₦airaland Forum

Samakus:
Madam nobody owes you anything. If you come to a public platform to beg knowing the number of scammers on the loose in Nigeria now, you have no right to be angry when people ask for more explanation or when some are even suspectful of you.

Do you think we all don't have problems we can come online to beg for help about?

The bolded is the reason Nigeria is the way it is. And no, I won't look away. I will ask questions. We can't fold our arms and watch people take advantage of peoples kindness. 80% of beggars on this platform are scammers.

Just look at the creator of this thread trying to take advantage of the crisis in Sokoto and scam good intentioned people and you will want me to look away? Beggars in this platform should be scrutinised.

Once a beggar comes up with stories, we scrutinise to make sure that he's not just another scammer. Questions will be asked. It's the beggar's job to prove his realness beyond any reasonable doubt. If not, go to people that know you in real life and get help.

Enough said. I'm ready for replies (insults, curses inclusive)

For the records, I'm not an ingrate. I was just disappointed at the way people jump into conclusion here without proper investigation.

Now, no body is saying you should not do your scrutiny if you so wish. All I'm saying is, they should stop calling people scam when they aren't sure the person is one.

See the case of the young female doctor that died in the train attack. How some morons were making jest of her when she made a post about her condition to the point someone said. " You never die? Imagine...
That's one of the things I'm talking about that is making me angry.


Abeg!

Chr1st1nme:
Please no more insult if you believe in God and you know how they don't value our lives or if we are related to you you won't insult me for trying to escape.
I only solicit for help from those who value human lives and wish to save us. I didn't commit any crime and it's not good to add more to what we are facing now so please if you feel you don't believe and you cannot help us don't comment or insult me thank you

Exactly what this useless nairalanders did to me ooo.... I came to share my wilderness story and said perhaps someone might be moved to assist after hearing my story.

Come and see abuse, insults and backlashes from every angle as if I committed a crime. ( Who knows whether you too were among those who bashed me, just saying). In fact, I was demoralized. They were shouting scam scam scam everywhere. Upon all, shishi, no body helped me with and the situation got worse and I had to scatter the money I had save to get an apartment to get a hostel otherwise I for no see where to sleep last night.

My take is, those shouting scam are the real scammers and are jealous that someone else might get the help they didn't get so they try to spoil ones chances of getting help.

If you don't have, simply look away and let those who have and are willing, help. Let God be the judge, for no scammer shall go unpublished.

As for those always quick to shout scam, their own turn is coming unless the person they called a scam is actually a scammer that's when they will go Scot free.

Realist12:
A lot of people on nairaland have their problems, a lot have friends buzzing them for help on their phones , a lot have family friends depending on them and a lot have helped others on here . You have only your problem to solve no matter how pressing your situation is , know you're the last resort you have . That's how we'd breed a productive society .

I never expected those in the above categories to help me knowing they too have challenges. I know those I was thinking could lend a helping hand but its ok as so far I didn't go to anyones DM except for one Christian fellow who ignored me and I didn't bother again.

By the way, all this advice is easier said when you're not the one wearing the shoes and I don't pray you ever feel what it is like to be in a situation where you can't help yourself.

Skyview01:
I am glad you are doing good now. You see my sister, the people of Nairaland and the world owes you nothing.
That is the first lesson i learnt in high school.
Lesson number two, the fact that you gave to others does not, in any way, guarantee you wiill be remembered in your time of need.
I even cut of one of my childhood friend because he begs too much and gives out his own money frivolously.
Part of responsibility of being an adult is ability to manage oneself and not be a burden on others.
I refused to give rent to my blood brother with a family of three even though i had the money. I wanted him to grow up.
I have been scammed over and over again and i don't listen to people's sob stories anymore.

Also, you need to plan for the rainy day and stop giving to people any how. Saving and investing your money is the best way of becoming rich, and not giving out.

Thake these last three weeks as a huge lesson and learn from it.

Yes Sir. I know no body owes me nothing but I've been doing my kind deeds innocently not knowing the world is this hard hearted. Also because my Christian background has taught me to always be of help to the needy so, I never knew it was different in the world but now I know better.

Thanks.

copyrites:
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God knows I'm not wishing you or anyone downfall but if you don't watch it and keep hurting and mocking people with their condition and hasrsh words in their dark moments, then its a normal phenomenon that you too will have a taste of what they are passing through. So do unto others what you'll have them do unto you.

