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Tightpussy2024:
I didn't say broke men don't deserve love. A broke man is rarely in love as money reveals a man character. Alot of closeted gays only found out when they became rich. Have you seen a poor person accused of being gay? Is it men that will sample BDSM when money enter their hand that you want to risk your youth and several abortions for as a woman?

Whatever happens between a broke man and a woman is rarely love(at least from his side). Some will marry out of pity when they make it then keep the women they want as concubine. But ask a man who he wants at 26 sleeping on mat or eating from his mother pot and ask him who he wants again in 6 years time when he has made it.

As for getting sex in the confines of a relationship,I condemn both the rich or poor men using relationship as a means to get sex.

If he wants sex,there are thousands of women he should get sex from but he wants a 9/10..women don't get who they want and most times settle down,so why can't men make that sacrifice of going for who they can afford to have sex with?

Why not take 5000 and go to a remote area,pick a village girl that will jump and appreciate it and have sex with her? Must it be a slay queen on Instagram?

At the bolded,for some reasons the concubines men keep and lavish on are the girls that would have rejected them when they were poor,so they are taking revenge on no one.imagine buying a house for a girl that will not wink at you if you had no millions.
This is why women hate to struggle with poor men. Just like ubunja used to say,"why be the one to offer commitment when others offered nothing but got free sex?" I will rephrase it to be,"why be the one to build with a man when I can be the one that he will buy house for or phones for?" Will you not prefer to be the one that comes later to enjoy or the one that soaked garri with him and you aren't even guaranteed of a ring?
Men commitment is expensive,so should women time and their bodies be expensive.

I really don't like to talk about my personal life but my moniker will tell you I was a baddie and I displaced a "good woman" in a long term relationship .That is why I always laugh when these alpha meils are screaming virtue or virgins.if you think women are emotional,then wait for a man in love.


I can open an equivalent of redpill knowledge for women but people will think I am trying to corrupt women or make them make my "mistakes".

If men practice what they preach a lot of good girls will not remain in their fathers house in their 30s

I like your train of thoughts on this thread.

Nice one.

"Na to continue the gist come be the Koko"

Winks.

Groupoid:
So, approximately 8 months ago; I was dumped by my gf(we're both university students). I don't want to go into details, as to what caused the breakup, but she moved on with another guy(her male bestie), and I'm not completely over her.

So, I believed I've grieved enough, and I'm ready to try dating again. But the problem is rejection. I've gotten so many rejections from females that I had to take a break from asking girls out. Dating as an average guy is very difficult. I just honestly want to give up on it entirely, since I don't even see how I'm going to get a girl here (I school in Edo state, so you know how materialistic the girls are).


I know I'll usually be advised to work hard, make money, and all those stuffs, but there's nothing wrong with me as I am. I know I'm just a student, still dependent on parents; but do I really don't to have a fat bank account just to get a girl in University? (I don't go for those high class ladies though. Just the average ones)

I'm asking for your advice sir. Do I just forget about women completely, and just focus on getting my shit right? Making money is not exactly easy here.

I endured a lot of things a guy shouldn't endure from my ex, because I knew I had no options if I broke up with her.

NB: I also have a next to non-existing social life.

This world is really brutal for a man.

1. How do you expect to have a rapport with women when your social life is zero? Will they come and meet you inside your house?

2. In 2025 and beyond, you can't be an introvert first before getting anything in this life. Else, you'll languish alone.

Be what you want to be first before metamorphosing into an introvert.

3. You want women. There's nothing wrong with that.

Don't rationalize it. Don't pretend about it.

4. Those university girls are not interested in a serious relationship. So, foolish of them. (I will not digress).

So, you too, don't come with the mindset of a serious relationship. Except you luckily find a homely and modest woman.

5. Be lively. Be jovial. Smell nice.

Nobody cares about your 2k long sleeves. Just iron it well and use good body sprays.

Don't act needy. Roll with the boys. Roll with the girls.

Start practicing with your coursemates and faculty colleagues.

Play. Be fun to be with. Don't be timid.

Another secret: experiment with your barber till you get the perfect haircut. Jeez!

You are not average bro. Maintain your small standard.

Babes will fall in pleasant places for you.

6. Use the library. Go to night class. Attend a local church.

Put yourself in places where women are abundant. At the end, there will always be that 1 woman that will have a genuine desire for you.

7. You don't need a fat bank account to reach this stage.

Dead that mindset.

At any stage you find yourself as man, a beautiful romance can happen.

I understand that we are in a hyper-social media culture today. But that shouldn't discourage you.

There are many good women outside that are waiting to bag you if you prove your masculinity and competence.

Everything is not about money, money, money.

You must learn how to get women without pillaging your pocket.

8. Don't complain.

Put in the work.

You can't tell me that you are the ugliest or least average in that faculty not to even talk of the university.

Bro, come out from your closet and catch the fun by yourself.

Nothing will happen until you make deliberate romantic efforts.

Thanks.

Iamblessed85:
You’re derailing from the redpill. Your posts try to explain the norm rather than challenge them. Food for thought

I don't like when people try to pose a rebuttal and, in the end, show no rebuttal.

