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Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Acidosis(m): 6:57pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Nigerians marry to show their relatives, mom, dad and colleagues how 'well' their lives are going. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by UjSizzle(f): 7:02pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Timbuktou:It'll take a married man to answer this question. But I'm willing to bet that having a woman call you her sun and stars (do you watch GOT?) is something. So maybe the popular notion is that one who receives gains more, but what about the one who serves? I know there's greater joy in giving and seeing appreciation from the people you serve than when you're always on the receiving end. I think that the man's authority in the home places him in a position of servitude, but that isn't a bad thing in itself; it's the price of leadership. We aren't equal. We both have different roles, important but distinct roles. It shouldn't be a deterrent to marriage. In a situation where the man, the wife and the child are in danger with the reality that only two of the three could survive, who dies, and why?The man. He'll give his life for the people he loves as is the nature of love. Same way a mother will gladly give her life for her child. Try answering these posers honestly and try to raise corollaries.Hope you're satisfied. Sex serves a million purposes, people could turn to it for any of these. [/quote] |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 7:04pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by UjSizzle(f): 7:14pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Babymama1:I believe the emboldened to be true irrespective of age. Otherwise we wouldn't have young, unmarried men and women looking for relationships (even if the aim isn't marriage). |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 7:20pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
UjSizzle: Your answers are on point. As you've rightly pointed out, each player has an important role to play and have, in fact, revelled in these roles. Which makes threads such as this hypocritical. As Peter Parker says, "with great power comes great responsibilities" 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by snakebeat: 7:45pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
jadelyn007:If u can kill someone on account of cheating or domestic violence, there is really nothing to put up with then? because dese are d major challenges people encounter in marriages... I'll advise u to discard such barbarous mindset. What if u inadvertently cheat on spouse? Or u think it's impossible? 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by UjSizzle(f): 7:49pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Nonso23:Should we therefore continue in sin so that grace may abound? I'm sure you know the biblical response to that 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 7:50pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
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Re: Ladies Talk To Me by UjSizzle(f): 7:52pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Timbuktou:Actually that was his uncle Ben |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 7:55pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by UjSizzle(f): 7:59pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Nonso23:...For my power is made manifest in your weakness. So even though you have a natural pull to sin, His grace tells you it can be conquered. More excuses? 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by UjSizzle(f): 8:01pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Nonso23:Before nko |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 8:02pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
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Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 8:04pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 9:25pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
UjSizzle:Heehehe. Was just testing you for sharpness |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by UjSizzle(f): 9:43pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Timbuktou:Akuko |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 9:52pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
UjSizzle: Na su so |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by armyofone(m): 9:52pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
If the guy cheats, sit down like matured adults and discuss open marriage or divorce or free will staying. All should be fair... why should only one person do the outside marriage eating? Discuss options and stop being cunny about extramarital affairs. Too much sex is dangerous. ..it can cause poverty and reduce men life span. |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by ichidodo: 10:50pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Zi:**Rehashes his best pick-up lines** Baby,how are you? 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 10:55pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
cococandy: Pained ke, Walai, dats not true... I care little about what a woman decides to do with herself as long as I don't catch her nd she doesn't bring another man's child into my home... It speaks volume of a woman's self esteem for her to sleep with someone she cares sh1t about just because she wants to get back at her husband... Most men would simply kick a cheating woman out, it's only you women that come up wiith silly excuses.... men cheat cos they want to, ya'll want to cheat to get back at the men, it shows what value you place on yourselves.... 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 11:02pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Timbuktou: Hahaha 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by cococandy(f): 11:40pm On Jun 05, 2015 |
Lie Ke? It's obviously true. I've not seen you before on this forum talk about HIV and the bad aspects of being sexually used for money. So because women's infidelity is being discussed your remember that HIV is real and that the toy boys outside are in it for the money? . I'd love to see you preach that to philandering men. Abi they are immune to HIV or the girls aren't using them for money? What about the guys sleeping around? Are they valueless? Why not preached self value to them? All you're saying is in line but I take it with a pinch of salt from forked tongue posters who can't say the same if situations are reversed. njokusboy: 8 Likes |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 1:30am On Jun 06, 2015 |
[quote author=Babymama1 post=34404564] How will he find out? Is he a spirit? What if there are no chances he will What makes you think men can cheat and hide their affairs and women can'tm Women are less intelligent or what[/quote8] If he does n't find out or you did n't let him know that you are in for a revenge, how does that help you? Sweetest revenge is letting him know i guess, Then after that face the consequences. 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 4:05am On Jun 06, 2015 |
