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If "people lack common sense", it means that that sense is not common. What is common ought to be easily obtained by many people. It is common sense because you've been able to brood on it over time, which has made it soft like potato inside a hot water.

Anytime people fail in performing in what relates to "common sense" know that such sense isn't common. Or they have low intelligence to understand and decipher a problem. Or they lack the wisdom to take action.

Marriage is not easy. It involves a lot of tradeoffs on the sides of both parties. Many people can't even rule themselves not to talk of brushing, greasing, and maintaining their edges when in close relationship with others or a sexual union.

By instinct, a woman knows how to take care of her baby. It's a biological imperative. However, she has seen how other women nurture their kids + she's supported by other women after conception on how to raise her kids.

Marriages has been existing and are COMMON, but modern couples are failing because they only see two people in the union but are not cognizant of the tradeoffs, the fights, the quarrels, and the tough decisions made behind the scene. All these make marriage hard.

Marriage is not a one-person game. If the man lacks the qualities of a leader, he can't lead. If the woman lacks discernment about the details of leadership she can't follow a leader.

For the woman to be submissive and play her role, the husband must be a good leader; for the man to remain firm as a leader, he needs the unrelenting support of his wife.

Marriage is not the place to please the sensibilities of anyone. It is an altar - a place of sacrifice. The essence of that sacrifice is to build a long-lasting dynasty that springs from their loins.

It hurts to sacrifice a pleasure. It hurts to live disciplined when being liberal is exhilarating. It hurts to lay down your half with the hope of getting one even though you are full of legitimate doubts.

These sacrifices made, pains willingly incurred, and pleasures disposed of for the greater gain are the mitochondria of every successful marriage. It is not visible to the eyes of people outside. It is not a COMMON SENSE.

What is common is their outings and children, which makes marriage seems easy. But none is cognizant of the secrets in the dark and the prerequisites to celebrate the 10, 20, 30, 40, and 50th marriage anniversaries.

The common man and common woman come into marriage for sexual and material opportunities respectively, with the prospect of a happily ever after without considering the long road.

They want the satiation of their sensibilities - this is mostly true for the female who expects to be kissed and pampered like a little feminine infant. And when they don't get the supply as expected they become bothered and grieves towards divorce.

Marriage is not easy. It involves a lot of work. The sense to make it work and last long is UNCOMMON. It is uncommon because the average human is emotional and wants to live in a comforting shell.

And it doesn't take to climb great mountains to get this sense. It can't be seen because of the high level of solipsism.

If you step out of your shell, the uncommon becomes common.

Here: https://twitter.com/baba_cave/status/1654055555059654657?t=d-eUCVl9gd1plPh6YWoEng&s=19

Buhari is the prototype for failure.

Buhari is a fleshly example of a monumental disaster.

Buhari's series of electoral failures was a true definition of him. One would think he had something in the bank, hence, his ambition to clinch the presidential seat in Aso Rock.

But it turned out that he has nothing to offer. He is a consistent failure. His ambitions are empty. He is the proverbial representation of "the empty drum makes the loudest noise".

Anything incompetent is Buhari. Anything sluggish is Buhari. Anything myopic is Buhari. Anything dumb is Buhari. Anything hopeless is Buhari. Anything useless is Buhari.

Under Buhari, the country became the world's poverty capital. Under Buhari, the economy which was one of the fastest growing became one of the least growing. The economy has hit a series of recessions and inflation as easily as a comb runs through the hair.

Before Buhari, we slept with one eye closed, now we don't even sleep. We work tirelessly during the day and became nocturnal vigilantes at night.

Under the nostril of Buhari, crime and social vices became a norm. A graduate male not into cyber fraud is term "a dull boy", a graduate female not spreading her legs across the 36 states is mocked and termed "holy Mary".

And the same Buhari is about launching his identical self on us: Buhari Pro max alias Bola Ahmed Tinubu.

"make we just dey play".

Sigh.

Reminderz:

alright no problem boss.. was it through an application? please can you expatiate better? I really appreciate

Through the Payoneer website.