Nothing is set in stone.

Make a rebuttal with solid points.

Point to the errors and state what's correct.

Simple.

Good day.

luminouz:
Hey Cave!!!

Good to see you here!!!

Big chief.

Well done, sir.

Happy New month.

Keepamsafe:
This might be a long read, but please pardon me. Its a matter of the heart and I will try as possible to be brief.
We met 2023 as at then, she was in the last semester of her year 2. She was a virgin too as at then. We started dating and I disvirgined her. Meeting her a virgin in her year 2 shows she has some sort of self control and sexual discipline.
So, everything was going on fine with our relationship. Tho” at first, it took a while for me to fall for her as I have been out of a relationship for a long while. But, seeing she meets some of my criteria, I started falling in love with her as she can be a girl for keeps.
All her past exs has nothing serious with her.
Nothing sexual the most she did with 2 of her exes was just kisses and handling here and there.
Those were not much to deal with.

She said she wanted a serious relationship, so had a serious relationship going on.
Tho” during this period, I wont say im faithful. But, she’s a girl I wanted for keeps as she came in a clean slate.
Early last year I went through her phone and saw her telling one of her exes “I love you”. I got soo pissed and broke. She came begging that she wouldn’t do it again. That she and the guy were bestie too.
So, I told her to cut every ties with every besties and ex.
As my SERIOUS GIRLFRIEND is not allowed to have tied with any besties or exs. Of which she did. And deleted the guy contacts. Things still kept on going smoothly. Mid last year, I went through her phone and saw her giving other guys attention. I told her I hate flirting and my gf is not allowed to flirt! She apologized saying its one of her weaknesses which she has gotten to know and working on it because when she broke up with those her previous exs she got used to talking to different guys here and there for fun.
But, shes trying to work on it. I said ok. Things still kept on going fine.
Mid last year, she got pregnant for me. Now shes in year 3. I wanted the baby, even wanted to go see the Dad if need be and claim responsibility and do a little rite. But according to her, she didn’t want to disappoint her Father who is a Policeman as the dad would be disappointed that she got pregnant outside wedlock and also, the mom said she should at least finish school before getting married too. Finally, we took out the pregnancy. PLEASE NOTE, the mom is separated from the Dad. I have no clear reason what the issue is. Non of them is remarried anyways and according to her, its not the first time the mom is leaving the house and coming back and the issue is from the dad. The Dad also has a son from another woman and the boy is living with them. Please note also that my GF stays with the dad and the step brother.
Back to us, after taking out the baby, we did genotype test. Im As and she said her mom said she was AA. But when we did the test, hers came out AS. So, we got confused and said to do another test for her which we never did till date.
We kept on dating through this all. During her IT, I went through her phone and saw where she’s entertaining one or two guys from her IT place. Like, meeting with them at the cafe, meet around corners etc. I chatted one of the guys with her phone in her presence. And asking the guy to tell me (her) what he feels about me etc, but the guy didn’t say anything serious. I let that one slide.
I believe as my serious girlfriend, your phone can’t be more private to me than your private part. She too is free to go through my phone if she wants. I keep it transparent. Even when I cheat, I delete every traces to respect her feelings as the serious girl in my life.
With in late last year too, there was a period we were both talking about how we have both fallen out of love with eachother. We researched and realized it can be normal in a relationship. So, we were still together and this stage passed.
2 weeks ago, I went through her phone and one contact with disappearing message. I asked her who was that, she said it’s somebody from her street.
On reading the chat, I realized the guy has invited her out a couple times of which she agreed to show up. December last year 7pm when making her hair, the guy chatted her that she should come out to that estate front of which she wanted to go that 7pm but for her dad that already came back home. So, she couldn’t go from the saloon to see him again.
The one that got me pissed was when the guy sent my serious gf a text that he’s “feeling down and needs someone to talk to”
I was pissed, what brought about such closeness? Or when is my gf a therapist. I told her how many times have I told her to stop flirting and stop entertaining guys!
I gave her back her phone, when I came back I realized she texted the guy 2 messages and deleted it for both. I asked her what the text was, she said she asked the guy if anybody chatted him with her phone? That she wasn’t the person with it.
I was pissed again, doing that in my presence. So, I told her to call the guy to come online. She did.
I used her phone to chat the guy asking him to screenshot their last text, so he said it was deleted for two.
So, I asked the guy to tell me (her) what he feels about me, so, the guy was like thats a funny question because she knows he doesn’t know how to do these text love things, that he prefers telling her in person.
So, I told him ok. Whats he doing, he said nothing that he was just chilling at home. So, I told him ok they should see so he was like, ok. She should let him know when as he’s wanting to go out soon. I didn’t bother to know anything further. If she has gone to his house before, if they have done anything before. I didn’t oet her talk on those. I told her to just go and she shouldn’t bother calling when she gets home.
Please note that we have broken up once for an issue like this with several warnings for similar issues.
She didn’t call. Later that night, I couldn’t stay. So, I called her and told her that so, she has been cheating on me all these while. She said how did she cheat? If I like, I shouldn’t believe her thats her business that she didn’t see any wrong she did. I told her alright. That I know what to do, I will only call her when im in the mood. So, I cut the call.

