a good combo.

A man who has sense and values + a woman who has sense and values are a good combo.

Good diet + exercise is a resounding health combo. Engaging with them makes you healthier and live longer.

Now I have drawn you back to our light and I hope you see clearer and understand this combo.

Combo is one word you will hear and know that something huge is lurking somewhere or something huge is about to happen.

Cold Pepsi and Gala, is a great combo in Lagos afternoon traffic. You keep munching and don't mind how long the traffic takes. You wouldn't care because at that moment you're on top of your sphere.

Cold Pepsi sends chilled vibrating waves to your head and gullet. Gala marinating your teeth and mouth with a sweetness similar to sucking the areola and nipples of a woman who just said yes to your advances.

Look for combo in whatever thing you do in life.

Food combo.
Relationship combo.
Health combo.
Money combo.

Just be combobolizing.

You'll eventually win.

50 resurrected dead people are more than enough to silence the mouths of Atheists and bring the entire world to their knees in praise and worship of the Lord Jesus Christ.

Guess what.

All of them happened behind public eyes, critics, skeptics, and observers.

According to the New Testament of the Bible, all miracles, signs, and wonders were made public. No one happened behind closed doors. It was the open show that made people quickly and easily convert to followers of Christ.

But Pastor Chris and his elder brother, Benny Hinn are hoarding theirs. Only they and their inner caucus members can witness these miracles and resurrection. Otherwise, the resurrected and their families wouldn't have allowed the world to listen to any news again except their joyful shouts seeing their dead loved ones coming back to life again.

Because the supernatural is a lie. Big lies.

What's beyond our understanding or scares our imagination we term supernatural.

Sigh.

Nairaland mods have a penchant for lifting nonsensical threads to the front page.

To the Op, you can turn your womb into a money-making business to assuage the difficulties of menstruation.

pansophist:
The black man will help the black man. No one walks far with other's legs. But it starts with leadership

I stated it here a few minutes ago: https://www.nairaland.com/8038825/nigeria-really-develop-grow-need#129064225

Well done, big chief.

Happy weekend.

Gerrard59!

Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

I stood up. I walked around. I ate. I was lost in thought. I was angry. I was making points. I was also arguing virtually. I wanted to slap some people. I lay down to grasp the points. I hissed. I sighed. I felt pity for my continents. I felt pity for my people.

Who will help the Black man? Because he is doomed.

Wonderful thread indeed.

Kudos, man.

Education is the key.

Not absent education done in tertiary institutions just to gain a degree. And after that start wandering the 6 six geopolitical zones online and offline in search of jobs and a greener pasture that's almost non-existent in this current condition.

Reading and writing are enough. Let the people or students begin to understand their history.

Not that a degree isn't important. However, the Industrial Revolution in Europe happened in the domains of people who had little education/academic degree.

Africa needs Science, Technology, Engineering, and Mathematics to progress. The prosperity of any nation is rooted in this foundation. If we can't do it ourselves, we learn from our counterparts or invite them to teach us and leverage it.

The thing is that there will certainly be a blockade. There will be serious rebuttal both locally and internationally when Blacks begin to sit up. It will happen, it is normal. But such an attitude wouldn't last long if the fire never quells.

The problem with us as young and observant Africans and even those in diaspora who complain of r@cism and African underdevelopment is that we talk much without doing anything meaningful. Just talk and talk and talk. No action to back our words.

Of course, there are a thousand and one reasons why actions are slow. But deliberating on those reasons keeps us stuck in one position forever.

That's why I love the initiative of Tunde Onakoya (Chess in Slum dude). Tunde is just using the little he can do to help the nation. Now imagine hundreds of Tundes in the South, East, North, and West of Nigeria. That despite the corruption of leaders, cultural, and economic drawbacks, there are still thousands of Nigerians willing to help and give hope to the hopeless.

We should be thinking along that pattern.

Back to STEM. That's the only way.

Thanks.

This is the case of the lion acting cool with the lambs. A lion being gentle with them doesn't in any way obliterate the carnivorous tendency of the lion. It will feast on them when he wants to. Because he has the might, strength, and teeth to do the same.

This is why the education of the masses is the first step to curbing corrupt officials to their minimum.

Not academic education. It is an education of informing the people about their culture and nation. The prerequisites for development and the various obstacles - corrupt officials and monopolistic merchants.

In a real sense, a governor like the idiot above wouldn't have had the temerity to sit with the poor populace him and his predecessors have placed under their tenterhooks as pawns for their political will.

It wouldn't have happened if the people were educated and aware. Now the poor people think the governor is displaying signs of humility and love for Almighty Allah. Meanwhile, his heart is dark and a cesspit. A heart not geared toward developing his people but to subjugate them further.

This is a case of binding the strong man in his house before defeating him. According to one of Jesus Christ's parables in the Bible.

This is what all politicians have done to their people. If you can bind them, you can control them. If you can control them, they will run after you.