Reminderz:

💯

that's very good bro... nice 👍👍👍

I would be glad... can you please tell me the steps you used in opening the Amazon account and did you have to open a Dorm account?

Pardon the late response.

I opened a payoneer account. But I think there are other better methods to look out for.

Good evening.

To reach the end of a particular task has to do with obsession. The task must entwine your soul, and the remembrance of work beats with every palpitation of the heart. Obsession exhumes hidden nuances which are contents that form creative arts.

The higher the obsession, the higher the engagement, however, with higher fatigue. Creating little hiatus for recuperation of the body and analysis of thought brings refinement to the work and rest for the soul.

You need to break a sweat to produce marvelous art. But caution is needed to prevent the vitiation of your art with fatigue. Take the necessary rest else the work becomes boring and faith evasive.

Have a fruitfulness mindset at heart when working. As a man, your energy with every dawn of a new day depletes and time is not on your side. You don't want to waste time and energy in futility.

The task may not yield the expected result. But at least it can be helpful in some ways. From there you upgrade. That's the essence of obsession - to identify different edges. Have the best in mind. Good is appreciable. But no room for waste.

Here: https://twitter.com/baba_cave/status/1652704995316228099?t=L6dddebjdWapDrclu2c75Q&s=19

If you see a groom cry at his wedding is either one or both of these factors:

1. No restriction to sexual intimacy any longer.
2. He has found a chaste wife.

These factors are based on presumption, with the hope of unlimited sex supply and the wife remaining submissive and loyal through thick and thin which fulfills both factors listed above respectively.

If the bride cries, it is because: she has finally cashed out of the dating market.

They both shed tears of joy. However, it means different things to both. But in the eyes of the audience, Adam has found his missing rib. Lol.

The woman, not the man benefits from every sexual relationship. It doesn't matter if he's alpha, omega, or simp.

Every stage you find yourself as a man is to test your competence and resilience. Your ability is fortified by the actions that add flesh to the framework of your words.

The attitude displayed when you enter this stage is important. It's not a matter of finishing or reaching the end. Strange phenomena scare you at first encounter, but your response over time is relevant.

The immediate retreat is normal. Man is shaken by impromptus and complexity. He becomes befuddled when challenged by unknown forces.

What's expedient in that stage is your reaction after being slapped hard. You don't cower in retreat. It's another time you proved the qualities you are boastful of. It is the courage you summon, to unravel the problem chunk by chunk that matters.

Victory may elude you but not without lessons. It has always been a test. But now you know your capacity and deficiencies and the appropriate places to make adjustments.

Many things are there to learn if you don't run away or end in a series of complaints and lamentations. Your attitude counts. This is the time to gauge your strength and get fueled for an adventure.

Here: https://twitter.com/baba_cave/status/1652241579287928834?t=WfhysZb6LwS9Do2r9mqEYg&s=19

1. You're not wise if you see learning cunning or manipulation as ev!l.

Because you see it from a level of you causing harm to people rather than you learning the bolts & nuts so that you can counter the game effectively when predators try to feast on you. The world is not moral.

2. Whether others veer off to become malicious after learning with prior innocence shouldn't be your problem.

Predatory cycles can only be broken or minimized when they're known, countered, and exposed.

What's exposed under the sun has no hiding place. Light up.

3. We do expect every individual to play the moral cards. However, humans are motivated by incentives, fear, or punishment. The side they will lie on today is dependent on the attached benefits or security. This makes the average human lacks firmness and standard.

4. Sermons and religion are good. But they must be backed by strictness - punishment or loss. Rather than sheer will. This will make virtues appreciated.

By the time you know the game, the probability of remaining a perpetual victim of manipulations and gaslighting minimizes.

Here: https://twitter.com/baba_cave/status/1651545345640333312?t=yHTYptJeL18lI1CKglBtcA&s=19

Plot twist: the man is not the father of the unborn child.

1. Modern husbands don't want to offend the sensibilities of their wives. They will go extra mile to prove their love and don't mind denigrating themselves just to express their love.

