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hater! pokello kip hating on nigerians.ur tym is coming.munya is history.

hater! pokello kip hating on nigerians.munya is history.

sowi hakeem.dnt cry,sogbo?

luvly pix....mine tew will come someday.amen.stay safe!

[quote author=Efemena_xy]It's called separation anxiety.

It's a natural process many babies go through where they get become extra clingy with their parents. It's nothing to worry about as it shows that your baby is growing and developing normally. For most babies, it happens in phases...the first occurs around eight months and the next occurs around two years of age. It does vary though and may occur earlier or later with some children.

Here, have a read of this. It throws more light on what Separation Anxiety is with babies and how to deal with it as a parent:

At some point during their development, all babies will experience separation anxiety. This is very common and completely normal, however, it can be difficult for parents to cope with a baby who gets panicky and upset when they’re not around. The good news is, for the vast majority of babies, separation anxiety happens in phases and won’t last forever.

It often starts at around eight months and usually subsides as your baby nears one year old or a few months after. However, it may come back sometime around two years, once your baby becomes aware of their own independence.

What is separation anxiety?

One afternoon you’re playing with your eight month old baby on the floor who’s just started to shuffle around on her bottom and you need to nip to the loo. A pretty normal occurrence and one that your baby hasn’t reacted to particularly strongly before. But today, the second you leave the room, your baby starts crying and screaming, and will only be consoled by you holding and comforting her.

This is an example of separation anxiety, which a baby experiences when separated from the main person who looks after them, usually mum. Rather than this being a sign that something is wrong, separation anxiety is in fact (noisy!) proof of just how strong the bond between you and your baby is.

What causes it?

From around the age of six months, your baby will start to engage more actively with the world around them. During this time they will also learn how to differentiate, or recognise faces - mostly those of the people who look after them - and they will feel comfortable with familiar people and environments.

However, while they might have been happy being held or comforted by people other than yourself or your partner before, this now might lead to them screaming with panic. This is a natural reaction because even if they recognise the person holding them - what they don’t know and what upsets them – is not knowing when, or if, you will return.

Dealing with separation anxiety

Your baby will learn – through the responsiveness of those close to them – to recognise when there really is something to be upset about and the patterns of your comings and goings in their day and life. However, this is not something babies learn overnight.

The best way to deal with separation anxiety is to give your baby reassurance - over and over again - that your absence doesn't mean that you have gone away forever.

Even if your baby's distress is upsetting you, it's not necessary to give up plans to go out or return to work. It's part of her emotional growth to learn that others can care for her as well, and she can trust you to come back soon.

Some babies are comforted by the presence of a soft toy or blanket which they associate with you or your partner perhaps. But patience, understanding and calm reassurance are the main responses you can use to handle separation anxiety. Other common strategies include:

~ Timing: Try not to leave when your baby is likely to be tired, hungry or restless. If possible, schedule your departures for after naps and mealtimes.

~ Practice: Leave your child with a relative or friend for brief periods initially. If you’re planning to leave your baby with a relative or babysitter invite that person over in advance so they can meet them beforehand.

~ Consistency: Have a regular group of people who look after your baby and interact with them.

~ Familiarity: Keep surroundings as familiar as possible and make new surroundings more familiar. If your baby is starting a new nursery make a few short visits there before a full-time schedule begins.

~ Ritual: create a goodbye ritual during which you say a calm, loving and firm goodbye. Don’t sneak away when she is not looking. Reassure her that you’ll be back. When you leave mean it, as returning will make things worse.

~ Follow through: Make sure you return when you promised and your child will develop the confidence that she can make it through the time apart.

The best way to deal with separation anxiety is give your baby reassurance – over and over again – that your absence doesn’t mean that you have gone away forever.

http://www.nct.org.uk/parenting/separation-anxiety-0

Hope this helps [/quote]interesting piece....i undastand beta now.tnx ma'am.

wow! im hpy 4 her o.congrats mary.safe delivery!

im glad she won.stamped her first wen i saw all d contestants pix.congrats!

tolutweety: Much is nt needed when my bed calls. Nyt evryone.
* nyt choco*

evryone on here bin cracking me up.swt drms all.xx

smbody pls hold bev.she's on rampage!

selly! go n calm down ur man now!

angelo n bev kissed passionately.choi!

it haf do angelo.leave bev alone! hian!

so,melvin knws who's wit d alcohol.

sulu don vex.e wan deal wit evrybody.lol

ItsModella: Bassey did...he stole it during the party.

i hope dis wnt turn into a brawl tonyt sha.

who stole d alcohol? #ultimate search

sulu is officially drunk again!

e don do o bev n angelo.....lol.fink they r drunk

gosh! i hate feza.blaming it all on pokello.slimy snake!

dominique: Menn, one hour ran very fast, phew!
I didn't see Hakeem dance with Cleo througout the party. End of an era

he did,towards d end of d party.

harlos: Me think u missed something here, i'm not asking a question,someone said there is a problem and that problem is what i want to know

know that we are here to proffer solutions to ur problem.do share it.

Akseph: pls cn u say it as long as it is goin 2 add 2 my life

i'll just let dis slide n ignore u frm nw on b4 dis escalates in2 smthng else.cheers!

ibkaye: boy it's hot

hot and cold by katy perry is one of my fav songs.

tolutweety: Lunch u want ,waist he wants....i think an agreement cld b reached. Wot do u tink harlos ?

harlos been hitting on many ladies on here.hehehehe *sowi 4 jumping in tolu*

Akseph: so u knw u hav an headache, i wil advice u 2 treat your headache b4 u will fall sick (backslide) which is very dangerous 2 ur health-Romans 1:32

i wnt say anythng cuz if i do,u wnt lyk urslf n i dnt want to be banned.

Sageez: am not saying that am holy dude, joking is permitted buh not with the word of God.

hey! im nt a dude!

Policewoman: I would advise those going for C.S to request for an epidural. It makes the whole thing less painful and quick also. But sha make sure your husband finds out if they have a good anaesthetologist. For Abuja, DIFF, Nisa Premier, Zankli are ok, but they are very expensive (some C.S can cost as much as N1M)or Asokoro, Maitama or Garki general hospitals. Abuja clinics too is very good. One of the best.

c hen,dose private hospitals can be careless too.my sista gave birth at zankli last yr.i was there live and those midwives were mean.God saved d life of my nephew.they didnt tie d umbilical cord well.it was my sis's neighbour dat saw it at home n raised an alarm b4 d old woman who helps out saved d day.in all,zankli is ok.

gosh! i hate 'holier than thou' attitudes.

Sageez: you know what surprise me? Christians are even laughing over it. Dis is not funny

duh! no insult o bt can u pls shove ur islam wateva outta my post.y did u click on it in d 1st instance? did u c 'quaran toasting'? tnx.

sbaks: @op u mean u sat down 2 write dis tin? May GOD 4give u. And u also said that 'heaven and earth wil pas away bt my words wil stil remain' are u GOD or is the toaster GOD? Sum youths may realy puts dis in action. Imagine d damage causd. islamists wil nt do dis bt we dat ar d light would even do more. May GOD 4give us. Yuts nowadays dnt fear GOD o! Hmmm

no,i didnt write dat.saw it on a frnd's wall on fcbuk n decided to post it here.y'all kip crucifying urselves nt me cuz im nt bothered.i read it and i found it interesting.kip taking panadol 4 my headache n post.u! yes! i mean u and u and u! im outta here.

True2myself24: Stored in his mind were very evil thoughts.

*sm peeps hv used dis.modified mine*