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Heyyounotyou:
I know he’ll see this but Idc .. na love I love I nor kill person
Met this guy sometime ago.. we started on a good note..
Texting and chatting... Video calling and all that ..
Said he was interested in me, but I had my doubts.. I shared it with him and asked if this relationship thing was going to work .. He assured me and said if two comes together and agree on something it will definitely work ..
He clearly stated that afterall people that are close also have relationship issues ..

I believed him and we continued the charade .

He came to my state of residence inside this month .. I went to see him ..we were both happy to see eachother.. There was no sexual activity involved just kissing ..

So when he went back.. we were chatting and he said he didn’t think about this whole distance relationship thing properly and that don’t I have doubts.. I then told him I had but he has cleared it by assuring me that we will make it work !

He said it wasn’t going to work .. I was like why lead me through all this .. This’s someone I’ve already started seeing our future together and praying for his betterment cause he was always complaining of his financial and family predicament..

I was ready to keep myself and hold on to him !! But he just came up with this long distance relationship ..
He could’ve thought about it from the onset nau.. why put me in my feelings??

I feel hurt and don’t even want to hear about LDR no more .. I’ve blocked and unblocked him on all social platforms but he’s always in my mind.. I’ll move on tho .. Na only time e go take !

Any thoughts about LDR or he just doesn’t like me again ?

the change of mind is definitely not related to distance relationship but other unseen reasons which he might not give you, everything nor be about fine,

Lightangel65:
A man who truly loves you won't ever ask for sex. Most men just want to hit and go

you are wrong on this

There is different between granted bail and discharge acquitted.

funmisticqueen:
I have an idea, instead of bashing the opposite sex as per usual(i know i am guilty of this), let love rule our hearts for once.

I have decided to create a matchmaking thread to that effect.
This is how it's gonna go down.

Post a pic of yourself(real pic o! if not,we will call you out and nobody will contact you without one)sexually hinted pics are allowed for men and women. It's a free world and the internet never forgets.
It must be a recent face pic without sunshades or a full body pic.

Age:please be truthful

Location: town and state

Occupation: what you specifically do for a living. Business man is not allowed,because it is not specific. Even yahoo yahoo are business men.

Religion: christian, Muslim,traditionalist, artist,agnostic etc.

Genotype: this is very key

Relationship status: single, married, divorced,widowed, single parent.

Person of romantic interest: Are you into guys, girls or both,gays and lesbians are allowed, transgenders are not.

Hobbies: maximum of three

What are you looking for and in what time frame: Casual hookup, FWB, boyfriend/girlfriend with commitment or open relationship style, marriage all within 1 month, 6months, a year. No time wasters are allowed so 1 and a half years is the maximum limit before you can both reevaluate the nature of your relationship.

Dislikes/exclusion criteria: what are your dislikes in a person, hence if they fall in your exclusion criteria they shouldn't bother. You are only allowed a maximum of 3 dislikes.

Here's the template,

Age:
Location:
Occupation:
Religion:
Genotype:
Relationship status:
Person of romantic interest:
Hobbies
What are you looking for and in what time frame:
Dislikes/exclusion criteria:


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1. You must be above 21 years of age to apply because that is the legal age and we need matured adults..
2. Phone numbers are optional, but if not contact who you like through the good old fashioned route, send a DM.
3. If someone doesn't reply your DM within 5 days,consider that person uninterested and move on, plenty fish in the sea.
4. Please modify your post with NOT AVAILABLE, when someone DMs you and you have taken it to the next level, unless you ask for open relationship.


SIDE NOTE
Please let's be open minded.
May the odds ever be in your favor and may you find what you are searching for

Age: 30
Location: benin city
Occupation: public servant
Religion: Christianity
Genotype: AA
Relationship status: single
Person of romantic interest: a lady BTW 22 to 27 years old probably from the south living in benin city
Hobbies: football and reading
What are you looking for: a relationship that will lead to marriage
Dislike: pretense and lies

Am looking for friends around benin from nairaland, ladies between 20 to 26 years of age, you can pm if serious

[quote author=infonet247 post=84287147]Hello Nairalanders,

I am really in disbelief and in shock hence am writing this here for all to advice me on what to do. I am a man of 35yrs old and have been dating a lady for three years now and told her this December 2019, my people will come for the traditional marriage having gone for introduction earlier.
after two months of introduction, she became worried and started feeling unease....I told her ok to make things easier and for you to believe I will marry you, i transfer 1.5m into her account for the traditional n white wedding,,promising to add more wen we finally draw up the full list.
Then the unexpected happen, we plan going to Aba to get the traditional marriage items last Saturday, which we later purchase but to my utmost disbelief she had accepted another guy by Thursday incase am not serious!
Am shock because during the week of us going to Aba, I had sent 100k into her account by Wednesday to hold for the journey only for her to accept or tell another guy to come.....then by Sunday after the items have been bought, she sent the new guy a txt that she doesn't want again.
my question is, should I continue with her since she could act like this? should I go ahead with the marriage or call it off?Pls I need advice.