She sent me voicenotes started ranting that guys with entailment mentality.
That so, because shes in a serious relationship she cannot hang out with other guys? After all me too im not innocent who is SARAH (real name witheld). So I asked her are we now competing? After all who started the whole flirting thing.

She said guy guy guy, If it was before, she would have been crying and begging but shes not crying that I have tried. After all, nobody lose. That its her life, even if she slept with another guy, its her life and people make mistakes and learn from their mistakes.
If I like, I shouldn’t believe what she’s telling me, thats my business. I can go and fool myself and call the guy. Thats my business. And she will never come to my house again that shes not my cumbucket. I just told her I will call her whenever im in the mood.
Thats where we ended the call.
Stayed one week, didn’t talk. She sent me a couple pictures and text. I didn’t text back nor replied. Only liked the picture.

Yesterday, called her and realized that all my numbers were already blocked. So, I used a number she doesn’t have to call her of which she ended the call on hearing my voice. Well, I texted on whatsapp. And told her that being ex doesn’t mean being enemies, she can need assistance from me, or I can need from her.
So, we could still be friends and she should come pick up her remaining stuff. Of which she refused to come yesterday and said she will come when she feels like and let me know but shes not coming that yesterday. And, of course she doesn’t wanna be my enemies. But being friends means we”ll be having sex and she doesn’t wanna have sex with me again. I told her no need limiting our new friendship we should let it flow unless she wanna be the bitter ex of which she said shes not.
And thats how we ended things. She”d be coming to pick up her stuff soon. I dunno.
I know the relationship is over. I just miss her as this is someone we could have had a life together being couple. I rather she cheats with me than cheat on me. Sad reality but I have really fallen for her and emotional.
What should I do when she comes? I know not to simp for a woman but im human in as much as the love is sour now and its best we settle as friends as more of such issues will erupt later in the future again. Opinions, advice, insults needed to face reality please.


OAM4J Mynd44 Rocktation Nlfpmod Seun Dominique lalasticlala help for wider opinion please

Rule 1: once you start going back and forth with a woman in negotiations and sometimes intense arguments, just know that you have lost the plot.

A woman that loves you will create boundaries for herself because she doesn't wants to lose you.

It's easier for men to come back to their beloved mate after infidelity.

But once a woman cheats, hardly anything you can do. She now belongs to another man, a conqueror stronger and better than you in her psyche.

A woman going silent for days without talking with you is the height of it. Her heart belongs somewhere else.

She will learn a hard lesson.

As for you, bro, you've got your faults too even though you were not caught. Nothing tarnishes a relationship faster than infidelity.

Anyway, forget about her.

There are other good women outside.

Take this heartbreak as a necessary lesson that forges you into becoming a stronger man.

Thanks.

goran3310:
I love this thread. All those who would sell their fiancees should come forward. I'm buying fiancees. Payment in cash.
$ €

PS:

For all those who wonder how slavery began. Here it is. Whites didn't come on ships and capture blacks. No. Everyone was bought from someone else. Once. For colorful beads. For two spoons. For a meter of cloth. For a glass pendant. And now. For a handful of smelly money. Yes. Or do you think 15 sailors can catch 200 blacks, shackle them and load them on a ship. Bring your fiancees. Payment in cash.

You succinctly captured this.

They are all bunch of idiots.

Sacrificing the people you love for wads of cash.

Same white slavery approach cum mentality.

Yet, they keep complaining of fake love and fake friends. Yet they are potent catalysts in the equation.

Every day it gets proven: Black people are who they are. Their poverty mindsets and dumb mentality have been leveraged over centuries to keep them hooked.

We always think that we are smart people. But social experiments like this show us who we truly are.

Sad.

No.

Choosing money regardless of the length or fatness means you weren't in that relationship before then.

It speaks a lot of things:

Poverty mindset.
Myopic tendency.
Sabotage.
Betrayal.
Ignorance. Etc.

Even if the money is more valuable than that person, why did you stay with such?

You all complain of lack of quality relationship and friendship, yet, your heart is never where your mouth says it is. Bunch of myopic idiots.

For you to call someone your fiance/fiancee means you've seen a better future with them. Quality relationships supersede money and luxury.

So, why waste time with such a low-quality superficial person in the first place if you see them to be so, if you love money more than them?

Relationship this days is all about what we want to gain - sycophancy. Ingratiation.

Not what am I to do to make this relationship work. If it's not money and luxury, it's fun and vibes. Inshallah.

Then, along the line, in the future, the same sets of people will complain of fake friends. Meanwhile, they're ranked leader in fake friend zones.

You are not in a relationship if you choose money over the person you say you love. It's just deceit spiced with romance.

Or, fake love.


Thanks.

JESHAL007:
@Caveadullam, it's only the blog online I have access too, would be grateful if I can have access to his spreadsheet

I don't know anything about his spreadsheet.

What I had at a time was the CM PDF. Unfortunately, I formatted my laptop last week without back up. So, I lost all my files.