2. This absurd way of behavior is due to the scarcity of sex and the search for motherly love in their wives.

Sons that haven't enjoyed genuine love from their mothers will seek it in their girlfriends or wives. Ditto for daughters who seek dominance in jerks outside the home because the father is either weak or absent.

This makes them seek the best in the worst, and don't mind bearing hurts especially when they've fallen in love.

3. In our contemporary day, men keep metamorphosing into the delights of women, forgoing their masculine essence and imperative. What happens within in the reproductive cycle: millions of sperm cells chasing an ovum plays out in the physical realm.

4. But modern women don't care. The more you dance to their tunes, the higher their demands. This leads to grandiosity and entitlement mentality despite their deficiencies; they don't even provide value to society except that they leverage the values men have built and are also supported by men on all corners.

5. Women don't have respect for men because men don't even have respect for themselves.

This man right here in a naked photo shoot with his wife will harangue other men about how to be a good husband or even counter any idea that's contrary to such an act. Theirs is to make their wives happy even though it's tantamount to the decline of the family.

6. The more men double down on their value, the more women become obstinate in their absurd demands with more foolish ways of how a relationship should work.

Until men get it right, women will always see their (women's) wrongs as right.

(I want to assume that the pic is a "Photoshop".

Thanks.

Many husbands have not passed the lover mode to the boss mode. They settle down for the former because they want don't want to offend the sensibility of their wives. The lover mode wouldn't sustain, for what has been engaged for long become boring without showing the other sides.

Career women know how to bottle their emotional troubles, and perform any task assigned to them concerning their office despite anger, backlash, and stress. They must discharge every duty assigned to them, on a time frame under stress and duress.

She must perform, or else her reaction if not positive will affect her pay and promotion. Career women walk on their tiptoes, sit chest out and rotate their necks in the workplace. There's no room for error. Boss mode is active. She serves her boss to remain checked in his book.

Every frustration she has is channeled to her husband or alcohol or clubbing. The difference between a man's frustration and that of a woman's is that it can be absorbed. She will find encouragement when she vents. Man is the better absorbent. Friends and alcohol are temporal.

Her vents don't bounce back to her. She has an opening at the end of the conduit. Her complaints will be paid attention. She may see a good number of help, especially from the male space. Her physique, beauty, and sexual appeal are enough to score her the average points.

When the man begins to vent, his complaints bounce back. Neither opening nor absorbent. His lamentations scatter people away from him like a strong wind on a flat tray of broken melons. His woman can only tend his wound but the healing must come from within - from himself.

His vents go up and come down. He faces this in every cycle. The difference is that in every cycle he may gain small freedom. Nobody cares about his struggles to the extent that they are willing to take him out of the hole which is identical to the help rendered to a woman.

As a lover, he must not be blinded by the sensibility of his wife. He must be strong enough to maintain a boss mode. The husband's identity is both a lover and boss. He's on a mission to lead the wife in the right way why acting as an absorbent for the rise of a dynasty.

Here: https://twitter.com/baba_cave/status/1651259211777490946?t=SP0bP-Qr2vgYgKozMs1oKA&s=19

Hedgefunds:


Hi cave , hows work? Nice you finally wrote the book. Send me the link on Amazon.
How are you able to combine work and writing and reading and staying on NL...do you sleep at all.?..just curious

I'm still doing some cleaning on my Amazon account. Better, I send you directly. It's just a little token. Please, accept it.

And as I said earlier, it's just an appetizer. The main dish is coming.

I sleep well. Though it's not easy to keep track.

Thanks.

Hedgefunds:



My Oga.

The chief.

I greet you baba.

I've got a small appetizer book published on Amazon.

Please, forward your mail or send a DM to get the soft copy of the book.

There are other books still cooking. "you go use this one first hold body small".

"Oga Tonnyray and Reminderz, una self join for this high table o".

Thanks.

Use both as a ladder to elevate yourself in the organizational hierarchy.

Only give advice when they choose to. However, know that it's to know your position regarding their sexual escapades. If they compel you too much, tell them, you die with secrets and shouldn't not be bothered about any leak or gossip in regards to what your eyes saw.