Mynd, Lala....Please Front page[/quote) in relationship, I always advocate for a situation where the lady loves the guy more and the guy have more trust more than the girl. Here you love your girl more and she trust you more, are you suffering from inferiority complex why monetizing your relationship.

TanyLoe:
Hello,
A friend of mine needs an advice and I don't know what to tell her
So I brought it to the house to help me.
Thanks.
She has been dating this guy for 2years now and the guy in question haven't said anything about marrying her or not.
She said she ask him where the relationship is leading and he replied her " its heading to your village while laughing) me I no even understand which kind replied or answer be that. So now there's this guy she is friends with( just friends) that has suddenly ask her hand in marriage!
She told me this and I dont know what to tell her..
That's why I had to seek for advice here
Thanks

there is nothing like "just friend" you would have told us one of her side guy ask her hand in marriage. She should go and marry the side guy and stick to one boyfriend or husband. The man that have been dating her for more than two years is not blind the guy clearly knows your friend p…..sy is not loyal, so no marriage in view, advice your friend to change from her bad habit I bet you the guy will surely change

Lucyliz:
Pls am really scared and confused rn.I need serious advice.
It happened when I and my bf broke up due to some misunderstandings, we were not engaged then..

.we broke up and didn't contact each other for weeks...then I traveled to Ogun state at my grandma's place for somethings ...I met this guy and we got along well...we go on outings, had fun and eventually had sex..after that it dawned on me and I regret it...I ignored him for some days and later came to my grandma's place to look for me.

...we talked and he told me he want us to start a relationship... I declined and told him I have no feelings for him.

After a week I left Ogun state and came back to Lagos....
Afterwards I got back together with my ex and now we are engaged...we haven't picked a wedding date yet but we planned it to be next year...

Fast forward to last month...my fiance told me he needed to rent an apartment for one of his friends coming to lag to stay permanently...
He got the apartment and the guy came to lag..
I didn't get to meet him until after a week...
I was in a mall with my fiance and he called him telling him he need to go out since he was bored...he came to the mall and behold it was this same guy I met in Ogun state..I knew I was doomed .... I got really scared and nervous at the same time cuz my bf never mentioned or showed me his pics before...

He was only looking at me without saying anything except to my fiance... I was even scared of leaving their midst cuz I was scared he would tell my fiance....
Later that week he called me with a different line and told me it was him....I ended the call immediately on hearing his name....
I can't tell my fiance what happened btw us or he would never forgive me...
The guy has been calling but am not picking his calls am scared of what he might say...

I told my friend abt it and she asked me to have an agreement with the guy never to tell my fiance but am really scared about everything and confused....

But then I remember have seen his face on my fiance phone before but didn't pay attention cuz he was on lowcut there...

Have been acting funny around my fiance especially when the guy is there and he is starting to suspect something is going on...pls help me...
I can't lose my fiance and I don't want the wedding called off...

Pls kindly advice but I can't tell my fiance cuz he often tells me he can't have a taste of what his friends have tasted...

I can't stop thinking and crying...
Pls help me I beg u all

the word love have suffered in most people mouth, one thing about this generation is That after a breakup the highest people stay single is just one day the next day another relationship have started, you better explain to your bf in a manner he would understand, cos no agreement that you will involve with the other guy that will not back fire.

Queentee214:
Hi everyone,
Am really confused on what to do right now and I need advice.

I and my ex broke up six months ago...I broke up with him cuz we are always having misunderstandings...not just that..he can't control himself when angry , he always end up insulting me and calling me names but apologize when he is calm.

The last one that led to our break up was when we went to his friend's birthday party..on getting there,,i met an old time friend(a guy) and we talked for few mins .i went back inside where the party was holding and I met my bf angry already,,we end up quarreling there and he called me a prostitute in front of everyone(that wasn't the first time he would embarrass me in public)...

I was hurt and left there...i started ignoring him and the relationship wasn't going well anymore...i broke up with him afterwards ..i love him but I can't accept his flaws ..we tried to get back together but end up blaming each other for everything.

Six months later, I'm in a relationship with another guy..he has his flaws too but not bad...
Now the problem is I still love my ex and we still talk and chat almost everyday...

He is the first person I call when I need advice and vice versa..my ex family thinks we are still together and always call to check up on me....this is causing problems in my new relationship....

I decided to cut contact with my ex but he is isn't ready to let me go and neither am i..

Just last week my bf broke up with me and told me to call him when am ready to cut off contact with my ex...

Am really confused and I don't know how to do what he asked me...pls anyone with advice on how to forget someone should help me

I need to forget and move on from my ex
....pls advice... Thanks

Pls no one should come here and start telling me I met a good guy and toying with his feelings..