The first step towards development as Africans is to be educated. Africa is seriously behind the world. Accepting this facade as a show of humility is a slap on our faces. These slaps have turned into kicks, blows, and constant harassment by these political snakes and scorpions.

Politicians are capitalizing on our silence, dumbness, and the crumbs they throw towards our table. These crumbs also extend to the tables of the police military and judiciary.

Prove them wrong once, and we are on the road to progress.

Thanks.

pansophist:
Vanity test. Are you ready?

1. You will become a billionaire in US dollars instantly, but magically transform into a 95-year-old man. If you do not agree to this deal, then ''time'' is more important to you than money.

2. Also, you will be a billionaire, but lose all your loved ones. You will be the only remaining one of your lineage. If you do not agree to this deal, then family is more important to you than money.

3. You will be a billionaire but must give up sex. If you do not accept this deal, then sex is more important to you than money.

4. You will be a trillionaire right now, then tomorrow, you will be killed. If you do not agree to this deal, then life is more important to you than money.

5. You will be a billionaire, but the price you will pay is SS genotype and stroke. If you do not agree to this deal, then health is more important to you than money.

6. You will be a billionaire, but spend the rest of your life in jail. If you do not agree to this deal, then your freedom is more important to you than money.

So please tell me which of the above you will sacrifice for money, and then we proceed from there.

Excellent analogy.

Well done, big chief.

Solve the parentheses: (9 - 2) = (7)

3 + 4(7)= ?

Remove the parentheses by multiplying by 4

3 + 28 =?

Perform addition.

31 =?

The answer is 31.

Note:

Order of operation:

Exponential.
Parentheses - curve or square brackets.
Multiply from left to right.
Divide from left to right.
Addition from left to right.
Subtraction from left to right.

Thanks.

jezuzboi:
100% spot on! Brings to mind something similar I'd put up; titled: "Be A Version Of Who You Wish To Marry." It says:

It is more important to desire to be a good spouse than to desire to marry a good spouse. If you only desire to marry a good spouse without making an effort to be a good spouse yourself, you might end up meeting a good spouse who doesn’t consider you good enough for him or her. So, as you seek a worthy spouse for yourself, also be a worthy spouse.

Nobody wishes to marry a loser who has nothing to offer. But rather than being so mindful not to marry a ‘loser who has nothing to offer’, be more concerned about not being a ‘loser who has nothing to offer’. Likeminded people will always attract each other, & whatever you give out will always return to you. Be a version of who you wish to marry!

Gone are the days when people married beauty & fine looks. Everyone now wants peace & will only marry someone who can afford them that peace. But rather than being so concerned about marrying someone who can afford you peace, work hard to be a carrier of that peace & you’ll attract a peace carrier. Be a version of who you wish to marry!

If you want someone to accept you as you are, don’t be picky. You can’t desire a tall, fine god or goddess & expect them to take you as you are. They have standards too. If they meet your standards, meet theirs too. If you aren’t ready to meet anyone’s standards, don’t expect anyone to meet your standards. Be a version of who you wish to marry!

If you desire people with good habits, cultivate good habits yourself. If you want a faithful spouse, be faithful. If you don’t want to marry a cheat, don’t be a cheat. If you want the truth, be truthful. If you wouldn’t like to be deceived into marrying someone you wouldn’t ordinarily marry, don’t try to deceive anyone into marrying you.

Quit playing mind games. It is an unattractive trait. It is why relationships fail. Many want to be players, to be in control, to eat their cakes & have it back, to play the other for a fool. If you play someone for a fool, get ready to be played for a fool, cuz that thing they say about Karma is a legit saying. Just be a version of who you wish to marry!

Sincerely appreciate this post. You've done very well.

Being a person of value gives you the ability to screen people you are going to interact with from time to time. To know your enemy you must know yourself. Because both you and your enemy are humans, and humans have the capacity for any behavior, whether for constructive or destructive purposes.

If you want valuable people, be a person of value and provide value. That's an easy way to ensure your sanity and save your time and energy because you are dealing with the right people.

However, your post is only suitable for ideal people in an ideal world.

Your post didn't take into consideration that humans can change depending on whatever factors they are predisposed to in the future.

"If you don't want a cheating partner, don't cheat...".

That's a fallacy.

Because we've read, heard, and must have come across faithful partners who were jilted by their lovers. We've heard of secret children, paternity fraud, etc.

Just because you are good doesn't mean that other people will be good to you. Christ Jesus was still shamed, beaten, persecuted, and crucified despite his most holy nature.

Even among the 12 he selected, there was a doubter (Thomas), liar (Peter), and saboteur (Judas Iscariot).

However, we knew how Christ was able to handle these 3 because he is a human and the 3 were also humans.

Your good partner may turn bad tomorrow. Your loving partner can become hateful tomorrow. People change. Anything can happen.

