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Honestly I don't understand why this should be a news

Get your facts right. You shouldn't just go on people IG page and copy pictures and make it news.. Jonathan didn't visit his house. Ayiri's mother is from Ondo state and he was awarded of Jonathan coming to the state today so he was also present at the government house. They met at the Ondo state government house.

We are in love but we are both AS. We know it won't work but we don't know how to stay apart. My dad just echoed it to me that it will never work. How can we stay away and still have an understanding

akinsadeez:
See finishing. mehn...the guy don vex you before

Bros u need to see watin the guy talk na. Man no suppose talk like that

Gloria3389:
most times I wonder what relationship is all about... is it about money...??
is it about gifts??...
only few of us understand that the answer to those questions is NO

Chaiiiii.... Gloria, marry me pleaseeeee

80% of girls have involved in a lesbian act. That's why I hate that bestie stuff. Girls these days don't see anything wrong with it

Airforce1:
i hope tis not another tokunbo car again dis time cuz I know most naija men buy second hand gifts for their wives

I bet your father has never bought your mum a car. He only gives her the one he's tired of driving and I'm not quite sure he does that. Come on social media and talk like you live a royal life and in reality u even find it difficult to subscribe your data on your phone. Rubbish.

Gloria3389:
Yea....I agree with u,some ladies are just so stupid..
when u turn your boyfriend to money making machine then be ready to be his food cooking machine and sex making machine.. ...else you'll be maltreated and start disturbing nairaland with your predicament caused by you...
for goodness sake...BOYFRIEND IS NOT YOUR FATHER....if u can understand that then relationship assault will reduce

Most Nigeria girls expect you to drop money for them whenever you visit them even when you shopped for them while you were coming.

Gloria3389:
Yea....I agree with u,some ladies are just so stupid..
when u turn your boyfriend to money making machine then be ready to be his food cooking machine and sex making machine.. ...else you'll be maltreated and start disturbing nairaland with your predicament caused by you...
for goodness sake...BOYFRIEND IS NOT YOUR FATHER....if u can understand that then relationship assault will reduce

I just fell in love with you I swear... Keep this mentality, it will earn u respect

Beey:
It's ok.For me,I've never been the kind of girl who expects a lot from a boyfriend because am not his wife.I don't expect him to buy me clothes or pay for my hair because again girlfriends shouldn't be getting wife privileges.I consider dating as a time to go out & have fun & get to know one another.It's not a time to cook & do laundry or buy clothes & pay for hair.Trust me it gets to a time when you are expecting seriousness from dates & not jokers because you are getting too old for games.Such times you don't get into a relationship expecting it to break.You hope things will work out & hopefully lead to marriage.As for boyfriend giving money,let him give because he wants to nut not because it's an obligation.She's a girlfriend , not a wife.

I'm happy you used "Hope"... It means expectation of things you're not sure of. I'm happy you're the type that don't go in to relationship and expect things from the guy. But I know you will agree with me that most of the girls here that are saying they can't cook for bf are the type that expect the boy to take care of their needs

Beey:
Please refer to my previous post.You are responding to a half- baked story because you've not seen the whoke baked stuff.If she made meals,that's her business since am Beey & not Beyonce .As for me,I have no business cooking meals for a boyfriend.Like I said in my previous post,boyfriends are just boyfriends & shouldn't be enjoying husband privileges.I can make him a meal once in a while if he wants to know whether I can cook but I'll make it at my place.However,it shouldn't be an everytime kind of expectation.I cook coz I want to.I also said that I can cook for him in odd circumstances such as sickness.But when a lady gets into the habit of cooking & doing laundry, it doesn't guarantee that he'll marry you.It's not an automatic ticket to marriage.Should the relationship fail,you are left feeling hurt & used.If am food enough to cook, am also good enough to wife. Please,any girl reading these comments, has freedom of choice.They don't have to take my advice.There are many advisers & they can pick the advice of their choice.Am just voicing my opinion just like Anyone else on this forum.