Never be judgemental. This is the time you need to increase your level of respect for your boss and manager. Add more to what you've been doing previously.

This is an opportunity. Leverage it.

Let's I forget, deal with that woman with a long, straight, hard metal pole from afar.

Have a nice day.

learning22:


Thanks for the input.

How far have you gone on JavaScript?

To the extent that if-else statements are no longer confusing.

Well done.

Don't be a pawn on that board.

learning22:


Thanks.
I will do that.

I just checked the tutorial you mentioned by John. I am currently working with it, although he said he will use Vite as he proceeds, currently I am still at the stage he is using create-react-app.

Thanks.

You'll get more confused if you use John Smilga running your React for the first time.

There is a short video on youtube of about 11 minutes you can watch to create your first React app. Also make sure you got Node.js installed before installing React. Very smooth trust me.

Use PedroTech or Arcade Mind to soften the ground before John Smilga. Though I'm learning with John Smilga now, the confusion I'm experiencing can easily be bypassed because the aforementioned helped me.

Don't bother about Vite for now to avoid confusion. Learn the (normal) basic - create-react-app.

Thanks.

1. You are too weak now to pick yourself from the dust. No amount of motivational talks will uplift your soul from these shackles and bondage. Don't even bother setting goals. You'll fail more times than you passed, then slip back into your former state.

2. Now that you've acknowledged your problem online, and found that you need a solution, a road that will lead you to the light, you must do the same offline.

You're an adult. No constant murmuring and lamentations. If you want a breakthrough, you must behold yourself in a mirror that you need it.

3. What you need to do:
A. Look for people you admire offline. Relate your problem to them. The average man will love to help but don't act as a another burden.

You must be willingly to bear your weight amidst shame, guilt, ridicule, and reproach. You do not need a pampering of your ego.

B. Look for an NGO center around. Relate with them.

C. Look for any adventure offline that's filled with good and reputable people. These people will hold you accountable. They will be both a mentor and master. The help you need are in their hands. Don't think you can do it solely.

4. Have a list of people you admire. Write them boldly on a paper or the wall in your bedroom. You can obtain their pictures if possible.
Look at these names and pictures daily before stepping out or taking action.

Take for example:

1. Will Martin Luther be wasting time on masturbation and pornography instead of looking for ways to set blacks free. Ponder on this while gazing his beauty in a picture.

Will Nelson Mandela do this? What will Jordan Peterson do in this situation.

5. Using myself as an example: I've become inspired by Peter Obi. In the sense that since the presidential shows no scandal has been used to roped the man. Not even a mistress or the maltreatment of his housemaids. Every stone thrown at him are empty propaganda.

It means one thing: it is either Peter Obi is the inventor of hide and seek game or has been maintaining a clean standard because of a day like this.

It doesn't means that he's a saint. Everyone has challenges, foibles, weaknesses. But people like him have discovered how to finagle around their weaknesses.

This is the kind of man I want to become. Hence, I hold him strongly in my imagination and dear to my heart even if it means not responding to my sensual desires. It's about the future not now. I want to become a man that will make his enemies looks stupid when they accuse him.

6. Dear friend, salvation is possible. Step outside today, scan for good people and they'll gladly help you. An idea on where to find these people: church, mosques, library, seminars, meetings, etc.

Don't sit down in your house looking for help. You won't get it. However, you can use online aids to supplement, and solitary to ponder, meditate, introspect and lay good strategies.

Take care, man.

When the vultures no longer have carcasses to feast on, they will start feasting on themselves.

The fathers may plunder the state, and bounces in bribery and corruption, in disorderliness and oppression of the masses, to "rest in peace".

But the resultant effect will not only bring unrest to their children but will flow into their craves and exhume them to bear witness to the seeds of chaos they planted years ago.

It is just a matter of time. As untreated cancerous cells, "e go reach everywhere...na turn by turn".

Sigh.

Here: https://twitter.com/baba_cave/status/1648266842471817218?t=oFajOfqlLuPTg34bcY2gVw&s=19