Will you accuse victims of armed robbery, kidnapping, murder, or r@pe of them being the antagonist or villain before and now reaping what they sowed? If you say yes, then, what about children who suffer the same fate?

What I'm trying to point out here is that a good person can be a victim of negative circumstances in life. Being good doesn't make you an exception.

What's important is that you are aware of the changing behavior of humans, the randomness of life, and everything that lies between. And being prepared and ready to tackle any problem when it arises.

And if Karma is true the world would have been a better place. However, every day we see the wicked live a fruitful life and their victims are left in a predicament.

There's nothing like karma acting on its own. Only a good and fair justice system can maintain law and order and ensure peace and equity.

Thanks.

The problem is that the average person be like "I just want to be myself".

They don't bother about self-improvement. They don't deliberate on how to build character and a worthy personality. They just want a savior to take them and love them for who they are. Meanwhile, when you stir them, and look beyond their surface, they are absolute trash.

Ditto for the average woman. They know that men should be a protector, a provider, a leader, and a savior. But ask them what a woman should be. Then, you'll experience graveyard silence or them trying to make a point like a toddler learning how to talk.

The sexual market like every other market is a gaming center. If you don't know how to play you will lose. If you don't play smart you'll lose. If you leave others to help you play you'll be cheated.

Men want sex without commitment.
Women want commitment without submission.

On this ground, you see many different players trying to get their fill.

However, ...

The game may lead to:

Men having sex due to commitment (chore/boring sex).

Women get commitment due to submission.

Marriage doesn't even stop old players from playing. Lol.

Sex has been codified to be sacred. I have no problem with that. But women should understand that they are not doing men a favor when they both agree to consensual sex. Both loved it and had their libido satisfied.

Therefore, a woman who views sex as sacred must be vigilant not to offer her body to a man who won't be her husband. She must scrutinize every man or suitor that comes her way to not be a leftover of sexual dinner.

Ditto for the man. He must not give a woman commitment when she doesn't love him or have a genuine desire for him. Because in the end, it all ends in heartbreak and premium tears.

In the sexual marketplace, you must be vigilant. You are not a victim as you claim to be.

Thanks.

Nigerians will always run with clips; cut and join; copy and paste statements. The next thing is to conjure imaginary figures to defend their half-baked knowledge.

I don't rate any Nigerian politician. (Save Peter Obi who is showing to be the exception so far).

(Would have loved to watch the complete video before making this post. Now I'm also guilty of my first paragraph).

Sentiments aside, that video clip is simply a nuance. But low-IQ people don't even know what nuance entails not to even talk of parsing and understanding it.

From Fubara's statement:

Life is nothing. Which is true.

Why insult, bully, fight, and even try to harm ourselves when our last days are just 6 feet beneath us? Probably, the ground we are fighting each other is the ground where we may be buried.

If you examine life from the past to the present and the future, your struggles are meaningless. Because we will all die someday. Either today or tomorrow.

The sweat we exude to make ends meet, the hurdles we scale to reach our goals, and the blood we bled to make sure we get our desires, which leave a scar on our body as a remembrance, are a total waste of time and energy if you should consider the end of man.

It all ends in nothing. Hence a wise man once said: vanity upon vanity all is vanity.

However, Akpabio is letting the audience understand that though life ends in nothing there is meaning in it. Our struggles aren't entirely meaningless because when we reach our goals and get our desires, we will be happy till the day of our last breath.

Because of the benefits of those struggles, Fubara will kneel and pray to his God to complete his 2 tenures in office. Fubara will not go back home, take his bath, lie on his bed, and wait for his last breath for the sake that "the struggles of life are nothing".

Even Pastor Taiwo still struggles to preach to his members and audience every Sunday even though they already know the end of all men - death. So why does he even bother?

It is the benefits of that struggle that makes life beautiful. That makes life enjoyable. That makes life showcase itself in different styles, shapes, and colors. That makes every individual express themselves in diversified forms and manners.

If Herbert Wigwe should resurrect tomorrow, he will continue his struggle. Because being sluggish or inert or dormant isn't the configuration of men. Even Christ performed many tasks when he was resurrected from the dead. He spoke words. He acted.

It is the benefit of that struggle that makes life easy for those of us behind. The benefit is to make life easier and less stressful as we are in queue to our respective graves.

Just imagine great inventors, scientists, financiers, etc stop at Fubara's thought, we wouldn't have progressed to this stage of civilization and development. Because "what's all the struggling about?"

We Shouldn't struggle and forget the essence of humanity: to love one another in truth and unity. To make an impact in the lives of people we come across. This is the ultimate benefit of the struggle.

Struggle we must. And the benefits we pray to reap before our death.

F1re:
What's up guys, trust you're doing fine.