Maybe in my online sojourning, I might come across it again. If so, you'll be contacted.

Thanks.

Here:

Edit: 28 days.

Intelligence - 500

I want my children to be intelligent as fvck.

Godly - 300

If she's godly, she will be faithful and respectful + other things.

Beauty - 200

Imagine having intelligent and beautiful kids.

And, an intelligent + beautiful + godly woman.

That's man just struck gold.

Hahahahaha

Fortunately, there are many of such women outside.

The problem lies in patience and scouting for them.

Another day to remind you all that - you should only date women or be with women who have genuine desire for you.

Rather spend 1-year scouting or opening yourself to a woman like this than spend 1 year frolicking with many women.

It's not a matter of fvcking many different women.

As a man, you need to experience genuine desire from a woman.

You need to see a woman do anything for you. Not because of your wealth or status. But for your personality and whole being

There can be sex without genuine desire.

But there's no genuine desire without sex.

If you're not her crush, she will crush you.

Stay blessed.

JESHAL007:
We thank God, applying the redpill just got a girlfriend early this year, sourcing for jobs with our digital gigs, improving my skill,

Good to hear this.

Having a girlfriend will truly test your masculine and redpill edges. A tough one indeed.

One just needs upgrading skill level. Cos the recent gig economy is hard but possible.

Bottom line: we are all gonna come out more successful and better by December.

Stay put.

Kudos.

JESHAL007:
Happy new year big Man @CaveAdullam

Same here, chief.

Well done.

How's life and doings?

The ability to use words is a superpower.

Language is a free gift everyone has. However, many are bound because they don't know how to construct words, twist words, or make use of words.

Before power there's language. Language is a component of words. There's no power without words. Because words are the expression of power. And we know you have power based on your words.

That's why I agree with people who say that what we label as truth and fact are subjective. My preference remains objective though.

However, if you come to look at it, even the terms "truth and fact" are words coined by some group of people who, through their power, have propagated it globally.

So, what you call truth is probably a lie that has been cooked severally with plenty of mouths and accepted by all. Examples: Gods, myths, and Religion.

It comes down to the power of words. The ability to use your mouth to get what you want. Leveraging the margin of error in human psychology to get what you want - power, wealth, and status.

Nice post man.

Thanks.

ElasmoBranchii:
I agree with caveadullam's take but you might be right about some of the things you said.

For example you said Sex drive and Sexual pleasure are not the same which is true but in both case, it's still men that top.

In order for you to realize that, ask yourself what is the ratio of men to women that reach orgasm during sex and that will reveal the answer on who experiences more sexual pleasure.

Now, I don't know if women have the potential to experience more sexual pleasure than men because the way they get turned on is a little different than men and most men don't know how to turn women on, so that might be the reason.

So, all in all, your hypothesis is just based off your own experience which is limiting.

Having a good understanding about human behavior in matters of social interactions is very necessary.

Many of us are not ready to learn. We are just after validating our opinions because our ego is so much attached to it.

The worst about Mr. Rizz, is that he has conceptualized his personal experience as a wholesale possibility on a large demography.

He has good points. No denial about that.

However, he thinks that his experiences is the creme de la creme.

It is the same attitude of NAWALT - that because my mother and sisters are good people, definitely not all women are like that.

Meanwhile, AWALT is simply based on female tendency to act in a particular manner even if not all women will act based on it.

Everything about male and female sexual strategy is purely rooted in biology and evolutionary psychology. Although there are many environmental, cultural, and societal underlying. However, nature comes first.

How can women be of higher sexual pleasure yet are willing to sacrifice it for money, food, goodies, etc.

I can't love something and still be giving out in exchange of something.

It's just like saying I love money but I'm giving my money out in exchange of luxuries.

Meanwhile, it's men who are willing to exchange anything for female sexuality.

If men are willing to give anything for sex, what does that tell us in matters of sexual pleasure?

Women are not doing anything to have sex. If they so much desire higher sexual pleasure they will even outweigh men in the game.

But who do we call SIMPS? Men.

Why do we call men simps? Because they are willing to do anything for sex.

If that's the case, it means that men enjoy sex more but women benefits from the outcome of sex that are not sexually related overall.

I have provided two pieces of evidence now: testosterone and the research paper below.

But someone wants me to believe his multiplayer experiences as wholesale truth with obvious contradictory notes.

Sigh.

Rizzputin:
You're confused if you think anything there is contradictory.

High sex drive and sexual pleasure while related are NOT the same thing.

Sex drive refers to that urge and eagerness to have sex. That initial sex. Men can look and are ready to go. No long talk involved. Women on the other hand, are slower to get to that sex point in general.

Sexual pleasure is the enjoyment, satisfaction and depth that comes with sex. Women by FAR derive more pleasure and enjoyment in sex. It's NOT something to debate or use book knowledge to argue. Go out and actually experience it.

The fact that you called the Women I described "prostitutes" is laughable. Because you're suffering from good/bad girl syndrome

Women if aroused enough and with the right man will do perverted things that will make you cry. This FALSE belief that Women who have naughty fantasies are prostitutes is just naive.

