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Education / Re: Teachers Sent To Prison For Shaving Pupil’s Hair by CeterisXVII: 9:21am On Mar 31, 2020 |
Jakama90:Every offence attracts a sanction. If as a parent, you are too irresponsible to ensure your kid follows simple instructions, you are only exposing the child to others who will enforce sanctions on him, outside the home. Period. Kids of irresponsible parents, suffer the consequences of their parent's irresponsibility. |
Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 1:36am On Mar 31, 2020 |
Oyindidi: That bucket is too small. The husband's supporters' club, are plenty. A steel tank that can contain many gallons of water....oh sorry....tears, is needed. 1 Like |
Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 1:22am On Mar 31, 2020 |
merahki:See finishing! Chai, you just take style scatter the guy? 3 Likes
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Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 1:11am On Mar 31, 2020 |
yeyeosoronga:Don't mind her. I don't understand how educated and presumably intelligent people, find it so hard to see the simple truth for what it is. I believe firmly in marriage. But for goodness sake, it takes TWO people with a common vision, sincerity and purpose, to make it work! It takes both partners giving 100% of themselves to the union. When that marriage now becomes a continuous source of unhappiness and distress, then please kindly re-examine your options and destiny, before going further. Part of the reason why this woman's case is so moving, is that some women out there, are searching desperately for children day and night, but have not been given the privilege of being a mother. Now this single mum has a son, (in addition to 2 other kids) yet her so-called husband, wants her to abandon the child, simply to satisfy his souless ego. How sad. Please if any woman has a problem, and yet her husband is unwilling (not unable, o!) to help her resolve that problem, or provide solutions, that would at least give her peace of mind....then sorry, that woman does not have a husband. She has a caretaker or a roommate. The same applies to men. If a man has a problem, yet his wife is unwilling to help him resolve that problem or find solutions to it, then sorry....your marriage is a sham! Helping each other is called support. Support does NOT have to be financial. By taking their toddler away from her, when he knows quite well that she is pregnant with his child, this so-called husband has shown that he is manipulative and petty. 15 Likes |
Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 8:15pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
yeyeosoronga: Thank you! They keep ignoring the fact, that if she could singlehandedly raise her 2 kids for years, as a single mum before she got married, then she can do it again. It won't be easy but she will prevail. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Education / Re: Teachers Sent To Prison For Shaving Pupil’s Hair by CeterisXVII: 6:56pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
eledacedar:Go back and read the initial post again. It was clearly stated: "It was gathered that the School Management had warned the students to tell their parents to shave their busy hair before coming to school or they will do it for them in the school."
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Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 6:56pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Graxie: You know their modus operandi very well. They keep thinking that a woman must swallow shi'ite and ask for seconds, all because they feel her life's ambition is to please a man somewhere..... 10 Likes |
Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 6:53pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Jman06:I laughed because you called him a scammer..... 4 Likes |
Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 6:46pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Jman06: THANK YOU, O!! 6 Likes |
Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 6:37pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
bukatyne: I read the OP's entire post, and I have been following all the OP's responses, on this thread. You obviously ignored this part, where she said clearly: "Now three years after we had moved to a bigger house still my husband doesn’t want my son to come and live with us. At the moment my son is going through hard times. My sister in law has been maltreating him to an extent that he has been stealing, he was caught and beaten like an animal. My brother said he doesn’t want him in his house again. He wants me to come and collect him...." Now, what does it tell you? 1). The issue of the boy moving back home to live with them, has been ongoing for 3 years since they moved into the new apartment, because she said clearly that "3 years after we moved into a bigger apartment, still my husband does not want him to come and live with us." This means she had asked for his permission to bring the boy home during that period, and he refused. Or how else would she have known that he does NOT want the boy to come and live with them? 2). When the boy was going to be thrown out, she pleaded with him. What did he do? Did he provide any solution to the problem? Did he help her to arrange for an alternative, that could change the boy's situation, and stop him from being maltreated? 3). You advocated that she should keep pleading with the man. And my question still remains: "for how long?" 4). Do you have any idea what would have happened to the boy who was being starved of food and maltreated, while his mother's husband kept refusing to give consent to allow him move in with them? 5). You have seen the picture of the boy and the rest of her kids. Are you still advising that she should ignore the predicament of her son, and keep begging a man who has not shown any interest, in the plight of his wife and how she would resolve the problems, concerning her son? I am curious to know what you suggest she should do with the boy, after he gets thrown out, since you keep advising her to beg the man. Where should she have kept him? 14 Likes |
Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 6:25pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Ardar: God bless you 100-fold. Thank you for educating the clueless oafs on this thread. Jman06:Hehehe...... 1 Like |
Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 6:22pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
