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musicwriter:
If it's more than email size, upload it to Google drive, click share to anyone and email me the link. Of course, there are many other file sharing sites you can use; example, mega.nz

You can confirm the link now. I have shared the link/file via your email on Google Drive.

Well done.

musicwriter:
If it's more than email size, upload it to Google drive, click share to anyone and email me the link. Of course, there are many other file sharing sites you can use; example, mega.nz

Alright.

I will try the Google Drive option.

Thanks.

musicwriter:
Yes, that's the book. The book is so good that the CIA responded to it, effortlessly trying to dispel some of the things the author said. But, of course, they're liars trying to fool readers about the truth.

I'll wait to receive it.
Thank you very much.

The problem is that the file is above 20MB.

Telegram?

It's on you though.

Well done.

musicwriter:
It always amaze me when some of these people display books on the background. I hope they read those books and would allow others to read them? Because I don't see it in them. The Emir of Kano, Lamido Sanusi is the only person I've seen display books and who actually speaks like someone who went to school. And I keep wondering what has become of his books since his travails and the relocations.

Someone should tell them that there're people out there interested in reading those books if they're not religious collections, except it's about the origins of religions. I wonder whether they have books such as: white malice: the CIA in Africa. This is a new book about how Western powers had tried to control African governments since independence, including how they plotted the assassination of genuine African leaders. I've only read the summary and review. If anyone out there have the book, kindly help me with a copy, email: kemeticphilosophy@gmail

If the below is what you are talking about, I will send it to you later.

Thanks.

For the umpteenth time, men should always go for women who have a genuine interest in them.

It is women who decide if a relationship will start, work, and tarry to the end. Not men.

Go with women who already see you as their crush. It makes the romantic relationship smooth and easy.

A woman who likes you will be ashamed or sluggish to ask you for financial assistance. She will even feel guilty bothering you with her psychological or emotional fluctuations.

Because she knows that if her burdens should be balanced in the equation, the end product is losing you. So she is always careful.

Women want to be pampered and taken care of. But they do this with discretion with the man they love or have a genuine interest in.

Since you are among the "Odogwus" in town, move around your vicinity, and travel to other places. Explore. You will see hundreds and countless numbers of women who have more than your specs in a woman. You need to move around to find them.

The problem for men is that they are restricted by their environment and job, so they are coerced to choose from among the women within their perimeter.

That's when you see men go extra hard to get a woman. Meanwhile, he won't have much stress when he hops like a free-spirited grasshopper in the wild, amid plentiful pretty damsels.

Men have literally nothing to gain in marriage except the joy of being a father to beautiful and excellent sons and daughters.

Marriage is a heavy and hellish conundrum for men. Women have everything to benefit. But nothing for men.

Therefore, it is women who ought to be persuading you for marriage. Not you as a man persuading a woman for relationship and marriage.

And this can only happen when the woman has a genuine interest in you and loves you more than you love her. This is the second thing you probably may enjoy in marriage: a woman who adores you cherishes you, respects you, is malleable to your leadership, sings for you, always wants to please you, pampers you, and doesn't want to offend you. Above all she's your hype woman - fills you with praises.

When you spend your money on such a woman, you won't classify it as a loss because she does your bidding while maintaining her feminity.

The lady in question doesn't have a genuine interest in you.

Introspect on the conversations you have had with her - both online and offline to check if she has any atom of feelings for you.

It is broke and poor girls that make relationships difficult for themselves and men. They are coming from a place of extreme poverty, a man is always seen as an ATM gallery. So they tend to quickly try to accrue as much money and gifts before thinking of a relationship. There can't be any meaningful relationship with this category of girls.

Now you know she wants your money. She has positioned herself as a leech. A hookup babe in disguise.

Because a woman who sees a possible future with you won't be adamant about pillaging your pockets.

By the way, have you asked her to be your girlfriend?

Did she refuse or give you some silly condition?

From your post, that pretty damsel doesn't seem to like you.

Since she wants your money and says it boldly through her demands, you must also be straight up in telling her you want to bang her.

You have made sexual moves before, hint at it again and again. If she doesn't, leave her.

By the way, with a woman who has a genuine interest in you, she won't tax you for intimacy because any payment connotes that you see her as a prostitute. Her body is inclusive of the love she has for you.

But you know, men do mess up with many of such women. What a pity to now find themselves stampeding at the gates of crumbs.