cococandy: You are clearly not getting my angle... I have never supported men cheating on their wives, I however find the suggestion that a woman should cheat just to get back at someone else ridiculous... To denyn however that a married man cheating and a married woman cheating is not the same thing is quite untrue, a man clearly has more options, many women I know prefer married men, others role with them with the hope that he might marry them and chase his wife, also, sex is mostly routine for men, a man can sleep with a woman today and forget he ever met her, women on the other hand do not have that privilege, most men would not touch a married woman with a stick, not when they are too many hotties out there, her choices are limited, so the most likely person she would get is a gigolo... sex is also an emotional thing for women, they cannot just walk up to a guy, romp and leave (except prostitutes ofcourse), it's even more precarious when she's doing it just because she wants to get back at someone else and not because she desires it... I brought in the HIV angle for a reason, if a man contracts it while fooling around, he has only himself to blame, however, he contracted HIV doing what he enjoys, but for a woman to contract it because she's trying to get back at someone is preposterous, "imagine this scenario, doctor: woman u re HIV positive, how did it happen? Woman: I was trying to get back at my husband, so I slept with someone else.... ofcourse my reply would be: you are a big fooooool, if I am the doctor, that is I mean, where is your pride, o ye daughters of eve? My stand on this cheating issue remain the same, if a man cheats on a woman, she should divorce him nd move on because he'd do exactly that if the case were reversed... No right thinking man would say, "my wife cheated, lemme find one woman to fvck so we'd be even.... only women come up with such preposterous ideas.... 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by cococandy(f): 4:33am On Jun 06, 2015 |
There you go again with all the subtle justifications for adultery in married men. You don't support when men cheat but somehow it is better when they do than when ladies do. I don't like all these insincere grey messages. P.S You're not a woman. Don't speak for women. What makes you think women can't have sex just for sex' sake? Oh you agreed they can but then she'd have to be a prostitute to be able to do that but the guy who can do the same isn't one? There you don't realize you've clearly shown the same sign most men show. You can't take what you give. FYI a woman can have sex for just the pleasure and not be a prostitute. You're not a woman so stop saying what you don't know. Yea she had sex without emotional attachment she must be a prostitute You guys say that because that's what helps you sleep at night and keeps the ladies who believe you guilt ridden for expressing normal natural sexual drives. Puleaaase. Not to mention that the married man who's cheating is also doing it with runs girls who are in it for the money. One and the same thing I do agree however that cheating in retaliation doesn't make much sense (at least to me) unless I'm going to mail him a video of it so that the heartbreak will be equal to mine. njokusboy: 5 Likes |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 5:15am On Jun 06, 2015 |
cococandy:There you go again, seeing only whaat you want to see There are no justifications in my post only circumstances.... Nd I can speak for women, asides having a lot of experience in that aspect, I also have a lot of women around as sisters, cousins etc, etc I never said it was better for men to cheat than for women either, I only said circumstances have made it easier for a married man to cheat than a married woman... Infact my point was that, it's better for a man to cheat out of his own conviction than for a woman to cheat because she wants to get back at her husband, let's raverse it, "it's better for a woman to cheat out of her own conviction than to do so because she wants to get back at someone" OR "it's better for a woman to cheat because she wants to than for a man to cheat because he wants to get back at his wife for cheating (although this is highly unlikely cos men don't think such nonsense)".... choose any one you like.. I mean, how does one do something criminal because they want to get back at someone else for being a criminal.... So, if I steal, my wife would also steal to get back at me.... what's the sense in that 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by cococandy(f): 5:18am On Jun 06, 2015 |
njokusboy: cococandy: 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Askseek(f): 7:43am On Jun 06, 2015 |
"sex is also an emotional thing for women, they cannot just walk up to a guy, romp and leave (except prostitutes ofcourse)" Why do people always say that like its a fact. For some women sex is tied to their emotions. Speaking for myself it is not. Love and sex are 2 different things. I don't need to love a man to have sex with him. If I am attracted to him physically that's all I need to have sex. I also don't need to love a man to have a relationship with him. Whatever relationship we have must fulfill whatever need I have. The notion that all women are emotional beings is just wrong. Quite frankly I am a "wham bam thank u ma'am" kind of gal (if I was not married ). All dat mushy stuff does not work for me, in actual fact I hate doing anything based on emotions. For me oh I have sex even when fighting my husband. The two have nothing to do with each other. We'll continue our fight in the morning but this itch must be scratched . Personally cheating on me is not a dealbreaker, it is a game changer in a monogamous relationship. I also believe that people can change if they want to and if given the opportunity. I don't believe once a cheat always a cheat for both men and women. There r scores of women who have cheated and their marriages survived. Thing is no one comes out to advertise it while some men it seems enjoy this illusion that women can't have sex just for d sake of having sex, can't/shouldn't cheat or think of it cos it makes her less than a woman. Funny enough it is men who think like this that forgive their wives quickly and hush it all up. 5 Likes |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by KingTom(m): 8:35am On Jun 06, 2015 |
coogar:Brilliant!!!!! |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by charles316: 9:33am On Jun 06, 2015 |
Timbuktou: The village girl says things she can't do. She advocates that women should explore their bodies before marriage....... And she married as a virgin. She preaches feminism but had to leave the village to join the husband in the U.S. why didn't she invite him over to live in her village? Why did she have to do his bidding. |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Nobody: 9:46am On Jun 06, 2015 |
charles316: Touche, brother. Even the logic she attempts to peddle is disgusting. Willing to go to hell fire because somebody lied to her?! Buhahahahahaha. I can't deal abeg. 1 Like |
Re: Ladies Talk To Me by Ngokafor(f): 10:00am On Jun 06, 2015 |
naijaboiy: ....keep deceiving yourselves that some women are not cheating back,they do and sometime with the full knowledge of their husbands who are too ashamed to even cry out cos the first thing people would ask is to question his sexual potency,which to most ego-driven men is like a fate worse than death ..@topic i would rather leave the disgrace of a man than cheat back..i sure wont risk unimaginable diseases or think about killing myself because of a mere mortal.In my book if you decide to cheat just be sure i have no idea about it cos there would be far reaching consequences from me...and he knows. 2 Likes |
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