Find any girl you feel doesn't match the criteria. Tell her to show you the novels she reads and her fantasies. Lol

I mostly debate experience not books. Your flawed theory already goes against reality. Drop the books and actually meet women

Happy New year to you too

Ok.

Rizzputin:
Nah this totally wrong. This is what someone who hasn't seen the dark sexual nature of women in real life would say.

Women are WAY MORE Sexual than men. They derive more sexual pleasure than men

A woman can Bleep 7 guys in one day am will still want more. She can have multiple orgasms back to back In a row

Women also have dirtier and more perverted fantasies than men. If a woman has strong sexual desire for you, she's willing to the most depraved things you can think of.

Their sexual fantasy and sexual imagination are way higher. That's why they love reading novels. So their minds can go as wild as possible.

With the right guy, they unleash themselves and get wild.

They don't want pornography as much as men because men are more visual.

But go look at what they read, fantasize and day dream about lol. Go look at how many sizes and variations of intimacy gadgets they have. Their fantasies are WAY perverted than ours. And women always want more and more when it comes to exploring

The sexual awakening affects them more.


We, men just have higher sex drives. But they experience way more pleasure

I like how you feel that you have been able to rebut the post and yet contradicted yourself again with your last paragraph @bolded.

Bro...

The quoted post stems from a biological and evolutionary point of view.

You want to be using prostitutes to make a point when they are less than 8% of the total female demography in each continent.

Go research about testosterone hormone.

If you read about 2 - 3 books about testosterone and find out that "women experience more sexual pleasure than men or (have a higher sexual drive than men), then, we can have a discussion.

I don't even know how a specie "can have lower sex drive and still experience higher sexual pleasure".

That contradiction is giving me headache. I swear.

Happy New Year.

Gerrard59:
100, 000 is six figures
1, 000, 000 is seven figures.

Fact not fat.

Figures not figos.

Lol.

War against statistical misrepresentation.

Happy New Year, Chief.

1. Make money. Invest money. Save money.

2. Build new relationships and grow old ones.

3. Improvement in skills.

4. Offer value.

5. Read more books.

6. Enjoy life.

1. When you have verified that someone genuinely loves you, don't break that person's heart. Choose death rather. Or, end the relationship early.

Because not all lovers are weak. Betrayal may trigger their vindictive instinct and they'll come for your jugular like a vampire.

2. Don't bank on promises.

See promises as mere talk. Never abandon your path because someone promised you a brighter future.

3. Have a clear map of what you are doing. Have a plan.

What do you want in life?

Once you answer that question, you'll be able to see all the channels that lead to your destination.

4. Don't care what people will say.

They will mock you. They will ridicule you.

Don't pay attention to their statements. Follow your plan to the end.

5. Seek truth.

If your heart is always in the pursuit of truth, you'll gain knowledge and learn wisdom.

You don't need a preacher or counselor to constantly be on your doorposts advising you.

6. Appreciate beauty.

Stay away from ugliness of any form. Ugliness will always make you dwell on the negative side of life.

Appreciate beautiful nature. Stare at beautiful people and architecture.

7. Be kind.

8. Eye for eye. Tooth for tooth.

Don't allow criminals or sociopaths to go scot-free.

Forgiveness should come after punishment.

9. Learn to see the light in people.

No one is utterly useless.

However, don't pay attention to the unrepentant fool.

10. Learn to provide value.

Value will give you what you want or attract you to the people you admire.

11. Don't beg for food.

Don't beg for money.

Better to die poor and broke than to become a beggar.

Refuse to see begging as your last option.

Your ego should block you from begging.

It is better to do the dirtiest and most dangerous work to put food on your table than beg people.

Begging will hinder you from creating value and achieving freedom.

12. Always be optimistic.

No matter how tragic your travails are, be optimistic that one day you'll overcome.

Pessimism is a joy spoiler. You'll end up corrupting your soul and never see good in yourself or others.

13. Don't be an introvert.

Be part of a community.

No man is an island. Among others, you'll find a solution to some of your problems.

14. Learn to give. Be hesitant to receive.

The giver is always higher than the receiver.

Givers are lords over receivers. Just as it is better to be a lender than a borrower.

15. Dress nice. Smell nice.

Luxury isn't only in the cost. How you wear luxury matters.

Hardly anybody will ask you the cost of your shoes and clothes. So, you don't need to break the bank.

16. Life is a marathon. But it's better to run like a cheetah than walk like a snail.

Resources in life are scarce; first come, first serve.

Make smart moves always.

17. Avoid procrastination.

What needs to be done today should not be carried over to tomorrow. Because tomorrow might be too late.

18. Think in years, not days, weeks, or months.

This will help you know how to calibrate your time and work.

If I continue doing this for 5 years where will I be in the next 5 years?

It's important to curtail your foolishness early.

19. Hope is not a strategy.

Good work is.

Make sure you are doing something meaningful instead of wishing for a pool of Bethsaida miracles.

Those who work have no fear of the future.

20. Value people that value you.

Don't waste time on people who see you as trash. Except you are making money from them. However, dignity is better than the price of labor.