That girl is interested in your pocket. No love.

Be interested in her pvssy. No love.

Whether you will spend money or nothing to get the pvssy or completely abandon her is left to you.

Thanks.

Why are you talking like this?

You are not the only one experiencing such a phenomenon.

Plenty of lovers like their privacy and being away from the lips of public speaking.

Love in secret; break up in secret.

But it doesn't really make sense. You ought to be proud of your lover and flaunt him or her like a toddler who just got a big toy car.

What matters though is the love and bond between the pair. Whether private or secret.

I prefer secret though.

JESHAL007:
@CaveAdullam, longest tym, hope you are fine and how is family, going through this your thread and taking your advice seriously,currently learning a digital skill as I'm rounding up Nysc, but my dream is entrepreneurship, I love economics, but you have very few writes up about it, I make research about it online but it's not as nuanced, balanced and realistic as your writeups, I want to know;
1) How does technology revolutionise entrepreneurship in Nigeria and globally
2) what realistic measures can government put in place to encourage entrepreneurship
3) What can improve SMEs in Nigeria
4) What economic indexes do we use to measure prosperity
5) Do elites have a role to play in encouraging entrepreneurship and what are they?
6) What one can do to effectively start and run a business in third world nation

I know you are a busy man with work and programming but I just want to get one of the best write ups on entrepreneurship in Nairaland, too much information online but not much in substance

I would really appreciate your response

1. The role of technology in business and economics has been in vogue for centuries.

From the invention of the sewing machine, camera, tractor, printing machine, etc.

Technology makes work easier and faster. It saves time, increases productivity, and economies of scale.

Humans are moving at a fast speed today due to the inventions of machines. Machines rule the world.

You can't compare the efficacy of a tractor and weed cutters who use a cutlass to clear a hectare of land.

Entrepreneurs who have access to machines will always be above those who lack machines.

2.
A. Free market economy. Allow people to do business they like without passing through useless bureaucrats.

B. Low tax rate or absence of tax for the first years of business.

C. National security. People should be able to move from one place to another without fear.

D. Property right. Business owners should never be paranoid about the demolition of their business empire by the government.

E. Access to loans, credits, facilities, etc.

F. Government-sponsored schemes to award grants or funds to kickstart good business ideas.

G. Encourage more privatization of industries. This will lead to competition and curb monopoly.

The government only needs to be a monitoring and regulatory body to ensure that private owners don't run their businesses to national decline.

H. Low import and export duties. Allow free trade between countries.

This increases the number of goods and circulation, which in turn makes thousands of the population employed.

It also makes the export country focus on goods and services they are best at, rather than scattering their efforts on all places. Comparative advantage.

3.

A. Credits, loans, grants.

B. Improve electricity supply.

C. Fixed bad roads.

D. Encourage agriculture by providing facilities and materials for it. Agriculture is the mother of all economy. It is the source of thousands of materials used in many industries.

If the people can eat and sell the surpluses they will then think of storage, processing, or export.

4. Human development index, gross domestic product, gross national product. And other economic terms.

To not tour the economic line with its inherent jargon, economic prosperity can be determined by:

A. Disposable income. How much free money can the average population spend on gadgets, vacations, food storage, etc after sorting their basic needs?

B. Assets. What items and how many of those items do the average population have that can be converted into money in the future?

C. Standard of living. Can the average population still provide their basic needs despite the rate of inflation?

What's the ratio of standard of living to cost of living?

D. Ease of doing business in the nation.

E. Safety of lives and properties.

F. Citizen's right. Can the average population exercise their fundamental right without threat or control?

5. Elites are the backbones of every nation. They have a strong role to play.

Good examples: Jim Ovia of Zenith Bank, and Tony Elumelu of United Bank of Africa. These billionaires have foundations and schools for training and selecting the best of the population to further upgrade the economy.

It is through scholarships, foundations, grants, access to mentorship, vocational schools, etc.

6. There's a reason you call that nation a third world nation. Meaning that that nation defy all the aforementioned points above.

That means the ease of doing business will be extremely difficult.

What you need to do: play dirty when it is pig's party. Hang your white linen at home.

Do your research.

Look for the loopholes and leverage it.

Business is not a morale game. However, the market knows how to curtail extremities.

Thanks.