There's this lady(27yo, virgin) in my School, I'm a Teacher by the way(23yo), that became very obsessed with me, we once met at a Tech event where I was part of the Speakers, we didn't talk then, till she came to my School for an assignment, she saw me and reintroduced herself to me, I was like 'oh okay, what's up?' you know trying to be friendly, we got talking about stuffs, she told me she wants to learn how to code and if I can help her out, I said Yes, because I have free time on my hands, so she started coming around and I started teaching her the basics, she collected my Mobile Number and chatted me up, at a point she kind of become obsessed with me, she's always the one to chat me up first, calls me and give me chocolate during our lessons and all, bro i started having feelings for her, but I keep them in check and just flow with her.

She then travelled to Abuja at a point and things slowed down, I wasn't invested in her that much so it didn't bother me much, after she came back we continued our lessons and all, mind you, these lessons are more like 30% lessons and 70% gists(Relationships, Sex, Marriage, Life in general), I'm a good conversationalist so I got her to open up to me and all.

Then something happened last week, which is the main reason I'm writing this, she came to my office and I was sent on errand, I told her to wait for me that I'll be back and all, she said she promised she will, I didn't even ask her to swear lols, but when I came back, I found out that she had left already, it hurt me so bad, I was surprised at myself like why I'm I hurt like this because of this little stuffs.

And from that day till today, she haven't call me, I didn't check my Whatsapp either from that day, because I decide to switch my Whatsapp line due to disturbance of other low value people on my contact list, but the point is, she ghosted me, and she didn't come to work(she's not a Teacher, kind of working with an NGO, so their work isn't obligatory like mine), I didn't call her either because there's no reason to.

Now, the problem is I can't get her out of my mind, I'm a big fan of Stoicism and I've got help from applying some of its concepts in my life, but this time around it's just difficult, my mind will just be wandering towards all the good times we had and the 'Stupid' mental projections I was having in my brain about us, I'll forever not gonna call her or text her though, but I want to forget about all of that and get back to work, like I was before she came into my life.

Also, I've never kissed or touched her, because I've got some principles I live by and I'm currently working on some stuffs that will put me out in public soon, I'm very careful about my reputation, I've also never spend a dime on her, she's even the one that was begging on buying me stuffs when she came back from Abuja the other time, had to decline the offer.

Is it scarcity mindset? I don't know, but I've never been the one to chase girls right out of secondary school, they always come to me, just that right now, I don't have an active social life and I'm all by myself so I don't have any girls around that I talk to.

What do y'all have to say about this.

I'll tag my favorite posters here: Pansophist, Karlifate, luminouz, smartb0y, reminderz, caveadullam, and olamoses75, please I could use some of your help, thanks.

There is nothing much to say here.

Call her.

You don't know what must have happened to her. It can be anything. She is your friend by the way. So I don't see how that robs you of your masculine frame.

Being stoic doesn't mean you should check out emotionally. It means being able to handle your emotions appropriately at all times.

If it rings when you call, and no response, fine. You've done your part.

You can only be friends with a woman from afar.

You can only be friends with a woman from afar.

And it has been said frequently that a man and woman can't be friends. Once proximity is established testosterone hormone will want a bite of oxytocin hormone. Thereby stimulating flesh to meet flesh.

Double problem if that woman first appears in the cloaks of a student.

Man, you're infatuated with her. You can deny it from now till infinity. And there is no big deal about that.

Call her. Tell her you just checking on her. If she returns with a bad energy you cut her off, if she flows with positive vibes you can both move from there.

As a reminder: Guys, never hesitate to make moves with a woman you like. Throw sexual innuendos. Touch her. Play with her. Make fun of her.

Thanks.

LetterZnWordz:

081...

I have sent your contact to him.

He will soon contact you.

Thanks.

Good morning.

LetterZnWordz:
Thanks for the response
I would want to connect with you. Please help recommend someone who writes satires well. I trust and believe your recommendation.

Provided you have wads of cash.

Lol.

Drop your contact here.

Thanks.

I appreciate sexual purity in women. Being chaste as a woman is top-notch.

However, I like sexually wild women. The ones that know what to do during smooching. They know how to lick your ears and send gentle tones of romantic sparks down your ear canal.

Those women that can handle d!ck like a professional drivers. Steering it with their hands and using it to preach fvck me like a microphone in the hands of a chorister.

They can roll, twist, and bend on the d!ck with ease. They simply know what to do in bed.

Such sexual proclivity is a red flag for me.

But one I will wash in green in my imagination to savor my fantasies.

And if she's wearing a waist bead. O my goodness.

Lol.

jidobaba:
Economic oppression is a horror. Like my guy would say, 'we just dey on autopilot '. One unremarkable day is indistinguishable from the next, muddled in a haze just for survival. Life in these parts is brutish and short. Like crabs in a bucket, we cannot collaborate for freedom. But rather the fellow who, briefly, manages to rise above the poverty line fancies himself a sage or God's chosen. He begins to tell you that he alone (and by God's grace) improved his condition and how you must do the same and not 'rant'. He is not roused to anger by the suffocation around him. He will not stand with you and fight. In his mind he is blessed and better pass hin neighbor.