21. Don't just learn a skill.

Learn a skill you can easily leverage before the big success.

22. Humans are cunning and manipulative. Even you.

Learn to understand the game. And learn to protect your integrity.

23. People want you to fail. Because your failure will prove their points against you.

It's more reason you must work hard to prove them wrong.

They are your motivating factor for success, albeit from a contradictory angle.

24. Don't be afraid of failure.

You'll fail. So, allow yourself to fail.

Failure is part of progress. Life circumstances are not linear. It's haphazard and random.

Failure will teach you a good lesson.

Thanks.

It's easier to say dump him or dump her.

As if both know what they are going to experience in their next relationship.

Exiting the relationship should be the last option if every other resolution fails.

Most times, this is just a gimmick by the male to quit the relationship. Ditto for the female when the man is broke, and she's looking for a flimsy excuse to exit the relationship.

The girlfriend must have found her fate in fish-selling. So, it wouldn't be nice to become a stumbling block to her path to financial freedom.

Except she's just helping her sister for the time and looking forward to a better job or occupation.

If she lives with her elder sister, common sense demands that she helps her. To avoid such, she must have a job.

There's no way a fish seller will continue to smell fish 24/7. Except the seller is pathetically dirty and nasty. Even most fish sellers that I have known for several years don't smell like fish inside or outside their shops.

His allergy is a major concern too.

To avoid it, let her wash thoroughly before coming to his house. This is the best approach.

If she ticks his box and is a good woman to him, the best solution is good hygiene.

Thanks.

1. When you have verified that someone genuinely loves you, don't break that person's heart. Choose death rather. Or, end the relationship early.

Because not all lovers are weak. Betrayal may trigger their vindictive instinct and they'll come for your jugular like a vampire.

2. Don't bank on promises.

See promises as mere talk. Never abandon your path because someone promised you a brighter future.

3. Have a clear map of what you are doing. Have a plan.

What do you want in life?

Once you answer that question, you'll be able to see all the channels that lead to your destination.

4. Don't care what people will say.

They will mock you. They will ridicule you.

Don't pay attention to their statements. Follow your plan to the end.

5. Seek truth.

If your heart is always in the pursuit of truth, you'll gain knowledge and learn wisdom.

You don't need a preacher or counselor to constantly be on your doorposts advising you.

6. Appreciate beauty.

Stay away from ugliness of any form. Ugliness will always make you dwell on the negative side of life.

Appreciate beautiful nature. Stare at beautiful people and architecture.

7. Be kind.

8. Eye for eye. Tooth for tooth.

Don't allow criminals or sociopaths to go scot-free.

Forgiveness should come after punishment.

9. Learn to see the light in people.

No one is utterly useless.

However, don't pay attention to the unrepentant fool.

10. Learn to provide value.

Value will give you what you want or attract you to the people you admire.

11. Don't beg for food.

Don't beg for money.

Better to die poor and broke than to become a beggar.

Refuse to see begging as your last option.

Your ego should block you from begging.

It is better to do the dirtiest and most dangerous work to put food on your table than beg people.

Begging will hinder you from creating value and achieving freedom.

12. Always be optimistic.

No matter how tragic your travails are, be optimistic that one day you'll overcome.

Pessimism is a joy spoiler. You'll end up corrupting your soul and never see good in yourself or others.

13. Don't be an introvert.

Be part of a community.

No man is an island. Among others, you'll find a solution to some of your problems.

14. Learn to give. Be hesitant to receive.

The giver is always higher than the receiver.

Givers are lords over receivers. Just as it is better to be a lender than a borrower.

15. Dress nice. Smell nice.

Luxury isn't only in the cost. How you wear luxury matters.

Hardly anybody will ask you the cost of your shoes and clothes. So, you don't need to break the bank.

16. Life is a marathon. But it's better to run like a cheetah than walk like a snail.

Resources in life are scarce; first come, first serve.

Make smart moves always.

17. Avoid procrastination.

What needs to be done today should not be carried over to tomorrow. Because tomorrow might be too late.

18. Think in years, not days, weeks, or months.

This will help you know how to calibrate your time and work.

If I continue doing this for 5 years where will I be in the next 5 years?

It's important to curtail your foolishness early.

19. Hope is not a strategy.

Good work is.

Make sure you are doing something meaningful instead of wishing for a pool of Bethsaida miracles.

Those who work have no fear of the future.

20. Value people that value you.

Don't waste time on people who see you as trash. Except you are making money from them. However, dignity is better than the price of labor.

21. Don't just learn a skill.

Learn a skill you can easily leverage before the big success.

22. Humans are cunning and manipulative. Even you.

Learn to understand the game. And learn to protect your integrity.

23. People want you to fail. Because your failure will prove their points against you.

It's more reason you must work hard to prove them wrong.

They are your motivating factor for success, albeit from a contradictory angle.

24. Don't be afraid of failure.

You'll fail. So, allow yourself to fail.

Failure is part of progress. Life circumstances are not linear. It's haphazard and random.

Failure will teach you a good lesson.