JESHAL007:
@CaveAdullam, longest tym, hope you are fine and how is family, going through this your thread and taking your advice seriously,currently learning a digital skill as I'm rounding up Nysc, but my dream is entrepreneurship, I love economics, but you have very few writes up about it, I make research about it online but it's not as nuanced, balanced and realistic as your writeups, I want to know;
1) How does technology revolutionise entrepreneurship in Nigeria and globally
2) what realistic measures can government put in place to encourage entrepreneurship
3) What can improve SMEs in Nigeria
4) What economic indexes do we use to measure prosperity
5) Do elites have a role to play in encouraging entrepreneurship and what are they?
6) What one can do to effectively start and run a business in third world nation

I know you are a busy man with work and programming but I just want to get one of the best write ups on entrepreneurship in Nairaland, too much information online but not much in substance

I would really appreciate your response

Good evening, chief.

I am fine.

Hope you are fine too.

I will respond to this soon.

They are good questions for discourse.

nowtrending:
Can you watch https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLigscsRRCnWSoly3U_F74y2QYwOqDb9bl&si=OC49NjCjW3CGXwXt

And write a review?

Yes.

Ironically...

One day, you will die leaving your millions behind.

Then it becomes the property of those who never broke a sweat to earn the money.

Those people will use the money to have fun and do well with it.

At the end of life, we are all losers and; at the same time winners.

Thanks.

tensazangetsu20:

It is the same mentality we had about some decades ago when picking courses of choice to study in the university.

We wanted to be classified as undergraduates as fast as possible. Ignored reputable but difficult courses and settled down with what "they offer me vs what I preferred".

We came up with different rationalizations to justify why we were studying such courses even though it led to an end we wouldn't like (in retrospect). No course/knowledge is meaningless. However, there are factors that will unfurl its usefulness. E.g Geography, capital, space, etc.

We always think we are the exception. That when it gets to our turn, things will change for the better. However, life doesn't work that way. Better to be realistic and pragmatic upfront than wishing wishing.

That's what I've observed about you though. You think from the worst position and plan ahead. Instead of hoping on a delightful position that leads to vacillating expectations.

Except that man is pursuing game development as a hobby or has planned on reasonable ways to sustain and maneuver till he claims the trophy, he wouldn't survive the game.

When it comes to money, you must obtain skills you can leverage on both local and domestic scales, before the big victory. It doesn't matter whether you like the skill or hate the skill. You don't even need to like it. "Na money be the koko".

But they will always read it as a form of discouragement. They are right though.

You just need to let people act the way they want to. Experience is the best teacher, but never leaves without scars which would have been avoidable by pragmatism.

Geography is an important factor when considering these skills. Many don't know this. Just learn any "kini Kon" and expect a magic job thereafter. Lol.

Having a particular skill as a passion or for hobby is good. But if it wouldn't bring money immediately, it's good you opt for another and carry your passion by the side; give it full-time when you're balanced.

Anyways, every man to his choices.


Thanks.

PS:Sent you a DM.

pansophist:
Too young to marry at 21, but not too young to be forking around at that age. The only difference is that in marriage, you are honored, respected, and protected, but without it, she is just a spam folder for all kinds of men.

"Spam folder..."

Damn.

That one hits.

Big chief at it again.

Hahahahahaha

EreluRoz:
You only like nice comments, also learn to accept constructive criticism it's part of the job. Don't get angry over them.

You don't know me then.

Have a nice day.

Happy Sunday.

EreluRoz:
Atheist and Christ? I am not understanding

Good write-up

Thanks.

Lastly.

Love of Man:

The character and life of Christ Jesus don't only espouse the salvation of sinners.

What the gospel was featuring was that a man can love without getting consumed by that love.

And that love isn't only fun but a heavy conundrum that requires constant sacrifice.

Christ was able to love because he is love; filled with love, an eternal love that can accommodate uncountable numbers of beings.

Hence, he wasn't bothered by the hatred of the people whom he had come to save or retracted when the responsibility of that love became waning.

The man who can be able to love must first have love flowing within, and the superfluous from which he begins to dispense to others. His love is comparable to the ocean, no amount of water drawn can reduce its volume to droplets.

That's why before a man can love his neighbor he must first love himself. Without loving himself he can't be able to love others.

Only when he loves himself can he show empathy because he's human like other humans who are under spells, pains, or oppression.