And how does a guy feel if the relationship end after talking care of huge financial needs. My dear you sounded selfish because I don't want to believe that if your bf gives you huge sum of money you will reject it just because you feel it's suppose to be wife's benefit and not gf benefit. Relationship is a two way thing. You only feel used when you have such mentality. You only feel used when you feel as you cooked for him he is suppose to marry you. Relationship is what you enjoy why it last and hope it leads to forever. If you keep going in to relationship with the 100% believe the it will lead to marriage then you're setting yourself for heartbreak. On my part, no girl I've dated have cleaned my house or don't my laundries and that because I see those things as simple things and I can do them myself. But if I date a girl and when she comes to my house we always go out to buy food through out her stay then she's wicked because I don't know how to cook. The fact remains that if you love your bf you won't see cooking for him as a big deal just the way your bf won't see spending his money on you as a big deal if he truly loves you.
And I quoted what you said about Beyonce because you used her as an example so I judged you based on what you said

sisipelebe:
Am travling frm lag. are u a native of Delta state?

Yes I'm a native of delta state and I schooled here also. Can I have your contact details

sisipelebe:
wer are u traveling from? Am posted to ebonyi too.

I'm traveling from warri and I'm leaving on Tuesday morning. You can contact me on 7633B076 or 08034847135

TahariX:
I personally will not cook for anyone I'm not married to. I can cook for you if you're coming over to visit but going to someone's house and cooking for them is just a no-no. I'm not your wife bruh.

Trust me you are the type that cook for your bf with your own money when you go to his house. It's painful. You're very wicked. Girls like you come on social networks and comment rubbish to mislead other light headed girls.

Beey:
Haha,my sister from another mother,I totally agree with you.Even Beyonce told them that if they like it,they should put a ring on it.Period!Thank you.

Trust me Beyonce must have made a meal or two for JayZ before they got married. Don't let her songs fool you. She only made a rhyme. Girls like you are the type another fellow girl will give wrong advise and you end up loosing your relationship. The fact remains that two people that are truly in love won't see this as an issue

[quote author=tintingz post=27648336]any guy that does this is, is a maga mugun.

So a guy should go to work and make money to change a girl wardrobe, buy her phones, pay her Brazilian hair?

That guy must be maga-007

as long as they are not married or engaged, her provider still remains her parents.

or are you telling me a girl can't hustle to make money?

My posts are more rational with valid points.

Like have said if a girl willingly cooked for her boyfriend it is her choice but when a guy expected her or force his girlfriend to cook sound like a maid traits. [/quote

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The original post never mentioned anything like the guy forcing the gf to cook. You swerving out of the main discussion

tintingz:
Must you spend?

If she needs a provider she should gon meet her father.

Who will go to the market, buy food stuff and cook, sweating in the kitchen for one lazy dude?

Who will go to work and bring out money to change wardrobe, weavon and phone for one liability of a gf? My dear be rational in your thinking. I believe we all are adult here and our brains should be put to full functionality. It takes two to tangle. The fact remains that two people that are truly in love won't complain about this. It's only a girl that doesn't know how to cook that's scared of the kitchen

It's very disheartening that some girls here are calling themselves guest at their bfs house simply because of this cooking issue . If you know the true meaning of being a guest trust me you won't spend 1month in the relationship when you're being treated as one. It's also a shame that some girls on here feel it's more respectful to open your legs for a guy you are not married to than helping him out in the kitchen. I see some girls see more of their female pride in cooking than them not going naked for a guy they are not married to. It's also a disappointment that some girls see it as a taboo to cook for a guy who's just a bf. Picture your elder brother telling you he's getting married to a guy who has never cooked for him? Won't you find it funny and laugh. According to the person that posted the article, she's against cooking always for the bf. A girl who truly loves her bf will know things she shouldn't allow the bf do when she's around. At the same time a guy who truly loves his gf won't treat her as a slave. On my part, no girl has ever washed for me, not because they refuse to but they hardly see my clothes dirty. I've only dated just one girl that cooked for me. I don't give a damn, I was feeding before I met her so I will still feed without her cooking. But in a case whereby she opens her mouth to lay down such rules about her not cooking because we are not yet married then I will make her understand that her welfare is totally the responsibility of her parents until I put a ring in her finger

tintingz:
Go back and read through some guys posts...they all expected their "girlfriends" to cook for them when no introduction, engagement have not even occur in that relationship.

This guys don't even no their girlfriends parent.

Some girls are just so desperate and they are dumped, this is an advantage guys now do.

cooking na love? abeg which love be that?

Naija girls don suffer.