You can say this again and again.

The mindset of the average Nigerian is to score one goal and claim the trophy, forgetting that there are still more games in the future.

That's the consequence of being dealt mercilessly with the whips of poverty and lack. Funnily, these sets of people treat their neighbors with disdain and impatience.

Once they have seen the light, they don't mind closing others to darkness. You can see how major activists have become reticent or just playing along and deceiving the people.

Once the money + connection is there, the rest can go fvck themselves.

They forget that no part of the body is free from malignant cancer even if starts at the tiniest toe on the ground.

Hey, LetterZnWordz

What's up?

Good morning.

ItisWell22:
The emboldened has made my life a lot easier than envisaged, and people close to me tend to wonder how I keep up.
No pressure of any kind whatsoever.

1. Accept fate

2. try changing the ones you can (requires a sense of awareness, acknowledgment, consistent hard work)
This is in tandem with the last paragraph above.

3. ignore the ones you can’t. ✌️

😢

It is well.

I agree. There are some things you can't change in life. However, most of those things are the schemes of nature and ones not within the strength of men at the moment.

E.g. Natural disaster. Death. The past.

But you know what?

Most of the things we've left to fate are things a 10-man committee filled with honorable men can solve. With the masses behind them.

We've left the basic needs of life to fate because we live, breathe, eat, and move in a cesspool.

We leave clean water to fate.
We leave farms to fate.
We leave security to fate.
We leave good hospitals to fate.
We leave good roads to fate.
We leave electricity to fate.
We leave national development to fate.

The above now looks like the supernatural because we've been harassed, ransacked, and fvcked in the hole by useless government and poverty.

Developed world are trying by all means to bring nature to her knees. So that humans can fully be in charge. A biological company has started preserving dead bodies with the hope of resurrection.

Right here in Africa... Very funny place to be.

Lol.

GodHimself:
What are the RIGHT topics for a REAL education.

Write a list.

A list that Teachers and sponsors can read, pick, and run with.

1. A history of Africa: the past, present, and future.

2. Reading and writing, and good communication. English + native language.

This will be solely focused on (1) above Nothing else.

3. Science, Technology, Engineering and Mathematics.

This will be focused on starting with little innovations + deciphering how to make them become small to big businesses.

Because as you continue learning you need to have some earnings too.

Other topics and subjects can come later after reasonable progress.

Geovanni412:
The bolded is the crux of the matter

The solution is simple,

Stop worrying about the past and how time has moved

It is annoying because you wonder. "did I make a mistake going for a masters degree or even a degree with all the effort I could?" , "of what use is my first class or 2:1 in law or psychology if people are asking me to listen to their complex problems for 5,000 naira?

And the most painful part is when you study a five or seven year course like law or medicine then immediately jumped into a masters degree. Now, you have all the papers but your mates who did a four year course and started working earlier are way better off financially than you.

Again, solution is to stop worrying and do what you can with the cards you are dealt with. Never forget that many of your peers are locked up in prison or in worse financial situations than you are.

Just think of your predicament as one who just escaped mental prison, time to start again. Pick up and learn a side hustle -join relevant free telegram groups like webcharmers and search groups like hacksnation to get the courses you need and start work from there.

As you struggle with your day job that pays minimal but sorts out the bills, just give the side hustle 30mins-1hr a day and plan for 6-9 months consistently working on it

Find an additional job, preferably, one that helps you interface with Nigerians abroad, an example is academic writing for Nigerian students. These students don't have time because they need to combine caregiver work with school and sort out their papers. You can bill them with the dollar equivalent for each job, a minimum of $50- $100.

Do this in combination with trying to improve your other online skills say copywriting or web designing. Just pick one skill and take courses on client acquisition.

You've made a good point, man. I do appreciate it.

But you know what? It's always easier said than done.

Combining different hustles just to make ends meet is the problem of being a young African adult.

Meanwhile, being a skilled factory worker in a developed world gives you everything Africans pray and fast for yearly, day in and out.

In Africa, you need to know how to code + weld + write + speak good English + strong + know accounting + know how to communicate + use Microsoft tools + know how to bake + know how to cook + know how to design... before you can live like the average factory worker in a developed world.

Work from 9 - 5 + find a side hustle + work during weekends + do this + do that + blah blah blah. Many do break down, faint, and collapse along the way.

The human brain has a capacity for greatness. But not with a mind cluttered with 100 different things at a time.

Have we ever considered that the average Black IQ is below average; 85 out of 100? Even an average IQ of 100 is still a great biological disadvantage.

How then do you expect people of such IQ to maneuver their ways given the fact that intelligence has a positive correlation with conscientiousness, success, grit, positive thinking, industriousness, etc?