Christ was able to cut across many boundaries of human love and yet remained firm. He suffered because of love. He died because of love.

But his resurrection proves that the man who has an ocean of love within his bones and marrows supersedes all other humans.

Such a kind of love is one the average human, and the majority of the human population lacks the capacity for. It's a crazy kind of love. It's foolish.

Because the average person intends to love on a mutual level or parasitic level - they expect gains without giving.

Men tend to exhibit a fragment of such love in the family - in loving their wives and children. A woman tends to in nurturing of their babies.

However, that kind of love is still basic. Beneath are terms and conditional statements.

Eternal love still has conditions attached to it. The purpose of the life & death of Christ is salvation to avoid hell.

However, eternal love doesn't depend on the character and nature of the sinner before he is given. He's given that love and expected to have a change of heart.

But a man can't give a woman his heart without her loving him. He gives it because she has submitted to him, and will suspend it when she veers off the line. Vice versa.

Although man attempts to love like Christ but his frailties withhold him.

Man is even scared to give love because he fears ungratefulness. His heartbreaks limit him to an extent to love as Christ. More heartbreaks weaken the fibers of his heart to express more love.

True love: love that can be given without getting consumed by it.

Here:https://twitter.com/baba_cave/status/1787158311365697777?s=19

Unconscious universe:

Whatever we become in this life isn't what the universe desires for us. Since we're ignorant of the mind of the universe, we deem it as our fate whatever we get at the last lap of life.

We don't know what the universe wants of us. But, we know what we want.

Knowing what we want but getting it is difficult. Because our operating system with that of the universe differ.

Had it been we known the mind of the universe, we wouldn't have felt frustrated about our ordained task or gotten confused about our next steps.

The existence of man on earth is trial and error, from which everything we see around has sprouted and more to witness in the future.

Greatness stems from a previously tested path and is harnessed to guarantee further progress. Because trial & error though adventurous, wanes us.

Religion makes sense amid this confusion of human purpose on earth.

Rather than trial and error, one can easily replace the universe with God because in him man can find his purpose. It may not exactly be defined or intriguing, however, religion contains a road map.

This road map is what man follows and whatever he does he says he's doing the will of God even though it's still trial and error.

But this time, there's a guideline within his religious fealty on how individuals can follow God and live a purposeful life.

Those who see God have an "easy" way of navigating the world because the uncertainty of the universe & the future has been placed on the altar of God. So, their movement from there doesn't seem like trial and error, yet still need to have a strong faith to achieve their desires.

Humans don't know the mind of the universe.

Even religious adherents don't know the mind of God, however, they develop their faith and religious principles to make them align with the mind of God.

Meanwhile, it's all trial and error to make a meaningful & purposeful life.

tensazangetsu20:
Got a crazy unbelievable job offer here. Still feels unreal. After over 200 interviews including recruiter calls. God is great. Truly by strength shall no man prevail but by the power and mercy of God.

If tenacity is a person, then, you're the human definition of it.

Congratulations, man.

More wins. More success.

Kudos.

The gods must really be crazy.

Personality, identity, or signature tells you much about a person. Which can be drawn solely from online footprint. However, consistency with a particular online personality can give you an insight into that person.

Of course, her accusations are as vapid as hers. This can be proven when you launch a militaristic investigation into her posts.

She's known for being a parasitic nuisance who wants nothing but to drain your time and energy. She also has many monikers inside her cupboard.

Our paths have crossed several times due to a conflict of opinion. And never has she come up with an intelligent rebuttal. She's simply vague.

That's by the way.

Anyways, being serious and careful isn't a bad badge to wear. I will wear mine like a gallant soldier. I have fun in the field all the time.

Going from one place to another in search of help is not the initial plan of anybody. People just want to stay in their lane and get hold of whatever they desire.

I planned my weekly timetable to go out on weekends and catch cruise. But how dare me, right now? I will keep postponing the cruise because more needs to be done.

Afribabe, I don't mind converting this remaining part of the weekend if you have something cooking and aromatic.

By the way, thanks for your kind words.

Direction toward the ultimate goal is what all men desire.

But the road is not tared. The whole place is full of debris and events are chaotic.

Getting the right direction in life would have made it simple to achieve dreams. Even many wouldn't mind spending less than four decades on earth if they could achieve their dreams with a clear roadmap. But life doesn't work that way.