Tell yourself the truth. Everybody hates the truth but the truth doesn't care. Relationship is a 50/50 thing. Just the way an average Nigerian girl expect you to be her provider because you're the bf that how an average Nigerian guy think you should hell make the home organized and cook when you come around.

Mondisweets:
if she is not your mother or wife u shouldn't expect her to be playing house by cooking and cleaning for u either, all of that should be put on hold till when you are married

My dear tell yourself the truth and shame the devil. A guy can do without his gf cooking for her but our Nigerian girls can never cope in a relationship where the guy provide nothing, I mean nothing at all for them.
If a guy should divert the cash he spends on his gf every month to be paying maid who will cook and clean the house trust me the guy will spend less every month

This post should be for guys alone to comment. The only girl that should comment should be the ones that complain that their bf always give them money whenever she ask for it. Or the girl that complain that whenever they go out the bf always spend money on her

TahariX:
Graduate to become a wife? I don't think that's how relationships work lol.

How would you "graduate" to become a husband?

I should answer your question. Nigeria girls lately can see you as a husband material if you're capable of providing 85% of their needs, show care and give attention.

rightwoman:
Yes o... today's comment dey make sense unlike yesterday's... I read so many comment yesterday so tey I begin dey cry for our girls... I was discussing dis same issue yesterday with my friend, she came to me n was telling me abt her passed boyfriends hw dey dumped... I told her d gospel truth what no girl will ever tell her. I asked her if she has ever cooked for her ex b4, she said no I laughed and I told her to start doing it if ever she get another bf... if it means washing his cloths and cleaning his house, she should do it cos I do it for my fiancé even b4 he engaged me... d truth is girls don't tell their fellow girl d truth and d tin dey pain me. U go see some of dem go dey do am for their bf but wen dem reach outside dem go dey form holy holy... Ladies my advice is if u av d opportunity to do, do it well and don't listen to d bla bla bla wey some ladies dey talk for here o. Yoruba pple say abo Oro lan sofun omoluabi Tobe denu e a di odindi.

You have spoken well. May your days be long. Those girls that come here and claim they don't cook or wash clothes for their bf are the ones that even wash car for their bf. They come here to talk bullshit that they can't cook for their bf because they r not yet married. Na from gf them de enter wife o. So put your acts together before you hand over a guy that loves u to another girl simply because of your loose conduct

EddieAngel:
7E33D757 add me where r u leaving 4rm

Leaving from warri. I've added you

I'm posted to ebonyi state and will be there on the 4th . Will like to meet friends here before getting to camp. Feel free to add me on bbm 7633B076. Or call me on 08034847135 so we can connect

vivaquin:
Posted to Ebonyi , I hope the place will be cool

Posted to ebonyi also and would like to connect with you... 08034847135

Deefuray:
I concur. I don't subscribe to playing the role of a wife when you're just a mere girlfriend

If you think it's your bf that must cook for you when you visit his house then you're wrong. Depends on the visit. If you visit to spend a couple of hours I can cook for you. But if you visit me and you spending couple of days how will it look like to you when I return from work and go straight to the kitchen to cook for you just because it's my house and you r not a wife yet? It's simple. If you think that way then I the guy will make you know that your up keep is totally your father's responsibility until I put a ring on your finger. I shouldn't be the one to change your wardrobe, weavons and your phone when you are there telling me the difference between what a gf should do and what a wife should do. It's simple, only when we have that understanding

khemisty:
What will it take from me if I cook for him, I cooked for my bf, now my husband whenever I visited, men likes a lady that knows how to cook.

You will live long my dear. Some of are Nigerian girls watch too much movies and are beginning to live the movie life

If you think it's your bf that must cook for you when you visit his house then you're wrong. Depends on the visit. If you visit to spend a couple of hours I can cook for you. But if you visit me and you spending couple of days how will it look like to you when I return from work and go straight to the kitchen to cook for you just because it's my house and you r not a wife yet? It's simple. If you think that way then I the guy will make you know that your up keep is totally your father's responsibility until I put a ring on your finger. I shouldn't be the one to change your wardrobe, weavons and your phone when you are there telling me the difference between what a gf should do and what a wife should do. It's simple, only when we have that understanding

Ebonyi state I'm set. Touching down on 4th but hope to meet some nice people here before I get there