Do you actually think that many African youths haven't passed through the process you've espoused, especially Nigerian youths?

Go search how they have been caromed by the rejection of all kinds. Not because of their lack of skills at all. But because they are Africans. Many that have moved away from the Google location - Africa, bear testament that being labeled African in Africa is a serious issue when it comes to dealing with the international community.

Africans are now like a cursed race. Because we are at the bottom of the bottomless pit.

The many activities Africans do today to make ends meet aren't what they have passion for. That's why it's very difficult for many to start and break through. It takes a sound IQ + extreme diligence to scale the process you've enlisted.

Some just want to own a farm, feed from it, and sell the excesses. Not hustling for foreign clients.

Some just want a small business to serve their local community. Not registering on various payment sites and fasting and praying to get your first pay after a tedious job well done.

You need to step out of the house into the field to see that the average African youth isn't lazy. These people scavenge smelly gutters and dustbins and refuse sites to make ends meet. They stand under the hot sun + heavy rainfall on highways to scream for both passengers and buyers.

They are not innocent of their vices. They are not free of their ignorance. However, they work very hard. Whether you call it smart work or hard work.

The average African youth is not lazy. They may be doing the wrong thing or wrong work. But they are not lazy.

Starting somewhere has never been a problem. But wait till you finish. It will seem as if you wasted your time during the process of learning.

Can you checkmate insecurity as an individual?
Can you checkmate bad roads?
Can you checkmate arrogant road users?
Can you checkmate the government sectors established for the welfare of citizens?

We've not talked about cases of emergency. Your diligence + stoicism + discipline wouldn't save you under critical medical conditions. You need a good doctor + good nurse in a good hospital to treat you.

Wait till you get to the hospital before you hear how useless and trashy the nation and continent are. After referring you from one hospital to another. You'll even start praying for death. Because the stress alone is worse than it.

These are things that are beyond your control but have a great impact on your life.

This thread is to rant, rant, and rant. Ranting is allowed.

However, Africans can't sit down expecting a magical or supernatural change.

Only we have the power to change our situations for good. From an individual to a continental level.

And of course, that's where your solution comes into play, despite the difficulty.

Thanks.

GodHimself:
I like the way you write. It’s clear and communicates your idea effectively.

I hope you have a blog.

On education: the delivery vehicle is where the opportunity lies.

Thank you for your kind words. I do appreciate it.

Don't have a blog yet. Even the first post was supposed to be a WhatsApp status post. But I just kept writing and writing and writing, then, boom.

The structure for REAL education is there already. The important thing now is teaching the right topic and stimulating the learners. As sleeper cells terrorists or suicide bombers are taught.

The advantages and disadvantages of poor living due to poor education are there for the learners to observe for themselves. At least they are already on the disadvantaged side. All the teacher needs to do is to hold it like a mirror to their face so that they won't get distracted.

It's a long journey ahead for Africans.

Thanks.

HayTerran:
None of these is a lie. I share these facts. But all that you propose lack the way forward. That's the problem we have, we are aware of our problems but ignorant of how to approach and solve them. What do you propose?

You are right.

I didn't explicitly propose a solution because it was a rant according to the title.

However, if you read keenly, I pointed to the readers the roots and foundation of their problems. With solutions too.

The first solution is a large-scale massive education of the masses. Africans go to school, but they are not educated.

The education should be one that aggravates their anger every year till they finish learning.
Symposium: A history of Africa and the cause of her problems. The dangerous activities of kinsmen.

An education that must be similar across boards, uniting people of different cultures and religions. Happening almost simultaneously around the continent like the shining sun.

Holy anger generated through learning the reality of the African identity and the state of Africa.

I know you guys want a revolution. You want a massive protest. But it won't work. Yes. It won't work. Hence, revolution isn't common.

Revolution can't work when supposedly angry elites are sleeping or benefiting from the cesspool.

Revolution can't work when the military and police aren't having a deep feeling of distraught.

Revolution can't work when merchants and businessmen still benefit from the chaos.

Revolution can't work when unions and groups don't speak one voice.

Revolution can't work when the workers or labor unions aren't united.

Revolution can't work when the citizens are still divided along religious and tribal lines.

Revolution can't work when the masses aren't speaking one language.

Revolution can't work when the masses haven't planned a way to handle saboteurs and their lineage.

(Many good) elites must also be part of the game. Because money and connection are needed to run the show. It's all about the common good of the whole.

Soldiers need thorough education.

All security arms need thorough education.

Thugs need thorough education.

They must come to understand that the people they serve don't mean well for them and their children.

Proper education, not college degrees will erase these problems gradually.

However, a faster means will be to vote for politicians with good track records. But we know where this ends in Africa. Hence, the education.

The other lovely alternative is in the Bollywood movie: The holiday.
("nor be my mouth you go hear say shoot bird e mama die".