The way up is the way down; the way down is the way up.

Man must acclimatize to this chaos to reach his inner and desired ambition.

JESHAL007:
Really appreciate your write ups, giving morale especially in a society filled with idiots, love the way you went deep into the burden of performance for men in this write up, my service year would soon end and I studied electrical engineering in campus but wasn't really skill minded, focused on academics, please you are always talking about the future in STEM, how youths are myopic with just social media content creation, please STEM is very broad, any IT related digital skills you are familiar with and platforms I can get trained by it, my company work is hardware related, would love to start practicing a valuable online skill from next month, I would love do part/ full time freelancing work or remote job

Thanks

Being an electrical engineer is a good one. Kudos for reaching the beginning of a good career.

Electrical engineering is part of STEM. But you need think and do so that you won't end up frustrated like others due to the state of the nation.

If I were in your shoes, I will steer my wheels like this:

1. Stay with the company if they're willing to retain you.

Don't mind the small salary. Just keep managing it.

You can work with experienced electricians or certified experienced electricians or engineers to build your career.

Endeavor to see how you can use your skills and knowledge to help so that you can earn.

2. Tech field isn't saturated. It depends on the choice of tech stack you want to go with.

However, layoffs due to the high rise of inflation are affecting tech-related fields negatively. Also, the fast rise of AI.

Notwithstanding, if you're good in any tech field + have the opportunity to shine in the global North, you'll excel.

So, choosing a particular tech field depends on you. You need to do a hard research.

3. Any field you choose make sure it is one that you can leverage before getting a remote job or freelancing job.

That's, you can start using the knowledge to earn as you look forward to better opportunities.

You can do this by teaching, or creating an application to sell within your community. A case study is bootcamp.

4. You are an engineer. Make sure you know Mathematics. Learn Mathematics. Practice Mathematics.

Because Mathematics is a green field. If you can teach it very well you'll earn more. The Mathematical harvest is plentiful but the Mathematics laborers are few.

Learn Mathematics.

5. I'm not a fan of saving out of poverty. But saving out of abundance.

Investment more on knowledge if you're lacking instead of saving the money.

6. If you have someone who's genuine and earns with crypto or forex, beg that person to teach you. Be willing to make sacrifices though. That's if you have the mind + funds. Else, save it for a later date.

7. If you have space around your surroundings, raise a garden or do sack farming. It will cater for some vegetable foods and others.

8. Fúck stoicism.

You can't be poor and proud to be an introvert and not emotionally engaging.

Join a community. Be part of a group. It can be a church, mosque, social group, etc.

Listen: you're not trying to become like them. But you are trying to capitalize on them for possible opportunities. They will appreciate you more as you share your knowledge with them and interact more.

When you've got your money, you can decide to quit or continue with them. Now you can become an extreme introvert, and it's fine.

We don't know the outcome of the future.

We may try and fail.

But we can't succeed without trying.

My friend, don't be afraid. Take the risks for a better future.

After all, we will all die someday, so why not live life to the fullest without regrets?

Go into the world and multiply and bear good fruits.

Thanks.

Wholesome women dress like this.

They are women of virtue.

Women under the watch of a patriarchal and conservative community.

Women whose emotions are being buffered so that it wouldn't lead them to destruction.

Women who knows that being slútty brings them shame and dishonor to both themselves and family.

Dressing mode is an impression. How a person dresses gives you an insight about that person. This can be about their occupation, character, culture, political stance, etc.

Women that consistently dress like this have a higher probability of being modest and wholesome. This have many branches to it. However, they're are not entirely immodest like the ones that dress like slúts.

Though, dressing doesn't provides a fuller and better explanation of the nature and personality of a person.

To know a person thoroughly is to relate and interact with that person in close proximity. Because you'll judge wrongly if you interact with them from afar.

Everyone wears a mask. There's an element of deceit in our daily interaction. The mask is for both survival and incentives.

Hence to know a person is to looked pass their initial presentation and not fully become satisfied by their dressing alone.

Check the thickness of the mask they are wearing. Then their true character will be revealed.

Thanks.

Maryam070682557:
This got me laughing so hard, please come and apply for Nwa Boy.T&C's applied

Thanks for finding this thread time worthy stay tuned....

"T and C nor be problem".

Well done.

Maryam070682557:
In most parts of Nigeria, cassava stems are free of charge.