Besides I never PMd you for once all these days to ask for anything from you, so why would you jump out of no where and come and be calling me an "entitled bitch'? Who does that?

As for all those curses you said up there, because my Bible says, cursed is He that hangeth on a tree, I can not be cursed therefore those curses are not for me. I reject and refuse them in the name of Jesus. So, back to sender in Jesus name.

Just stay away from me. I know you not.

Breadandpeppers:
After visiting all your threads. E be like say na cruise you dey catch with us here you can't be serious

I wish it was all Cruise but this has been the story of my life in the last three weeks.

Thank God I've summounted it. Better days ahead for me henceforth in Jesus name.

Amen

Karleb:
As in.

Like say na nairalanders born her. This is someone who has a job o.

If she wasn't such a bad person, at least her colleagues would have come to her rescue.

Rubbish! Like say you keep money put for here.

I'll see how you and that copyrites will take it when you find yourselves in my condition and no one will be willing to render help to you.

Wait for it!

Breadandpeppers:
What do you mean by proper apartment.
Always go for what you can afford and be happy with it.
This life no too hard make una dey try manage wetin una get. People hardly help nowadays

No don't talk like that. I used to help a lot but since this scenario, mehnnn... I don get sense. Someone even abused me that its Because I'm not wise I gave out all my money to help people and became broke. that the people here are wiser that's why they don't want to help me so they too won't become broke. Huh . This kind advice can make one turn into a bad person.

I've had people come to me recently but when I remember nairaland, my heart will harden. I believe I'll heal with time and go back to my cheerful self but for now, Dem don teach me sense.

advanceDNA:
Scammers are too much herr...they make it difficult for people in real need to get help... its a faceless forum...people cook up stories every day.....

Sorry...

Even with picture evidence, these people still didn't believe or let me say they just didn't want to help. On top that, they reigned all sorts of verbal abuse on me. On top my injury.

Breadandpeppers:
Last last you go dey alright

I had no choice than to scatter the money I was trying to build to get a proper apartment since no one was willing to help and thank God, I don dey alright.

Wait... What's special about men that girls kill themselves for? Is it because of P? I don't get it.

This life we sweet like this, someone will now kill herself because of man??

SMH... Una geh mind oooo.... If I knew, I wouldn't have made the mistake[s][/s] of coming here at all!!!

All the backlashes
All the insulting words
All the shaming... I leave you all to God.

You people are very mean. Like seriously, not even one person said he should extend a helping hand. I mean the ones that are capable. Chai!!!!!

So if it something that will kill someone, that's how you guys will look on in wickedness and let it happen? Yet we blame our govt for the way they are treating us meanwhile we are worse off.

Its so sad that no body is qualified to rule this country except God himself otherwise we'll keep having the same bad leaders.

May God never ever let me come here to beg for help. I reject it a million times over in Jesus name.

Well, after coming to plead for assistance this evening without any help, I went back and begged them to accept part payment and I thank God the man accepted 60% of the payment to collect his balance Month end after i promised to get his son a job in our coy when we launch our new branch. so
I've moved in.

God no go Shame me. Lai Lai.

God be praised.

You owe no idiot any explanation as to how you look because no one is without flaws otherwise let them post their pics.

Ugly ducklings hiding behind their phones and coming here to say trash.

Baby girl. You look beautiful just the way you are.

sisisioge:
Well....Nigerian fathers do not majorly believe in hugging, playing or taking pictures with their children. Their idea of loving is providing money, spending education, housing and clothings. They therefore rely on special occasions to document their lives with their kids. Besides, before the advent of phones, photographs are additional expenses.

I hope you guys are learning now...document your lives with your loved ones.

Speak for your father. Not all Nigeria father's are like that. Ok?

My father took pictures with us every step all the way even up to his old age. So, I wonder where you got your statistics from.

All fathers are not the same. Mine was fun and loving to all of us. We had such a wonderful and cordial relationship.

MALIGNANTGuest:
Of course naaa!
Everyone can't be the same.
No be every man wey catch wife dey kill her naa

Ok.

MALIGNANTGuest:
He may have gotten over it.
Don't be surprised he won't be

You think so?

He'll end up being tormented by it. So what's the point?

Some women are dogs.

May he be found alive and in good shape in Jesus name.

So your existence is centered around a man?