Thanks.

Read the chapter - sidelined, in the book, "Nearly all the men in Lagos are mad."

You will understand the situation of your cousin. That chapter is almost a replica of your post.

Probably,

1. The man has wives and kids elsewhere. Your cousin is for part-time duties.

2. He has many women on his radar. Commitment means the end of the game for him.

So, your cousin should just maintain her wing and suck whatever she can from him.

3. He's still observing her while banging other women. He may be confused when contemplating whom to choose as a wife.

Bottom line: easier for the head of a camel to pass through the head of a needle than your cousin marrying that guy.

Let her leverage on the sexual transaction while it lasts. She will soon be retired for a more prettier woman.

Winks.

Passage to hell is lite you know.

Women brings grace and prosperity. Yet, they are still hustling for urgent 2k here and there. Hookup culture and oloshoism is on an exponential rise at every dawn.

If that should be the case, you wouldn't have been on Nairaland lamenting. Because your mother and maternal ancestors would have laid many treasure boxes for you under their spring beds.

Women are not the key to your prosperity and blessings.

Factors that influences prosperity are:
Geography.
Good government.
Good communication.
Services.
Skill.
Sales.
Implementation of good ideas.
Networking based on value exchange.

Ain't saying you shouldn't marry your prosperity woman when you find one. But please, make sure the prosperity is flowing before you start reproducing innocent kids.

We don't need more children who will be thinking like you in addition to the millions already scattered across the territorial landmass. Please.

Thanks.

seanwilliam:
Tbh, if person too dey reason this crypto of a thing, him go craze … u go analyse tire, at the end, the house usually get the upper hand ..

Swears, man.

It's evolution is in nano seconds.

You'll think it's here. Before you are done plotting your chart, it's there already.

As relevant as fundamental and technical analysis, trading the market acts the way it wants to. It's like the wind - you can only feel it. You can neither see nor catch it.

Anyways, have your entry + exit strategy anytime you come to the market. It will minimize high blood pressure to a larger extent.

Lol.

EmeraldHash:
This is the best read I have ever read in crypto.

Please write a book on crypto

I'm a newbie, as a matter of facts an airdrop hunter, na notcoin make me enter crypto, since April of this year and I want to stay.

I went online few weeks ago, if I can get a book on crypto to read as I need to learn alot of things, I couldn't find none

I understand some of the things you explain about time in crypto and this research analysis you just made about BTC season and ALT season, they are so profound.

Lastly I will be grateful, you can take your time to advise me as a 28 years old Nigerian graduate that just finish Nysc.

I desire to make money in dollars

My strategy before now, is to hunt airdrops, make money from it, then pay and learn cybersecurity, the look for foreign client to work for. This is my goal for next year

Please advice from your knowledge, wisdom and experience.

Thank you

1. The money you want is in someone's purse. It could either be from a private purse (employers, clients, customers, etc). Or, from the public purse (Government).

You attract money with value. When what you offer meet a need, purse will open.

Try and think of any value you can use to attract money.

Example: Teaching. Content creation - inform people about facts. Etc.

2. Firstly, in most cases, you'll need offline money to sustain you during your online sojourn.

So, look for an offline job.

3. Learn to do something for free. Even if you're the giver, go extra mile.

Your free hand must touch the rich, poor, and ugly. It's from there, you'll see your Jacob's ladder to heaven.

4. Please. Please. Please. I can tell you please now for a million times. Let me tell you why.

Please, don't be an INTROVERT.

See, I don't believe in all those religious brouhaha. Whether God exists or not is not my concern.

But you know what? I attend church.

Contradictory, right? Go sort it out yourself.

Large gatherings offer you a free platform to showcase your skills, give value, and get good returns.

Go out. Party. Go to church. Go to the mosque.

If you are either a Christian or Muslim, that's fine. Offer your members something, and they will pay you.

Start free though.

5. Tech skill is good.

But if you are dreaming that after learning that tech skill you will get a job immediately, better wake up from your slumber.

Take your offline hustle seriously. Anything that can sustain you and pay your bills for the meantime should be safeguarded.

Getting a job in tech is difficult than learning any tech skills. Don't fall for the survivorship bias.

If you are not cocksure that you will get a job within 366 days, take it gradually as a hobby - learn gently and develop your skill. Perhaps, you'll start reaping the fruits in a few years.

You say cyber security, right? Hope you know you are a Nigerian living in Nigeria. Except otherwise. Don't think you are the exception. Think that you are the rule, and develop strategies to maneuver.

6. That's where Cryptocurrency comes in.

In whatever you do, never take your mind off it.

It offers you individual sovereignty.

Start with YouTube, ChatGPT, and Google.

As a beginner, start with Mind Math Money on YouTube. You are sure to start speaking crypto linguistics by January if you are patient to follow and apply his teachings.

Be patient to learn all that you can. The rabbit hole will lead you to your destination.

See life as a marathon. But don't waste time. Apply speed and brake where necessary.

Thanks.

Adasun:
i thaught one of the excense of crypto currencies is the annonimity and exclusion of third parties... how can a transaction be traced then

In Crypto, there are both centralized and decentralized exchanges or systems.