My ex is also a good guy, he just has his flaws...I just need advice...

Thanks

madam, your ex knows who you are, that title he called you at his friends birthday suit you,

most people speaking ill about the police force are not honest with themselves. police collect bribe, who give the bribe? to me both are same. stop comparing Nigeria police to Europeans or American police cos you can give what you don't have, the personnel that makes up Nigeria police are Nigerians. we need to change as a people.

doctors and expert and experience persons in the house, please is it possible for a girl that have a 28 days cycle to ovulate as early as on the 6th day of her cycle, cos have been reading that it must be around day 14

good day house, please can a lady that have a 28 days cycle ovulate on day 6. she exhibit the signs of ovulation at this period that is discharge of mucus, high temperature etc am asking cos all my ex use to see their ovulation around day 14 of their cycle.

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JubrinElSudan:
His surname is Ukwuani but he is Urhobo, how come?

ukwuani people don't drag land, is either he is from Orogun, Abraka or Obiaruku

,,

Good.

None for South South

nwachukwu9:
I meet this lady in Keke, she is moderately endowed with big ass and breast, we got talking and I took her number, I called her later and told her that I would like to take her for a launch, she agreed, when I finally took her to launch I told her that I love her and I would like her to be my girlfriend and I would take good care of her, she smiled and told me that she also loves me but the problem is that she has a boyfriend already, then I told that means we can't be boyfriend and girlfriend, she smiled and told me that she would be my girlfriend. She then went further and told me she has a boyfriend. she told me that I can have her anytime I want. She told me that when I see her boyfriend I should not be angry. we kissed for several minutes then I told her to go home because it was already late, my question here is that I love her so much and she is also sweet and her ass is tempting, I mean her ass is moderately big and sweet to touch. Please how do I call off the relationship, note:I have not slept with her and she agreed to visit my house on the 5th January, I am scared because she told me she has a guy already

hope you asked the girl if she is a member of nairaland because she might have just read this your post, so 5th of January you might Not see her, to be frank with you, ladies cheat more than guys nowadays.

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Bloggers, where did he mention pornography

W.....

Enshi congrat. I remembered your presence on npf 2016 recruitment thread. You are so passionate and determine. Mr no nonsense

kingsley989:
Aiit bro. Who knows what is happening at Ikeja Lagos.

i know u in person when the successful list came up i sent u a friend request on facebook which til this date u hv not responded to. if u stil like or want this job proceed to ikeja for immediate documentationt.

donwalexy4148:
helloo guys pls i need to confirm if the list is now upto 10,000, because the initial list released was 8,500. pls guy, we really need to knw so as to be sure if new names are been included in the comprehensive list.

pls if the claims is ture, kindly check the name of a brother who is in a rural area and has no access to internet or newspaper.

name: Ibiyokun J. Olawale
State: Ekiti state
cadre: Asp specialists (Clinical Psychologist)
Thanks guys


Congrats to all guys in the camp

God bless PMB
God bless NIGERIA
Nigeria will be great again.

bro from inception the list release was upto 10000, constables only was 8300+, general duty asp/inspector was 1000 excluding reserves of about 200, specialist asp/inspector was 638. Summing them up is upto 10000 though some name appear twice with same id number

allan2:
ceenelly i appreciate ur confirm infos. u just helped save me d transport fare i would hve squandered going to jos as i am among d reserves. pls do u have any updates on d current status of d reserve?? ...hapi nu yr

currently am on my way to lag (inspector), for the reserve no serious update for now it will come out properly before the end of the month after which the selected ones have being documented and the + and - of the multiple names have being sorted out. Though most of the names that appear twice mostly occurred on the specoalost and pc cadre

All we ask for is true federalism,

Is not just basics school but ota akara kindergarten school in order to learn from the scratch

Babagana011:
Is not easy o. They asked the specialist to go home and be expected to be called in a later date, so they should be listening to radio, TV, newspaper and so on. And for the G D reserve they should also go home and wait on alert, that they will be contacted immediately when somebody in their state did not turn up or have issue with documentation, medicals.

is it all the cadet specialist or the specialist that are for interview

Bleepyou:
Baba e sure for you o
How i wish say i fit resume by that time too

i never anticipated the training to be so soon and sudden. Just like play like play the psc/npf stick to this 31st of dec tin

Bleepyou:
Babagana011
According to this info you are not supposed to be in camp yet...
So bro can we strike a deal
Reply asap
Thanks

@bleepyou. I personally saw it. Yesterday one of the state in southeast(name withheld by me) the successful candidate were gathered at the command hq for onward movement through a free bus to their police college, there the successful candidate on reserve/interview was told to stepdown, as am writing dis the constable of that state have arrived their training gruond while the asps and inspectors will be departin around 7:30 am this morning to jos and ikeja respectively

One thing i know is that Putin And Trump romance wont last long