Pathetic!

idmicheal20:
I got transferred to Portharcourt recently and I planned to be sleeping in the office before I get my apartment.

On getting to the office, the guy that got the office space for us said sleeping in the office won't be convenient for me, he offered me his apartment and he said the apartment has not been used for long due to fact that he is now leaving in another place.

But I realize he is staying in the apartment in fact will sleep and wake up together almost every day.

What shocked me about him yesterday was when I told him I will be attending one of my church branches here in portharcourt and he said " if you want us to continue leaving in peace and harmony, you must attend the same church I'm going"

Have started looking for a room but if I don't get a room before next week Sunday, I don't intend to follow him to his church.

Bosses in the house, I'm I taking the right step?

Its

Franklin158:
Being in the choir of your local church can be fun and sometimes hectic considering the hours of practice and dedication it requires, choir member help other worshipers connect through their songs and wonderful ministration.

But one would agree that sometimes it doesn't always go according to plan maybe a mistake from the sound engineer, instrumentalists, or you yourself might leave you surprised and wondering what went wrong.

With that being said, have you ever had any funny moments where things seemed to have drifted apart from what was initially planned and how did you manage the situation?

One memorable one was a day I've already prepared to finish them with my sweet voice. Along the line, I came down with cold. That type that itches and irritates the throat causing you to tear out.

So I mounted the podium to sing but then, this thing started and I paused.
The keyboardist played the intro again, I kept mute. Then everyone began to shift and adjust on their seats. I tried to signal to one of my backups to help me take the song, they all turned away their faces.

I can't even remember how I later managed and scaled through that day but the embarrassment was on another level.

Mindlog:
You have family living in Lagos, don't they have network of friends, colleagues, church members etc that knows a lady you can even a share a room with, paying your own share of the rent which I believe the money you said you have will cover?

All their Network and connection is around where they live not where I work.

9JAFULLBREED:
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Thank you.

Ok.

After my experience where because of where to sleep a woman took me to where I nearly got initiated, I went back to the bigger Church to be passing the night. In fact,, this time I was sneaking in.

Yesterday the pastor in charge came to his office and as he was leaving, sighted me where I was lying down. He came and started interrogating me. After explaning my plight to him and how I only pass the night there and nothing more, he told me bluntly that I can't pass the night there after which he left and said I should see him in the morning.

Daybreak I went to him and he said he was busy. So I couldn't see him. That was how I left without hope of where to sleep tonight. Though I summoned courage and sneaked in again this night. Phew!

God help me!

Kriss216:
Yen yen yen yen

Na so person go come marry you now, you'll be cooking disgusting looking tomato melon soup and you expect such man to be sexually attracted to you... Nonsense!

You must be very stupid. You hear?
Just because I gave you audience the other day should not give the right to start mentioning me anyhow here. Ok? .

That guy was right about you afterall.

Don't ever mention me again. You nitwit.

I guess because she's not the spoilt type that will dress like a harlot to seduce you around the house and probably lick your anus that's why she's not attractive.

You should have married the slutty ones in the city that will give you what you want and still be servicing other men outside.

I've said it, you men don't deserve a good and reserved woman. You see the type that was offering her body as payment to an MC she's hiring for her wedding? That's the kind of lady that fits the men of this generation.

Maybe if they even check you now, you're not good looking or sexy, worst still, you may even be short.

Excuse me abeg!

LofP:
How can someone torment a person to please God?

Does God enjoy seeing people tormented? No.

I might be wrong but this prayer sounds confusing.

Jeremiah 29:11

Its not confusing. I tell you why. My personal experience.

I've been displaced for sometime and have been staying in an uncompleted building until some touts broke into the place and I became afraid and couldn't sleep there any longer.

I went to my Church where there's security to be spending only the night there and go back in the morning to the uncompleted building but the leaders there have been harrassing me and sending me away that I can't sleep in the church. Why?

Though I still sneak in to sleep there but last night, the pst. in charge saw me and told me I can't pass the night here. I cried all through the night and at a point I began to ask if God truly exist.

Would they rather I sleep under the bridge or risk my life in an uncompleted building sorrounded by touts when there's refuge in the sanctuary? A single sister for that matter...

Now, I don't know where to pass the night as I'm still in the uncompleted building and its getting dark.

So, In this case, cant they be said to be trying to protect the house of God by sending me away thereby tormenting me.?

When