Though both provide anonymity. However, due to KYC verification to checkmate fraud + remain in the whitelist of government, many centralized systems offer partial openness.

There are no third parties in centralized exchange in the most real sense. But your activities can still be traced.

That's where decentralized systems and smart contracts come in. You're invisible. The downside is the advantage of centralized systems - track fraud.

Any money that enters the mixer can never be traced. Even the devs can't trace it. Mixers' key phrases, once developed, are lost in complex infinity.

And that's where Bîtcoin and cryptocurrency become a useful channel for money laundering.

Many of the pumps in crypto are a result of money laundering. Once perfectly integrated, the money is withdrawn, then, the dip gets deeper. And that's where crypto mixers come in - make the laundered money untraceable.

With a centralized system, anonymity is not a full cycle. With decentralized systems, anonymity is a full cycle.

Thanks.

If both of you have been growing together, it will be difficult to abandon you. Because both of you are in the same stadium performing different games. You'll always check up on each other during relaxation mode.

But when both of you don't always see each other, you're likely to be abandoned.

Why? We make new friends in every new place we find ourselves. And those friends happen to be the ones that move at the same frequency as us.

Another thing is envy and entitlement.

Friendship and family permit you to help your own. Because we all can't grow at the same pace or become equally successful. So, the rich must help the poor, and the strong must help the weak. This is how it should be.

But the poor and weak can become envious and entitled because they are at the bottom. Rather than learn to climb the robe, they plot to rope the necks of the strong and weak.

It's not that your rich folks decide to abandon you. They are just being careful of being kidnapped or poisoned by a jealous friend. Or, unnecessarily paranoid about intended evil.

Overall, your friends and family must experience your higher position. There must be a ripple effect of this goodness so that all can grow in unity and not pose as a burden.

Anyway, if your rich homies don't want you close, don't get sad about it. It is the motivating factor you need to level up.

Your own is your own.

There is nothing like "our own".

Thanks.

atom080:
Please I want to be enlightened on sth.
Can someone actually become a pro at trading without buying into all these paid crypto courses/mentorship people are selling here and there.

Cos most of those I've encountered usually advise that I go for paid courses, or pay for a mentor'ship, as its better and gives one a strong knowledge compared to free online courses/materials...
They warned if I don't buy into all these courses/mentorship, I will learn trading in the hard way.

Though as its known that most paid courses/mentorship are quite expensive most times.

In a simple term, can I be a pro at trading on my own by being "self taught" with online materials & YouTube courses, or its necessary I get a mentor or paid courses.

In course of being self taught, I asked chatgtp to draft a curriculum I can follow from basics to advanced,, and also materials and YouTube sources ,, it drafted a wonderful one,,

but still yet I'm not motivated to delve into them myself,, as my friends words keeps demotivating me.

Let me tell you 1 unchangeable fact:

Even if you pay the most expensive amount on any paid course, you are still coming back to YouTube, Google, and ChatGPT to gain more knowledge.

In addition: you'll learn more from those 3 social media channels than any paid group.

Perhaps, I'm the exception. I pay for courses and I don't take them seriously.

I'm never satisfied about the paid courses. I still rush back to YouTube and ChatGPT - to explain this thing like a newbie to me.

Paid courses are just to give you a guide in order to avoid running helter skelter.

However, the most important need for paid courses should not be for the knowledge per se. But for the operations in the inner cycle. If you trust your mentor to always guide you all with at least 70% of his secrets, then, pay for his courses. Example - ILegendd if he decides to sell a course in the future.

Paid courses are more of testimonies without showing you the losses. By the way, many are scams while others are copy and paste. After paying, you'll be left to find the way yourself.

Imagine paying 50k, 100k, etc. for a course and you are still telling me to go and do further research. I laugh in Kalabari.

If you like, pay 1 Bítcoin for any course, you will still come back to YouTube, Google, or ChatGPT.

Better use your money to buy food and data and lock in learning and scavenging for knowledge. After 6 months - 1 year, you'll know the basics.

Only pay for courses if you are sure of the mentor or lecturer to always be there and also a professional with evidences.

Don't be afraid to fail. You'll fail.

Just relax and comeback to try again. That's what WWE teaches us. Roman Reigns may lose to Brock Lesnar today, however, there's another day for him to come claim his belt. He does win after many losses.

Thanks.

PS: any money, you put in Blockchain, remove your mind from it. See it as charity. Whether it increases or decreases. Especially if you are a trader.

To absorb shock have some funds in stock exchange or savings account with > 10% interest and leverage the power of compound interest.

SOZINN:
Thanks for the shout out bro. How are you doing, I wish you all the best. My year has been a little rough but all in all it has been a success. Some women messed with me but I also returned fire and won. It's a long story. The red pill stands undefeated.

Redpill practical is more realistic than loads of theory.

Theory makes you feel macho, until you enter the field.

Theory will make you feel that you can subdue any woman. Bro, calm down. Either date or game and you'll see that Eve really prepared her daughters.

Kudos you are back to your feet.

More life. More wins.