You don't need to pay anyone to get it.

Whether harvested or still standing you are free to cut as many as you like (as long as you cut it responsibly) and plant in your own farm.

One long stem can give you as many as 6 to 10 pieces to plant.

This means you don't necessarily need money to plant cassava.

And the land?

That bush in front of your compound can serve.

Don't overthink these things.

Just start, with what you have.

Walahi, the positive vibes this thread and diary of yours is exuding is making me want to fly out of Lagos to your location.

"the way e dey go now e be like I come learn work for your hand. An Nwa-boi kind of thing".

Kudos, Maryam.

pansophist:
Every man has the inalienable right to not adhere to these standards. To be an Ubermensch, in other words, to adopt your method of relating to the world.

If women ain't meant to suffer, it doesn't mean men are meant to suffer as well. I do not know about you, but I am not made to suffer. My bones do not yearn for suffering just because I am a man.

Where the catch is, is that a man should refuse, reject, and abandon any stupid responsibility to a woman who doesn't give him what he also needs from a woman.

Men have the burden of performance, and women have the burden of integration. If she can't integrate and make life soft for him, then let other men who are still under the full dictates of society carry her weight.

Society can go to hell. As a man, you matter. If marriage doesn't favor you, don't marry. If it favors you, then marry, but don't sacrifice your interest in the process.

Lots of women are abandoning traditional roles, that's exactly what feminism is all about. As a man, no one stops you from evolving. Life is a balance, and when the other side abandons their position, then it's stupid to still carry yours.

Like you said, men bear the burden of performance.

Evolutionary speaking the essence of that burden is survival and reproduction. Also, to gain hold of his territory.

The suffering isn't because of a mate alone. The suffering is about dominance, power, and control. He's not only dealing with women. He's dealing with a society of men like him, above, and below him, women and children.

It's not a societal standard per se.

Like it or not, whether you choose to be a Buddhist monk, as a man, you will suffer for whatever reason you think your suffering is worthy of.

Even if you don't intend to get married, you desire a good life. To get a good life for yourself alone involves suffering. Suffering is an inevitable phase of men.

You work, you suffer but gain at the end.

You stay lazy, you suffer, and remain subjugated by others.

Woman and romance isn't part of this equation yet.

Of course, it's because men instinctually desire to make a claim of an expensive ovum that makes them struggle hard. Now the main aim is not to bag a woman but for reproductive and genetic reasons.

It's this struggle for the womanly - ovum - egg that has shaped men to be what they are today. It's underground biology going on.

In reality, a man shouldn't condole feminine nonsensical demands when she doesn't match his prerequisites. The woman must be fit and worthy of a mate.

Thanks.

Proserpina:
Caveadullam wants me to be serious this afternoon . See detailed response. Lol

You are right though

Both genders suffer differently and they are equipped accordingly.

To be honest, I'd be a woman over and over again

Man's scar as a result of his suffering is a badge of honor.

The problem for men is that their results take a longer time to manifest after tedious work. The worst is that men don't have "urgent Messiah" as women can easily book for "urgent 2k".

Womanly life is too vapid to wish for. Not adventurous. Not risk-taking. Not challenging. Not inquisitive. Psychologically imbalanced most times. Too fearful.

Nah.

I'd prefer suffering being a man than enjoying being a woman.

We're all picking our safe poisons.

Lol.

Well done.

Skiborobo:
Woman in no any way are meant to suffer.
Let that sink in your head

There's a very blurred nuance between this statement of yours and the evolutionary disposition of women.

Of course by nature, not nurture and cultural design, women aren't suitable for tough work. Because they are too weak to handle it.

Feminine makeup isn't designated to take the history of mankind from the Stone Age to the high-tech age.

However, in your mind, you think that women should sit down and be paid obeisance. It simply doesn't work that way, especially now that the factors of the intersexual dynamics are getting clearer to men.

Now, it's only a foolish man that will want to place his woman on a pedestal. Women aren't destined for tough work doesn't mean that they can't look for a role to play to better themselves, family, and society.

Women who want to be pampered for being useless have their dreams accomplished through foolish adult men.

Understandably, women aren't meant to suffer. However, using it as a yardstick for being lazy and useless reeks of poor character and a childish attitude.

Men see what outliers women do. They don't expect their women to do the same. But at least do something meaningful.