eniolorunfe:Gbam!! God bless you! 1 Like |
Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 6:11pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
rayvelez:Tell the husband that, o! I don't know why he did so..... 7 Likes |
Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 6:03pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
bukatyne:Why are you being deliberately obtuse? You ignored that part of the post, where she described how they had moved into a bigger apartment for 3 years, and he still refused to let her bring the child home, despite her pleas. Is he God? Even when we beg God, He listens..... And your long epistle up there, how has it improved the future of the 12 year old child, that is to be thrown out of her relative's house? The wife should continue begging her husband, while her own son is thrown out to live on the street? Or what is your solution, other than to keep begging a man who has withheld his agreement for 3 good years, while her son was being maltreated and starved outside her home? Respect is earned, not given. If the man had behaved respectfully towards his wife and her son, all these would not have arisen. I am sure your aunties and uncles did not beg their husbands or wives for 3 whole years, to let their neices or nephews come to stay with them. At most, it must have been for a few days, as men of old were not the cold hearted jerks that abound here, today. Many of you people lack compassion and understanding, I swear. 15 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 5:49pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Resurgent2016:Oga, your little knowledge of finance is unnecessary in this case. She was a single mom who lived on her own for 6 good years, and brought up her 2 kids all by herself. Who helped her at that time? In Nigeria, women do not shut down their businesses, just because they are pregnant or have had babies. They make alternative arrangements with friends and neighbours. Go to open markets in different cities, they strap their babies to their backs, and continue with their work. And she was already feeding those two mouths all alone, even when she was living under the man's roof, with her children. So what else is new? She is only going to continue doing, what she has done, before. Yes, she has another child on the way. She would take care of him or her, when the baby arrives...the same way she took care of the previous two, for 6 years, until that unfortunate man came to destabilise her life. This is 2020. Many women have picked up the bills of their families in the past, and are still doing it till today. Look at widows who are often left high and dry when they lose their husbands. Don't they bring up their kids singlehandedly too? Free your mind, Oga. 11 Likes |
Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 5:41pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Graxie: 2 Likes
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Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 5:27pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Graxie:Don't mind the misguided lots. Can you see that the husband's supporters club, who keep advising her to hold on to the marriage and please the husband, HAVE NOT been able to offer any sensible suggestion or alternatives, that would solve the problem of the child and end his maltreatment?? 8 Likes |
Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 5:25pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
bukatyne: O ye unintelligent one, are you suggesting that the mother lacks other things to take care of her children? Even when the father was there, she was the one taking care of those kids by herself. So what was the difference? Thou unintelligent one, I did not advice her to dispose of her marriage so easily. The man had already done so, by abandoning her while she was still pregnant, and taking away their child!! So what else could be done? Not only that, were you expecting her to throw away her child and only son, just to please her egocentric husband, in order to save her marriage? Tell us. 15 Likes |
Education / Re: Teachers Sent To Prison For Shaving Pupil’s Hair by CeterisXVII: 5:19pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
eledacedar:There are sanctions for every offence.....the parents had been warned earlier by the school, that this course of action would be taken, if they failed to cut their kid's hair. They still chose to ignore the school's warnings. So, the school made good on its earlier promise. |
Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 5:05pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
bukatyne: How does that concern you, o ye unintelligent human? Has she said she cannot fend for her children, or provide them with support? Hasn't she been picking up the bills of her kids all these while, before she got married and even while she was still married to the man? Didn't you read it, in her responses? Have you forgotten all that? Go back and read the whole story from beginning again, before you start to misyarn..... 16 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 4:57pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
bukatyne:Yes, o....it is called empathy. Emotionally intelligent people possess this quality. Not everyone is a sociopath, that cannot feel pain. 17 Likes 1 Share |
Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 4:52pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Resurgent2016: If he could accept one kid, and AGREED earlier before their marriage to also accept the other, why did he renege knowing it would jeopardise the future of the boy, and also distress his wife? 1). Is he saying the child is irredeemable, and cannot change, even with proper training and supervision? 2). Did he propose any new alternatives that could resolve the problem, and also ensure the child was well catered for, and properly trained? 3). Did he make any attempt to resolve the situation, by at least meeting his wife halfway, in order to let peace reign? 4). By taking away her 2 year old toddler from his pregnant wife, does it show he is willing to resolve the matter? 5). And while he was refusing to agree to his wife's pleas, what would have happened to the boy? How would his refusal have helped to stop the boy from being maltreated, starved, or thrown out of her relative's place? 6). She tried to raise the issue of bringing her son back home to live with them, for 3 good years. Yet, you are asking "...If he had valid concerns. Did the lady make any effort to address them?" Really? You are still asking this question, after all what has been said, all through this very thread? Finally, their expenses are jointly shared. So there is nothing like "my roof." It is "our roof," for this woman and her husband. I asked you earlier, a very valid question which you ignored. For how long exactly, should she continue placating the man, to allow her bring home her son, after broaching the subject with him for 3 years, since they moved into a new apartment? Should she spend an additional 3 years, 6 years or 10 years placating him? 11 Likes |
Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 4:44pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Graxie: Hmmn....so you sef, don see am? Some people not only lack compassion, they lack a conscience and common sense. And the few clowns suggesting she should ignore the sufferings of her child in order to pacify her husband, are men who are most likely NOT even married, living from hand to mouth and have absolutely no idea, of how to make marriages or long term relationships, work. Many of them are on ego trips, still looking for their next fix, or next quickie session with any babe, who has pity on them. I have had to school a few of them here, in order to reset their brains. Evil souls..... 12 Likes 1 Share |
Romance / Re: She Said She Can't Date Me Because "I'm Too Clean". What Do I Do? by CeterisXVII: 4:35pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
gbagyiza: In fact, your head dey there. May the wisdom God endowed you with, continue to increase..... The relationship will never last, even if the lady agrees, because it will be entirely based on lust, from his own end..... |
Education / Re: Teachers Sent To Prison For Shaving Pupil’s Hair by CeterisXVII: 4:19pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
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Education / Re: Teachers Sent To Prison For Shaving Pupil’s Hair by CeterisXVII: 4:12pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
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Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 4:07pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
bukatyne: Yes, she should take out her kids from the post, as they are still quite young, and should not be exposed to the public like this. But I disgree with this idea, that a woman cannot raise her kids on her own. Not all families will have a father and a mother. Widows have been raising their kids on their own for ages, after losing their husbands. As long as they are financially, morally and economically empowered, they can cope. It is far better to have a family with a well-adjusted hard working single parent, who can provide a happy home, with a stable balance. Than to have a dysfunctional home with 2 miserable parents who cannot get along, and create a tense, unhappy, unhealthy home for their kids. Finally, in life as well as in love.....not everything can be negotiated, or compromised. Sometimes, it is best to review your options, and cut your losses. You can teach your kids about conflict resolution in a variety of ways. But certainly NOT by teaching them to endure manipulation, inhumane treatment and emotional abuse, simply because you are striving to please a man who wants you to sacrifice the future of your son, to satisfy his own ego. God forbid bad thing! She has been trying to get the man to agree to bring her son back home for 3 good years, after they got a bigger apartment. But he ignored her pleas. So tell us, how much longer should she spend trying to "placate him," to use your own words..... while her son is being maltreated, starved of food, and about to be thrown out of his current residence where he stays with her relative? Another 3 years, 6 years or 10 years? Tell us, o! 17 Likes 2 Shares |
Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 3:52pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
bukatyne:If she didn't, she wouldn't have married him. She was a single mother taking care of her 2 kids on her own for a few years, until the man came into her life, promising heaven and earth. Right before the marriage even up till now, she has been the one picking up all her bills. So it is obvious, she didnt marry him for money. And if she married him for companionship, well he has failed on all fronts, to provide her with the companionship and support, she probably expected he would give her, when she went into the marriage. The man has shown that he is unwilling and unable to compromise, or seek solutions to a problem that could easily have been handled, if only he had been more sensible. 17 Likes |
Family / Re: My Husband Doesn’t Want My Son To Come And Stay With Us by CeterisXVII: 3:47pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Vyvyanvyvy: My dear, it is well. I feel your pain and I understand your sentiments, quite well. May Almighty God support and strengthen you. But please get a lawyer, to help you get custody of your daughter, after you give birth. You are pregnant right now, and you do not need this additional emotional stress. Do not develop high blood pressure....God is in control. Keep praying for your daughter. God will protect and prosper you and your children. They are beautiful kids..... 5 Likes |
Education / Re: Teachers Sent To Prison For Shaving Pupil’s Hair by CeterisXVII: 3:16pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
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Education / Re: Teachers Sent To Prison For Shaving Pupil’s Hair by CeterisXVII: 3:14pm On Mar 30, 2020 |
Proletariat:(yawn) Those teachers are in jail, because they had poor legal representation. Secondly, this is NOT about being poor or being rich. It is about irresponsible parenting. Parents of kids were advised to ensure their kids had their haircut. Letters and warnings were sent to the parents which they ignored. They should realise that every contravention attracts sanctions. The kid's hair was left unkempt, and the school ensured it was cut. If you feel that encouraging kids to flout school regulations is the right way, to show you are a woke parent, please continue. When they grow up, you will hire SANs to keep your kids out of jail. This whole act, just exposes the warped mentality of some parents, and the poor way some schools are unable to resolve issues affecting their teachers. Anyway, the good news is that the kid will NOT be going back to that school. So the parents should enroll him in another school, that can cope with their own tantrums. |
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