Education wouldn't pose much of a problem because the schools and religious centers are there. What's needed is to infiltrate them with the sought-after elixir.

There is no holy anger in the land. Just rants and complaints, hence, we are stuck where we are.

Education is the best solution I can think of right now. Probably, other better ideas are unknown.

Thanks.

pansophist:
Honestly, I don't know. There is an overlap.

Either student jobs are plenty, but it's hard to get and expensive (eg `Germany), or cheaper to get in, but student jobs aint plentiful (the Baltics), or plentiful jobs, relatively cheap, easy to stay after studies, but easier to heaven than the country (Poland).

So pick your poison bro.

If I can get to heaven before Poland, I might just tell an angel to throw me inside Poland.

But the problem is getting to heaven alive and reaching Poland alive. Like with flesh and blood.

The problem with being an African is that the errors and trials you would have experienced in your early teenage years till the mid-20s, to become fully grounded from 25, or let's say 30...is what you will start experiencing from your 30s.

Starting from this stage, you are distraught. You don't know which hook to hold, the road to follow, or who to listen to.

You become impatient because you are getting older and time is far spent.

Worse is that it's from 40 many start running helter-skelter because from 50 you are literally done with life. Don't allow the exception to deceive you. Proceeding from there you ought to be enjoying the fruits of your labor.

The sad thing is that nobody tells you from an early age.

Our parents have been bamboozled by religion and the hope of a better future. They just allow things to slide. They built us for the past, not for the present.

Not their fault though because they were using a prior template that was good but expired even before we were born. Hence, many youths of today are void except for their college degrees. Multitudes still lack a basic education.

No idea about navigating the world. No idea about money making. No idea about business. No idea about handling our problems. No idea about dealing with people. Just blank and empty.

They are like harmless and helpless flocks with the hope of using a degree to get their lives satisfaction and happily ever after.

As we speak, many don't know what to do. They don't know where to move to. They don't even know how to think. They are hopeless.

The promise of a better future was a facade. They fasted. They prayed. They served their father's land. Are humble and patriotic citizens, yet the goalpost gets farther away from them every time they come close to scoring a goal.

Ideas die faster in poor and underdeveloped nations.

The innovations that have sprung up in place of previous poverty had giants and great men who stood by the brains behind that idea. Like Vanderbilt to Rockefeller.

Rockefeller would have died like the average man if no one had been there to key into his oil exploration idea and adventure.

Things take extra power to survive in places of poverty. I mean power beyond the seven seas and oceans. That's why development and innovation in Africa can be counted on the fingers.

Converting your idea into a great innovation from a standpoint of integrity in a poor place takes something beyond your might, strength, and thought.
There's a higher probability of you dining with the devil to get it done even if it was and never your original intention.

But you got to do it because you want food to eat. You want to take care of momma. You want to see Papa look good like his youthful days.

You are like a naked migrant in a desert. The Sahara desert is even a testament to this. It has young Africans buried inside her belly who tried migrating to Europe because they couldn't survive the extreme power of the sand dune and vicious men of the Sahara.

You are empty. All you see is a sand dune.

Oasis? That's a black swan. Support? That's a fairy tale. Guidance? You're asking for magic.

That's the case of being an African.

Conditions are so tough that you'll begin to doubt your dreams. You'll think if your ambitions are grandiose. You'll think if you are making a mistake. Because despite your efforts and endeavors, nothing fruitful comes out. A futile result you get every day.

Meanwhile, your nonchalant peer in a developed world doesn't need to work as hard as you to get his basic needs met.

The funny thing is that as Africans, our daily struggle is to provide for our daily needs. Not for the party. Not for extravagance. To put food on your table, a good shelter, security, and good internet access.

However, millions of Africans have died without meeting their daily needs. They die poorer than the poverty line.

Seeing young African children today causes me a lot of fear. Not for the harm they will cause but for their future which is gonna be wasted under bad government and leadership. They are jolly and happy today, but their future is blink except a tsunami of change overtakes the African government for good.

And by the way, the crime rate in poor nations is usually high and extreme. Virtues and vices can't be void. You either get occupied with one and forgo the other. So when virtues are lost, expect the sons and daughters of Adam to dance in the playground of their most animalistic nature.

And here I have a problem with African mothers who intend to procreate beyond 2 kids. Like what do you need the extra kids for? You that have not fulfilled your dreams, what then do you have to help 3 or more kids to fulfill theirs?

Getting pregnant at this age, a sight to behold, a thing of good, and the joy of being a mother is metamorphosing into a horror scene.

Because if you don't have the basic necessities to cater to a child till the point of comfortable adulthood, you've done great wickedness to that child. And this circles us back to the opening of this post.

Africans seem not to even know their problem. Anyway, the majority are religious and filled with myriads of superstitions. They don't even know that they have been hostage in their lands. Locked by corrupt kinsmen.

