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Timbuktou:
Like that one that said she'd be a virgin till marriage in obedience of God's word, but would begin to open yansh up and down if she catches her husband cheating. I was like wtf. Why not just begin your career now?

KissesandWine:
It isn't as if women do not see any redeeming qualities in the men they are married to. Obviously, this thread wasn't started to complain about the good husbands who know and honor the dos and don'ts of marriages. We are not complaining about men who respect their vows. We are complaining about men who cheat. And I'm sorry..but when a man cheats..it does mask every other good quality he could have.

Cheating is a form of betrayal. In your day to day life.. how do you act when you find out you've been betrayed? When a man cheats..self-doubt creeps in on the wife's part. She starts to feel like her entire marriage has been a lie. She's been living a fake reality. You need to walk in some women's shoes to really feel what they feel.

...and clearly.. you haven't seen or heard of cases where these same women you say have saggy boobs and bums have multiple sex partners. LOL. Trust me.. sex partners are really not that hard to find if you know where to look.

crackhaus:
Oh lawdy lawd, someone typed this and called it advice. Lmao...

Anyway, I already know the kind of women that will read this and see nothing wrong with it.

babyosisi:
Ladies please imagine this scenario
In your university days,money was tight,father and mother poor,living in a one room at overail Aba
You are in the third year at UNIJOS
Temptations
Somebody comes and tells you some senators are coming into town and you follow them go party
After the party,una come go for bed
Na so you begin do small small side things and you graduate from the uni
You turn a new leaf,totally hate what you did and genuinely repent

Tomorrow you meet emeka who is getting serious with you and in the name of coming clean,you tell him all your last including the 5 senators and Mazi you chopped,emeka picks race.
One year later,you meat Nnamdi,same thing repeats
6 months later you meet charles,you will open mouth again and start blabbing
You meet Gbenga and Edet,you are still blabbing
Assuming the relationships didn't break over these revelations per se but all of a sudden you have about 7 or 8 men that you have told secrets of your life
Emeka,Nnamdi,Gbenga et al will of course tell people what you told them especially when the relationship is over
Ngwa how does that feel to know your story is everywhere
This is how girls destroy themselves with their own mouths
Don't do it please

Kimoni:
Says who?

This is the mistake men are making that is turning the world upside down

Quit the double standards!!!!!!

Women are fast learning and even outperforming men in this dirty game

It's a man's world as much as it is a woman's world

Wake up to reality

Kimoni:
But hey! Why is the focus on this "dirty past" suddenly beaming on women? Is it only women who have dirty past?

See the double standards

jadelyn007:
Depending on the kind of man u r with. Had a friend who cheated on her man n got pregnant, she confessed and was truely remorseful. The guy forgave and today they are married.

As for me if I happen to cheat mistakenly I aint confessing nada

jadelyn007:
Apart from the above mentioned, what the hell u want to know my body count for

TooNoisy:
While 1 and 2 make sense, 3 and 4 are ridiculous. So it's ok for a woman to cheat as long as she is not caught. What kind of morals are we teaching our children? And it is ok to be a runs girls as long as you can find a mugu man somewhere who cannot trace your past? Smh. What useless advice.

Bibol:
I think she was talking in the context of things ladies did before they got married

The more open a couple is to each other, the better they bond. Why have too many secrets and carry guilt in your heart all the rest of your life?

bellong:
And like I said in my previous post, if you know what you are doing is detrimental to future happiness or joy, why engage in it?

freecocoa:
I may not agree with all the points made by the OP, but [size=14pt]of what use is the abortion tale to the man?[/size] This is in a situation where nothing went wrong, that is.

babyosisi:
That is just my opinion
Try finding a woman who cheated and confessed and the marriage still continued
Men can get away with confessions of cheating,not women
If [size=18pt]you were lucky not to be caught,repent and move on[/size]

Cococandy

I think It is a mind thing first before being physical. Most of our African parents don't even like to talk about sex let alone give their kids especially the daughters the understanding that sex is nothing to feel guilty or dirty about.
After having grown up with that mind conditioning, it will be hard for a lady to let herself go enough to really explore her body and not feel whorish about it (even with the right person. AKA husband or fiancé).

I can't really say I blame them because many don't understand you can be free and open about sex to your kids without encouraging irresponsible behavior. .

Woged2005:
Beautiful family!!

Complaint To Nairaland MODs On 'Photo Releases '

I need to bring the attention of NL MODs that there should be a rule for posting a picture on the forum. In the media world only pictures certified as 'public' (pictures of public officials and celebrities taken during public events like function, rally, concerts, etc) can be shared by third parties without permission. Any other type of personal pictures require a 'photo release' (signed permission by the owner) before it can be used on a publication or website.

I see people posting awkward pictures of half-na*ked accident victims, photos of neighbors, photos of babies/ children (without their parents permission and tag them 'ugly baby'), and even photos of innocent people elsewhere, and put a wrong caption on it just to get 'likes' and comments. This is very wrong and a ground for heavy litigation. Nigerians are known to bastardize any trade (blogs being one their recent victims).

Please if you don't have a signed 'photo release' from a personal picture, do not post it on the Forum or website. The owner can file a complaint to the web-hosting company and win huge damages because even if a blog or forum is open to all, the owner is responsible for the contents.

How will you feel if your neighbor posts your half-n*ked picture wearing only a boxer spreading clothes outside without your permission, or a picture of your sister wearing half-slip (Shimmy) only at home and caption it "village girl in the city"?

kambili999:
what if the husband just wants to know how she will act? if he really loves her he should guard her. maybe he is viewing it from the point of making his wife happy. but she should remind her husband that it is for better for worse and she is willing to remain like that when he tries to convince her to sleep outside. wish her the best.

SisterCaro:
all these useless goats giving advice and blocking this woman from having fun should go and die!

This madam should find herself a sweet sexy boy abeg nothing above 28 ooo cos those are the ones with the bad belle talking all manner of nonsense because they know they cant go beyond round one.

Anyway back to the topic, she needs to get herself a sweet young boy who is still strong and looking for fun. She will take care of his personal needs while he takes care of her sexual needs.

If more women with husbands that have weak diicks do this, it will save many yahoo yahoo boys and BH boys from trouble if you are wealthy and have a husband over 28yrs old, help make Nigeria a better place by getting yourself a sweet hot boy to pluck your brains with pleasure instead of fighting for boko horam just to make a living!

More men need to be like this, it could save the North and computer village from doom

KevinDein:
the movafuvker Francistony is responsible for all the fights on this thread. anyone honest with them self will agree with me. since he always attacks the male folks the ladies are gonna side with him nonetheless.
I know his type...green snake on a green grass.

kaboninc:
Why do these guys just don't like you?

bukatyne:
Are you stupid or nuts?

I tried to be civil the first time yet it is obvious you are interested in the bash fest.

Let me be and never refer to my husband with your filth infested hands.

bukatyne:
I see you want to join the bashfest, not So?

Now run along and If you are interested in anyone of them, use the PM button

cococandy:
see example of bad mouthing.


How may we help you?

cococandy:
nne are you my lost twin?

Seriously I try not have word fights with fellow ladies on NL even the very annoying ones and those ones that hide behind new monikers to wish me and my family ill.

Na swallow and ignore mode I dey try for that side.

The guys are the ones in for it.
#sorryguys.

datalossvictim1:
She can't be eating egwusi soup for the rest of her life nah....