The ironic thing here is that women of such mentality want to be respected. But how can you be respected when you are technically useless?

The world respects men because men take on suffering. Men don't flinch. Men don't run away from the work because if they do, it's tantamount to shame and subjugation.

Do you now see why women will always be under men and no rhetorics and protests for gender equality can ever be achieved except through hand twisting and deceit?

Fine. Women are not meant to suffer. I agree.

I guess you see how unnecessary women are in the grand scheme of things.

Womanly nature isn't suited for long-term purposes. People ruled by emotions are myopic. Their decisions are about now. Hence, don't see any benefit of suffering. Women.

Suffering is the birth of all things around us. The blood and sweat of men.

Women can't labor the same way as men. And nobody expects much from women.

However, women should remain feminine and charming with a soft bosom that brings tranquility and peace. Not the laborer but the helpmate.

If you see this womanly privilege as a justification for being nonchalant, incompetent, unaccountable, and lazy, you'll only be useful as toilet paper to men.

Thanks.

DelilahMakinde:
Sir,
If you are honest with yourself;
Apart from Seun the founder of this site, how many more of you hope to make any significant, notable impact outside your immediate space ?

Most of you are rat racers and hustlers, I'm not saying you guys are completely useless because you're only doing what needs to be done ...for yourselves...for families..

But how many of you will actually make the history books doing so ?
And if you don't does it mean your existence was completely worthless ?

History makers are called that for a reason. They stood out.
Sadly, not everyone will stand out but it doesn't mean they had a worthless existence.

If I ever have a son, the first thing I will teach him isn't to go out and make history, no matter the price.
I would teach to first of all to be useful.

Be useful.

Makinde, you've made a good point.

This isn't about being numbered in the pages of History books. Of course, that's part of it.

The names of many of our ancestors may not be remembered, but whatever we achieve, they're indirectly part of it because we came from their loins and carry their DNA. Meaning that their names will still be heard through their pedigrees.

Man's struggles aren't all about making history.

It comes down to the self - honor and ego. Not to operate on an intercontinental scale per se. But to have power within his territory and scope of existence.

Now, it's because the world only records great, resounding, and much talked about events that make us seem that others are not working behind closed doors.

If we're serious about the documentation of history and events as they occur, you'll hear about names you've not heard of.

Once you're useful and able to document your history, the world will hear about you. That's the essence of autobiographies. Men want people to hear about them before their demise.

Well done, ma'am.

Thanks.

Proserpina:
Women are not made for suffering

Technically, you're right.

Though it sounds painful, that's the reality of things.

Looking at it from how thousands of sperms compete for one egg during the process of fertilization; how both ugly and beautiful women have men in their orbits for their specific needs; how a woman can choose to be practically nonchalant, weak, and incompetent but still have a man that'll bag her.

A woman can decide to be nothing and she can still get what she wants even though not in full measure when she dates or marries a man.

But men don't have such an opportunity. A man who can't lift his finger is a disgrace to society. A lazy man is a useless man. But nobody cares about a lazy woman; if she's cute and charming she will be adored for being feminine.

Women tend to suffer when their men can no longer hold the reins. Hence, women are pushed to either provide or protect themselves or both. Cases of high female suffering are in poor nations.

Meanwhile, these sufferings are nothing compared to masculine suffering because both men and women have unequal strength specialized for different roles and purposes. However, the suffering the feminine undertake are lower ones the men have decided to ignore because of greater work and deem their women can handle it.

In the deepest of men's hearts, they don't want their women working and toiling outside because of its negative consequences on such women. You can observe the high sense of grandiosity and nonsensical behaviors of women in the modern world.
On one hand, these women are trying to make ends meet, but on the other hand, they get burned. The abyss and tough world don't refine and shape women as it does men, rather it consume women.

Women's suffering can also be during the times of child-rearing, as the bulk of the work of taking care of a child depends on them. Men do play their role at their stage but women take the lead.

With the fragile nature of women and their psychological buildup, "women don't seem like people who came to this world to suffer".

And truthfully speaking, nobody depends on women for anything or waits upon women for grand innovations.
Hence men are always taking the lead, ahead, and such will remain the case till the close of life.

Men suffer. But the reward is praise, honor, and glory. Something substantial, tangible, helpful, and transcendental.

Women don't suffer. Their reward is minuscule and transient.

Thanks.