Anyway, they will fight over tribal, religious, and political views. Still inside their cage. What a pathetic scene to behold.

Despite the obstacles, the few that can get going should keep going. Hope is the fire. It will one day illuminate our darkness and we will give light.

May those who are confused and lose hope find the courage once more to march on as gallant soldiers.

We don't know when we will find rest. But we know that this too shall pass away.

"Wia" is a common parlance in the pidgin dictionary of Nigeria.

It can mean nothing when use with "for".

Example:

"for wia. I nor get money o".

It can also mean it's a lie.

Example:

Mr A: Big man with doings.

Mr B: "For wia, make una nor believe am o".

It can also mean everywhere.

Example: The hunger and poverty in Nigeria is "every wia".

The deed has already been done.

No need to wish if things went this way or that way. We only have decisions about now and the future. The past is immutable.

He has lost her trust.

The price he'll pay daily is that he'll consistently prove that he has changed because his fiancee will doubt every one of his moves and words. If the fiancee decides to stay.

Trust has always been a problem in the world. Once broken, it becomes (impossible) difficult to amend. The worst is that betrayals have a rippling effect. It affects those who are innocent. To trust genuine people becomes harder and harder.

The child is already a link between them. If she can find a sound and good relationship as a single mother or can manage herself, let her leave her fiance and forge a better and new life with a man whom she can trust and be open. (However, this wouldn't erase her fears).

The fiance too can do the same. But the guilt laid in his heart will last for a very long time. He will project his insecurities and fear of betrayal to his new partner. Also with his current fiancee if they reconcile.

Counterintuitive, albeit dark, she has won his trust forever. He will do everything to prove that he is a change person. The woman can use this as leverage to get him under her tenterhooks, especially when she decides to develop dark personality traits.

Thanks.

Gerrard59:
As I have written here:

Everything is economics. As black Africans, we are too poor, and very poor to be arrogant at the same time. That is my annoyance with Nigerian netizens - poor yet proudly arrogant and terribly ignorant. Effects of inhaling generator fumes and sweating at the same time. Bad combo.

With the support for the seizure of private businesses and socialist policies, the poverty will soar. The future get as e.

I do say it that regardless of the means or source of wealth, rich people or well-to-do people are well-behaved and mannered than poor people.

Research even has it that people born with silver spoons are more empathic than people who grew from grass to grace. Once a poor man will tend to act like a goat on large doses of methamphetamine.

The working of the mentality of the rich and poor greatly differs.

You'd expect the poor man to be sound in character, honest, and reputable, however, that's not the case.

The worst form of misbehavior, belligerence, and arrogance is quotidian among poor people. Their sense of grandiosity launches into space.

This doesn't need to be argued. Visiting poor and rich neighborhoods is the answer.

Of course, money is expedient for the maintenance and running of daily affairs. But there are some things that don't require money at all.

You don't need money to talk politely and approach and interact with people in soft tones and coordinated manners. Make your surroundings clean.

The only time poor people tend to behave is when they are in the midst of rich folks or forceful people like them. Their behavior is either to act as a sycophant or ingratiate or pretend to follow.

Their normal behavior is how they interact with their fellow colleagues. What's even mind-blowing is that poor people look down on other poor people. This very sad phenomenon is mostly observed and practiced by women; black women especially.

They ratio you according to your appearance and how much you will gonna spend or throw away. Meanwhile, they have nothing and lack everything from material to immaterial values.

This obnoxiousness is largely witnessed among the black population worldwide. Poor people who should rather shut up and follow the orders of well-refined society will try to bring it down by screaming r@cism, DEI blah blah blah nonsense.
Meanwhile, their murmuring is due to the fact that they can't maintain order, and can't concentrate for long because their mindset has been calibrated to accept chaos.

The stupidest amongst them will always clamor to say "In Nigeria/Africa, you're free to do whatever you like..." because their minds have been configured to accept disorder and depravity as the conventional way of living. And also because they can go scot-free. Yeah. Where there's no law, there's no transgression.

How can someone be poor, dumb, stupid, loud, and arrogant baffles me daily. I don't seem to understand such a state of being.

They are so dumb that they are very proud of their characteristics and can't even fathom if there's any need for change. Definitely, change can't happen because those lost in sentiments will find introspection as migraine-inducing.

Thanks.

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tensazangetsu20:
He trained to be president for 20 years. He's ready. He built Lagos. He has an eye for talent.

In the Chatham House interview, Tinubu refused to share his strategy with the audience because in his words "he didn't want Peter Obi and Atiku Abubakar to copy him".

People opened their two naked eyes to vote and defend APC and Tinubu.

It was cringe.

Relevance is a key factor and predictable way to accomplish your desires. It makes you set your priorities right, assembling what matters at the top and the irrelevant at the bottom.

And as for dealing with evil, acting good is not enough. Good must be strong and carry force. And also multiply. Because evil is like a cancerous breeze.